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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all, thanks for reading I know there might be a lot of posts like this but I would like to know what to expect on my first visit to a swingers club as a young single male, I'm not the type of person to open myself up to strangers until getting to know them a bit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately for you you will have to jump in make conversation smile and be polite its not so bad always remember to ask before touching and don't wonder round with cock in hand (Kat) xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like talking to new people just not opening myself up, I'm a well mannered guy and would never dream of touching someone without asking  "
. Well talking's good they don't need your life story just general info works fine and that's good as you do get the occasional one who thinks its ok xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No problem and do what you feel comfortable with do you have many swinging friends or people that you could go to a club with ? xx"
Not really but I'm sure I can find people in the same boat as me to share the experience with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a couple who did the club thing only a few weeks ago or top tip would be do not get wasted!....doh"
I dont drink anyway, so should be ok on that one!haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a couple who did the club thing only a few weeks ago or top tip would be do not get wasted!....doh"
. This is very good advice enjoy a few but don't get pissed you want to remember the night for the right reasons  (Kat) xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a couple who did the club thing only a few weeks ago or top tip would be do not get wasted!....doh
I dont drink anyway, so should be ok on that one!haha"
neither do we really just a few nervous ones that ended up being more then more then 'jiggle' then blargggh |
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"No problem and do what you feel comfortable with do you have many swinging friends or people that you could go to a club with ? xx"
I'm in the same predicament! I do have a FB that recently confessed to me that she is mega bi curious. I have to admit that I'm quite chuffed about this, as all I have to do now is broach the subject of a club to her. Hope she goes for it as I would really like to go to a club and who better to go with than someone who you already know |
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Our take on it would be.
Don't hang with the other single males, get out there and be 'Mr approachable' talk to everyone.
When you approach a couple remember it's a couple talk to them both not just the female.
Don't expect sex. Go with an open mind to have a good time.
Don't loiter in the play areas with other males, wait until either you've been invited or if you are getting a good vibe from a couple by all means say something like 'I'd love to spend some time with you guys in the play area's'.
The good guys get a good reputation, a friend of ours used to regularly escort 3 or 4 single women at once to a club. Because he was honourable, respectful, a gentlemen and could satisfy whoever he took with him. Be like him, stand out for the right reasons.
Remember this.... You have to put the effort in, don't be a wall flower and keep your hands off your cock until it's time to use it. |
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"Our take on it would be.
Don't hang with the other single males, get out there and be 'Mr approachable' talk to everyone.
When you approach a couple remember it's a couple talk to them both not just the female.
Don't expect sex. Go with an open mind to have a good time.
Don't loiter in the play areas with other males, wait until either you've been invited or if you are getting a good vibe from a couple by all means say something like 'I'd love to spend some time with you guys in the play area's'.
The good guys get a good reputation, a friend of ours used to regularly escort 3 or 4 single women at once to a club. Because he was honourable, respectful, a gentlemen and could satisfy whoever he took with him. Be like him, stand out for the right reasons.
Remember this.... You have to put the effort in, don't be a wall flower and keep your hands off your cock until it's time to use it."
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By *iable93Man
over a year ago
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I had my first experience not too long ago and thoroughly enjoyed the night. I was exactly the same, well mannered but quite shy.
What I did though was plonk myself down and started chatting with a bunch of couples, making sure to engage with both genders and not just the girl. I originally just asked them what they thought of the club / the swinging life, what they like to do etc. I found by opening them up and getting them to talk about what they think just made conversation that much easier.
It definitely worked as I did end up spending the night with a young couple and another single female which was a great experience.
Just relax, be yourself, engage with other people. Don't just sit at the bar or in a corner drinking with other single guys or you won't get anywhere.
Remember it's a swinger's club and people are a lot more open to the more risqué discussions haha which do provide some good / funny topics to talk about.
Good luck! |
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"I had my first experience not too long ago and thoroughly enjoyed the night. I was exactly the same, well mannered but quite shy.
What I did though was plonk myself down and started chatting with a bunch of couples, making sure to engage with both genders and not just the girl. I originally just asked them what they thought of the club / the swinging life, what they like to do etc. I found by opening them up and getting them to talk about what they think just made conversation that much easier.
It definitely worked as I did end up spending the night with a young couple and another single female which was a great experience.
Just relax, be yourself, engage with other people. Don't just sit at the bar or in a corner drinking with other single guys or you won't get anywhere.
Remember it's a swinger's club and people are a lot more open to the more risqué discussions haha which do provide some good / funny topics to talk about.
Good luck! "
Sounds like great advice - will be sure to follow it on my first (& hopefully subsequent) visit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No problem and do what you feel comfortable with do you have many swinging friends or people that you could go to a club with ? xx
Not really but I'm sure I can find people in the same boat as me to share the experience with "
You have one searching 101 he's looking to go with someone. You just be polite. A little chatty. and you will be fine. Good luck |
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