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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
If you mean as in an individual club verifying an individual visitor to the club....closest I have seen is where individual staff at a club have done so after meeting and chatting to people at the club. Although that's no different to meeting anyone socially at a club and verifying them really.
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We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx"
Thanks  makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One club uses the verification system as an advert for their events. "
Are you aloud to mail me which one ?
Is that aloud ?
I'm just trying to stay safe and friendly and more than well informed
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
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You may miss out on some genuine people. I don't go to clubs and I don't cam, but I'm very real and genuine , just food for thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
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Many people don't visit clubs at all, many others that do will not have been verified by the club owners for whichever clubs they frequent so surely using that as a filter could be counter productive as to meeting lots of lovely, real, reliable people  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
Many people don't visit clubs at all, many others that do will not have been verified by the club owners for whichever clubs they frequent so surely using that as a filter could be counter productive as to meeting lots of lovely, real, reliable people "
Having only been here a short time and not yet met anyone and it seeming fairly difficult for a single bloke to be given an oppurtunity I'm just working out what methods of filtering may best suit me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx"
The club I have my veri off I have visted many times so yes the owners of clubs do have to be careful verifying users and surely would only verify people they have actually spent time with and got to know the actual person x |
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
Many people don't visit clubs at all, many others that do will not have been verified by the club owners for whichever clubs they frequent so surely using that as a filter could be counter productive as to meeting lots of lovely, real, reliable people
Having only been here a short time and not yet met anyone and it seeming fairly difficult for a single bloke to be given an oppurtunity I'm just working out what methods of filtering may best suit me
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The ratio of single guys to single females/couples is prob about 50-1 so not easy for single guys to get meets but you've a decently written profile which is a good start, try looking at events that are happening and try taking the plunge and going to a club on a social night where you can chat to people and if more happens then it's a bonus or you could try putting a meet up for a social or more and see where it takes you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
Many people don't visit clubs at all, many others that do will not have been verified by the club owners for whichever clubs they frequent so surely using that as a filter could be counter productive as to meeting lots of lovely, real, reliable people
Having only been here a short time and not yet met anyone and it seeming fairly difficult for a single bloke to be given an oppurtunity I'm just working out what methods of filtering may best suit me
The ratio of single guys to single females/couples is prob about 50-1 so not easy for single guys to get meets but you've a decently written profile which is a good start, try looking at events that are happening and try taking the plunge and going to a club on a social night where you can chat to people and if more happens then it's a bonus or you could try putting a meet up for a social or more and see where it takes you?"
Why are the ratios so out of sync ?
Are there any answers for this dilemma ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
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you'd probably be far better off going to a club, talking to other club users who are on fab and get them to verify that you're genuine than the actual club... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One club uses the verification system as an advert for their events. "
And some "party hosts"...they do make me laugh. nothing about the person they're verifying just a stock cut and paste about how "awesome" the parties and their hosting are...  |
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I wouldn't narrow yourself down to only meeting people who have been verified by clubs!!!!  I was just explaining why we don't verify everyone who walks in, but this doesn't mean there are some great people out there who have never been to a club.
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"I wouldn't narrow yourself down to only meeting people who have been verified by clubs!!!! I was just explaining why we don't verify everyone who walks in, but this doesn't mean there are some great people out there who have never been to a club.
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Fully agree with Vicky on this one as I've been going to clubs on a regular basis for the last 3 years but have only ever had veris off 2 clubs! Yet many more veris for social and play meets. Look at club events for social nights as they're a great way of dipping your toes in the water xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We generally only verify people that we have either played with or know very well; there have been odd exceptions. The reason being is that readers would trust a club veri and would maybe trust a fab member more based on a club veri. If that person turned out to be a dick or a troublemaker, that may reflect badly on the club as we said that they were a person to be trusted.
So we don't ever just verify a person because they turned up to our club once. I don't use verifications to confirm that a person is real. I use verifications to confirm that a person is real, can be trusted and someone who I would recommend for a meet xx
Thanks makes sense I guess, thinking of much prefer to go by a clubs verification than users
This has cleared every query up and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain things the way you have
I'm not an idiot by far and just thought I'd ask
Club verifications it is for me when deciding to meet unless I see and speak to them on cam
Many people don't visit clubs at all, many others that do will not have been verified by the club owners for whichever clubs they frequent so surely using that as a filter could be counter productive as to meeting lots of lovely, real, reliable people
Having only been here a short time and not yet met anyone and it seeming fairly difficult for a single bloke to be given an oppurtunity I'm just working out what methods of filtering may best suit me
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Fair enough but you really would have very slim pickings of you relied on club veris alone or cam alone as not everyone will go on cam.
As others have said going to clubs yourself, or organised socials, are a great way to meet people. Looking at the verifications and in general using good old common sense |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Have any of the clubs verified site users ?
Or is that not possible ?"
im verified by a club, staff will social veri you if you chat with them and ask, youll probably find lots of people at a club that will x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's when you get clubs verifying themselves and leaving reviews for themselves that the problems start. But you're never going to stop that. Which is a shame as it is far to easy to give a club/event a false perception to the scene in general. |
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"It's when you get clubs verifying themselves and leaving reviews for themselves that the problems start. But you're never going to stop that. Which is a shame as it is far to easy to give a club/event a false perception to the scene in general."
How do they do that? With other profiles? We had our personal profile shut down by Fab and we are only allowed to have a club profile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's when you get clubs verifying themselves and leaving reviews for themselves that the problems start. But you're never going to stop that. Which is a shame as it is far to easy to give a club/event a false perception to the scene in general.
How do they do that? With other profiles? We had our personal profile shut down by Fab and we are only allowed to have a club profile! "
Yeah often clubs have other profiles or they get members of staff to have two or more profiles in order to give a positive perception of themselves. Its been going on for years |
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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
We verify people who visit, and ask for a verification. We are verifying that they match their profile, and that we know them, and have met them in the flesh.
Not that we've slept with them, seen them play, etc.
We are verifying that they are genuine, that they exist...a damn useful guide on here! |
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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago
atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke |
"We verify people who visit, and ask for a verification. We are verifying that they match their profile, and that we know them, and have met them in the flesh.
Not that we've slept with them, seen them play, etc.
We are verifying that they are genuine, that they exist...a damn useful guide on here! "
Us too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have any of the clubs verified site users ?
Or is that not possible ?"
Cupids regularly verify its guests & members after they have attended the club - chatted to the staff & become known to the club. Xx |
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