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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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(Him here) We are toying with the idea of a club. Never been to one before but have experience of FFM. We are willing to travel for the right club but depends on 'honest' reviews from you guys. We are not desperate to jump in bed with anyone, so we really want to know about which clubs to avoid due to single male pests and lack of private rooms. We are very sociable and fun loving people but don't want to end up leaving early due to sex pests. Your input would be much appreciated x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"R club caps how many single guys we let in and we have three playrooms with lockable doors and a dungeon"
(Him) Sounds exactly what we are after. We're not prudes and not divas either (I'm no oil painting) but I do have a short temper and scared of any repercussions from pests. Thank you for your reply, we really do appreciate it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mingles in Colchester only allow a maximum of 5 single men in, and it's a very friendly social club too.
No pressure on anyone, all guests are respectful and above all... FUN to be around  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just go on a couples only evening,
But a word of advice leave your short temper at home "
Thanks everyone. And the temper isn't really an issue but I've read some stories on here regarding pushy men and some couples leaving clubs because of it, I'd find that sort of behaviour difficult to tolerate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You could go to Pleasures or if you fancy a pool and hot tubs then Abfabs on a Saturday night is couples and single ladies only. Plenty of private rooms if required."
Noted - thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"R club caps how many single guys we let in and we have three playrooms with lockable doors and a dungeon
(Him) Sounds exactly what we are after. We're not prudes and not divas either (I'm no oil painting) but I do have a short temper and scared of any repercussions from pests. Thank you for your reply, we really do appreciate it x"
We can totally understand where you are coming from. We've been swinging over 10 years but we're only just taking the plunge in going to a club.
Just remember that the forums are going to be about ranting/whinging, so negativity spreads.
We suggest trying the club review section of fab, it's separate from the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just go on a couples only evening,
But a word of advice leave your short temper at home "
(Him again lol) The temper is nothing scary, just being a bloke, I know what some blokes are like when wanting to get their rocks off. It'll be amusing at first but if the pestering continues, I'm quite vocal and scared that I'll end up causing a scene 
I'm not a violent man but cannot and will not tolerate bad manners. So old skool and hate it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mingles in Colchester only allow a maximum of 5 single men in, and it's a very friendly social club too.
No pressure on anyone, all guests are respectful and above all... FUN to be around "
Jeez, how lucky are those five men? Are they employees? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just go on a couples only evening,
But a word of advice leave your short temper at home
(Him again lol) The temper is nothing scary, just being a bloke, I know what some blokes are like when wanting to get their rocks off. It'll be amusing at first but if the pestering continues, I'm quite vocal and scared that I'll end up causing a scene
I'm not a violent man but cannot and will not tolerate bad manners. So old skool and hate it "
Think about this for a min ... Single woman at a club ... No hubby to back them up ....
Think you're imagination is running away with you ...
We single women go to clubs alone a lot .
A simple no thanks is pretty much all it takes
Get more sleaze balls up town on a sat evening |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"R club caps how many single guys we let in and we have three playrooms with lockable doors and a dungeon
(Him) Sounds exactly what we are after. We're not prudes and not divas either (I'm no oil painting) but I do have a short temper and scared of any repercussions from pests. Thank you for your reply, we really do appreciate it x
We can totally understand where you are coming from. We've been swinging over 10 years but we're only just taking the plunge in going to a club.
Just remember that the forums are going to be about ranting/whinging, so negativity spreads.
We suggest trying the club review section of fab, it's separate from the forums. "
(Him again, grrr hate it explaining that lol) Never a truer word spoken there. Lovely to hear from like minded folk. I just want unbiased opinions. The loons do worry me though  lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just go on a couples only evening,
But a word of advice leave your short temper at home
(Him again lol) The temper is nothing scary, just being a bloke, I know what some blokes are like when wanting to get their rocks off. It'll be amusing at first but if the pestering continues, I'm quite vocal and scared that I'll end up causing a scene
I'm not a violent man but cannot and will not tolerate bad manners. So old skool and hate it
Think about this for a min ... Single woman at a club ... No hubby to back them up ....
Think you're imagination is running away with you ...
We single women go to clubs alone a lot .
A simple no thanks is pretty much all it takes
Get more sleaze balls up town on a sat evening "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mingles in Colchester only allow a maximum of 5 single men in, and it's a very friendly social club too.
No pressure on anyone, all guests are respectful and above all... FUN to be around
Jeez, how lucky are those five men? Are they employees?"
Its a small club, maximum capacity is around 60 people, so 5 singles is plenty.... there are lots of couples and a few single females that go too.
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Just go on a couples only evening,
But a word of advice leave your short temper at home
(Him again lol) The temper is nothing scary, just being a bloke, I know what some blokes are like when wanting to get their rocks off. It'll be amusing at first but if the pestering continues, I'm quite vocal and scared that I'll end up causing a scene
I'm not a violent man but cannot and will not tolerate bad manners. So old skool and hate it "
Stick to private meets. Clubs don't need intolerance. Just like in life there is good and bad and if you can't cope with that, don't go. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just go on a couples only evening,
But a word of advice leave your short temper at home
(Him again lol) The temper is nothing scary, just being a bloke, I know what some blokes are like when wanting to get their rocks off. It'll be amusing at first but if the pestering continues, I'm quite vocal and scared that I'll end up causing a scene
I'm not a violent man but cannot and will not tolerate bad manners. So old skool and hate it
Stick to private meets. Clubs don't need intolerance. Just like in life there is good and bad and if you can't cope with that, don't go."
I don't think anyone should have to 'cope' with pushy people, my main objective was to get some recommendations of places where that sort of behaviour isn't the norm or tolerated by the club.
As I said, going to a club would be a first for us, I'm sure pushy people are in the minority but it's helpful for us to get some recommendations for suitable clubs where that behaviour isn't commonplace.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep, what they said. You'd get thrown out if you're in an altercation. You just need to politely point out you're not wanting the attention. eg, "thanks for your interest but not tonight".
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That's exactly what I would want to avoid, of course we would politely decline unwanted interest. I just wouldn't want a venue where the clientele can get away with being a pest. |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Cant mrs speak for herself? Were in the year 2016 not the caveman age "
Indeed. The ONLY times we have ever seen "trouble" in any Club it has come about from a guy kicking off because things didn't go the way that he wanted and was not able to cope with it.
Shit happens and fortunately the vast overwhelmingly majority of swinging singles and couples deal with it. But there is invariably one guy who just can't cope and embarrasses himself and his wife/girlfriend.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cant mrs speak for herself? Were in the year 2016 not the caveman age
She most definitely can. Your point being? "
Let her deal with the pushy guys then. Better coming from her then the short tempered other half |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cant mrs speak for herself? Were in the year 2016 not the caveman age
She most definitely can. Your point being?
Let her deal with the pushy guys then. Better coming from her then the short tempered other half "
She wouldn't have any problem in declining people but IF they were to become a pest or get pushy etc I wouldn't stand by and leave her to deal with them! Ideally we're interested in clubs where this isn't likely to happen.
My post seems to have become misconstrued, my original post was for recommendations for clubs suitable for what we're looking for, if some of you are happy to be hassled by others then that's great but it would put a dampener on our evening and probably deter us from going to a club again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think some people are getting this twisted.
I think what the OP is saying is that he wouldn't get all physical or cause a scene, but would be very direct and vocal if someone was being a nuisance or pestering after a polite declination. Nor would he stand back and let his Mrs deal with it without saying anything if she wasn't having any success, as I'm sure most would appreciate
I can relate to this, as I (Mr) am very much the same, and have been in clubs, without causing any issues.
OP, I think what ClitEastwood was trying to get across is in such situations, which in our experience is incredibly incredibly rare, ( infact never happened to us, but we know it can happen, ) is that often, the best and most accepted declination is from the lady when dealing with a male who is a little over zealous. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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(Captain Caveman here) Thanks for the advice and believe me when I say that the 'No' would be better coming from me. The Mrs can easily handle herself and is by no means backward in coming forward. The caveman reference did make me giggle though. This thread was slightly going off topic and was never intended to become a platform for insulting anyone. I guess, I just want to know which clubs are 'run' better than others with regards to safe, friendly atmospheres. Would prefer our night out to be with chilled out and fun people and not ruined by pushy ignorant types. Thank you for your replies though, it's been lovely to chat. Take care gang. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think some people are getting this twisted.
I think what the OP is saying is that he wouldn't get all physical or cause a scene, but would be very direct and vocal if someone was being a nuisance or pestering after a polite declination. Nor would he stand back and let his Mrs deal with it without saying anything if she wasn't having any success, as I'm sure most would appreciate
I can relate to this, as I (Mr) am very much the same, and have been in clubs, without causing any issues.
OP, I think what ClitEastwood was trying to get across is in such situations, which in our experience is incredibly incredibly rare, ( infact never happened to us, but we know it can happen, ) is that often, the best and most accepted declination is from the lady when dealing with a male who is a little over zealous. "
(Him) Exactly that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"no means no anywhere and if people pester you any decent club will have words with the offenders and will chuck them out - "
(Him) That's the reassurance I'm after from any club |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"(Him here) We are toying with the idea of a club. Never been to one before but have experience of FFM. We are willing to travel for the right club but depends on 'honest' reviews from you guys. We are not desperate to jump in bed with anyone, so we really want to know about which clubs to avoid due to single male pests and lack of private rooms. We are very sociable and fun loving people but don't want to end up leaving early due to sex pests. Your input would be much appreciated x"
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Can I just throw something radical out there?! lol From a club owner who knows what she's talking about?!
Actually most decent clubs have their single guy policies sorted and most guys are so petrified of stepping across the line, that they are good as gold... (note 'decent clubs')
We have found that we get more 'problems' from single ladies and couples, especially if they have been drinking. There are quite a lot of divas out there who love the opportunity to give it both barrels, screaming 'inappropriate touching' to a poor guy who has brushed past her! Couples where the guy is over protective and eyeballs a poor guy who dared to look in the direction of his partner, when actually he was looking just past her at the porn on the TV behind them!
Just choose you club carefully, have a bit of give and take, understand that you are in a sexually charged atmosphere and tensions are heightened anyway at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go to clubs as a single and never found any men pushy, which is why I'm shocked when people state they have. 9 out of 10 times these people probably didn't report it to the staff, but if they had it would have been dealt with appropriately.
With the negative image men receive, I have the up most respect for them going, as plenty want to go but decide against it due to what is said. However, all the men I have spoken with at clubs have been polite and completely respectful.
but like others have stated most clubs do a couples and single fem night, so if you don't want to encounter men then go on one of those nights. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can I just throw something radical out there?! lol From a club owner who knows what she's talking about?!
Actually most decent clubs have their single guy policies sorted and most guys are so petrified of stepping across the line, that they are good as gold... (note 'decent clubs')
We have found that we get more 'problems' from single ladies and couples, especially if they have been drinking. There are quite a lot of divas out there who love the opportunity to give it both barrels, screaming 'inappropriate touching' to a poor guy who has brushed past her! Couples where the guy is over protective and eyeballs a poor guy who dared to look in the direction of his partner, when actually he was looking just past her at the porn on the TV behind them!
Just choose you club carefully, have a bit of give and take, understand that you are in a sexually charged atmosphere and tensions are heightened anyway at times."
(Caveman again ) You've hit the nail right on the head. I don't like ripples in the water, never have done. It is rather daunting but reassurance from others definitely helps. We're probably being over cautious but hey, just want it to be memorable for the right reasons. Thank you so much and you never know, we may be seeing you all real soon. Take care! |
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You can always tell the good clubs. From the reviews. Just check it's not the same people doing the same old reviews. The status updates are the best indicator to where the parties at. It's true that there are usually more problems from couples / single women than single men. Take your time looking at the reviews and the age of the posters. Some clubs cater for different people. Some clubs won't let some groups in. Not every club is everyone cup of tea so take your time and good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You can always tell the good clubs. From the reviews. Just check it's not the same people doing the same old reviews. The status updates are the best indicator to where the parties at. It's true that there are usually more problems from couples / single women than single men. Take your time looking at the reviews and the age of the posters. Some clubs cater for different people. Some clubs won't let some groups in. Not every club is everyone cup of tea so take your time and good luck. "
(Him) It's a minefield out there. I suppose a little more homework and some trial and error and we might just crack it lol. If clubs are full of understanding people like yourselves then I think we'll be fine. So refreshing and reassuring to know. Being grown adults and yet being nervous just seems daft but I'm sure we'll conquer it together. Thank you and take care. |
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Our advice is. First time go. Have a drink. Jacuzzi sauna. Watch someone else. Then go home. And most importantly stick to what you agreed first. Plenty more nights ahead. Even bad clubs can be a laugh. You always remember the good plays and the bad ones. .... Never the ok ones. In hindsight the bad ones become part of your story And we've had some right bad ones ... There now funny and we always talk about them and wouldn't change them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Our advice is. First time go. Have a drink. Jacuzzi sauna. Watch someone else. Then go home. And most importantly stick to what you agreed first. Plenty more nights ahead. Even bad clubs can be a laugh. You always remember the good plays and the bad ones. .... Never the ok ones. In hindsight the bad ones become part of your story And we've had some right bad ones ... There now funny and we always talk about them and wouldn't change them. "
(Him, still lol) This makes perfect sense. You're quite right. No point rushing it. We're really looking forward to it, just need to agree a time and a place now. We may see you in a club sometime in the future
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I just throw something radical out there?! lol From a club owner who knows what she's talking about?!
Actually most decent clubs have their single guy policies sorted and most guys are so petrified of stepping across the line, that they are good as gold... (note 'decent clubs')
We have found that we get more 'problems' from single ladies and couples, especially if they have been drinking. There are quite a lot of divas out there who love the opportunity to give it both barrels, screaming 'inappropriate touching' to a poor guy who has brushed past her! Couples where the guy is over protective and eyeballs a poor guy who dared to look in the direction of his partner, when actually he was looking just past her at the porn on the TV behind them!
Just choose you club carefully, have a bit of give and take, understand that you are in a sexually charged atmosphere and tensions are heightened anyway at times."
Never a truer statement said as ex club hosts we would concur with all of the above xx |
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"Can I just throw something radical out there?! lol From a club owner who knows what she's talking about?!
Actually most decent clubs have their single guy policies sorted and most guys are so petrified of stepping across the line, that they are good as gold... (note 'decent clubs')
We have found that we get more 'problems' from single ladies and couples, especially if they have been drinking. There are quite a lot of divas out there who love the opportunity to give it both barrels, screaming 'inappropriate touching' to a poor guy who has brushed past her! Couples where the guy is over protective and eyeballs a poor guy who dared to look in the direction of his partner, when actually he was looking just past her at the porn on the TV behind them!
Just choose you club carefully, have a bit of give and take, understand that you are in a sexually charged atmosphere and tensions are heightened anyway at times."
Totally agree.
I have been going to clubs for 6 years and have never had a bad experience with pushy guys. Most are so well behaved that they almost seem worried about saying hello never mind waving their cock in my face.
But should you come across a man who isn't quite upto speed with club etiquette leave it to your Mrs to tell him no, I have seen the male half of the couple get the wrong idea and over react quite strongly to some perceived wrong doing. All she needs is a polite but firm no thank you, but I have never had to resort to anything other than a smile and shake of my head whilst saying no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kinda weird that people join this site knowing what it's all about and complain when guys are pestering them for sex on a fucking sex site how dare they "
And here comes one of the 'expectant' ones..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Kinda weird that people join this site knowing what it's all about and complain when guys are pestering them for sex on a fucking sex site how dare they "
(Him) I'm assuming this is a sarcastic, tongue in cheek joke. I could be wrong though. Very difficult to judge  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinda weird that people join this site knowing what it's all about and complain when guys are pestering them for sex on a fucking sex site how dare they "
No one should expect to be "pestered" or stand for it either.
Though clearly you think it's OK to do so? |
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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago
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"Kinda weird that people join this site knowing what it's all about and complain when guys are pestering them for sex on a fucking sex site how dare they "
The very reason clubs have couples only nights and some limit the number of single men on other nights. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Kinda weird that people join this site knowing what it's all about and complain when guys are pestering them for sex on a fucking sex site how dare they
The very reason clubs have couples only nights and some limit the number of single men on other nights. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dose makeus laugh if u dont do single guys dont goon there nite simple lol "
This would be our preference but It's not just single men, we wouldn't want to play with the male half of a couple either. We're only interested in ladies for the time being. I realise this would totally limit the people who may be interested in us but for now it's our preference and we're in no rush to change that to suit others. Mrs X |
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"Dose makeus laugh if u dont do single guys dont goon there nite simple lol
This would be our preference but It's not just single men, we wouldn't want to play with the male half of a couple either. We're only interested in ladies for the time being. I realise this would totally limit the people who may be interested in us but for now it's our preference and we're in no rush to change that to suit others. Mrs X "
You will find more single ladies on mixed nights when the single guys go primarily because that's what they are looking for |
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"Can I just throw something radical out there?! lol From a club owner who knows what she's talking about?!
Actually most decent clubs have their single guy policies sorted and most guys are so petrified of stepping across the line, that they are good as gold... (note 'decent clubs')
We have found that we get more 'problems' from single ladies and couples, especially if they have been drinking. There are quite a lot of divas out there who love the opportunity to give it both barrels, screaming 'inappropriate touching' to a poor guy who has brushed past her! Couples where the guy is over protective and eyeballs a poor guy who dared to look in the direction of his partner, when actually he was looking just past her at the porn on the TV behind them!
Just choose you club carefully, have a bit of give and take, understand that you are in a sexually charged atmosphere and tensions are heightened anyway at times."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Couples nights don't free of you pests - it just means the pests have to bring a woman with them to get in."
This is also true. Oh well, it'll all come down to luck in the end. We shall see... |
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Maybe try Bristol Gardens on a couples night. They are amazingly strict outside the playrooms. The staff are constantly walking around. Any naughtiness is strictly in the rest rooms, most of which have locks. |
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Jaydees it a nice club limit the single guys and have staff walking around and checking every one is having a nice night
You can stop in a caravan camper or tent on the grounds for free or stop it a play room when club closes for cheap think £20 bring your own bed stuff and the bar is bring your own |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Grow a thicker skin quickly and laugh at it (maybe quietly to yourselves, out loud if needed to deter). We're regulars at Kestrels and most days if you walk as a couple from the pool to the dungeon you can guarantee followers. We call them (no offence guys) the walking dead. They follow en'mass and some couples might even give them a chance if they just learnt a little bit of patience. As it is they'll never get lucky with us and rarely with anyone else. To be fair they don't push it often and if they do a 'no thanks' normally works. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Grow a thicker skin quickly and laugh at it (maybe quietly to yourselves, out loud if needed to deter). We're regulars at Kestrels and most days if you walk as a couple from the pool to the dungeon you can guarantee followers. We call them (no offence guys) the walking dead. They follow en'mass and some couples might even give them a chance if they just learnt a little bit of patience. As it is they'll never get lucky with us and rarely with anyone else. To be fair they don't push it often and if they do a 'no thanks' normally works. "
The Walking Dead - Love it
Lots of hints and tips in this thread so far, much appreciated x (Mr) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe try Bristol Gardens on a couples night. They are amazingly strict outside the playrooms. The staff are constantly walking around. Any naughtiness is strictly in the rest rooms, most of which have locks. "
Will look into this one. We want to have fun and safety is quite important, especially due to mingling with highly sexually charged people (as was mentioned prior). I can control my urges, just can't vouch for everyone else. Thanks for the advice x (Mr) |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Maybe try Bristol Gardens on a couples night. They are amazingly strict outside the playrooms. The staff are constantly walking around. Any naughtiness is strictly in the rest rooms, most of which have locks. "
Bristol Gardens and Swinging should not even be mentioned in the same sentence. I am sure that the little strumpet of an owner would not want BGHS to be noted in the list of Seingerd Clubs on Fabswingers. Shame, Neighton deserves a good Club and BGHS is not even a Vlub, let alone a good one. |
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By *MFC PartiesWoman
over a year ago
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I have read quite a lot of this post and really feel the need to reassure the OP
Please do not get ypurselves so worked up into thinking that all single guys are predatory and that they are always touching when uninvited
This is NOT the case, and lets face it if it was then all clubs would be closed down or empty
Obviously some guys do get over zealous but these really are in the minority
You keep referring to your temper and the fact that you don't want any issues to arise so that you don't NEED to challenge anyone
If you go out with that frame of mind then i doubt you will enjoy your evening no matter where you go - i have visions of you looking like a mere cat on the look out for any guy to over step the mark
Go out and forget about the ''what ifs'' and just enjoy your evening- but remember, the club management are there to help!!
If ANY issues arise in ANY club, then it should be reported to the management - and THEY will take the appropriate action
I always inform my members that no matter how small you think the matter is, STILL report it as for all you know the perpetrator maybe on their last warning!
Use the club review section, do your homework and choose the venue that you feel you will get the most out of
Maybe for your first club night you choose a couples only party as this will certainly eliminate any possible issues with Single Guys
Remember, there is only you who can manage your expectations, but if you are constantly on the look out for the ''octopus guys'' then you will spend more time scanning the room and looking over your shoulder than actually enjoying yourself
There will always be someone who will retell their horror story but if clubs were THAT bad - then i will repeat it again - they would always be EMPTY!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have read quite a lot of this post and really feel the need to reassure the OP
Please do not get ypurselves so worked up into thinking that all single guys are predatory and that they are always touching when uninvited
This is NOT the case, and lets face it if it was then all clubs would be closed down or empty
Obviously some guys do get over zealous but these really are in the minority
You keep referring to your temper and the fact that you don't want any issues to arise so that you don't NEED to challenge anyone
If you go out with that frame of mind then i doubt you will enjoy your evening no matter where you go - i have visions of you looking like a mere cat on the look out for any guy to over step the mark
Go out and forget about the ''what ifs'' and just enjoy your evening- but remember, the club management are there to help!!
If ANY issues arise in ANY club, then it should be reported to the management - and THEY will take the appropriate action
I always inform my members that no matter how small you think the matter is, STILL report it as for all you know the perpetrator maybe on their last warning!
Use the club review section, do your homework and choose the venue that you feel you will get the most out of
Maybe for your first club night you choose a couples only party as this will certainly eliminate any possible issues with Single Guys
Remember, there is only you who can manage your expectations, but if you are constantly on the look out for the ''octopus guys'' then you will spend more time scanning the room and looking over your shoulder than actually enjoying yourself
There will always be someone who will retell their horror story but if clubs were THAT bad - then i will repeat it again - they would always be EMPTY!!"
(Mrs this time ). Thanks for your reply. I think his 'temper' has been blown out of proportion and not a cause for concern, he's not an angry man (or meerkat!) looking out for someone to have a go at in the slightest, he's just concerned that some clubs may not be well-managed IF we were to feel the need to ask them to intervene at all. He/we are not the types to 'kick off' or cause any dramas but equally we're not going to be timid and allow anyone to do anything we're not comfortable with to avoid causing a scene. It's not like we're that amazing that people are going to be pestering us all night anyway . But it has been reassuring to hear from people on here and those who have sent a PM that most clubs don't tolerate 'pests' and we've had some good recommendations. I'm sure once we've been to one our doubts and nerves will subside and hopefully we'll make some nice, like-minded friends in time. Xx |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"Swingers clubs are safer than normal clubs "
There was a review floating around about a big, big party night that we also attended at the end of July.
The writer identified that the Club and Party could have been in any top quality nightclub, anywhere in the UK but with one big difference... The whole place was infected with a happy bug. No hint of tension or underlying aggression, just hundreds of sexy and half naked people having the time of their lives.
I think it is probably due to the fact that swingers are by nature tolerant people and so flirting and dancing with people does not send people off into aggressive rages as sometimes happens in normal clubs.
The point being that if the OP is actually genuine the consistent expectation of harassment and problems would mean that they would highly likely find it. |
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"Swingers clubs are safer than normal clubs
There was a review floating around about a big, big party night that we also attended at the end of July.
The writer identified that the Club and Party could have been in any top quality nightclub, anywhere in the UK but with one big difference... The whole place was infected with a happy bug. No hint of tension or underlying aggression, just hundreds of sexy and half naked people having the time of their lives.
I think it is probably due to the fact that swingers are by nature tolerant people and so flirting and dancing with people does not send people off into aggressive rages as sometimes happens in normal clubs.
The point being that if the OP is actually genuine the consistent expectation of harassment and problems would mean that they would highly likely find it. "
Spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It seems my earlier post went unread. We're not 'expecting' tension, unlikely we or many others would even consider going to a club if that were the expectation.
All hubby really wanted was some recommendations of places which are well managed and would suit us, he just made the mistake of saying he would have a short temper IF we encountered pushy people (who couldn't accept our polite refusal) and the club didn't intervene in such situations.
As I explained earlier, he's not aggressive nor negative, he's actually a pretty chilled out and easy-going man with a good sense of humour and is likely to see the funny side of most situations. We would never have a night out expecting trouble.
Hopefully that clears up the incorrect assumption he/we have the wrong attitude or he'd be looking for a fight. X |
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You live near me and I love Pleasures in Kent...not far up the road in Wateringbury.
They have a heated pool and two hot tubs. 14 play rooms most lockable and private. A couple of rooms that can be locked but people can still watch and two open rooms.
I have been as a single women on Friday evening..which is open to anyone and on Saturday which is couples and females only.
Always felt relaxed and happy there and never known of any hassle. The single men are always told when they come in that no means no and as mentioned in previous messages they are normally so scared they behave themselves well.
Steve and Maggie and all the staff are really friendly and it's more like a kinky nightclub with a great social side as well as all the excellent clean playrooms.
You even get hot dogs and pizza at midnight. It's a BYOB but soft drinks are sold there and all I can say is highly recommended.
PM if you have any more questions.
Happy Fabbing.
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
Not much I can add, except I personally would look at going to a club, checking it out, having a drink and chat to people and do not plan to have fun with anyone other than yourselves. Then play in a private room.
This way you can have a good evening and just test the water. See if you like the clubs atmosphere, what the regulars are like, ask about what happens if there are any issues and chat to people if they have ever seen someone checked out.
By doing this you can swap usernames with people you may like to meet again, reassure yourselves you have been to a good club and had a relaxed taster evening.
Read the review section to find out more about the clubs near you.
Most importantly, have fun and enjoy your first visit wherever you decide to go. |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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Actually most decent clubs have their single guy policies sorted and most guys are so petrified of stepping across the line, that they are good as gold... (note 'decent clubs')
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100%! If membership of their favoured club is £70-80+ and it`s difficult to get in the first place, no single guy is going to risk losing that. Plus, I believe the good clubs will be talking to each other when it comes to trouble makers, or at least I hope they would be! |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
Here we go.... If you are looking for just single females I would sugest then going on a mixed night, mainly because on a couples night most people would expect the couples to be together
As a single guy a simple thanks but no thanks works, if you think you may want to play later say something like thanks for the interest would you like to catch up later, if you want to play there then just say yes
I would say in my time I think I have been told 3 times no thanks and that is clubbing in last 10 years - on one occasion I ended up just watching, the other two no play and that is fine just being assertive helps
Also I would say the large arguments I have scene is pissed couples  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone and thanks for the feedback. There are quite a few valid points there and has been noted. Hopefully we'll be playing in a town near you at some point. Much appreciated. Stay fabulous xx |
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