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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
Just wondering which approach has worked best for people when you are at a club?
When we started we were a bit timid and waited for things to happen. Now we tend to go in, look around, get our bearings (eye up the talent!) talk to each other for a little while to check we're both comfortable and then go and say hello to a few people - not necessarily to play, but because they seem interesting.
Any other approaches that have worked?  |
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We just go with the intention of enjoying ourselves, which we could do in an empty club....but basically we walk in, get naked and start having fun....surprisingly enough we tend to attract attention  |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We just go with the intention of enjoying ourselves, which we could do in an empty club....but basically we walk in, get naked and start having fun....surprisingly enough we tend to attract attention "
Genious, hadn't considered this approach!  |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"If you are new try to sit or stand at the bar, you can chat to the bar person and there is a good chance others will chat even if it is just while getting a drink. At least that breaks the ice."
Agree with being at the bar, in a couple of clubs we've been to the sofa's seem to end up having one couple to each ne all wondering why people don't sit with them! It is much easier to approach & be approached when you are both at the same eye level. Plus at the bar you have a continuous stream of changing people |
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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago
bournemouth |
When we went to abfabs we found that it was couples who seemed to know each other chatting so had a walk around then got our kit off and went and sat in one of the hot tubs, soon met quite a few that way |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
If we haven't been before, we usually ask the owners to show us around and maybe introduce us to some regulars. If in doubt just go and say hi to a couple and chat for a while - people are usually really friendly & not just after sex! |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"When we went to abfabs we found that it was couples who seemed to know each other chatting so had a walk around then got our kit off and went and sat in one of the hot tubs, soon met quite a few that way"
The hot tubs at Abs are great places to break the ice and chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't tend to approach much but people who approach us usually say hi, introduce themselves, ask if we've been to any parties before and go from there. we have had some straight to the point approaches from couples and single females which we don't mind lol. |
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"When we went to abfabs we found that it was couples who seemed to know each other chatting so had a walk around then got our kit off and went and sat in one of the hot tubs, soon met quite a few that way
The hot tubs at Abs are great places to break the ice and chat. "
They have ice in the hot tub?????   |
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By *achoCouple
over a year ago
Gloucester |
We're always anxious about this. We've been a few times to AbFab, and although we found sitting in the hot tub 'easier' to start chatting, it's not always a guarantee ; also, sometimes their arrangement of sofas can be a little difficult to help strike up a conversation. We're hoping to go to Remix @ Swindon this saturday, and we're looking forward to a bar to prop up against !! After that, we'll have to see ! We ought to try and start up the conversation a bit more, but it's not easy, there's nerves, and then there's being worried we'll say something and make a gaffe ! I think to be honest we (all) go in hoping to have fun, so there's a certain amount of pressure just from that, but reading through the forums, I think we'll try and focus on the sociable side a bit more (with our main agenda in the back of our minds of course !!!). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are still evolving our interaction, leaving things to the end of the night just hoping things will just happen isn't the best plan.
We had a fantastic play at the VA last week but really should have started earlier
There was a younger man that Mrs L really liked the look of that we should have just walked up to and started talking to.
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