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By *inkyKellyCD OP   TV/TS  over a year ago

Coventry

Went to the Greenhouse in Darlaston last night, for the first time! Sadly it wasn't a great experience, no fault of the place or the staff themselves (who were all lovely!). Was just one bad thing after the other, really.

So a guy I'd been chatting to on here (sadly, can't name and shame) said at some point we should go to the Greenhouse on their Tgirl+admirer night on fridays, so a few months later (yesterday), we did! He gave me a lift there, which was nice. On the way he jokingly said he'd leave me there... we'll come back to that. We chatted a bit on the way and all seemed fine. When we got in he started chatting to the guy at the front desk, who recognised him, guy I arrived with was bragging about ditching a Tgirl here and leaving. He'd mentioned her earlier and said she was really unconvincing or something.

We went in, paid and went off to the locker rooms to put our stuff away (a locker each), and I couldn't find him afterwards. Looked around for a bit for him, eventually gave up and chatted to a couple of other Tgirls then went into the video/porn room, where there were a few guys and I had a bit of a play with some of them. When I bent over, one guy tried to bareback me though :\ Noticed before he went in though, luckily, and he put a condom on. Then a few minutes later he fisted me (luckily I'm into that, but you don't just try to fist someone without saying a word to them!)

As I walked down another corridor there were two guys we'll call guy 1 and guy 2, who'd earlier asked as I was walking past if I'd want a threesome, though at the time I was starting to get a bit worried about where the guy who'd be my lift home had got to, so I was looking around (the place is a maze by the way, needs some more signs around), but yeah, they were being a bit pushy about it. Saw them later and semi-reluctantly took them up on their offer and we went into a private room, but halfway through, kind of bored and as I said, increasingly worried about where my ride home had gone, I said I'd be back in a minute. Guy 1 blocks the door and insists I finish him off, getting a little bit in my face about it (funny, because he was a couple feet shorter than me which didn't do much for him there). After I asked a few times for him to open the door guy 2 tells him it's not worth it and to let me out. Phew! That could've went worse, locked in there with them.

So yeah, looked for the guy who I'd went there with some more. Nothing. Sat in the bar for a bit, got my phone and messaged him on Kik a few times. Then guy 1 and 2 come back and sit either side of me and try to chat like it was nothing, and get a bit pushy and asking several times if I want to go back for more and to let guy 2 fist me since he saw it happen earlier. Said no thanks and expressed a lack of interest but they kept asking.

Sat in the bar for the next 3 hours at which point it became clear that dickhead had ditched me there, which sucks because it was 3am and 40 miles home. So he wasn't joking about leaving me there. LUCKILY I'd packed some stuff in my bag in case this happened (thinking I'd not have a chance of needing any of it), some guy clothes, makeup remover, and some money. Guy at the desk was lovely and phoned for a taxi, asking how much it was, £32, not bad. Sadly that leaves me with about £10 to last the rest of the month since I'm on a really tight budget at the moment, so I really didn't need this.

Oh well. Like I said, the staff were all lovely and helpful, just a few very pushy and insistent people, and one total dickhead who's now ditched at least two Tgirls there. His driving was pretty shocking too, kept jumping on and off the pedals, tailgating people without seeming to realise, etc.

So yeah, first time outside as a Tgirl and it all goes wrong. Hmph. I don't know if I'll be going back, or to any clubs in the near future, it's really put me off. I'm sure I'll change my mind eventually. That's it really! Just needed to vent, heh. Next time, I don't care how trustworthy someone seems, I'm driving there

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By *inkyKellyCD OP   TV/TS  over a year ago

Coventry

Still haven't heard back from him, either, and he's hidden his profile now...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This is so awful I can't even put it in to words. Can you not report this guy to admin? But I guess he will just start a new profile anyway.

I guess lessons are learnt the hard way sometimes. Club safety are important issues. Personally I would never go with someone I didn't really know and would expect the same from someone else. Always arrange to meet at the club and if possible go with someone as back up. Private rooms again have a safety issue but you don't need me to go on about that.

Please don't give up on clubs as there as some great ones around and great people too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Pretty shocked to read all that. It must have been awful for you.

A lesson learned regarding travelling with someone you don't know.

I've been to the greenhouse quite a few times and will concur that the guys can be pushy. It takes a confident girl to handle them at times. Mostly everyone is very courteous but now and then you get the occasional asshole. I was in the swing when a guy tried to enter me unprotected. I pushed him away and told him to put a condom on but he tried again more forcefully. I warned him to respect me but he came at me again, so I dropped him.

I've always enjoyed my time in the greenhouse. I am very confident of myself though and have handled some pretty big groups for fun. You need eyes in your bum cheeks though as so many will try to go in bare. Controlling large groups of men with errections is never easy and probably safer with a friend keeping a watchful eye.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

That is dreadful !

Report him to admin and block him.

Probably best to drive yourself there and don't go into private rooms unless you know the person/people really well.

It kinda spoils the fun a bit, but makes it less risky.

Good luck x

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By *inkyKellyCD OP   TV/TS  over a year ago

Coventry


"probably safer with a friend keeping a watchful eye.

"

Part of the reason I went with that guy instead of going alone, though it seems I trusted the wrong person :\

In the meantime, yeah, he's been reported and blocked.

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By *layfullsamMan  over a year ago

Solihull


"Still haven't heard back from him, either, and he's hidden his profile now..."

What did the owner/manager of the club say as it's got to be in there interest not to have this guy as a member ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Went to the Greenhouse in Darlaston last night, for the first time! Sadly it wasn't a great experience, no fault of the place or the staff themselves (who were all lovely!). Was just one bad thing after the other, really.

So a guy I'd been chatting to on here (sadly, can't name and shame) said at some point we should go to the Greenhouse on their Tgirl+admirer night on fridays, so a few months later (yesterday), we did! He gave me a lift there, which was nice. On the way he jokingly said he'd leave me there... we'll come back to that. We chatted a bit on the way and all seemed fine. When we got in he started chatting to the guy at the front desk, who recognised him, guy I arrived with was bragging about ditching a Tgirl here and leaving. He'd mentioned her earlier and said she was really unconvincing or something.

We went in, paid and went off to the locker rooms to put our stuff away (a locker each), and I couldn't find him afterwards. Looked around for a bit for him, eventually gave up and chatted to a couple of other Tgirls then went into the video/porn room, where there were a few guys and I had a bit of a play with some of them. When I bent over, one guy tried to bareback me though :\ Noticed before he went in though, luckily, and he put a condom on. Then a few minutes later he fisted me (luckily I'm into that, but you don't just try to fist someone without saying a word to them!)

As I walked down another corridor there were two guys we'll call guy 1 and guy 2, who'd earlier asked as I was walking past if I'd want a threesome, though at the time I was starting to get a bit worried about where the guy who'd be my lift home had got to, so I was looking around (the place is a maze by the way, needs some more signs around), but yeah, they were being a bit pushy about it. Saw them later and semi-reluctantly took them up on their offer and we went into a private room, but halfway through, kind of bored and as I said, increasingly worried about where my ride home had gone, I said I'd be back in a minute. Guy 1 blocks the door and insists I finish him off, getting a little bit in my face about it (funny, because he was a couple feet shorter than me which didn't do much for him there). After I asked a few times for him to open the door guy 2 tells him it's not worth it and to let me out. Phew! That could've went worse, locked in there with them.

So yeah, looked for the guy who I'd went there with some more. Nothing. Sat in the bar for a bit, got my phone and messaged him on Kik a few times. Then guy 1 and 2 come back and sit either side of me and try to chat like it was nothing, and get a bit pushy and asking several times if I want to go back for more and to let guy 2 fist me since he saw it happen earlier. Said no thanks and expressed a lack of interest but they kept asking.

Sat in the bar for the next 3 hours at which point it became clear that dickhead had ditched me there, which sucks because it was 3am and 40 miles home. So he wasn't joking about leaving me there. LUCKILY I'd packed some stuff in my bag in case this happened (thinking I'd not have a chance of needing any of it), some guy clothes, makeup remover, and some money. Guy at the desk was lovely and phoned for a taxi, asking how much it was, £32, not bad. Sadly that leaves me with about £10 to last the rest of the month since I'm on a really tight budget at the moment, so I really didn't need this.

Oh well. Like I said, the staff were all lovely and helpful, just a few very pushy and insistent people, and one total dickhead who's now ditched at least two Tgirls there. His driving was pretty shocking too, kept jumping on and off the pedals, tailgating people without seeming to realise, etc.

So yeah, first time outside as a Tgirl and it all goes wrong. Hmph. I don't know if I'll be going back, or to any clubs in the near future, it's really put me off. I'm sure I'll change my mind eventually. That's it really! Just needed to vent, heh. Next time, I don't care how trustworthy someone seems, I'm driving there "

What an absolute TWAT! It pisses me off when people do stuff like this as it then reflects on all single guys and I know very few are like this.

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By *picyminxWoman  over a year ago

Huntingdon

That's horrendous, how awful x Please report him on fab and also report guy 1 and guy 2 to the club. Noone should ever be compromised in a club at all. Makes me angry just reading this x

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By *etes-dragonCouple  over a year ago

Wales and the South West

Bad for the clubs image to have someone like this as a member. But no matter what, he should never have done that to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Lessons learned. I fly solo at chams and always have more fun on my own but you do have to be careful about your own safety I would of reported the other pushy guy too as that is totally out of order no means no and they should accept that just hope one bad night does not ruin things for you x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Sorry to hear op

But why get in a car with a stranger ??

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By *uxom redCouple  over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Sorry to hear that op sending you big hugs.

I hope you won't get into a car with a stranger again.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Why do guys try and have sex with you bareback without even asking?

I had this on a meet once and it took several attempts to get him off me.

Does it count as rape - as its non consensual sex?

It's tempting to tell them you have an STD and did they really want to catch it?

I'm horrified that this seems to happen as often as it does.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Disgusted that this occurred. The manager of this club needs to ban this low life. Hope you are okay

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why do guys try and have sex with you bareback without even asking?

I had this on a meet once and it took several attempts to get him off me.

Does it count as rape - as its non consensual sex?

It's tempting to tell them you have an STD and did they really want to catch it?

I'm horrified that this seems to happen as often as it does.

"

Bareback sex can be considered sexual assault, yes. You could - and perhaps should - go to the police.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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Does it count as rape - as its non consensual sex

"

Of course it is

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If the guy who ditched u often ditches other tgirls and is known to staff report him to the club as well as the guys who tried to assault u.

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By *inkyKellyCD OP   TV/TS  over a year ago

Coventry

Yeah, the whole "getting into a car with a stranger" was a bad idea on reflection, but we'd been chatting over a few months and... yeah, that's no reason to trust someone really, is it, actually :\

The last time I was stood up (stupid, I drove all the way to Poole... long story, a good idea at the time essentially... paid for a hotel, he only turned up for a few minutes, said he'd be back, then disappeared forever) we'd been chatting for months before too, only then I realised most of the stuff he'd said must've been complete lies.

So yeah... now learnt to never trust anyone (shame) until we've met in person at a location I can get myself out of without issue.

In both cases, in hindsight they were pretty dumb ideas, really, though I'm pretty sure I've learnt my lesson now :\ It just means being really untrusting of people sadly. Oh well.

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By *etes-dragonCouple  over a year ago

Wales and the South West

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. But if this thread makes other people in general think about their safety in and out of clubs then it has to be a good thing.

Your safety is your own thing .. unless you know the person you are with is your guide. I know if I am with someone who wants themselves looking after their back, then im only looking after myself and them, ..... till I know every thing is safe!

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By *o limits kinkMan  over a year ago

Bethesda

Jesus, that's about the worst introduction to going to a club, that's a pretty scary experience you had with those asshole guys not letting you leave the room when you wanted to go. Shame on them all for behaving so terribly. I'm disgusted people think they can treat someone so disrespectfully,

Hope you're ok.

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By *o limits kinkMan  over a year ago

Bethesda

I just peeked at your profile after I posted my comment above, I wish I was closer I would gladly drive you there and back home again, you're absolutely stunning. The guy who dumped you there is not only an asshole, he's an asshole who doesn't appreciate a sexy girl.

I'm sure there will be no shortage of willing guys to go with who are decent and trustworthy men.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I warned him to respect me but he came at me again, so I dropped him.

"

Best thing ever

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By *o limits kinkMan  over a year ago

Bethesda


" I warned him to respect me but he came at me again, so I dropped him.

Best thing ever"

I agree, he deserved that and more.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" I warned him to respect me but he came at me again, so I dropped him.

Best thing ever

I agree, he deserved that and more."

Hadnt an interest in anything other than getting back to alternately blowing two guys and being taken by a guy who did show respect and suit up

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Also learn to trust your instincts at the time. You say you "semi-reluctantly" took up the 2 guys offer to go in a private room with them. Now I am in no way saying you deserved what happened because you went in with them. Nobody deserves that, ever. What I am saying is you clearly felt something was a bit off as you were not keen on being with them. I believe that is known as gut instinct, trust yourself and listen to it next time. Hopefully your next experience will be better, don't give up cos of a few arseholes xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Oh I want to give you a hug! X

I found that quite difficult to read, and appalled how others think they can treat you!

In anything in life.... always go with your gut instinct! If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't.

Learn from this episode in you're life.

Next time go with another Ts/Tv for support.

Don't let these C**Ts put you off and allowing you to be you xx

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By *reakShow90Man  over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Wow I don't know what to say I mean we have all done silly stuff when d*unk or what ever but leaving you I mean wtf and the 2 guys was well out of line even some one fisting you with out asking even when I play with other who I have met before I always ask if what iam doing is ok

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I had a bad experience a few years ago. All going well went to chams for beach party with a guy I thought I new well. I had booked the room and paid for us at the club and he brought the petrol. I don't mind going halves. Had a great Saturday and Sunday. Without my knowledge after the club he took me to a strange house not back to the hotel. He wanted me to have sex with his friends and it did get a bit scary and the thought that I had put myself in that situation luckily he took me back to the hotel. Where he ditched me. Luckily a friend was staying at the same hotel and he lent me some money to get the train home. Things could of been a whole lot worse. This was 5 years ago before I got diagnosed with bi polar. I will never put myself in that situation again x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Sorry you had bad experience op it sounds like a nightmare . Hope what happened to you don't put you or other people off .

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple  over a year ago

luton

Rather shitty thing to do... Hope someone leads him on and then deserts him one day

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By *etra4sexTV/TS  over a year ago

ebbw vale

As a fellow tv I'm horrified as we all meet strange people some are nice some are horrible but I always feel I have the upper hand with a handfull of balls and prepared to rip the buggers off if things turn nasty why do men think a tv is a push over and deserves what's coming to them .....Nothing stranger than folk ..... I always drive and pay my own way so not beholden to anyone that's the best way

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

bad times

I would happily come with you to a club girls together .

Can't trust anyone really tho

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