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Club as a single male

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm considering trying a club but as a single male I'm wondering would it be worth my while i would love some feedback if anyone can help it would be much appreciated?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

does not matter what anyone else's, says its down to your personality, whether it works or not for you, if your asking are you guaranteed a shag then your not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just treat it as any other club nightout. Anymore then that will be a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ye thats true i just wasn't sure whether single males are thrownd upon as couples and single females are wanted more right??

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Ye thats true i just wasn't sure whether single males are thrownd upon as couples and single females are wanted more right?? "

not always...... different nights cater to different people....

if you can be socialable and generally not be a tit... you'll be fine..

just talk to people rather than just mooching about patrolling the play areas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're new to the club I would drop them an email to introduce yourself and actively listen to their advice regarding behaviour. As previous people have said, don't go with the expectation of a guaranteed bunk up, be chatty and approachable and try not to hover on your own. I would suggest going on a weekend night as they are busier and you'll see a good mix of people.

When I first flew solo at a club, I emailed a few in the local area saying that although not new to clubbing I hadn't been on my own. I selected where I went based on the club's response.

Good luck and I hope you have fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not so sure about other clubs but the single guys at Townhouse where we go are always treated with respect and this is due in part to the fact that they make single guys attend on a Wednesday night for an induction evening.

They then restrict single males to 8 on a Saturday night too sure that the single males are in demand

I would definitely recommend phoning any club you decide upon to see what their rules are for single guys and any restrictions they have.

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By *awtynNiceCouple over a year ago

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Depends what your wanting from the experience really. Its important to remember that different people go for different things. We usually played with singles when we went, but sometimes it was just nice to relax, have a drink and chat to like minded people. There is never a guarantee of play so its best to manage expectations and think of it like a sexy night club that is full of sociable people and anything more is a bonus. We really liked the mixed nights in chameleons. Hope you have fun x

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

"Just treat it as any other club nightout. "

But slightly more expensive night out

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Just treat it as any other club nightout.

But slightly more expensive night out

might be in london.....

but if the comparison is for example a night out in a northern city centre.... i probably spend less in a swinging enviroment than i now in a town.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From our point of view as a Couple of which the female like plenty of male attention don't be to pushy be polite ask if you can join in (dont just expect your entitled to a shag) respect is paramount at all time and talk to people.

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By *ll 4 herCouple over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

From our perspective single males will find it harder on this site than in clubs due to the perception (real or not) that they could be fake or looking for wank fodder, be a timewaster etc....

A lot of that negativity is wiped out by meeting them in a club.

As has been said ^^ as long as you are respectful, make an effort to speak to people and don't approach with a sense of entitlement you should have a great time.

We are predominantly looking for single males in clubs so you certainly wouldn't be frowned on if we met you in Partners Bury on Saturday if you were the above

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Ye thats true i just wasn't sure whether single males are thrownd upon as couples and single females are wanted more right?? "
yes they can be frowned upon you have to tread on eggshells in some places like a minefield. Be polite, friendly, outgoing, smile at people your interested in. Socialise around the bar make sincere compliments. Don't ask to play immediately usually wait for an invitation from couples. Single ladies expect you to be more forward though. Respect the male half of a couple that is important. I think you almost have to have to be a 'grey man' try to blend in. Very easily targeted single males aswell you have no defence either an only takes a couple of fabricated complaints to get your pass revoked. Hope I haven't worried you too much but enjoy and good luck

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

I have lots of sex with single men in clubs - as long as they are polite, clean and not pushy. Go for it!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" yes they can be frowned upon you have to tread on eggshells in some places like a minefield. Be polite, friendly, outgoing, smile at people your interested in. Socialise around the bar make sincere compliments. Don't ask to play immediately usually wait for an invitation from couples. Single ladies expect you to be more forward though. Respect the male half of a couple that is important. I think you almost have to have to be a 'grey man' try to blend in. Very easily targeted single males aswell you have no defence either an only takes a couple of fabricated complaints to get your pass revoked. Hope I haven't worried you too much but enjoy and good luck

see.. i read what you have written and a lot of it seems so defeatist...

couples expect "this" where singles expect "that"......

i am screaming "just chat to people and see where it goes".... just because you are in club related to sex, doesn't mean the chat has to be!!! in fact, for the first 5-10 i'd rather it wasn't about any sex and just normal conversation.... show you are a human being and treat them as such...

one thing always stuck with me... you only get one chance to make a great first impression..... normal conversation shows your personality!!! it makes you stand out!

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

see.. i read what you have written and a lot of it seems so defeatist...

couples expect "this" where singles expect "that"......

one thing always stuck with me... you only get one chance to make a great first impression..... normal conversation shows your personality!!! it makes you stand out!"
just realistic I think, I'm successful at being a single male just letting him be aware of how it is in certain clubs.

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By *elson61Man over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

Why is it that single males have to pay so much more to go to the clubs? I have seen some clubs charging £10 for single ladies, £30 for couples and single males are charged £50? Why do they have such a pricing structure?

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By *pice of life 79Man over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham

Try not to hover too much or they'll call you a towel wanker lol

I personally would feel odd going on my own although if I had a meet lined up at a club then I would , nothing worse than standing around or on your own with no one to chat to

Line a meet up as a social there with no expectations

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Why is it that single males have to pay so much more to go to the clubs? I have seen some clubs charging £10 for single ladies, £30 for couples and single males are charged £50? Why do they have such a pricing structure?"

not all clubs charge the same prices on all nights.......

clubs cater for different groups on different nights.....

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

not all clubs charge the same prices on all nights.......

clubs cater for different groups on different nights....."

but they still charge more for single men which is the point the guy was making

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supply and demand

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

but they still charge more for single men which is the point the guy was making "

you can use the comparison of envy if you like.... i'll use the comparison of realism...

so "for me" and the clubs i like to go to, i would likely spend less on a night out going to a swingers club, or a swingers social, then i would on going out on the same night to the nearest major city centre and go out on the lash........

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

but they still charge more for single men which is the point the guy was making

you can use the comparison of envy if you like.... i'll use the comparison of realism...

Err ok not sure what the envy/realism comment is about or why it's needed but "for me" a normal night out would cost me significantly less than a night out at a swingers club mainly because the entry price alone so bang goes that theory

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By *elson61Man over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

It's supply and demand "

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

but they still charge more for single men which is the point the guy was making

you can use the comparison of envy if you like.... i'll use the comparison of realism...

because not ever club pays london prices....so what we pay in the north is considerably different to what you pay...

for example... my local club charge 25 quid for single guys on a friday night

yes couples and single women get in cheaper and i don't begrudge them at all

but is that extortionate... because for me, what i would for example pay on a friday night doing other things is not

so not all clubs charge the moon and the stars....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?"

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

but they still charge more for single men which is the point the guy was making

you can use the comparison of envy if you like.... i'll use the comparison of realism...

because not ever club pays london prices....so what we pay in the north is considerably different to what you pay...

for example... my local club charge 25 quid for single guys on a friday night

yes couples and single women get in cheaper and i don't begrudge them at all

but is that extortionate... because for me, what i would for example pay on a friday night doing other things is not

so not all clubs charge the moon and the stars...."

i never said they did your making the assumption that i am just talking about London prices why i don't know, i never said anything about begrudging anyone or extortion i just agreed with the point that single men pay more

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

probably because you replied to the following...

"Just treat it as any other club nightout.

But slightly more expensive night out

but as i was saying that is not true of all clubs on all nights.....

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

probably because you replied to the following...

Just treat it as any other club nightout.

But slightly more expensive night out

but as i was saying that is not true of all clubs on all nights....."

Yes that was me replying to somebody's comment with my own and?

I never said that was the case of all clubs on all nights

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By *elson61Man over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy."

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just pull on pof it's free?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off."

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?

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By *elson61Man over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?"

If the admission price for men was reduced to the same level as is current for single women, then that shouldn't see a reduction in the number of women going. The current levels make it very hard for me to justify going, £50 just to get through the door is steep. Like many I don't have the means to pay so much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been to clubs as a single guy and as a couple so i can see things from both sides .but I just can't understand why guys just mooch around looking . smile at a couple go and introduce yourself , That as a couple is paramount for us because it shows you are polite and freindly wheras if you turn up at the end of the bed where we are playing just fumbling in your towl then you have no chance .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just go, be normal and relaxed, I must admit it will probably feel a little different to a normal night out because you know it's a different environment, but just be yourself and chat to others politely, but be comfortable. If you wanna dress down, or invite others to play, flirt outrageously, do that. If you wanna just stay fully clothed and see a few conversations as major progress, then all cool. Best advice I can give is just don't build up any crazy nerves in your head - people will not bite if you approach them.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Ive been to clubs as a single guy and as a couple so i can see things from both sides .but I just can't understand why guys just mooch around looking . smile at a couple go and introduce yourself , That as a couple is paramount for us because it shows you are polite and freindly wheras if you turn up at the end of the bed where we are playing just fumbling in your towl then you have no chance . "
i appreciate what your saying but it's completely different approaching couples versus a single lady. Requires a lot of confidence to approach a couple which some men don't have so I think couples should approach men. I know this isn't always the case though so I will try my luck but sometimes it will just never happen. It could help if you knew they were looking for single men for instance a greedy girls night is a green light for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?

Here's a really radical idea!

Don't go to the club that wants to charge you as a single male £50 to get in. Look at the many other clubs that will charge you £20/£25 to get in or in some cases £10 or even free at certain events.

Instead of just saying over and over again I don't want to pay £50 as a single male to get into a club. Read the many forum threads here there are socials that give you reduced entry to clubs or club nights where the entrance is cheap.

I go to clubs regularly as a single male and wouldn't dream of spending £50 to get in. If I see a club that I like the look of but they want to charge me silly money, I won't go until I see a night like that advertised. If there isn't one, then that club won't get my business. It really isn't rocket science, loads of reasonably priced clubs out there you just have to put the effort in to finding them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?

But it would increase the number of single men that go which could put a lot of women off going. I don't know how to make it fairer financially and still get a balanced amount of both men and women going.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" i appreciate what your saying but it's completely different approaching couples versus a single lady. Requires a lot of confidence to approach a couple which some men don't have so I think couples should approach men. I know this isn't always the case though so I will try my luck but sometimes it will just never happen. It could help if you knew they were looking for single men for instance a greedy girls night is a green light for me."

see this is where you and me fundermentally disagee.... you say different approaches are needed for couples and single ladies...... i disagree...

talking to people is talking to people irrespective... and that is how you find out what people are after, and maybe the fact that some people DO treat it differently isn't helping the cause....

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

two things here....

1) the price actually isn't stopping you from going... it stopping you going as often as you would like.....

2) as for justify going at that price... if you want guarentees, see an escort... otherwise all you are ever paying for going to a club are the facilities.... use all, use some, use none... but thats not on the club....

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?

Here's a really radical idea!

You do realise that you are talking far too much sense??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You do realise that you are talking far too much sense??

Oh God yeah, so I am

What I meant to say was 'All single men are ripped off by every swingers club out there. I'm going to sit at home and moan about it on here from now on'

Off to post a couple of threads now about how hard done by I am both in clubs and on here as a single male. Also going to post a few threads asking how to get that all important 1st veri as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but they still charge more for single men which is the point the guy was making

you can use the comparison of envy if you like.... i'll use the comparison of realism...

What clubs in London have you tried? All the ones I've attended, yes the guys are charged more, but the prices are reasonable 20/35 pound......definitely cheaper than a vanilla night out!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?

Here's a really radical idea!

How far would you travel to get to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How far would you travel to get to a club?"

I regularly travel 90 odd miles each way to a club and have travelled even further for socials etc.

My local club is only 13 miles each way and I try and get there at least once a week on average.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You do realise that you are talking far too much sense??

Oh God yeah, so I am

What I meant to say was 'All single men are ripped off by every swingers club out there. I'm going to sit at home and moan about it on here from now on'

Off to post a couple of threads now about how hard done by I am both in clubs and on here as a single male. Also going to post a few threads asking how to get that all important 1st veri as well

Everyone knows you're not genuine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How far would you travel to get to a club?

I regularly travel 90 odd miles each way to a club and have travelled even further for socials etc.

My local club is only 13 miles each way and I try and get there at least once a week on average. "

Yeah he travelled all the way from his location to my location the to the Midlands for a club night then drives me all the way home. I could have made him drive home but at 6am I think he needed a rest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How far would you travel to get to a club?

I regularly travel 90 odd miles each way to a club and have travelled even further for socials etc.

My local club is only 13 miles each way and I try and get there at least once a week on average. "

Thanks

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By *umpkinMan over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

It's supply and demand

Is there a demand from single men to pay five times as much admission as a single lady?

Of course not, but there are still far more single men that go than single ladies even with the price discrepancy.

I just don't get why single men have to pay five times as much for admission. To me it is a rip off.

I agree that the pricing should be fairer but would you rather everyone paid the same and less single women went and more single men went?

Here's a really radical idea!

Brilliant reply Lee! Yes, put in some homework and you will be rewarded!

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By *umpkinMan over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

"How far would you travel to get to a club?

I regularly travel 90 odd miles each way to a club and have travelled even further for socials etc.

My local club is only 13 miles each way and I try and get there at least once a week on average. "

A used to meet a lady in Bristol who had travelled up from Plymouth and we would go on to Chameleons. 150 miles each way for me!

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

see this is where you and me fundermentally disagee.... you say different approaches are needed for couples and single ladies...... i disagree...

talking to people is talking to people irrespective... and that is how you find out what people are after, and maybe the fact that some people DO treat it differently isn't helping the cause....

confidence is confidence, people who chat are always going to do better than those who go round like silent assasins patrolling play areas... or those who will only speak to one but not the other (which most people would have seen in clubs) or waiting on the hubs to go to bar/toilet and then slope in.... before rushing off when partner comes back (again most people in clubs will have seen that)"
I think we agree to disagree. There is a completely different dynamic talking to couples and single ladies. I approached a couple a few weeks ago and the guys nickname is tank which is very apt believe me and I spoke to some single males and they were frightened to try approach or even talk to them when they were infact a very nice couple but not looking for single guys yet.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

"You do realise that you are talking far too much sense??

Oh God yeah, so I am

What I meant to say was 'All single men are ripped off by every swingers club out there. I'm going to sit at home and moan about it on here from now on'

Off to post a couple of threads now about how hard done by I am both in clubs and on here as a single male. Also going to post a few threads asking how to get that all important 1st veri as well

That is much more like it

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