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over a year ago
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used to love the dark room in abfabs, until i heard a few stories of men gaining entry on a saturday night and hidiing in there all when their lady friend is off the clock and goes home. i also whitnessed a good few arguments with guys not observing the couples only rule in there on the saturday nights.
plus the OH hated her only visit in there. |
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My Mrs loved it, we were there on a Fri so there were lots of single guys inside anyway.
She had quite a few in there in the relatively short time we were inside. Was a really hot experience.
I enjoyed the fact could only hear and feel what was happening and not see everything. Have an extra thrill to it wondering who all was fucking her. |
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over a year ago
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I am curious as to how you practice safe sex in this environment? It's ok for the men if they are wearing condoms but each woman is being subjected (possibly) to the previous woman's fluids....unless the men change condoms while scrabbling around in the dark......or are dark rooms generally a bareback kind of situation? |
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I think for the reasons already mentioned, the thought is hotter than the reality as i for one would be fretting about the condom issue.... did they put one on? Was it the same one they used on someone else? You hear stories of them taking them off mid way, just too risky....I prefer blindfold play where I have a trusted partner or friend to check people are behaving on my behalf |
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Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people |
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We both put our hands in the holes to feel people in the blackout grope box and received a smack on the arm ...... Why go in a grope box if you don't want to be groped? Not amused at being hit I (minx) put my elite cig in the hole & lit up the box. They soon left  |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people"
.....the adventure of the STI clinic? |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?"
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
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You should be going to get checked anyway regardless of dark rooms or not if you've been involved in any swinging situations.
It's about having fun while keeping risks to the minimum of each situation that your comfortable with. If you feel the guy putting on a new condom that's minimising the risk but nut eliminating it. Is giving a guy a blowjob without using a condom ok just because you can see him? |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
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Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks. |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks."
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. ."
Really?.....are you serious? |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people"
The standard same recipe? ?? A condom?? Um..... yes.....I think so! My apologies for being such a dull fuck! |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. ."
The scary thing is..you actually believe that! Each to their own. Everyone makes their own choices regarding the risks they choose to take with their health. But to pretend the risk isn't there or is exaggerated is misguided. If you can't see them and your partner cant see them, then you have LESS control on what goes on. FACT. That may be a turn on but it also increases the risks. Not everyone acts respectfully and responsibly even in the light so what do you think some might try to get away with in the dark? |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. .
The scary thing is..you actually believe that! Each to their own. Everyone makes their own choices regarding the risks they choose to take with their health. But to pretend the risk isn't there or is exaggerated is misguided. If you can't see them and your partner cant see them, then you have LESS control on what goes on. FACT. That may be a turn on but it also increases the risks. Not everyone acts respectfully and responsibly even in the light so what do you think some might try to get away with in the dark? "
Is penetrative sex the bee all and end all?...So many other things to do,however if you must fuck then surely it is about taking responsibility for your own sexual health and of course I think a Condom is important... |
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. .
The scary thing is..you actually believe that! Each to their own. Everyone makes their own choices regarding the risks they choose to take with their health. But to pretend the risk isn't there or is exaggerated is misguided. If you can't see them and your partner cant see them, then you have LESS control on what goes on. FACT. That may be a turn on but it also increases the risks. Not everyone acts respectfully and responsibly even in the light so what do you think some might try to get away with in the dark?
Is penetrative sex the bee all and end all?...So many other things to do,however if you must fuck then surely it is about taking responsibility for your own sexual health and of course I think a Condom is important..."
Dear me.... I am simply saying.....for those who wish to fuck strangers in a dark room, thats their choice and people may truly believe they have taken responsibly for their own health but they need to recognise that the risks are higher in a dark room of a swinging club. They just are! Because you have less control over what is happening because you cannot see. So you think you are safe because you THINK he put on a condom. Did he keep it on? There are many stories of some nasty guys removing it mid way while she isnt aware! Even if you feel the condom, are you sure they didn't just penetrative someone else before you with the SAME condom? I have heard many grim tales of less salubrious members of swinging community carrying out some very risky play in dark rooms with unsuspecting 'participants'. I just feel it is important to encourage eachother to have fun but be safe. There are many things I hadn't considered until I joined this scene simply because it hadn't been an issue in monogamous relationships. I also love the idea of dark rooms but heard too many stories now and quite honestly... it's not worth the risk to me.
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. .
The scary thing is..you actually believe that! Each to their own. Everyone makes their own choices regarding the risks they choose to take with their health. But to pretend the risk isn't there or is exaggerated is misguided. If you can't see them and your partner cant see them, then you have LESS control on what goes on. FACT. That may be a turn on but it also increases the risks. Not everyone acts respectfully and responsibly even in the light so what do you think some might try to get away with in the dark?
Is penetrative sex the bee all and end all?...So many other things to do,however if you must fuck then surely it is about taking responsibility for your own sexual health and of course I think a Condom is important...
Dear me.... I am simply saying.....for those who wish to fuck strangers in a dark room, thats their choice and people may truly believe they have taken responsibly for their own health but they need to recognise that the risks are higher in a dark room of a swinging club. They just are! Because you have less control over what is happening because you cannot see. So you think you are safe because you THINK he put on a condom. Did he keep it on? There are many stories of some nasty guys removing it mid way while she isnt aware! Even if you feel the condom, are you sure they didn't just penetrative someone else before you with the SAME condom? I have heard many grim tales of less salubrious members of swinging community carrying out some very risky play in dark rooms with unsuspecting 'participants'. I just feel it is important to encourage eachother to have fun but be safe. There are many things I hadn't considered until I joined this scene simply because it hadn't been an issue in monogamous relationships. I also love the idea of dark rooms but heard too many stories now and quite honestly... it's not worth the risk to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. .
The scary thing is..you actually believe that! Each to their own. Everyone makes their own choices regarding the risks they choose to take with their health. But to pretend the risk isn't there or is exaggerated is misguided. If you can't see them and your partner cant see them, then you have LESS control on what goes on. FACT. That may be a turn on but it also increases the risks. Not everyone acts respectfully and responsibly even in the light so what do you think some might try to get away with in the dark?
Is penetrative sex the bee all and end all?...So many other things to do,however if you must fuck then surely it is about taking responsibility for your own sexual health and of course I think a Condom is important...
Dear me.... I am simply saying.....for those who wish to fuck strangers in a dark room, thats their choice and people may truly believe they have taken responsibly for their own health but they need to recognise that the risks are higher in a dark room of a swinging club. They just are! Because you have less control over what is happening because you cannot see. So you think you are safe because you THINK he put on a condom. Did he keep it on? There are many stories of some nasty guys removing it mid way while she isnt aware! Even if you feel the condom, are you sure they didn't just penetrative someone else before you with the SAME condom? I have heard many grim tales of less salubrious members of swinging community carrying out some very risky play in dark rooms with unsuspecting 'participants'. I just feel it is important to encourage eachother to have fun but be safe. There are many things I hadn't considered until I joined this scene simply because it hadn't been an issue in monogamous relationships. I also love the idea of dark rooms but heard too many stories now and quite honestly... it's not worth the risk to me.
What she said!"
Just because it's not for you doesn't make it wrong, I'm sure if people go into a dark room they are aware of the risks (Although why anybody would want to play in a club without protection I don't know)
I guess the point in making its that you are in absolutely no position to judge anybody that does, just as they are in no position to judge how you behave in any aspect of your life
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"Horses for courses come too mind..good sex can be about mystery/danger/intensity/uncertainty spontaneity etc.. unless of course you don't want the adventure ...the standard same recipe,condom out,must be 36, must be handsome blah blah suits some people
.....the adventure of the STI
clinic?
Why assume it is high risk??
Many things can be done that are considered lower risk..the dangers are totally blown out of proportion. .99% of infection can be treated quite easily..
The worried well need to get out more. Ax
Rather not have the infection in the first place thanks.
Simples..
..stick to having safer sex but dark rooms are no different or any more higher risk than yr local swingers club or Fri night threesomes. .
The scary thing is..you actually believe that! Each to their own. Everyone makes their own choices regarding the risks they choose to take with their health. But to pretend the risk isn't there or is exaggerated is misguided. If you can't see them and your partner cant see them, then you have LESS control on what goes on. FACT. That may be a turn on but it also increases the risks. Not everyone acts respectfully and responsibly even in the light so what do you think some might try to get away with in the dark?
Is penetrative sex the bee all and end all?...So many other things to do,however if you must fuck then surely it is about taking responsibility for your own sexual health and of course I think a Condom is important...
Dear me.... I am simply saying.....for those who wish to fuck strangers in a dark room, thats their choice and people may truly believe they have taken responsibly for their own health but they need to recognise that the risks are higher in a dark room of a swinging club. They just are! Because you have less control over what is happening because you cannot see. So you think you are safe because you THINK he put on a condom. Did he keep it on? There are many stories of some nasty guys removing it mid way while she isnt aware! Even if you feel the condom, are you sure they didn't just penetrative someone else before you with the SAME condom? I have heard many grim tales of less salubrious members of swinging community carrying out some very risky play in dark rooms with unsuspecting 'participants'. I just feel it is important to encourage eachother to have fun but be safe. There are many things I hadn't considered until I joined this scene simply because it hadn't been an issue in monogamous relationships. I also love the idea of dark rooms but heard too many stories now and quite honestly... it's not worth the risk to me.
What she said!
Just because it's not for you doesn't make it wrong, I'm sure if people go into a dark room they are aware of the risks (Although why anybody would want to play in a club without protection I don't know)
I guess the point in making its that you are in absolutely no position to judge anybody that does, just as they are in no position to judge how you behave in any aspect of your life
Rant over"
Noone is judging! It's a discussion sweetie! Airing our views! Do what you like! But be aware that not everyone you are playing with in the dark will have the same safe code of practice! That's all! |
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"We like them, but always observe for a while who's in and out... Make an educated guess! "
Haha same here great fun on couples and single ladies nights |
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That always comes to mind for me when I see the word 'dark room' too.