"Hi. I've never been to a swinging club. I'm shy/scared. Any advice. "
I was exactly the same. My advice would be to go firstly to watch and get a feel for the place. Dont put pressure on yourself by thinking you have to play. Talk to regulars especially other single guys. If you feel happy then take the plunge.
I went along three times before plucking up the courage to play. Still a bit nervous and dont go all the way but am sure that will happen eventually. |
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Talk to the owners, ask to be shown around and introduced to people. Don't follow people around, do make eye contact and smile, do go and say hello to people. Would say it is ok to talk to other single guys, but you are better off saying hi to couples and single ladies - unless it is a bi evening! Clubs are way better than bars and pubs - last point, do not get d*unk! |
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"Talk to the owners, ask to be shown around and introduced to people. Don't follow people around, do make eye contact and smile, do go and say hello to people. Would say it is ok to talk to other single guys, but you are better off saying hi to couples and single ladies - unless it is a bi evening! Clubs are way better than bars and pubs - last point, do not get d*unk!"
All of this! 
If the club has a bar area then aim to treat it like you're going to the pub by yourself. Conduct yourself just as you would in that situation (unless you go to bars to harass women and be a sex pest then probably don't....) and you'll be just fine!
Don't expect to play on your first visits. Just aim to experience the club and to make some friends. Once people see you can act like a human in a club, they're more likely to consider you if you're what they're looking for. Maybe not on that visit but you may make it onto their 'Nice List' for the future. Guys in clubs tend to go in with the handicap of being 'a single guy'. Sadly you'll probably need to network a bit before you can erase that handicap.
It took us ten minutes to pluck up the courage to go through the door at our first club visit! We were stood in the foyer giving it 'do you want to go in? I do if you do....' We only went in in the end as steph needed a pee. We got chatting to the staff who introduced us to some regulars and away we went!
Good luck! |
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Oh and I know you didn't ask for profile tips but you may want to limit yourself to one cock pic and a few more body shots like the October one. You seem to be a good looking guy so play to that strength |
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"Oh and I know you didn't ask for profile tips but you may want to limit yourself to one cock pic and a few more body shots like the October one. You seem to be a good looking guy so play to that strength "
Hey thanks. I do wanna sort my profile out haven't done anything to it since I joined really. Any tips to assist me apart from the one you've give me already xx |
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"Talk to the owners, ask to be shown around and introduced to people. Don't follow people around, do make eye contact and smile, do go and say hello to people. Would say it is ok to talk to other single guys, but you are better off saying hi to couples and single ladies - unless it is a bi evening! Clubs are way better than bars and pubs - last point, do not get d*unk!
All of this!
Awesome thank you. I'm gonna go try one this week I think
If the club has a bar area then aim to treat it like you're going to the pub by yourself. Conduct yourself just as you would in that situation (unless you go to bars to harass women and be a sex pest then probably don't....) and you'll be just fine!
Don't expect to play on your first visits. Just aim to experience the club and to make some friends. Once people see you can act like a human in a club, they're more likely to consider you if you're what they're looking for. Maybe not on that visit but you may make it onto their 'Nice List' for the future. Guys in clubs tend to go in with the handicap of being 'a single guy'. Sadly you'll probably need to network a bit before you can erase that handicap.
It took us ten minutes to pluck up the courage to go through the door at our first club visit! We were stood in the foyer giving it 'do you want to go in? I do if you do....' We only went in in the end as steph needed a pee. We got chatting to the staff who introduced us to some regulars and away we went!
Good luck!"
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"Talk to the owners, ask to be shown around and introduced to people. Don't follow people around, do make eye contact and smile, do go and say hello to people. Would say it is ok to talk to other single guys, but you are better off saying hi to couples and single ladies - unless it is a bi evening! Clubs are way better than bars and pubs - last point, do not get d*unk!"
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