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By *lovis OP Man
over a year ago
Twickenham |
We were at Ab Fabs on Wednesday night and retired to one of the locked rooms for some one to one time. While we were in the room on several occasions someone either knocked on the door or rattled the handle - on one case loudly enough to make us both stop and look at the door as it was almost strong enough to push open the door.
Now I don't think it's unfair to surmise that it was likely to be single men who were doing this. The mentality of someone who thinks - 'the door is closed and locked but they obviously want someone to join them ' shows that they really don't have the right attitude to going to clubs.
I know there is a 'dont ask don't get' school of thinking but surely a closed door and therefore more than likely locked door sends a pretty clear signal out? |
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I can only assume they were new there and didn't think the doors were lockable, or don't get the concept of people wanting some one-on-one time without direct involvement of anyone else 
I'd hope so, anyway, as the other explanation is they weren't happy about your idea to be out of touching distance :/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The behaviour of some people in clubs amazes me.
The knob rattlers, in every sense a good name for them, can also be the couples who having waited all night for something worthy of their attention, then decide to just go off and have a quicky by themselves before they go home, to find all the private rooms taken. Hence this sort of behaviour gets worse as the night draws to a close.
Some argue that closed rooms is not real swinging, but then you get the "John Motsons" who stand in the doorway or outside the window commenting on what they can see, apparently oblivious to the fact you can hear every word.
But this sort of antisocial behaviour is not only the preserve of single men as I have seen numerous "gallows hags", women who do not intend to play but think it's OK to stand within earshot of playing couples and loudly socialise.
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It used to make me quite nervous at the beginning but now we rarely lock the door;)
Interesting what the poster said about people chatting when others are playing. ..It seemed odd and a bit disrespectful to me but it's so common I thought it must be "just the swinger way" and have (almost) learned to ignore it.
I don't do it though. ...If ever we're watching I'm very quiet, tiptoe and whisper; );) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The behaviour of some people in clubs amazes me.
The knob rattlers, in every sense a good name for them, can also be the couples who having waited all night for something worthy of their attention, then decide to just go off and have a quicky by themselves before they go home, to find all the private rooms taken. Hence this sort of behaviour gets worse as the night draws to a close.
Some argue that closed rooms is not real swinging, but then you get the "John Motsons" who stand in the doorway or outside the window commenting on what they can see, apparently oblivious to the fact you can hear every word.
But this sort of antisocial behaviour is not only the preserve of single men as I have seen numerous "gallows hags", women who do not intend to play but think it's OK to stand within earshot of playing couples and loudly socialise.
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I could have written this myself! We went to La Chambre recently and experienced exactly this. We had to move from an open play room because there was this old woman stood outside having a right old chinwag about her holidays! We then walked around to see which rooms were free and a single guy slapped me on the bum, I told him off and then we went into the couples only room to avoid him. Shut the door but people kept knocking on the door and rattling it as well as talking about us which we could hear! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Carnt you ask management to somehow ... display a "do not disturb .... or private sign " on door .....and if they persist asked to leave "
I made some signs at La Chambre. I routinely found them ripped down for a while although they might now stay put (haven't worked in a while to find out) |
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"We've found at out local club the doors close after you leave so a closed door isn't always an occupied room only way to check is to try the handle"
Yes that's understandable but there are ways and ways to.check a door... I always listen first and if I hear nothing I gently and quietly try rhe handle. Any resistance and I try another room.  |
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Playing with a friend once in a closed but not locked room. Really getting into it. Suddenly look up and there is a bloke stood next to the bed. We both just stopped and stared. He said 'It is okay to watch isn't it?'. My friend explained very politely (much more politely than I had planned lol) that he wasn't supposed to enter closed rooms. He said he was new and thought it was only locked rooms he couldn't enter. After the rules were explained again he was very apologetic and left quietly. It actually made laugh once the shock was over. I always lock the door now! |
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Another weird one I had was someone tapping very gently on the door and squeaking 'Let me in, please let me in' in a high pitched voice. The guy I was with promptly lost his erection, never to be found again... |
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We chat in clubs, if someone is playing nearby, that is their business, and we often aren't in awe of them, nor do we get the urge to watch the show, especially as we are not into watching, so our chatting doesn't stop. Is there a rule that someone playing is more sacrosanct than someone talking/chatting .... surely expecting someone to shut up is also disrespectful. Maybe they came to the club to chat. We rarely play as on the few occasions that we have, together, unwanted guys have joined in, so we keep it for between us at home now. |
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By *enithWoman
over a year ago
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But this sort of antisocial behaviour is not only the preserve of single men as I have seen numerous "gallows hags", women who do not intend to play but think it's OK to stand within earshot of playing couples and loudly socialise.
Reminds me of a time at Abfabs when there were 3 couples playing in open area and 2 women barged their way through a crowd of people watching and one exclaimed "oh my god it stinks of sex" in the loudest of voices
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We chat in clubs, if someone is playing nearby, that is their business, and we often aren't in awe of them, nor do we get the urge to watch the show, especially as we are not into watching, so our chatting doesn't stop. Is there a rule that someone playing is more sacrosanct than someone talking/chatting .... surely expecting someone to shut up is also disrespectful. Maybe they came to the club to chat. We rarely play as on the few occasions that we have, together, unwanted guys have joined in, so we keep it for between us at home now."
Maybe stick to chatting in the social area? I wouldn't have any objection to people generally chatting in hushed tones, it's the ones who feel the need to describe the mundanities of their lives in great and very loud detail that annoy me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last time we went we had a similar incident. We were tucked away in the mirror room and a guy was rattling the door and calling out how much he wanted to join in. I don't have an issue with someone checking the door as it's not always obvious a room is occupied just because the door is closed. However, I do object to continued door rattling and men whinging to join in.
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We had the 'door bangers' treatment at Amour one Sunday. Locked in a play room with another couple and the 7:30 'single guys allowed' time rolls around. Every few minutes 'bang bang rattle rattle kick'...
And on the loud chatting - Hate it! On our last visit to Townhouse we had to leave the lower play rooms after what sounded like a d*unken hen party rolled into the caged raised bed play rooms. Stood in a gaggle, cackling and pointing out all the people having sex. I think it was peak time for people dressing down so they chose to wait in the play areas until space opened up in the changing room.
We don't mind people holding a quiet conversation nearby when we're playing (either whilst they're having sex or watching) but to make such a ruckus that couples get up and leave is really impolite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were at our local club in a private room and we kept hearing two d*unk women shouting outside our door "we want the electric people" for about 20 mins.
We used to take our violet wand to play with and if anyone wanted a go then we didn't mind sharing.
But that put us right off |
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we had our door actually kicked in 1 night by an italian guy he had just bn punched by the male of a cpl from next doors room i got up n chased him off he went thru the front door before i realized i was still naked  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe some were couples looking for a free room? How do you know if a door is locked or simply closed unless you try it?
Just a thought...although I'm sure you are right about most of the knocks n rattles! |
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The doors of playrooms in the club I have played in, shut on their own. So do get people trying the door.
One of the rooms is next to the outside/smoking area. And you can hear talking, plus they can hear you too!!  |
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"could be seeing if the doors are locked as some times can't tell if the doors are actually locked or just closed "
to my knowledge a closed door means an occupied room, so no trying door locked or not |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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We would have said that we had not experience this sort of behaviour in all the clubs we have been to until Saturday night. The couple we were with did not wish to play in public so we found a private room locked the door and closed the curtains. The door was repeatedly rattled and because there was a gap in the window hands kept trying to move the curtain. It was clearly couples who were doing this. |
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Only been to clubs a handful of times and experienced this only once wth a previous partner. A chap had put his hand in her in the jacuzzi at xtasia and she wasn't interested so we went to find somewhere more private. We heard the door click. Then a good barge on the door which really put us off. It was the chap in question.
Checking the door we don't see as an issue, but after that it's just rude.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've never been to a club and this isn't that encouraging  dont worry tbf in owa 15 years arny seen a handfull and we bn all over the uk"
So is club f OK? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Such annoying and rude behaviour. One club I was in the men behaved like animals and tried to ram the door. It was scary. What would they of done if they had got in as they obviously don't respect boundaries. And this is a club in the Midlands with a brilliant reputation. I've been to clubs a few times and encountered door knocking but never on this level. |
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"The behaviour of some people in clubs amazes me.
The knob rattlers, in every sense a good name for them, can also be the couples who having waited all night for something worthy of their attention, then decide to just go off and have a quicky by themselves before they go home, to find all the private rooms taken. Hence this sort of behaviour gets worse as the night draws to a close.
Some argue that closed rooms is not real swinging, but then you get the "John Motsons" who stand in the doorway or outside the window commenting on what they can see, apparently oblivious to the fact you can hear every word.
But this sort of antisocial behaviour is not only the preserve of single men as I have seen numerous "gallows hags", women who do not intend to play but think it's OK to stand within earshot of playing couples and loudly socialise.
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oh yes, we were in the hot tub at a well known Midlands club one night, enjoying the warm water if you get my drift.....other end of the pool was a conversation taking place about the price of cauliflower.....I kid you not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has anyone considered the option that if it was a busy night it might be couples checking to see if the room was free? Sometimes doors are closed and noone is in the room. This has happened to me at Abfabs. I assumed people were in the room as the door was closed just to watch another couple try the door and get the room as noone was in it.
Also no mention was made as to the time OP was in the room, again it may be he was in a marathon session and other couples were trying to nudge him on. This has happenned to me on couples night. So l would not automatically blame single men. |
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By *lovis OP Man
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"Has anyone considered the option that if it was a busy night it might be couples checking to see if the room was free? Sometimes doors are closed and noone is in the room. This has happened to me at Abfabs. I assumed people were in the room as the door was closed just to watch another couple try the door and get the room as noone was in it.
Also no mention was made as to the time OP was in the room, again it may be he was in a marathon session and other couples were trying to nudge him on. This has happenned to me on couples night. So l would not automatically blame single men."
It wasn't a busy night
It was about 8.30 for half an hour
There are ways to see if a door is locked without vigourously rattling it to such an extent that we both stopped and looked up thinking someone had forced their way in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone considered the option that if it was a busy night it might be couples checking to see if the room was free? Sometimes doors are closed and noone is in the room. This has happened t;o me at Abfabs. I assumed people were in the room as the door was closed just to watch another couple try the door and get the room as noone was in it.
I don't disagree, what l disagreed with was the assumptuon it was single nen
Also no mention was made as to the time OP was in the room, again it may be he was in a marathon session and other couples were trying to nudge him on. This has happenned to me on couples night. So l would not automatically blame single men.
It wasn't a busy night
It was about 8.30 for half an hour
There are ways to see if a door is locked without vigourously rattling it to such an extent that we both stopped and looked up thinking someone had forced their way in. "
I don't disagree with the above, l disagreed with the surmise that the rattling was single men. Clubs can have a surge of activity and then go quiet again. D*unk couples are not always aware of what they do. I was suggesting that it may not have been single men rattling the door. Unless you were told it was a single man by someone who saw it happen or you opened the door and looked. In reality you do not know who rattled the door, but you are guessing which could be right or wrong but as you were in a closed room you have no proof as to who rattled the door and therefore the guess is guided by stereotyping which can be right but can be wrong. All I am suggesting is that you are surmising without proof. It sounds a case of blame the usual suspects.
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