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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask for a tour when you get there. Socialise and sit dive in without being invited.
Also don't follow whilst frantically tugging away under a towel it's not a good look |
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Take it easy relax its just like any night out but people tend to be open and friendly so be receptive and go with the ebb and flow and be yourself.
That way your likely to get involved as people rarely jump on each other. |
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"Make sure, when you spy a single woman, you ask how much she was paid by the club. She'll be very pleased to discuss it with you."
And perhaps see if management will pay you to promote the place on Fab  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Make sure, when you spy a single woman, you ask how much she was paid by the club. She'll be very pleased to discuss it with you.
And perhaps see if management will pay you to promote the place on Fab "
Got to remember to ask for 10 years back pay next time I go to Quest. |
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"Im heading to a swingers club for the first time Saturday. Im a single guy, any tips on what to expect? Appreciate any advice on whats in store?"
Make sure you let the club know which one you're going to then they can make sure the 'working girls' promote it well enough for a newbie who knows nothing about clubs? Maybe people should read your earlier post and comments in the lounge!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have noticed a lack of comments from single guys on here - I wonder why that is?
Any Single guys like to give their views on attending swingers clubs? |
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"Yes I think I share your view. I think its easier for couples and women"
Utter crap.
Good single male friends of ours are members of Xtasia. Mainly they get fun because they are polite , understanding and appreciate both sexes. Goes a long way in a swing club. Your just possibly going about it in the wrong way.
Or not. Who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I think I share your view. I think its easier for couples and women
Utter crap.
Good single male friends of ours are members of Xtasia. Mainly they get fun because they are polite , understanding and appreciate both sexes. Goes a long way in a swing club. Your just possibly going about it in the wrong way.
Or not. Who knows "
People with the right attitude will do well those without won't irrespective of being singles or couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I think I share your view. I think its easier for couples and women"
Hardest part is walking through the door for all sexes. Once you are inside you will wonder what the fuss was about.
If your polite and social you will find the concept refreshingly easy going. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I think I share your view. I think its easier for couples and women
Utter crap.
Good single male friends of ours are members of Xtasia. Mainly they get fun because they are polite , understanding and appreciate both sexes. Goes a long way in a swing club. Your just possibly going about it in the wrong way.
Or not. Who knows
People with the right attitude will do well those without won't irrespective of being singles or couples "
Single guys in clubs are a massive turn on for me, I like how they have the confidence when so many don't, I feel the op might possibly be going in with the wrong attitude given his recent threads though....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im heading to a swingers club for the first time Saturday. Im a single guy, any tips on what to expect? Appreciate any advice on whats in store?"
You should save your money and go and "sit and chat with your mates" As that was your response to someone in another thread when they said the social aspect was the main thing for them. I hate to tell you this, but if you think you are guaranteed a shag in a swinging club you are very much mistaken. So I can't imagine you would enjoy yourself with your attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im heading to a swingers club for the first time Saturday. Im a single guy, any tips on what to expect? Appreciate any advice on whats in store?
You should save your money and go and "sit and chat with your mates" As that was your response to someone in another thread when they said the social aspect was the main thing for them. I hate to tell you this, but if you think you are guaranteed a shag in a swinging club you are very much mistaken. So I can't imagine you would enjoy yourself with your attitude."
I don't want to put you off op but this lady is spot on |
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"Im heading to a swingers club for the first time Saturday. Im a single guy, any tips on what to expect? Appreciate any advice on whats in store?
You should save your money and go and "sit and chat with your mates" As that was your response to someone in another thread when they said the social aspect was the main thing for them. I hate to tell you this, but if you think you are guaranteed a shag in a swinging club you are very much mistaken. So I can't imagine you would enjoy yourself with your attitude.
I don't want to put you off op but this lady is spot on"
As always swingle is spot on at the end of the day OP has not promoted himself in a good light with regards to going to a club when he obviously doesn't have a clue as to what may or definitely not happen in a club and I for 1 am not impressed by pervious comments of girls advertising clubs as they are paid by then as this is diff instead not the case. I put a meet up if I'm going to a club so that my friends can see where I'm going as it's quicker than messaging all of them!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you certainly havent done yourself any favours with your attitude or threads. People pay to attend clubs to socialise and enjoy the atmosphere, dont presume nor expect anything. Treat the other club goers as you would do any people in a normal pub, irrespective of what they are or aren't wearing. Never ever touch without asking and no means no.
Those are the basics, many get them without being told, however OP I think you're going to need extra classes |
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"OP you certainly havent done yourself any favours with your attitude or threads. People pay to attend clubs to socialise and enjoy the atmosphere, dont presume nor expect anything. Treat the other club goers as you would do any people in a normal pub, irrespective of what they are or aren't wearing. Never ever touch without asking and no means no.
Those are the basics, many get them without being told, however OP I think you're going to need extra classes"
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I would 1/ read the club website to see if they have any specific rules/etiquette which you should adhere to and 2/ call them in advance as they may take single guys and your chosen night and may have read your previous thread and therefore not welcome you in.
Be careful what what you say on forums my friend as clubs watch them carefully! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im just here to have a discussion and debate, so follow the spirit, and don't get so personal. Or else you will get reported - if not by me - then others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit. "
 wheres Tina with her forum insurance!!! |
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"Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit. "
Think you need to wind your neck in after you're original post suggesting that because us girls put meets up for clubs that we're working for them and getting a discount! I've been on the club scene for 3 years and have never been paid a penny for putting a meet up. As for hiding behind a profile as my veris clearly state I actually meet, mainly in clubs too!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And thanks to those who have been constructive on here, I have heard your advice. And appreciate it, although still not sure its worth getting ripped off by these clubs. But I will try anything once |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit. "
No, we're just laughing at your attempts to be 'controversial'. Some of us have been here a while, have seen it all before, and won't be at all surprised when your posts become more and more bitter at your lack of meets until, ultimately, UNLOS. |
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"Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit.
No, we're just laughing at your attempts to be 'controversial'. Some of us have been here a while, have seen it all before, and won't be at all surprised when your posts become more and more bitter at your lack of meets until, ultimately, UNLOS."
That won't be too far off lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit.
No, we're just laughing at your attempts to be 'controversial'. Some of us have been here a while, have seen it all before, and won't be at all surprised when your posts become more and more bitter at your lack of meets until, ultimately, UNLOS.
That won't be too far off lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha, had 3 already sorry to disappoint your preconceptions of what Im like.
Seen you're pictures and you're nothing special!!"
Ouch!! Maybe a little below the belt there!! |
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"Haha, had 3 already sorry to disappoint your preconceptions of what Im like.
Seen you're pictures and you're nothing special!!
Ouch!! Maybe a little below the belt there!!"
Not as bad as saying that single fems who go to clubs are paid by the club to do so! I've never been so insulted in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha, had 3 already sorry to disappoint your preconceptions of what Im like.
Seen you're pictures and you're nothing special!!
Ouch!! Maybe a little below the belt there!!
Not as bad as saying that single fems who go to clubs are paid by the club to do so! I've never been so insulted in my life"
I know but he's clearly got a massive chip on his shoulder, we haven't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And thanks to those who have been constructive on here, I have heard your advice. And appreciate it, although still not sure its worth getting ripped off by these clubs. But I will try anything once"
Read the club reviews. I have never been ripped off however if you go with the attitude you should get sex because you have paid then you will probably go home frustrated. I normally go with a woman or as a plus one but if I have to pay £50 for only the chance of sex but a guarantee of watching some lucky woman with lots of men then I am happy to do it. Remember, smile, be nice and talk to people. |
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"Haha, had 3 already sorry to disappoint your preconceptions of what Im like.
Seen you're pictures and you're nothing special!!
Ouch!! Maybe a little below the belt there!!
Not as bad as saying that single fems who go to clubs are paid by the club to do so! I've never been so insulted in my life
I know but he's clearly got a massive chip on his shoulder, we haven't"
That's why he'll soon be UNLOS and won't get anywhere in a club either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of you girls are incredibly hostile and spitting venom on here! would you be that hostile face to face? Seems to be hiding behind the anonymity of a profile.
You girls just need to calm down a bit.
No, we're just laughing at your attempts to be 'controversial'. Some of us have been here a while, have seen it all before, and won't be at all surprised when your posts become more and more bitter at your lack of meets until, ultimately, UNLOS."
This- sooo this!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have noticed a lack of comments from single guys on here - I wonder why that is?
Any Single guys like to give their views on attending swingers clubs?"
With an attitude towards clubs and people attending, i wouldn't bother!
Clubs are social, you will only be disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And thanks to those who have been constructive on here, I have heard your advice. And appreciate it, although still not sure its worth getting ripped off by these clubs. But I will try anything once"
So you "have heard people's advice"
Clearly not paid any attention to it though as you still have a closed mind by stating "not sure it's worth getting ripped off"
My last post on the matter as I get frustrated when people talk bollocks (just my opinion) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And thanks to those who have been constructive on here, I have heard your advice. And appreciate it, although still not sure its worth getting ripped off by these clubs. But I will try anything once
So you "have heard people's advice"
Clearly not paid any attention to it though as you still have a closed mind by stating "not sure it's worth getting ripped off"
My last post on the matter as I get frustrated when people talk bollocks (just my opinion)"
you can have your opinion and I can have a different one, just because I haven't changed my mind because yours is different to mine you appear to be upset? Would you like everyone to dance to your tune? The world is a colourful place because we are all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And thanks to those who have been constructive on here, I have heard your advice. And appreciate it, although still not sure its worth getting ripped off by these clubs. But I will try anything once
So you "have heard people's advice"
Clearly not paid any attention to it though as you still have a closed mind by stating "not sure it's worth getting ripped off"
My last post on the matter as I get frustrated when people talk bollocks (just my opinion)
you can have your opinion and I can have a different one, just because I haven't changed my mind because yours is different to mine you appear to be upset? Would you like everyone to dance to your tune? The world is a colourful place because we are all different"
What do you think you should get for your entrance fee so you feel like you are not being ripped off ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them. "
Thats raises another issue, is it sexist to charge a single guy more than a single girl??? Answers on a postcode. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm intrigued to know why you want to go to a club, considering your attitude towards them. You think they pay people commission to bring men in and you think they're a rip off, so I'd be enlightened to know why you're trying one on Saturday?
You say you're here for a discussion and debate and I wouldn't say the topic is for a debate. However, it'd be your attitude in general that seems to be causing the hostility towards you. So carry on as you are, as the swinging community really isn't that big. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As has been said before, your better off going to the pub with friends.
A swingers club is not for you.
Thanks for your opinion. "
Mine and a few hundred others on here too.... good luck in finding what your looking for, and remember, anything more than £5 entry and your being ripped off. |
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them. "
And if you listen to the OP the reason you pay more to get into a club is because the club are paying all of us single fems to go!! This is really getting tedious now as the OP obviously needs to go to a brothel rather than a club as he thinks his money guarantees him what he wants. I for 1 wouldn't feel safe in a club with single males like him about |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them.
Thats raises another issue, is it sexist to charge a single guy more than a single girl??? Answers on a postcode. "
There's been numerous discussions around this, just put in a search and findthe threads |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them.
And if you listen to the OP the reason you pay more to get into a club is because the club are paying all of us single fems to go!! This is really getting tedious now as the OP obviously needs to go to a brothel rather than a club as he thinks his money guarantees him what he wants. I for 1 wouldn't feel safe in a club with single males like him about"
I doubt any club would let him in! They do read the forum posts,, something that Ben clearly doesn't understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kimi... are you getting your free entry this weekend for posting? 
According to him, you're meant to take a guy for that and unfortunately I don't take them as they could end up being complete twats  "
But we are all twats! Haha |
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them.
And if you listen to the OP the reason you pay more to get into a club is because the club are paying all of us single fems to go!! This is really getting tedious now as the OP obviously needs to go to a brothel rather than a club as he thinks his money guarantees him what he wants. I for 1 wouldn't feel safe in a club with single males like him about
I doubt any club would let him in! They do read the forum posts,, something that Ben clearly doesn't understand. "
I honestly don't think he gets the whole 'swinging lifestyle' or how the community know each other either! I've a full inbox from friends saying what a 'prick' he's making of himself and how he's upset single fems too suggesting they're paid by clubs to go there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them.
And if you listen to the OP the reason you pay more to get into a club is because the club are paying all of us single fems to go!! This is really getting tedious now as the OP obviously needs to go to a brothel rather than a club as he thinks his money guarantees him what he wants. I for 1 wouldn't feel safe in a club with single males like him about
I doubt any club would let him in! They do read the forum posts,, something that Ben clearly doesn't understand.
I honestly don't think he gets the whole 'swinging lifestyle' or how the community know each other either! I've a full inbox from friends saying what a 'prick' he's making of himself and how he's upset single fems too suggesting they're paid by clubs to go there!"
Oh don't get upset about it, just laugh at the naivety of some people and how unrealistic they can be. After all, we are the ones that know the truth from attending clubs |
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"Ben, your posts are just getting you the wrong attention.
Clubs do NOT 'rip people off' they are there for everyone's benefit, as a single male I expect to pay more than a female, that's just the way clubs operate.
Look into prices and what you expect to get out of them.
And if you listen to the OP the reason you pay more to get into a club is because the club are paying all of us single fems to go!! This is really getting tedious now as the OP obviously needs to go to a brothel rather than a club as he thinks his money guarantees him what he wants. I for 1 wouldn't feel safe in a club with single males like him about
I doubt any club would let him in! They do read the forum posts,, something that Ben clearly doesn't understand.
I honestly don't think he gets the whole 'swinging lifestyle' or how the community know each other either! I've a full inbox from friends saying what a 'prick' he's making of himself and how he's upset single fems too suggesting they're paid by clubs to go there!
Oh don't get upset about it, just laugh at the naivety of some people and how unrealistic they can be. After all, we are the ones that know the truth from attending clubs "
Trust me I'm laughing at the naivety of the newbie who knows everything after just 7 weeks and 1 meet and as previously stated I doubt any club would actually let him in after this!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lmao. Of course it's sexist. But its completely justified.
The clubs charge more money to single guys as a social control. By pricing it higher, fewer of the wankers bother to go.
They do this because, Sadly, too many of us have turned out to be douche bags who only think with the little head. The successful gentlemen are just that...respectful gentlemen. And we don't expect to get play because we pay a cover charge.
If the clubs were full of these d-bags, none of the ladies or couples would bother.
Respectfully, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lmao. Of course it's sexist. But its completely justified.
The clubs charge more money to single guys as a social control. By pricing it higher, fewer of the wankers bother to go.
They do this because, Sadly, too many of us have turned out to be douche bags who only think with the little head. The successful gentlemen are just that...respectful gentlemen. And we don't expect to get play because we pay a cover charge.
If the clubs were full of these d-bags, none of the ladies or couples would bother.
Respectfully, "
Spot on |
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