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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats it like going to a club as a single woman? Always been with my ex just dont know if i dare go alone..."
It's strange that we always hear about single guys struggling for a meet and I think if I was a single guy i would go on Tinder instead, but never consider what it's like for a single woman trying to go to a club and how intimidating it could be.
I always think it must be ok for single women getting dozens of offers every day.
What about arranging to go to a club along side a couple who are going, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bloody awesome you basically can have any guy you want 
You have to be strong though and be able to say no thanks to people otherwise you get all kinds of "men" wanting some.
Go and enjoy yourself xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it can be intimidating but I always take a big deep breath and allow myself to just walk out if im not enjoying it. Less pressure that way.
What I would advise is that you don't go with strangers; either couples or single men. You are stuck with them for the night and if they are idiots unfortunately they are your idiot/s for that night. If it's a single man people will assume you are a couple. Best to just chat to people before hand and say if you see me come and chat. Enjoy x |
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As well as going as a couple, I go alone too as an extra kink.
I love it. People always come and chat. Although I myself can be shy to approach people, I always have a good night.
I feel it's easier as a woman than it is for a guy. X |
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"Yes it can be intimidating but I always take a big deep breath and allow myself to just walk out if im not enjoying it. Less pressure that way.
What I would advise is that you don't go with strangers; either couples or single men. You are stuck with them for the night and if they are idiots unfortunately they are your idiot/s for that night. If it's a single man people will assume you are a couple. Best to just chat to people before hand and say if you see me come and chat. Enjoy x"
This 
I too prefer to chat once in the club. If you don't click with someone it can be awkward to say the least. X |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I go to my local club alone. I grab a bar stool and chat to the lovely barman. Then people come and talk to me. A simple smile and eye contact indicates to men if I am interested or not.
Never had any hassle when I have said no thanks.
If you are concerned, contact someone who is a regular and ask if you can go in with them and be with them initially.
At Atlantis , the host always introduces single guys or ladies to someone, so they don't start the evening alone.
Just take a deep breath and open the door. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single bi female and I've been going to clubf for over a year now on my own it's my local club and I have friends there and I'm very popular with the regulars they all love me 
Your off york social arnt you?
I think its just the thought of all the single men being round me like flies around shit basically. See i have no single female friends on here that are local otherwise id go wi them  x"
Most clubs do a night where they don't allow single men, why not start there? |
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"Can be very intimidating if I'm totally honest x"
If you go on a greedy girls night and there are lots of single guys you won't get a moments peace.
Single women are still welcome on couples only nights. That might work better for you. Less predatory behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can be very intimidating if I'm totally honest x
If you go on a greedy girls night and there are lots of single guys you won't get a moments peace.
Single women are still welcome on couples only nights. That might work better for you. Less predatory behaviour "
if you went on a gg nights the guys wouldn't be predatory but to be fair if you were worried about groups of single guys it would hardly be the best night.
Couples only nights can be hard work as a lady... And not ideal if your wanting cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always go on my own. Happy to chat via PM if you want OP. I was terrified the first time. Had never been to a club before, let alone by myself. It was scary when I went in. I do notice that couples look at me and then chat to each other about me. At first I found that weird but now it's ok. I go to Townhouse on the Wirral which isn't draw down until 11 which helped my nerves.
I go in and out my bag/coat away first. Then go sit at the bar. The staff are so lovely and one of the barmaids is a good friend of mine now 
As for other people, no means no and all that jazz. I've never had any negative feedback or behaviour really. I'm sure you'll be fine xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its cos im naturally shy. I think im off york social alone next week so ill see how i get on there x"
I'm not particularly shy socially, but a club leaves me feeling totally out of my depth and my confidence was non existent. It gets easier to go alone tho xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for posting this . I am also wary about going on my own, it's been good reading all the advice x"
Youd have no trouble by looks of your photos x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not about having trouble finding someone to play with.
Its about finding the right people to play with, who will make the night an enjoyable experience. Luckily when I go to a club, I play with the right people or I don't play at all and will be happy just to chat to people
Dont go to the club EXPECTING to play is my advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the best thing for me to do if i ever get some balls is to go into the sauna and hot tub at quest x"
Hot tubs are a fantastic social space, most of my best conversations at AbFabs have happened with my back to a bubble jet |
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"Its not about having trouble finding someone to play with.
Its about finding the right people to play with, who will make the night an enjoyable experience. Luckily when I go to a club, I play with the right people or I don't play at all and will be happy just to chat to people
Dont go to the club EXPECTING to play is my advice "
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"Where abouts isit and any hotels nearby?x"
La Chambre is in Sheffield. There are plenty of hotels close by.
Friday's and Sunday's are mixed nights so single guys, girls and couples.... Saturday's are couples and single ladies only.
Friday and Saturday has a party like atmosphere with a DJ and Sundays are more chilled but quieter. |
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I've been to 2 clubs now on my own found it a bit imitating there were guys all over me so you have to just say a firm no thanks to the ones you don't like I did meet a nice guy who looked after me and was a real gentleman so all guys are not the same but some think your there for one thing to get shagged and are a bit pushy but I would go on my own again its not scared me off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been to 2 clubs now on my own found it a bit imitating there were guys all over me so you have to just say a firm no thanks to the ones you don't like I did meet a nice guy who looked after me and was a real gentleman so all guys are not the same but some think your there for one thing to get shagged and are a bit pushy but I would go on my own again its not scared me off "
I agree with you..and most if not all clubs are the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats it like going to a club as a single woman? Always been with my ex just don't know if i dare go alone..."
some time ago there was a thread on here about Townhouse , VA and others having early opening for ladies to get to know each other and relax before the rest of clientele arrived. sounds like the support you are looking for?
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"Can you just go and sign up or do you have to get them to send a form as i live at home haha"
Yes, just turn up. Take ID with you. We have never had anything sent to our house. I think you can request on the form you fill in that you don't want anything sending. |
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"Which hotels are near by go on next couple of months. Hopefully theres some men there that understand no means no x"
I go most Friday's and the guys there are mostly very respectful. I wouldn't go otherwise and my fella wouldn't let me if he thought for one minute i would be harassed. Now and again you may get one guy that will push their luck but I tell them no very sternly and you also have the added reassurance of great staff that will deal with anyone who doesn't stick to rules.
Unsure of the hotel names... I don't stay as I'm only 10 mins away. Google hotels, attercliffe road Sheffield and you will see there's a few. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I frequently go to clubs as a single fem and I rarely have a problem!
I tend to stay in the bar area and chat most of the evening until/unless I meet someone and we wish to play! I only tend to get followed around a lot if I take a look at the play areas - which I don't do often!
Just remember you always have the right to say no - as do the guys/couples! |
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"I just need someone there to show me the ropes...pardon the pun.x"
If I'm there that night then feel free to come and chat. It will help loosen any nerves. You will also get a full tour on joining from one of the staff explaining rules etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just need someone there to show me the ropes...pardon the pun.x
If I'm there that night then feel free to come and chat. It will help loosen any nerves. You will also get a full tour on joining from one of the staff explaining rules etc. "
Email me itll be nice to have a woman friend on here haha x |
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I regularly go to clubs alone and have made some good friends who I know look out for me and the staff at clubs are also great at making sure single females are looked after. In my experience best to stay around the bar area and chat but I do go for a wander too. If you want to pm me for advice you're more than welcome xx |
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"I just need someone there to show me the ropes...pardon the pun.x
If I'm there that night then feel free to come and chat. It will help loosen any nerves. You will also get a full tour on joining from one of the staff explaining rules etc.
All new members get a free tour anyway  "
Yes they do?? Did I say otherwise or was I unclear?
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I go to Quest on my own regularly, and never get pestered. The guys there are very good at not being creepy, probably because Quest has a bunch of regulars who are used to Dave and Jo's rules.
We were all new to clubs once and the more you go the more likely you'll make friends. I usually sit at the bar until I am ready to start playing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I regularly go to Townhouse on my own (f) and have never had an issue.
In fact I'm 100x more likely to go to Townhouse on my own than to the local pub tbh.
There's always someone willing to sit and chat, even the staff, and if I want to play I know I'm in a safe environment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for posting this . I am also wary about going on my own, it's been good reading all the advice x
Youd have no trouble by looks of your photos x"
Thank you  |
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