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In visiting a club recently I was quite disturbed by the behaviour of a single guy who were pestering a couple in a big play room. He didn't stop to wank and touch the female and although they asked him to move away he still didn't. My blood was boiling on seeing that I guess the couple was too polite to be more assertive and tell him to f.off. How do couples and other respectful single men deal with situations like this? Should I have intervened or at the end of the day it was not my business? |
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over a year ago
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Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please . |
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This has become a bigger problem in the last few years...... We have resorted to only going to couples only clubs or clubs with couple only areas...... Even then single men sneak in to couples areas
When I was a single guy I never went to swinging parties as it strikes me as a couple activity
There are lots of single women who love swinging ..... Single men ..... Meet a women be honest when you start the relationship about what you like ...... And you'll be surprised women like threesome and swinging too |
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"Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please . "
 There's no need to be rude. |
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"Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please . "
Yep!
Although I must add that this happens to me more with women in couples than woth single guys.
-Courtney |
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"Simple, just laugh at their cock size. Tell them the buffet is downstairs and is missing the cocktail Weiner! I"
But what if he had the biggest cock you've ever seen,.,,,that retort may not work  |
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In your situation I'd have just walked off.
We have had it before. Some guy just started groping her and I said If you don't go away now you will not be walking out of here.
strong reaction I know but what he did was sexual assault.
Nikki has had guys waking next to her and she laughed and said what the fuck is that? And he was embarrassed and went away quick sharp. |
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It's definitely not just blokes...we've seen hideously pushy behaviour from couples too.
Luckily most people are respectful and polite but there is always the exception sadly. It's up to the people involved to be assertive if they are unhappy.
T x |
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"In your situation I'd have just walked off.
We have had it before. Some guy just started groping her and I said If you don't go away now you will not be walking out of here.
strong reaction I know but what he did was sexual assault.
Nikki has had guys waking next to her and she laughed and said what the fuck is that? And he was embarrassed and went away quick sharp."
You make a good point ...at what point would something of this nature be a sexual assault...
Men run a real risk of getting in trouble. |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"In your situation I'd have just walked off.
We have had it before. Some guy just started groping her and I said If you don't go away now you will not be walking out of here.
strong reaction I know but what he did was sexual assault.
Nikki has had guys waking next to her and she laughed and said what the fuck is that? And he was embarrassed and went away quick sharp."
I think a measured reaction is needed in these situations. We have been going to Clubs for probably ten years and never once had an issue with a pushy or rude guy other than when we played in a public area cos all the rooms were full.
Single guys are bound to be horny and some may even be desperate but in all situations that we have experienced so far, the words "no thanks" was sufficient.
It is inconceivable how a single guy can get so close and be unnoticed until the moment that he touches the woman. There is generally an indication of intent long before the guy gets too close and a shake of the head should be all that is needed. |
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It is inconceivable how a single guy can get so close and be unnoticed until the moment that he touches the woman. There is generally an indication of intent long before the guy gets too close and a shake of the head should be all that is needed."
Perhaps he was a ninja swinger? |
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"In your situation I'd have just walked off.
We have had it before. Some guy just started groping her and I said If you don't go away now you will not be walking out of here.
strong reaction I know but what he did was sexual assault.
Nikki has had guys waking next to her and she laughed and said what the fuck is that? And he was embarrassed and went away quick sharp.
You make a good point ...at what point would something of this nature be a sexual assault...
Men run a real risk of getting in trouble."
If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second. |
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"Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please .
Yep!
Although I must add that this happens to me more with women in couples than woth single guys.
-Courtney"
I'd totally agree with you on that.. be it touching me or Mr... Women seem to think that they can help themselves x to be honest If they ignore either of us then they get nothing x |
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"Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please .
Yep!
Although I must add that this happens to me more with women in couples than woth single guys.
-Courtney
I'd totally agree with you on that.. be it touching me or Mr... Women seem to think that they can help themselves x to be honest If they ignore either of us then they get nothing x"
*makes note not to touch the Mr  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please .
Yep!
Although I must add that this happens to me more with women in couples than woth single guys.
-Courtney
I'd totally agree with you on that.. be it touching me or Mr... Women seem to think that they can help themselves x to be honest If they ignore either of us then they get nothing x"
I'm so glad other people see that this behaviour is just as common, if not more so, with couples. Especially the female half!
Please, please stop bitching about men, it's not all them acting badly and it puts off other men from attending. |
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"Let the couples deal with it. It is none of your business. However if it does bother you then I guess you could tell staff.
Mr will normally tell a guy for me but if I have to them I am quite loud about it but would never belittle anyone x just say you have already been told no, now leave us alone please .
There's no need to be rude. "
No means no; end of story. I approached a mature couple once in a club somewhere in the NE. The lady said no and I fucked off to the tub. Half an hour later, SHE approached me and small talk let to 45 minutes of pure fucking.
In short, respect NOS and you never know; they might turn to YESES later on.  |
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"In your situation I'd have just walked off.
We have had it before. Some guy just started groping her and I said If you don't go away now you will not be walking out of here.
strong reaction I know but what he did was sexual assault.
Nikki has had guys waking next to her and she laughed and said what the fuck is that? And he was embarrassed and went away quick sharp.
You make a good point ...at what point would something of this nature be a sexual assault...
Men run a real risk of getting in trouble.
If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second."
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If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second."
This should be explained to every person, every time they go to a club. Exactly these words. |
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I got to say i went to Xtasia a few weeks back on a Friday lots of single guys and even one I meet always asking if they could touch me , was so nice and even when I said not right now they was ok with it so I hope this always happens as it made me feel so relax xxxx |
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As a club we would of loved you to come down and tell one of our staff that the single guy had not behaved, we would of had a quiet word in his ear, then if he carried on asked to leave. We have also made one area of our club a couples only. We would ask any one to leave if they caused a nuisance, im guessing that the couple were to shy to say anything or new to the scene.  |
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If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second.
This should be explained to every person, every time they go to a club. Exactly these words. "
Lol. How many men have had the misfortune of having their crotch grabbed by some strange woman and then being kissed on top without a single word either in swinging clubs or swanky clubs?  |
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"...
If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second.
This should be explained to every person, every time they go to a club. Exactly these words.
Lol. How many men have had the misfortune of having their crotch grabbed by some strange woman and then being kissed on top without a single word either in swinging clubs or swanky clubs? "
Guilty as charged |
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"...
If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second.
This should be explained to every person, every time they go to a club. Exactly these words.
Lol. How many men have had the misfortune of having their crotch grabbed by some strange woman and then being kissed on top without a single word either in swinging clubs or swanky clubs? "
Happens more often than some admit too |
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If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second.
This should be explained to every person, every time they go to a club. Exactly these words. "
But we, and lots of couples we know, like to be approached with a touch when we're playing in open rooms. There are no hard and fast rules except don't be a twat. A gentle touch on the arm or leg, giving the opportunity to say no, is fine with us.
The constant talk about misbehaving men says as much about the couples and men that can't be assertive as it does about the guys. Calling a touch sexual assault diminishes what anyone who has actually been assaulted has gone through. |
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I went to town house on milf Monday and all the guys were good the staff looked after that part the only thing I hatted was the fact the men had the women just had there cock sucked they fk her cum and left no thank you or anything , to me that's totally out of order. has any one eles had this or is it just me |
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"It's definitely not just blokes...we've seen hideously pushy behaviour from couples too.
Luckily most people are respectful and polite but there is always the exception sadly. It's up to the people involved to be assertive if they are unhappy.
T x "
Very much this! On a recent one a woman just came up and groped Christine when she was climbing on me while her bloke watched.Less of an iissue than single guy nights though |
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If you touch someone sexually without consent, then it's sexual assault.
Ask first. Touch second.
This should be explained to every person, every time they go to a club. Exactly these words.
But we, and lots of couples we know, like to be approached with a touch when we're playing in open rooms. There are no hard and fast rules except don't be a twat. A gentle touch on the arm or leg, giving the opportunity to say no, is fine with us.
The constant talk about misbehaving men says as much about the couples and men that can't be assertive as it does about the guys. Calling a touch sexual assault diminishes what anyone who has actually been assaulted has gone through."
I agree with both your comments.
A touch on the arm or leg isn't touching someone sexually. I take that as a touch to get the person's attention- and consent for anything further.
I also agree that people need to be more assertive and speak up. In my experience, a big smile and a "no thank you" works much better than a rude "fuck off".  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lets not all tarnish single guys with the same brush , some like me are genuine and respectful , its the arseholes who pester the couples/single women that give single guys a bad name |
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