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What do you do in clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Apart from the obvious...!

There's been much discussion recently about guys wandering around clubs.

What do women and couples do?

Do you stay in the bar? Wander around? Do you chat to people, or wait for people to approach you?

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By *olarfoxMan over a year ago

North Cambs

"Apart from the obvious...!

There's been much discussion recently about guys wandering around clubs.

What do women and couples do?

Do you stay in the bar? Wander around? Do you chat to people, or wait for people to approach you?"

These days I only go to clubs for arranged meets - not into voyeurism of going to socialize or just hoping to pull...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Drink at bar, wander around see if there's anyone playing that take our fancy, play, have drink, walk around see what's happening, jacuzzi, drink at bar, chit chat to friends or strangers. Chat to bar staff. I must point out that I only go with other half and never alone.

Sometimes quite bit walking around to see who's playing where.

I can find it quite awkward to ask if they want to play. What I want to say "God your gorgeous can I fuck you please". But actually too scared of rejection!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We as a couple tend to have a drink moch round have laugh and joke with others ,most open to any form of socialising who knows may end in fun for all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have a wander and talk to anybody and everybody. Normally I'll tie Mrs into a rope corset or a harness if some sort, the ropes are normally a pretty good conversation starter. We don't really drink so don't do much of that, then I'll usually do a bit of public flogging and then sex.

Happy days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I have been as a couple we normally chill at the bar, then have a little wonder around.

I like a well known club in bury that has an excellent wet area, we have spent lots of time chilling out in that. The nakedness and close proximity to other people helps the chances of naughty fun.

Some times we will go into the couples play room and see what's happening in there, if it's quite we will just have our own naughty fun.

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By *rvoyuerMan over a year ago

Luton

Just chill at the bar, have a drink and relax. Some of my best experiences have come about, where a couple have come to bar for a drink and some down time, we've got chatting, had a few laughs and I've then been invited to join them in one of the private rooms!!

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

We do the obvious...get naked and have sex...lots of it.

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

"We do the obvious...get naked and have sex...lots of it."

Us too. We are usually the first to strip and start playing, often drawing an audience and requests to join in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I adore people-watching at any time. But in a swingers club it's infinitely more entertaining, particularly as the night wears on!

It's like Big Brother, but with less clothing, more booze and no cameras.

If there were, it'd be TV gold!

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi,

We tend to just have a drink and see what happens. If someone good comes along great, otherwise we will hit the jacuzzi/play area on our own. Last couple if times we have had to fend off desperate chancers though but that's our fault for not picking the right night. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We tend to hang around the bar enjoying a few drinks and seeing who catches our eye. We are dreadful for making first contact so we usually wait for people to come and start a convo with us.

Like Cleo said we also love the people watching aspect, that's defo a fun part of it and we agree about it being TV gold !!

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By *eakcoupleCouple over a year ago

peak district

Have a drink, and if we don't hit it off with another couple, go to the open playrooms or jacuzzi and fuck, and we usually swap at that stage. Repeat all night!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go as I love the social side and dressing up/wearing what I like without being judged! I have a large circle of friends who also go! We chat, we laugh, we dance! I love meeting new people and will speak to anyone! I rarely play at a club; neither do I go with the mindset I will! That said, I have been known to from time to time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We tend to go on greedy girl nights and after a soak in the jacuzzi and steam room we find a room and start playing. Once a crowd builds and she has her first orgasm, everyone is welcome to take turns as long as it's safe and the shoot on her face

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By *riskynriskyCouple over a year ago

Essex.

Frisky does the whole dressing to impress thing, sometimes 3 different outfits in a night.

Occasionally we will spend time in the hot tub.

Usually we do quite a bit of wandering round the club, seeing what is going on, flirting, socialising and playing, add a bit of dancing in there as well...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've never been to a club and very much would like to go and I'd have a drink, walk round and look and then chat to likely looking couples and then have 3sums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to go during the day, go in the pool, use the hot tubs, chat to any men who catch my eye, play, swim, chat, eat, drink, play again

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By *o new WinksMan over a year ago

BSE

I chat to people, dad dance, drink. Then go home.

Shy so don't play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I adore people-watching at any time. But in a swingers club it's infinitely more entertaining, particularly as the night wears on!

It's like Big Brother, but with less clothing, more booze and no cameras.

If there were, it'd be TV gold!

Xxxx

This^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We soak and socialise in the hot tub... Maybe chat at the bar...normally disappear off for some private fun... And then we will just wander about and talk to people. See what's going on..

Join in sometimes or just do our own thing x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go to play and socialising x

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've never been but I'm looking to change that very soon

I'm guessing I'll like the social side, the dancing and who knows what else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never been but I'm looking to change that very soon

I'm guessing I'll like the social side, the dancing and who knows what else

..... The buffet ? Lol xx

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

Take down twister and dancing

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By *immCouple over a year ago

Stourport on Severn

"We tend to hang around the bar enjoying a few drinks and seeing who catches our eye. We are dreadful for making first contact so we usually wait for people to come and start a convo with us.

Like Cleo said we also love the people watching aspect, that's defo a fun part of it and we agree about it being TV gold !! "

We are the same,shy at the bar. Em loves being watched and I love watching her. Off to Vanilla Alternative this weekend hoping another couple or single male on the Friday night makes the first move.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Apart from the obvious...!

There's been much discussion recently about guys wandering around clubs.

What do women and couples do?

Do you stay in the bar? Wander around? Do you chat to people, or wait for people to approach you?"

Drink, wander around, if I find someone attractive I'll approach them and either ask them straight out if they want to play or just chat abit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I adore people-watching at any time. But in a swingers club it's infinitely more entertaining, particularly as the night wears on!

It's like Big Brother, but with less clothing, more booze and no cameras.

If there were, it'd be TV gold!

Xxxx

Suggest it to Channel 5.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stroll in chat to people. Socialise maybe dance. Wander into the changing rooms jump in the hot tub socialise some more flirt and play.

Met some great people in clubs playing or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" We are the same,shy at the bar. Em loves being watched and I love watching her. Off to Vanilla Alternative this weekend hoping another couple or single male on the Friday night makes the first move.

Couldn't quite work this out... you say your looking for a single male, and going to a bi night at a club, but on your profile you say no bi men?

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Well I normally go in say hello to the staff that I know. Have a bit of banter. Sometimes I will strike up conversation with people at the bar. My accent confuses a few people as it is a northern club and I have a cockney accent lol

It is rare I will ask them if they would like to play, if they say they are going for a wander upstairs then I might say do you mind if I join you, sometimes I will wait to be invited

Sometimes I will go upstairs, have a wander normally watch some porn have a play with myself and see if anyone joins in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to start off with a cup of tea and some polite conversation. Sometimes a sauna, sometimes a massage. When I am ready to play I can be quite direct about it with single men and single ladies but I find it hard to strike up a conversation with couples. I always worry that I am interrupting their own specal time. So if it's mainly couples I wander about to see what is happening.

When I go with my husband we spend a bit longer in the bar area or watching the play in the open areas. When we sit together less people approach us, maybe they are worried they might be interrupting our special time????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to go alone. I often start a play in a room or I'll play alone and never short of company. I go for sex and I get it. I've had some great conversations in the smoking area. I like to go on a Monday daytime. I love to be watched it's my thing...x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Were the same no one approaches us but maybe its because I look like Phil Mitchell and they think I'm going to smack them lol stick to playing pool at cupids you never know someone might say hi eventually lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Chill, chat, look around, play together, let others join in on a normal night out to a club. Other times we have a set attitude to the night like our party nights.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I normally go in say hello to the staff that I know. Have a bit of banter. Sometimes I will strike up conversation with people at the bar. My accent confuses a few people as it is a northern club and I have a cockney accent lol

It is rare I will ask them if they would like to play, if they say they are going for a wander upstairs then I might say do you mind if I join you, sometimes I will wait to be invited

Sometimes I will go upstairs, have a wander normally watch some porn have a play with myself and see if anyone joins in

The accent didnt bother me .... The red shirt however

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to go with someone but have been on my own and depending which club is what i like to do but generally

Bar

Chat

Play

Jacuzzi/sauna (if at partners)

Bar

Chat

Play

See whos playing, ask can i join and

Guess what ...... Play

i like watching people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have a wander and talk to anybody and everybody. Normally I'll tie Mrs into a rope corset or a harness if some sort, the ropes are normally a pretty good conversation starter. We don't really drink so don't do much of that, then I'll usually do a bit of public flogging and then sex.

Happy days. "

This. Without the corset

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If there is a pole at the club Bob gets on the pole and most times gets people up pole dancing

We have had some really good night's doing this

Not sure what club we are going to this week but we are going to Blackpool

Got to find somewhere to pole dance

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By *ornyspiceCouple over a year ago

Norwich

Go to club, sit in corner like a couple of rabbits then leave lol

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

Have a drink, chat in the smoking area at Cham's, people are very sociable there, pose around for a bit, go to the cinema which is often fun and if all else fails, go to the 'round room', get on the bed and wait for the hordes to descend!

It's so easy being a woman in a swingers' club...

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

"Apart from the obvious...!

There's been much discussion recently about guys wandering around clubs.

What do women and couples do?

Do you stay in the bar? Wander around? Do you chat to people, or wait for people to approach you?"
The last one am afraid, we are quiet until we get to know somebody then we come out our shell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always say we will be more outgoing and approach others but then get too shy!

So usually people watch over a drink then go to the hot tub to see who's there....watch a lot and always want to ask to join in but chicken out

Going this weekend and going to try to speak to other's x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We tend to hang around the bar and lounge area and move about to talk to people as we have been to the same clubs a number of times we often see familiar faces so will go over and say hello or just strike up conversation with new people. Every so often we will have a wander round the club depending on the facilities of the club we will go in the jacuzzi or sauna and maybe into a playroom. It all depends on the crowd and the club what we get up to.

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By *ollipop77Couple over a year ago

Dubai ( / Manchester)

Play porn bingo of course xx

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By *skentcoupleCouple over a year ago

Dartford

Happy days. "

Now there is a really good idea, I'll need to practice my ropework first, but leading her around a club in a rope corset sounds really hot to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Play porn bingo of course xx"

Is that where you guess what sex act/ position is coming next?

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By *ollipop77Couple over a year ago

Dubai ( / Manchester)

"Play porn bingo of course xx

Is that where you guess what sex act/ position is coming next?

Everyone has a sheet with six sexual acts on it ie. Bj, anal, cum shot, gangbang, facial etc the list goes on. Watch a porno and the first one to get all six gets a prize off the losers xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hope to go to a swingers club soon , like reading this for tips thanks

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I just socialise

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm surprised at how shy some couples are. I never dreamt you would be.

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By *inky.DiWoman over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I've never been but I'm looking to change that very soon

I'm guessing I'll like the social side, the dancing and who knows what else

..... The buffet ? Lol xx "

And the atmosphere and views?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always have a few beers then oddly enough always find our way to the dogging room at xtasia.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fussy so very rarely play! More of a social thing for us with a bonus if I find some hot guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Play porn bingo of course xx

Is that where you guess what sex act/ position is coming next?

Everyone has a sheet with six sexual acts on it ie. Bj, anal, cum shot, gangbang, facial etc the list goes on. Watch a porno and the first one to get all six gets a prize off the losers xx"

Genius

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Play porn bingo of course xx

Is that where you guess what sex act/ position is coming next?

Everyone has a sheet with six sexual acts on it ie. Bj, anal, cum shot, gangbang, facial etc the list goes on. Watch a porno and the first one to get all six gets a prize off the losers xx"

I want to play

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By *ratty_DamselWoman over a year ago

London.

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By *etiteblueWoman over a year ago

Talbot Green

Thanks great if you feel confident. I've never been to a S club. You have a fantastic sexy body. I'm afraid that once there I would be put off by all the fabulous bodies. I won't want to come across as boring or not wanting to join in. I've just met a guy who would love to take me to a Club. Will have to go before Xmas - it's on my tick list.

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By *etiteblueWoman over a year ago

Talbot Green

"Thanks great if you feel confident. I've never been to a S club. You have a fantastic sexy body. I'm afraid that once there I would be put off by all the fabulous bodies. I won't want to come across as boring or not wanting to join in. I've just met a guy who would love to take me to a Club. Will have to go before Xmas - it's on my tick list.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the club. If it's chams we go get changed then generally sit at the bar, chat to staff have a laugh. Chat to other people in the bar area. Then either go off and play with them or make our way to one of the playrooms or jacuzzi

If it's xtasia or libs, generally have a drink and a dance and chat in the bar area before getting changed and head to the play areas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I socialise.

Or if I see someone I fancy I let them know and play. I don't recal anyone saying 'no' so far...... Perhaps I should listen more

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

Last time we went we spent all night gassing. Met some great people and came away feeling very satisfied. The same way as we do if we've not come up for air a night!

The best thing about clubs... You can be yourself.

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

I find most people are very friendly and chatty at swingers' clubs, much more so than at normal clubs, that's one of the things I enjoy about them. Everyone's in a good mood and up for fun, makes for a good night out whether you play or not!

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

You don't need to have a fabulous body to go to a club, there's all shapes and sizes, just come and be yourself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm surprised at how shy some couples are. I never dreamt you would be. "

Very good point. But then why can't more couples show a bit of empathy for the guys? It can be nerve wracking for single folk in a club. As someone else said, they don't like to interrupt couples if it looks like they are having some special time. Perhaps the guys are the same. They are shy and don't know what to say. Or they don't want to interrupt a couple and are being polite waiting to be spoken to.

There's two sides to it. If both sides don't speak it will just stay the same.

A smile works great as a start.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don't need to have a fabulous body to go to a club, there's all shapes and sizes, just come and be yourself! "

You mean I didn't need to develop this FABULOUS body after all? Damn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have a drink, jump in the hot tub, chat ( talk a load of bollocks usually), more drink, dance, chat. Watch people in their dressed down gear.

Only tend to play if I have gone with someone unless a very special person catches my eye.

Going to a club is as much a social activity as anything for me. I am not a huntress.

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

"I'm surprised at how shy some couples are. I never dreamt you would be.

There's two sides to it. If both sides don't speak it will just stay the same.

A smile works great as a start.

We find more often the guys are just too scared of getting it wrong. Most guys genuinely don't want to piss people off so do there best not to offend.

We sympathise with them, we don't mind guys subtly approaching as we can soon give an indication of its worth them getting closer or not.

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By *irty_thirtiesMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Clubs are great as you can just chat with like minded people and theres no obligation to play! Polite couples won't pressure you, theres an etiquette in the club environment

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm surprised at how shy some couples are. I never dreamt you would be.

There's two sides to it. If both sides don't speak it will just stay the same.

A smile works great as a start.

We find more often the guys are just too scared of getting it wrong. Most guys genuinely don't want to piss people off so do there best not to offend.

We sympathise with them, we don't mind guys subtly approaching as we can soon give an indication of its worth them getting closer or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm surprised at how shy some couples are. I never dreamt you would be. "

I think we worry about getting knocked back and never know if couples want you to join in or not x

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By *ratty_DamselWoman over a year ago

London.

Relax, in whatever manner takes my fancy.

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By *orthwest_cplCouple over a year ago

Stretford

"We find more often the guys are just too scared of getting it wrong. Most guys genuinely don't want to piss people off so do there best not to offend.

We sympathise with them, we don't mind guys subtly approaching as we can soon give an indication of its worth them getting closer or not.

Agreed. Most guys use common sense and have decent social skills. What we have found over the years though is that they are getting more nervous about approaching couples that are playing in open rooms. That seems to be directly related to the bashing they get on every swingers site we've been on, especially where people are saying a gentle exploratory touch is sexual assault. We expect to be touched in that way and have the nouse to say no politely if we don't want them without anyone's feelings being hurt.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I follow people around whilst flicking my bean, barge into couples rooms and just be unsociable.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

We are crap in clubs. We are both quite shy, and quite picky and are crap at making a move and striking up a conversation. People don't tend to want to talk to us either. Although we love the club environment, we can't "pull" there, so instead we now only go to clubs if we have a pre-arranged meet.

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By *aeriequeenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Drink, chat, flirt and perv..probably in that order actually

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By *ootballPaulMan over a year ago

Manchester

Drink chat drink drink again get abused get naked occasionally do the wit woo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Follow as many people as I can

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By *aeriequeenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"Drink chat drink drink again get abused get naked occasionally do the wit woo

Ok you should have put get naked first lol

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By *jandjbCouple over a year ago

Nr Manchester

"Clubs are great as you can just chat with like minded people and theres no obligation to play! Polite couples won't pressure you, theres an etiquette in the club environment"

Agree with this but it's interesting to see _rightonsteve's surprise that couples find it difficult. I think we find it difficult if we haven't arranged a meet to ask someone to go to a room and play with us, me more than my wife I think. Also there's that thing about I fancy the female but can't guess whether my wife fancies the male etc.

We almost seem to have two club "lives"; great meets with sexy people or lots of chats with couples we like followed by us going to a room on our own or going to the couples room but not swapping (although of course there are the odd times where we play with someone in the couples room we never spoke to in the lounge). Hoping for a different experience in the jacuzzi when we go to Chams. Him

PS thanks to the OP for a thought-provoking topic.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

It is rare I will ask them if they would like to play, if they say they are going for a wander upstairs then I might say do you mind if I join you, sometimes I will wait to be invited

Sometimes I will go upstairs, have a wander normally watch some porn have a play with myself and see if anyone joins in

The accent didnt bother me .... The red shirt however

Scowles.....ok I will wear the white away shirt then next time

(I guess your a blue

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"I'm surprised at how shy some couples are. I never dreamt you would be.

There's two sides to it. If both sides don't speak it will just stay the same.

A smile works great as a start.

We find more often the guys are just too scared of getting it wrong. Most guys genuinely don't want to piss people off so do there best not to offend.

We sympathise with them, we don't mind guys subtly approaching as we can soon give an indication of its worth them getting closer or not.

That is a very good point - it's sometimes easier to talk at a bar than approach a couple and sit down and chat to them - well is for me.

I go shy and flustered

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

go in - go to the bar and see who is in that we know - have a catch up with friends - wander about to see whats happening where and then go with the flow - standing by the bar is a good place to start chatting to people

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By *enninemarkMan over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

Good points have been made already about this. As a single guy I am amazed how many couples say they are shy. Im usually terrified of approaching a couple (or single female) As has been said a smile from the female might encourage me to say hi, but my easiest is when a female smiiled, closely followed by a hello from her partner. This quickly turned into chat with both of them and led to some great fun. Id love to compliment the fem, but that might upset her partner! I could say to the male how good his partner looks but that smacks of male chauvinism!

From a couples point of view, what is the best way for a single gent to approach you!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good points have been made already about this. As a single guy I am amazed how many couples say they are shy. Im usually terrified of approaching a couple (or single female) As has been said a smile from the female might encourage me to say hi, but my easiest is when a female smiiled, closely followed by a hello from her partner. This quickly turned into chat with both of them and led to some great fun. Id love to compliment the fem, but that might upset her partner! I could say to the male how good his partner looks but that smacks of male chauvinism!

From a couples point of view, what is the best way for a single gent to approach you!?

Smile and say 'hi'.

Never ceases to amaze me how many singles whizz around clubs not smiling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is rare I will ask them if they would like to play, if they say they are going for a wander upstairs then I might say do you mind if I join you, sometimes I will wait to be invited

Sometimes I will go upstairs, have a wander normally watch some porn have a play with myself and see if anyone joins in

The accent didnt bother me .... The red shirt however

Scowles.....ok I will wear the white away shirt then next time

(I guess your a blue

Oh yes im a blue

Away shirt would still get same reaction lol but once you removed il come say hello again !!

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

It is rare I will ask them if they would like to play, if they say they are going for a wander upstairs then I might say do you mind if I join you, sometimes I will wait to be invited

Sometimes I will go upstairs, have a wander normally watch some porn have a play with myself and see if anyone joins in

The accent didnt bother me .... The red shirt however

Scowles.....ok I will wear the white away shirt then next time

(I guess your a blue

)

Oh yes im a blue

Away shirt would still get same reaction lol but once you removed il come say hello again !!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

We tend to sit down together and relax first after a usually long journey to get there.

We do look around and make an agreement on who we like. If no one has started chatting we'll try to strike up a conversation.

If no one appeals or we are not their type then we will go and start some fun on our own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a couples point of view, what is the best way for a single gent to approach you!?

Personally I hate it when guys talk to Clarence about me, either complimenting me but to him 'your wife is gorgeous' or 'would she like to play' I mich prefer to be treated like I am actually there lol!

If I smile at a guy I like if he smiles back I'd say hi and then we would both chat to him xx

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

From a couples point of view, what is the best way for a single gent to approach you!?

If it's not in a play area then Usually just make conversation "hey both, wow it's hot in here tonight!"

Could be anything you'll soon know in a few seconds if they are Intrested.

If a couple is playing - take note of what others do if you weren't there at the start. Nothing is more annoying than telling the 5th guy we are just enjoying each other, your welcome to watch / wank whatever but we're not playing with others.

Or get in close... Kate would take this as they were Intrested if she is she'll reach out and touch them. And it goes from there.

Just read body language. People are usually pretty obvious. I have seen it though where some have needed to be threatened before they stop advancing. Which ruins it for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

From a couples point of view, what is the best way for a single gent to approach you!?

If it's not in a play area then Usually just make conversation "hey both, wow it's hot in here tonight!"

Could be anything you'll soon know in a few seconds if they are Intrested.

Or get in close... Kate would take this as they were Intrested if she is she'll reach out and touch them. And it goes from there.

Just read body language. People are usually pretty obvious. I have seen it though where some have needed to be threatened before they stop advancing. Which ruins it for everyone.

If you were playing and a guy reached out and touched Kate, what would she do?

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By *ustusboth2013Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"I can find it quite awkward to ask if they want to play. What I want to say "God your gorgeous can I fuck you please". But actually too scared of rejection! "

Haha we did have a young cute single fem more or less say that to us once.

It was at the end of the night and she approached me and said "I want to fuck you and your missus".

Caught off guard, I said "ok, I'll speak with the MD".

Typically we have a bit of a social first, but didn't even catch her name. A spontaneous moment and plenty of smiles later.

So try your luck....you just never know

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Sit down and have a drink. It won't be that long before someone will approach. If we click, then good. If not then, finish drink and go home

Repeat in two weeks

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"Sit down and have a drink. It won't be that long before someone will approach. If we click, then good. If not then, finish drink and go home

Repeat in two weeks

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lol that's what I do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mostly chill in the jacuzzi. Don't go in any rooms other than a private one to play and the bar area to get a coffee

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"Drink at bar, wander around see if there's anyone playing that take our fancy, play, have drink, walk around see what's happening, jacuzzi, drink at bar, chit chat to friends or strangers. Chat to bar staff. I must point out that I only go with other half and never alone.

Sometimes quite bit walking around to see who's playing where.

I can find it quite awkward to ask if they want to play. What I want to say "God your gorgeous can I fuck you please". But actually too scared of rejection! "

We do exactly the same as you guys....We are absolutely rubbish at asking to play, but others always join us....xxx

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

From a couples point of view, what is the best way for a single gent to approach you!?

If it's not in a play area then Usually just make conversation "hey both, wow it's hot in here tonight!"

Could be anything you'll soon know in a few seconds if they are Intrested.

Or get in close... Kate would take this as they were Intrested if she is she'll reach out and touch them. And it goes from there.

Just read body language. People are usually pretty obvious. I have seen it though where some have needed to be threatened before they stop advancing. Which ruins it for everyone.

If you were playing and a guy reached out and touched Kate, what would she do?"

If we were in the market for having a guy join us she'd smile and let him carry on.

If not she just smiles and shakes her head slowly or I'll just gently touch is hand and say "just us for now" or something like that.

Usually eye contact and head shake is enough.