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Single females wanting to try a club

By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

In my opinion visiting a swingers club is a really nice experience, but the clubs would be even better if more single females attended them. If you are a single lady (what keeps you away from clubs?), is it the unknown?, I wonder if your perception of a club is correct? In my experience they are far safer places than a normal nightclub and the guys are more respectful

I am really interested in your views and opinions on this topic. I Have visted many clubs across the country. What do you think ladies?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Thanks that's really interesting to know, as in the South East area in particular, clubs nearest to me, single fems are very few on both Fridays and Saturdays.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Would you only visit your local clubs or would you travel? Wondered if that is another factor.

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By *ryityoumaylikeitCouple over a year ago

Bolton

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees."

I Don't know which clubs you go to but we attend Partners regularly, Cupids occasionally and have visited Amours, Decadence and Adam & Eves recently and we rarely come across single females.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx"

Agree! I'll be back soon, not feeling great at the minute but once I'm better I'll be there!

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

"Would you only visit your local clubs or would you travel? Wondered if that is another factor."

As a single fem I would rather go to local clubs. As I often go on my own its alot nicer to have a shorter journey home alone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees."

I second this. Ive been to clubs on my own as its better than sitting at home bored. Granted i may have got there and not played as no one caught my eye but that doesnt mean ive had a wasted journey. Ive chatted to lots of people and made plenty of freinds.

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By *expuss2015Woman over a year ago

Planet Sex

"In my opinion visiting a swingers club is a really nice experience, but the clubs would be even better if more single females attended them. If you are a single lady (what keeps you away from clubs?), is it the unknown?, I wonder if your perception of a club is correct? In my experience they are far safer places than a normal nightclub and the guys are more respectful

I am really interested in your views and opinions on this topic. I Have visted many clubs across the country. What do you think ladies?

I only visit my local club which I joined beginning of August. You are right there could be more single females as it would be nice to have single female friends I could meet up with for a chat. It always seems that females that go as part of a couple tend to stay with there partner.

People can see I'm obviously on my own but seems they find it hard to even say hello - there are the exceptions though of a few lovely couples I've met. Just because you chat doesn't mean you need to play as well.

I mainly go for the social side as gets me out the house - having fun is a bonus but not essential to me. Would definately be nice for more single females.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees.

I Don't know which clubs you go to but we attend Partners regularly, Cupids occasionally and have visited Amours, Decadence and Adam & Eves recently and we rarely come across single females."

Cupids, Amour, Townhouse and a few in Blackpool.Adam and Eves and No3 once but never again. Seriously?! Maybe people don't make the effort and chat to females to see whether they are by themselves. I've been to a few events where single fems have been there in abundance. I certainly haven't imagined it.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees."

I've been to partners and no3 recently and been the only single female.

I think if it is a party night it is different, so when I've been to Cupids there are more single women in, but then it's always been busy anyway

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I would love to see more single fems at the club we visit the most VA in South East even though I am part of a couple, I am bi, but also the social side of chatting to other females like you say, makes it all a better night. Nothing nicer than sitting at the bar, dressed sexily having a chin wag and flirting

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

I go to clubs and often. Sometimes by myself but mostly with a girlfriend

What sometimes puts us off are the d*unks there. And no, it isn't the single men who are the culprits. It is the female half of couples

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I have made some wonderful female friends through meeting them whilst at the club such a great social experience

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

oh really! that is a shame. I must say that I have not experienced that personally at VA but guess like in normal pubs/clubs you get the odd person who over indulges. Not advisable though in a swingers club environment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks that's really interesting to know, as in the South East area in particular, clubs nearest to me, single fems are very few on both Fridays and Saturdays. "

I visit clubs in the South east Friday's and Saturdays !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I attend clubs as a single female

I try and stay local as I don't enjoy driving home alone in the early hours of the morning

Hope to see you soon xx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

That's great huni xx may I ask which ones you attend and why those ones?

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

We have seen some of this and it is on the increase

A few months ago, we saw one who was really d*unk and quite loud; we were watching her and all of a sudden, she screamed and accused a single guy of touching her. Security were called and this poor chap was taken to reception

We followed security and told them that the accusation was false. She still wasn't asked to stop her excessive drinking

No, this was not at VA; we have never been there

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

That's understandable huni xxx It would be great to see you soon at VA.

Do you prefer Fridays for the single guys?

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Well you would be most welcome at VA anytime hun xxx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous?

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By *ryityoumaylikeitCouple over a year ago

Bolton

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx"
TH was on our list of must do's. It's just jumped up the list see you all soon.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx TH was on our list of must do's. It's just jumped up the list see you all soon."

Great! Well if you are looking for couples and females, then Saturdays are your best bet and especially the end of month party

Hope to welcome you over soon then! xxx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Can I ask if single women would be interested in an open evening where you could visit the club to see it's facilities, speak to staff and have the opportunity to ask any questions about clubs and club etiquette whilst having a social chat on a NON club night? or would you rather have the opportunity to do as above but on a Friday about an hour before the club was open with a view to staying to experience fully?

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees.

I Don't know which clubs you go to but we attend Partners regularly, Cupids occasionally and have visited Amours, Decadence and Adam & Eves recently and we rarely come across single females."

I go to Partners regularly as a single female. I also meet other single females there. Last night we went to Cupids as 5 single females. Townhouse for milf Monday had mostly single females.

I'd say the clubs locally to me have a really decent attendance of solo fems.

In answer to the OP's questions... I guess when I go alone, I do feel more comfortable going to familiar places. I know the staff and I know a few of the regulars so it's easier.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Can I ask if single women would be interested in an open evening where you could visit the club to see it's facilities, speak to staff and have the opportunity to ask any questions about clubs and club etiquette whilst having a social chat on a NON club night? or would you rather have the opportunity to do as above but on a Friday about an hour before the club was open with a view to staying to experience fully? "

That (an hour before) is a very good idea. Gives people a chance to decide whether to stay or whether its not for them

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'd go to Chams more regularly if I were closer. I wouldn't visit the club in Edinburgh because I don't want to bump into someone I know out with this scene. And if I'm honest, the place looks a bit manky.

If I lived near Abfabs I'd be there all the time!

What I really need is someone local who'd let me skinny dip in their swimming pool.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

That's a brilliant idea. I was shitting it the first time I went, a little tour an hour before would have been perfect for me. Opening it to single men too might not be a bad thing!

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By *expuss2015Woman over a year ago

Planet Sex

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By *expuss2015Woman over a year ago

Planet Sex

"I'd go to Chams more regularly if I were closer. I wouldn't visit the club in Edinburgh because I don't want to bump into someone I know out with this scene. And if I'm honest, the place looks a bit manky.

If I lived near Abfabs I'd be there all the time!

What I really need is someone local who'd let me skinny dip in their swimming pool.

You'd be surprised that because it's close others may have the same view as yourself thinking they will see someone they know. You'd probably find that they wouldn't go. I thought that about the club which is 20 min drive away for me but since I joined beginning of August I've been every other weekend and not seen anyone I already know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love Kestrels, love the swimming pool there.

Most single men are very respectful. I find the older men are the ones who are rude & think they can touch you & try and force themselves on you without asking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no problem attending my local clubs on my own as I know they are safe and friendly my problem is I don't drive so travel there n back can be very expensive.

Mabe if we put a single ladies who love to club post up we could get local ladies in touch with each other so we could do car pool

Local clubs could also hold a ladies event early evening mabe so ladies can go meet the staff have a look round meet other ladies so they feel more confident in attending on their own xx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Thanks for your input really informative and helpful x

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By *emaleinthedarkWoman over a year ago

London

It's the Unknown to be honest. Doesn't also help that even though I love socialising and meeting new people, clubs are something I usually shy away from.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Thanks Dirtygirl xx some constructive sensible views on this thread

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Some people have also have the opinion that if you see someone you do know at a club (what can they say?) after all they are there too, and it aint for a coffee xx Discretion is important x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Yes well that is unacceptable from anyone regardless of age or sex. At VA that would be dealt with promptly by staff.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I have no problem attending my local clubs on my own as I know they are safe and friendly my problem is I don't drive so travel there n back can be very expensive.

Mabe if we put a single ladies who love to club post up we could get local ladies in touch with each other so we could do car pool

Local clubs could also hold a ladies event early evening mabe so ladies can go meet the staff have a look round meet other ladies so they feel more confident in attending on their own xx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I like those ideas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous? "

Me. I'm one of those girls that won't even walk into the pub without knowing EXACTLY where the person I'm meeting is sitting.

I'm not particularly shy but the idea of getting dressed to go on a night out essentially on your own doesn't appeal. Perhaps I just need to get over myself though.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"It's the Unknown to be honest. Doesn't also help that even though I love socialising and meeting new people, clubs are something I usually shy away from."

Can I ask why you think you shy away from clubs?

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous?

Me. I'm one of those girls that won't even walk into the pub without knowing EXACTLY where the person I'm meeting is sitting.

I'm not particularly shy but the idea of getting dressed to go on a night out essentially on your own doesn't appeal. Perhaps I just need to get over myself though. "

I do know you are not on your own, others do feel like that, but honestly I think once you experienced it you would feel more at ease and would wonder why you hadn't done it before. It's about feeling safe and comfortable in the environment. If you had someone like me to meet you there and show you around and chat to at the bar would that help?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have never been to a club but it is nothing to do with being apprehensive about it or having no one to go with...it is purely down to circumstances and lack of transport ....

However, if I was considering going to a club I think I would prefer to go with another fem rather than with a man.

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By *not69Man over a year ago

Lancashire

Last night in cupids there were 6 single females that I know, may have been some that I didn't know too, and it wasn't a party night

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I have never been to a club but it is nothing to do with being apprehensive about it or having no one to go with...it is purely down to circumstances and lack of transport ....

However, if I was considering going to a club I think I would prefer to go with another fem rather than with a man."

Thank you for your input

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous?

Me. I'm one of those girls that won't even walk into the pub without knowing EXACTLY where the person I'm meeting is sitting.

I'm not particularly shy but the idea of getting dressed to go on a night out essentially on your own doesn't appeal. Perhaps I just need to get over myself though.

It definitely would, yes. I also like the idea of being shown around earlier x

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By *iss SugarWoman over a year ago

not far from Brighton

Myself and my bestie have recently attended eurekas however the main reason ive not done a club as a single before were due to the distance to them, the lack of suitable playmates and the pressure from unsuitable single men who louter. I also am abit stingy with money as i dont have much disposable income so spending so much on travel and entry fees can take its toll. Now knowing eurekas is free for single women on a friday will tempt me back more though. I wish there were more clubs locally.. and maybe a singles night?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well if any Manchester ladies would like a club buddy just let me know we could even make an evening of it if you like a drink in Manchester 1st then on to the club and if you are a driver I would be more than happy to help with fuel cost as travel is my only issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never been to a club but would prefer to go to one that had a social meeting first and see what it's all about think that would be good for single ladies who have never been and are unsure what to expect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been to a club before (Emmm -female) but I'd never have gone alone for the first time. My first time was with a FB who had been many times before. He was great company and incredibly reassuring.

That being said, having been with him, I then took two other subsequent partners with me to a club and we had a lot of fun. If I were to find myself single again, I'd actually have no hesitation I'm going alone now. I have found my club experiences to be good ones where I felt safe. I'd encourage other ladies to give it a go and would be happy to go along with another lady if I were visiting in the future.

In answer to a subsequent question posed by the OP, as a single female, I doubt I'd have gone along an hour before the club opening. I'm not sure that it would really give you much idea what to expect unless you got to experience meeting other people who were able to reside you about 'the scene'? On one of my visits, I had the pleasure of meeting someone who had organised events at the club I attended and we got into a discussion about stiff that I had no experience of. By later that evening, he had encouraged me to give something new a go and I had a brilliant experience. None of this would have worked if I turned up with z bunch of newbies and no one with any experience. I actually think going without regulars could change the whole vibe and might even put you off going because of the nervous energy!?

Emmm xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My local-ish club has a few single women there and I would have no issues going alone.

Would I travel to a club on my own? Yes, I think I would.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Myself and my bestie have recently attended eurekas however the main reason ive not done a club as a single before were due to the distance to them, the lack of suitable playmates and the pressure from unsuitable single men who louter. I also am abit stingy with money as i dont have much disposable income so spending so much on travel and entry fees can take its toll. Now knowing eurekas is free for single women on a friday will tempt me back more though. I wish there were more clubs locally.. and maybe a singles night?"

That's interesting to know thank you x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous?

I will reply to you personally hun x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I am taking that on board thanks x it seems a popular idea, may have to sort something x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I would love to see more single fems at the club we visit the most VA in South East even though I am part of a couple, I am bi, but also the social side of chatting to other females like you say, makes it all a better night. Nothing nicer than sitting at the bar, dressed sexily having a chin wag and flirting

Isn't the VA one that doesn't allow single guys on a Saturday night?? If so that would prevent most of the single fems I know from wanting to go.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I've been to a club before (Emmm -female) but I'd never have gone alone for the first time. My first time was with a FB who had been many times before. He was great company and incredibly reassuring.

Emmm xxx"

Thanks for your opinion, much appreciated. Some feedback I have had through pvt messages is that some ladies felt they would feel more relaxed if they had a quick look around and settling in time before the club was open so they had the time to ask lots of questions and see the layout and become familiar with the clubs policies etc, without being obvious newbies when the club was in full throw. At VA the staff are so friendly and want people to feel relaxed and comfortable with the surroundings. They look out for the ladies throughout the night to make sure they are having a good time, which the ladies appreciate xx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Isn't the VA one that doesn't allow single guys on a Saturday night?? If so that would prevent most of the single fems I know from wanting to go. "

Yes single guys are restricted to a Friday evening, but not all single females just want single guys, some want couples. Therefore there is the option for 2 different nights, but thanks for your insight into the topic. It's all very interesting.

Some women have fed back that they prefer to visit a club on a Friday, as they tend to do vanilla things on Saturdays.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Isn't the VA one that doesn't allow single guys on a Saturday night?? If so that would prevent most of the single fems I know from wanting to go.

Some women have fed back that they prefer to visit a club on a Friday, as they tend to do vanilla things on Saturdays. "

It's certainly all food for thought xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in Essex and it's a big county but other than one in Colchester that has a very strick admission jump through hoops it seems policy I can't find anything

I went to tease 2 solo as just wanted to see what it was about 1 1/2 hr drive

It was very nice but also very couplsey and no one spoke to me other than the hostess

I initiated conversation with a few but as a newbie it was very hard work

Also clubs that advertise newly nights but are filled with regulars !

I would appreciate an hour early female bonding time

Like a lot of us free time is precious for me and needs planning so would love someone to point me in a local direction as like the safety aspect of a club

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

The only thing that stops me going more is distance and sadly nothing can be done about that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ive never been to a club alone (apart from all lady events) and not sure i would but thats just me - we have chatted to single fems at clubs so they do go and i have a circle of friends who are single fems and i know they all go clubs

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I'm in Essex and it's a big county but other than one in Colchester that has a very strick admission jump through hoops it seems policy I can't find anything

I went to tease 2 solo as just wanted to see what it was about 1 1/2 hr drive

It was very nice but also very couplsey and no one spoke to me other than the hostess

I initiated conversation with a few but as a newbie it was very hard work

Also clubs that advertise newly nights but are filled with regulars !

I would appreciate an hour early female bonding time

Like a lot of us free time is precious for me and needs planning so would love someone to point me in a local direction as like the safety aspect of a club

Will keep you informed hun x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"ive never been to a club alone (apart from all lady events) and not sure i would but thats just me - we have chatted to single fems at clubs so they do go and i have a circle of friends who are single fems and i know they all go clubs"

It seems that females in the North are more in attendance than in the South

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

There appears to be some interest for a pre-club opening hours female get together it has been suggested as a 1st Friday in a month, could you let me know if it would be of interest to youx

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I went to a club for the first time last weekend, on my own. Everybody I spoke to there was genuinely surprised that I had rocked up alone and all said the same thing 'that's very brave!'.

So I guess it doesn't happen much.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

We do an intro evening for new guys every Weds night at the club which works great, so I don't see why we can't do something similar for ladies, but we don't seem to have much of a problem with ladies turning up. I will definitely give it serious thought though and thanks for suggesting this on the thread.

See I like it when forums can be positive rather than a slanging match as it often can be of late!!! lol

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Sorry re one of my previous posts - if it happens it would not be the 1st Fri as VA already booked but it would be a Fri possibly 2nd Fri in a month.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"We do an intro evening for new guys every Weds night at the club which works great, so I don't see why we can't do something similar for ladies, but we don't seem to have much of a problem with ladies turning up. I will definitely give it serious thought though and thanks for suggesting this on the thread.

See I like it when forums can be positive rather than a slanging match as it often can be of late!!! lol

It's all so interesting. Love hearing people's opinions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my first ever club visit was alone on an nye theme party night!

I go alone but like to know there will be people I know at the other end, mainly from a safety point of view.

I've been to some clubs and felt a little bit 'preyed' upon by single males, following my every move.

I go to clubs purely for the social aspect and a play is a bonus to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I went to a club for the first time last weekend, on my own. Everybody I spoke to there was genuinely surprised that I had rocked up alone and all said the same thing 'that's very brave!'.

So I guess it doesn't happen much."

That was me !

Glad I did but want to enhance my experience and gain more confidence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big fan of partners here xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single fem here!

Love the club scene!

Occasionally go alone but often go with friends. I find the club and party scene very friendly and I've made loads of very good friends. I find vanilla nights really boring now as you only chat to the people you go out with. In a swingers club you can chat to anyone and everyone - love them!!

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"my first ever club visit was alone on an nye theme party night!

I go alone but like to know there will be people I know at the other end, mainly from a safety point of view.

I've been to some clubs and felt a little bit 'preyed' upon by single males, following my every move.

I go to clubs purely for the social aspect and a play is a bonus to me.

Thanks for your input huni x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I went to a club for the first time last weekend, on my own. Everybody I spoke to there was genuinely surprised that I had rocked up alone and all said the same thing 'that's very brave!'.

So I guess it doesn't happen much.

That was me !

Glad I did but want to enhance my experience and gain more confidence "

I can help you with that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my first ever club visit was alone on an nye theme party night!

I go alone but like to know there will be people I know at the other end, mainly from a safety point of view.

I've been to some clubs and felt a little bit 'preyed' upon by single males, following my every move.

I go to clubs purely for the social aspect and a play is a bonus to me.

Well you know lots of us now hun x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Single fem here!

Love the club scene!

I'm so glad you feel like that I'm hoping more women will feel like you do xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my first ever club visit was alone on an nye theme party night!

I go alone but like to know there will be people I know at the other end, mainly from a safety point of view.

I've been to some clubs and felt a little bit 'preyed' upon by single males, following my every move.

I go to clubs purely for the social aspect and a play is a bonus to me.

Well you know lots of us now hun x"

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

I'm single but really only go to clubs with a male friend, mainly for transport reasons, would love to have a female partner in crime to go to clubs with!

Have been to parties on my own before but only when I knew the people running them or knew that I'd already know people there. I wouldn't go to Cham's on my own, but if I knew a group of people there I probably would.

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

Maybe we should organise a girly night out at a club, would be fun!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am really interested in your views and opinions on this topic. I Have visted many clubs across the country. What do you think ladies?

I used to go to a local club a lot but the owner took exception to something a play partner said to me......and barred me....and him......!!!!! Shame.......

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By *on Quixote and DulciniaCouple over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow - cheshire

Cupids has sing fems on a very reg basis both daytimes & evenings. Sat last for example we had 8 sing fems from as far afield as Barnsley. It's the environment (safe secure) and that club staff discretely monitor the single guys behaviour.

So I really don't think lady's have a problem going to any of the better clubs at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive never been to a coub, the nearest one I know of is about an hour drive away from me so I would need to stay over nearby, and to be honest I'd be extremely nervous about what to expect and whether people would be welcoming. I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable playing the first time out so would I just be able to go and sit and would other singles or couples chat with me. I'm a single bi female btw

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By *irty filthy milfWoman over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

"Err nothing keeps me and the many females that I know away from clubs. Certainly in the North West the clubs have alot of female attendees.

I Don't know which clubs you go to but we attend Partners regularly, Cupids occasionally and have visited Amours, Decadence and Adam & Eves recently and we rarely come across single females.

I go to Partners regularly as a single female. I also meet other single females there. Last night we went to Cupids as 5 single females. Townhouse for milf Monday had mostly single females.

I'd say the clubs locally to me have a really decent attendance of solo fems.

In answer to the OP's questions... I guess when I go alone, I do feel more comfortable going to familiar places. I know the staff and I know a few of the regulars so it's easier. "
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Sorry to correct you chick but I've worked out today that there were 8 (including me) single females in Cupids last night!! And what a cracking night we had too

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By *irty filthy milfWoman over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

See I like it when forums can be positive rather than a slanging match as it often can be of late!!! lol

I've always been welcomed with open arms here and at other clubs and ladies if you're unsure the next social is on the 23rd October and always a great intro

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By *on Quixote and DulciniaCouple over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow - cheshire

Lol your right but as a man i cannot tell the difference between 6 & 8 lol xx b

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By *ubyExpreeWoman over a year ago

BBBW Heaven

I only go to one club alone and that is after confirming that there would someone I know there.

I no longer rely on the club review section as most reviews are fake (Certain London Clubs)

As I do not drive, I would have to stay over and that scares me. Going back to a hotel alone

walking a long corridor in the early hours of the morning. I know I could stay over but what if hhe club is minging and no wipes to clean the bed

(I may over think things)

I am trying to organise a London Room take over to Chams but going on my own is a big no

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By *irty filthy milfWoman over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

"Lol your right but as a man i cannot tell the difference between 6 & 8 lol xx b

Ha ha knew they'd be 6 of us there just didn't know about the extra 2 till there!!

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Ive never been to a coub, the nearest one I know of is about an hour drive away from me so I would need to stay over nearby, and to be honest I'd be extremely nervous about what to expect and whether people would be welcoming. I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable playing the first time out so would I just be able to go and sit and would other singles or couples chat with me. I'm a single bi female btw"

We would def chat to you hun x at VA there are hotel rooms upstairs. It's a relaxed friendly no pressure atmosphere. You can expect lush decor, a bar, dance floor, friendly staff and customers, tasteful play areas. Just a really nice night out.

Most importantly you will feel safe.

All clubs are different,it's good to try a few and see which suits you xx

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most importantly you will feel safe.

All clubs are different,it's good to try a few and see which suits you xx

Hope this helps

Where is VA? And thank you

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I tried to reply privately hun but i'm out of your age range

Feel old now lol

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Are the rooms bookable by couples only or could a girlfriend and I book and share one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tried to reply privately hun but i'm out of your age range

Feel old now lol"

Ah, don't, I set that age range for couples not Females and can't work out how to change it. Is it OK for me to pm you for infp on VA?

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

"We have seen some of this and it is on the increase

We followed security and told them that the accusation was false. She still wasn't asked to stop her excessive drinking

No, this was not at VA; we have never been there"

Nice girl............

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

VA is in Bedfordshire hun it's listed under clubs on here along with all the other clubs. You can see pics of the venue on their site, along with most of the other clubs across the country.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Are the rooms bookable by couples only or could a girlfriend and I book and share one?"

You ladies can share x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I tried to reply privately hun but i'm out of your age range

Feel old now lol

Ah, don't, I set that age range for couples not Females and can't work out how to change it. Is it OK for me to pm you for infp on VA?"

Yes of course huni x or even just for a friendly chat I'm very friendly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"VA is in Bedfordshire hun it's listed under clubs on here along with all the other clubs. You can see pics of the venue on their site, along with most of the other clubs across the country.

Thanks, does VA, stand for Vanilla Alternative, that is the one I have found on the club revue section?

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"VA is in Bedfordshire hun it's listed under clubs on here along with all the other clubs. You can see pics of the venue on their site, along with most of the other clubs across the country.

Thanks, does VA, stand for Vanilla Alternative, that is the one I have found on the club revue section?"

Yes thats correct hun x

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

Can I ask how VA is? Is it a dressed up club like Xtasia? Is it usually busy? When are the best nights to go?

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

That (an hour before) is a very good idea. Gives people a chance to decide whether to stay or whether its not for them"

Yeap, I'd be up for that ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I ask how VA is? Is it a dressed up club like Xtasia? Is it usually busy? When are the best nights to go?"

Why have you hi jacked this thread which is about women going to clubs? Best to start your own thread if you want to find out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most clubs have a much larger number of gents. Suppose if ratio was closer to 1:1 could be difference

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Can I ask how VA is? Is it a dressed up club like Xtasia? Is it usually busy? When are the best nights to go?

Why have you hi jacked this thread which is about women going to clubs? Best to start your own thread if you want to find out."

To be fair to him, most of the thread seems to be about plugging VA!

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Can I ask how VA is? Is it a dressed up club like Xtasia? Is it usually busy? When are the best nights to go?"

As a single guy you can only attend on Fridays and you have to submit an online form on their website you have to book in to attend on the phone.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

That (an hour before) is a very good idea. Gives people a chance to decide whether to stay or whether its not for them

Yeap, I'd be up for that ??"

Thanks for your interest x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Can I ask how VA is? Is it a dressed up club like Xtasia? Is it usually busy? When are the best nights to go?

Why have you hi jacked this thread which is about women going to clubs? Best to start your own thread if you want to find out.

To be fair to him, most of the thread seems to be about plugging VA!"

Not at all, I have even said about women trying all different clubs to see which suits them. I happen to like VA and go there the most. I have also been to most of the clubs mentioned, and women have been commenting on all different clubs if you read the whole thread. Thanks for your interest in the topic.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Am I right in saying then that most women would rather attend a club that is fairly local to them, and like to go mainly with a female friend.

Some females say that if a club is too near they are worried they will see someone they know.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Townhouse appears to be popular as does Chams. Females up North appear to venture out more and seem confident to enter clubs on the whole. Do you agree/disagree?

Does the entry price make a difference?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A club taking a more positive step towards encouraging more ladies to try clubs is of course a good thing, we don't think money is generally a factor as entry is generally £10 or cheaper for single ladies, what is a factor is the fear of the unknown and being a singleton it's far easier to commit to attending then pulling out nearer the time, couples it's easier to talk over concerns, clear up those concerns and commit to attend together

Singletons however sometimes turn to forums etc to eleviate concerns and get fed misinformation, conflicting views etc

Offer free collection and gone ride within 15 miles of the venue, picking up 2 or 3 would help alleviate ladies going in alone.

Allocate a specific person to meet them at the door even go as far as going out to the car park and bringing them in.

Actually introduce them to others whilst showing them around the club.

Set out clearly when they commit to attending how you will look after them on the evening:- collection, show around, introductions, checking back in them regularly, feedback late in the evening, journey home x

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By *aydeesclubCouple over a year ago

Bedfordshire

We get lots of lovely single ladies here at our club (Jaydees) and a lot of them on a regular basis too, we had 5 single ladies here on Saturday, 3 the Saturday before and 7 before that. We get more single ladies on a theme night though as I'm presuming they like the fancy dress ?

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By *istress DiscreetzWoman over a year ago

Herts. Cambridge. Essex.

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I go to clubs and often. Sometimes by myself but mostly with a girlfriend

What sometimes puts us off are the d*unks there. And no, it isn't the single men who are the culprits. It is the female half of couples

ive noticed this a few times with the female of a couple. Maybe they are only there to please hubby!

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"A club taking a more positive step towards encouraging more ladies to try clubs is of course a good thing, we don't think money is generally a factor as entry is generally £10 or cheaper for single ladies, what is a factor is the fear of the unknown and being a singleton it's far easier to commit to attending then pulling out nearer the time, couples it's easier to talk over concerns, clear up those concerns and commit to attend together

Singletons however sometimes turn to forums etc to eleviate concerns and get fed misinformation, conflicting views etc

Offer free collection and gone ride within 15 miles of the venue, picking up 2 or 3 would help alleviate ladies going in alone.

Allocate a specific person to meet them at the door even go as far as going out to the car park and bringing them in.

Actually introduce them to others whilst showing them around the club.

That's very interesting, thanks for your take on the matter

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"We get lots of lovely single ladies here at our club (Jaydees) and a lot of them on a regular basis too, we had 5 single ladies here on Saturday, 3 the Saturday before and 7 before that. We get more single ladies on a theme night though as I'm presuming they like the fancy dress ?"

That's good I think if ladies feel safe and welcome in a club they will spread the word and hopefully more will attend x It's about educating them that they will be looked after by staff and visitors.

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

"Can I ask how VA is? Is it a dressed up club like Xtasia? Is it usually busy? When are the best nights to go?

Why have you hi jacked this thread which is about women going to clubs? Best to start your own thread if you want to find out.

To be fair to him, most of the thread seems to be about plugging VA!"

I know, right? I receive always these kinds of comments from her. I never post something right apparently

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

"Most clubs have a much larger number of gents. Suppose if ratio was closer to 1:1 could be difference"

It would be the same as being in heaven

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By *parkybunnyCouple over a year ago

Zurich. NOT London.

"Townhouse appears to be popular as does Chams. Females up North appear to venture out more and seem confident to enter clubs on the whole. Do you agree/disagree?

Does the entry price make a difference?

Entry price has never made any difference to me, although I have found that the Northern clubs tend to be a lot friendlier. I travel to Manchester and Chams.

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I go to clubs sometimes on my own and what makes a difference to me is how easily I can get there by public transport, and how friendly I feel they are when I walk in.

For example the staff chatting to me until I get chatting to others or introducing me to people so I don't feel like I'm completely on my own.

Some clubs just seem to have more of a vibe I feel comfortable in on my own than others do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a single female and wouldn't feel comfortable walking in by myself. I wouldn't in an ordinary club either.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I go to clubs sometimes on my own and what makes a difference to me is how easily I can get there by public transport, and how friendly I feel they are when I walk in.

For example the staff chatting to me until I get chatting to others or introducing me to people so I don't feel like I'm completely on my own.

Some clubs just seem to have more of a vibe I feel comfortable in on my own than others do.

Thanks for posting x appreciate you sharing x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I'm a single female and wouldn't feel comfortable walking in by myself. I wouldn't in an ordinary club either. "

Can I ask what makes you feel uncomfortable?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single fems are always most welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've always wanted to go to a club but nerves get the better of me.

Think I'd need to know someone to either meet there or go with.

I'm going to a social soon so should hopefully meet some new people there.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I've always wanted to go to a club but nerves get the better of me.

Think I'd need to know someone to either meet there or go with.

I'm going to a social soon so should hopefully meet some new people there. "

Iy's really not as scary as you think hun x but if you go with someone your first time it will build on your confidence for future visits. If you let staff in the clubs know it is your first time they will reassure you and welcome you in xx

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By *sla69Woman over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

Would love to go to a club but as a single fem find it rather daunting

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By *o new WinksMan over a year ago

BSE

"Would love to go to a club but as a single fem find it rather daunting

I will take you...I have told you that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always wanted to go to a club but nerves get the better of me.

Think I'd need to know someone to either meet there or go with.

I'm going to a social soon so should hopefully meet some new people there.

Yeah I think it's just nerves.

And the not knowing anyone or what to expect. But dying to give it a try. Might have a visit after the social. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any females out there wish to comment who have NEVER been to a club anywhere because they are unsure of what to expect and nervous? "
I definitely feel that way, would love to try but very nervous

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By *aven QueenWoman over a year ago

Putney

Me...... I confess I'm a tad nervous - would love to go but logistics on my own is a bit of a concern

Although I am used to doing most things on my own lol..... I'm sure Once I eventually cross the threshold I wonder why Iv been so tentative.

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By *sla69Woman over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

"Would love to go to a club but as a single fem find it rather daunting

I will take you...I have told you that.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Would love to go to a club but as a single fem find it rather daunting

It's the unknown huni x People have the wrong perception of what you are entering in a club. Some think it's seedy with people constantly pestering you and sex going on everywhere, when infact, the ambience and environment is very social with a sexy vibe. Play rooms are often away from the social areas and there is no pressure to do anything at all if you don't want to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If anyone wants to go to a club I would happily accompany them, purely as a companion. Just to give you the support

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Me...... I confess I'm a tad nervous - would love to go but logistics on my own is a bit of a concern

Although I am used to doing most things on my own lol..... I'm sure Once I eventually cross the threshold I wonder why Iv been so tentative. "

The amount of women who say to me after they have visited a club for the first time, jeez why did I not do this sooner. I love it, the vibe is awesomexx it's just getting over the threshold.

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By *sla69Woman over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

"Would love to go to a club but as a single fem find it rather daunting

your comments are most welcome thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me...... I confess I'm a tad nervous - would love to go but logistics on my own is a bit of a concern

Although I am used to doing most things on my own lol..... I'm sure Once I eventually cross the threshold I wonder why Iv been so tentative.

The amount of women who say to me after they have visited a club for the first time, jeez why did I not do this sooner. I love it, the vibe is awesomexx it's just getting over the threshold.

Well your advice certainly has me thinking. I might be venturing sooner than I thought. Thank you xx

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Me...... I confess I'm a tad nervous - would love to go but logistics on my own is a bit of a concern

Although I am used to doing most things on my own lol..... I'm sure Once I eventually cross the threshold I wonder why Iv been so tentative.

The amount of women who say to me after they have visited a club for the first time, jeez why did I not do this sooner. I love it, the vibe is awesomexx it's just getting over the threshold.

Well your advice certainly has me thinking. I might be venturing sooner than I thought. Thank you xx"

Seriously anytime hun xx if I can answer anything to help you feel more confident only too glad to help.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

If you think about it, what happens when you go to a normal nightclub. Quite often, (not always) but often, lots of over drinking, lots of unwanted attention. If you do hit it off with someone and want to get it on, where you gonna do it?, in the loos? not nice, alleyway? back to his place (risky) you don't know him. In a swingers club you have (on the whole) drinking in moderation, as people go with a view to having sex, not being too d*unk to not be able to perform. If you hit it off there are mood lit, atmospheric areas with beds for your pleasure, and most importantly, IT IS SAFE. Condoms and like minded people around to make sure you are looked after. Cab called for you at end of night, delivered home. It's a non brainer. Also it's non bitchy. All shapes, sizes and ages attend. You can explore 3somes and group fun if you want to broaden your sexual experiences. You will make good friends xxx My personal opinion

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I have no problem attending my local clubs on my own as I know they are safe and friendly my problem is I don't drive so travel there n back can be very expensive.

Mabe if we put a single ladies who love to club post up we could get local ladies in touch with each other so we could do car pool

Local clubs could also hold a ladies event early evening mabe so ladies can go meet the staff have a look round meet other ladies so they feel more confident in attending on their own xx

That sounds like a great idea! I have been to my local club a couple of times in the past with a female friend, but unfortunately she isn't on the scene any more. As I don't drive either, sharing costs is a fab idea....and I also love the social aspect of a "girly night" xx

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By *D-1Man over a year ago

London

Our last visit to Jaydee's which was a few weeks ago on a Saturday night had 9 single ladies in attendance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't ventured to a club yet because I'm nervous! I've read so much about my local club which is Townhouse, but I'm just not brave enough. I think if I knew a another female who was going, I would be happier going in together.

Also not knowing what to wear and things like that makes me nervous!

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By *D-1Man over a year ago

London

"I haven't ventured to a club yet because I'm nervous! I've read so much about my local club which is Townhouse, but I'm just not brave enough. I think if I knew a another female who was going, I would be happier going in together.

Also not knowing what to wear and things like that makes me nervous!

"
if you're in Chester. Partners, no3 Chorley are really friendly clubs that would look after you. As a man I'd say dress as sexy as you dare

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

I love going to clubs but would never go on my own so normally find a guy to go with. Would love some girlfriends to go to a club with, think it would be great fun! Any single ladies want to come to Cham's with me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's understandable a single woman would be more cautious than a single man entering a club.Women have more to lose and are judged more than men by women and men a like.

I don't think all swing clubs are safe nor the men respectful to women or the ladies partners. Quite a few men especially when they arrive in a group can be right arseholes.

If you meet the right people in a club the experience is ten times better and safer than a d*unken unprotected romp with someone you know nothing about.

My advice is go for a lady is go with someone or a couple you trust first time because all clubs and clientele are different.

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By *D-1Man over a year ago

London

"I think it's understandable a single woman would be more cautious than a single man entering a club.Women have more to lose and are judged more than men by women and men a like.

I don't think all swing clubs are safe nor the men respectful to women or the ladies partners. Quite a few men especially when they arrive in a group can be right arseholes.

If you meet the right people in a club the experience is ten times better and safer than a d*unken unprotected romp with someone you know nothing about.

My advice is go for a lady is go with someone or a couple you trust first time because all clubs and clientele are different.

Obviously not all clubs are safe although all the clubs with reviews on here can pretty say that ladies would be looked after. To my knowledge clubs I've visited (which pretty much most around the U.K. ) don't let groups of men in together. Single girls I've hooked up with either on dates or in clubs really love freedom and don't feel judged in this environment. I can't speak for everyone but do think good clubs have a lot to offer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx"

I have often thought of attending Townhouse but worry that a) nobody will approach me and b) i'll bump into someone I know

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I have no problem attending my local clubs on my own as I know they are safe and friendly my problem is I don't drive so travel there n back can be very expensive.

Mabe if we put a single ladies who love to club post up we could get local ladies in touch with each other so we could do car pool

Local clubs could also hold a ladies event early evening mabe so ladies can go meet the staff have a look round meet other ladies so they feel more confident in attending on their own xx

Nice to hear you are positive about the club experience hun x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

Also not knowing what to wear and things like that makes me nervous!

Hopefully a lady who has seen this thread and goes there will contact you, and maybe offer to accompany you and help you with your fears.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I think it's understandable a single woman would be more cautious than a single man entering a club.Women have more to lose and are judged more than men by women and men a like.

I don't think all swing clubs are safe nor the men respectful to women or the ladies partners. Quite a few men especially when they arrive in a group can be right arseholes.

If you meet the right people in a club the experience is ten times better and safer than a d*unken unprotected romp with someone you know nothing about.

My advice is go for a lady is go with someone or a couple you trust first time because all clubs and clientele are different.

hat clubs let groups of men in? I don't know of any that I have been to and I have been to a lot. I would be very interested to know this. Have any females experienced this please? groups of men being allowed in together and not being respectful. As far as I am aware club owners restrict numbers of single guys into clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go to clubs alone regular, took me a while to pluck up the courage thought, I honestly thought all the women there would be slim, young and good looking, I felt I would look out of place and over looked by all the guys so I avoided them

When I did go I was pleased to see it was full of just every day women like myself, of all different sizes, ages and attractiveness

I have no problem going now though I tend not to go to new clubs alone but that's only because I don't like the idea of going to a new club and not knowing anybody, once I've been once I'm fine to go alone again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have never been to a club .. but interested in finding out more about them ..

Any help would be grateful .. pm me x

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By *irty filthy milfWoman over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

Also not knowing what to wear and things like that makes me nervous!

Townhouse has a social on the 23rd which will be a good night, gutted I now can't make it though

. Have a look on the forum for the guest list and maybe message some of the girls who are going? I know quite a few of them and their a friendly bunch

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx

I have often thought of attending Townhouse but worry that a) nobody will approach me and b) i'll bump into someone I know"

I'm sure you will find people who will chat to you, and if you bump into someone you know they are there for the same reason so not very likely to say anything to anyone you know. You will probably be surprised by their reaction. I know people this has happened to and has had a positive outcome.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Have never been to a club .. but interested in finding out more about them ..

Any help would be grateful .. pm me x "

Hi huni can't pm you as you have blocks on.

What would you like to know?

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I go to clubs alone regular, took me a while to pluck up the courage thought, I honestly thought all the women there would be slim, young and good looking, I felt I would look out of place and over looked by all the guys so I avoided them

When I did go I was pleased to see it was full of just every day women like myself, of all different sizes, ages and attractiveness

I agree, I find clubs very non judgemental. as I said previously, all diff shapes, sizes, ages and cultures. and on the whole people are very respectful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Forgot bout that doh .....

Just wondered where they were and if they safe ..very new to all this ... Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Forgot bout that doh .....

Just wondered where they were and if they safe ..very new to all this ... Xx "

They are safer than meeting somebody one on one, if you have a problem there are plenty of people around to help you out

I have found that if you get a guy that's pushy other guys will help you out as they don't want to be seen as the same, I've had it a couple of times when in a open room and a guys coming onto me a little strong and its obvious I'm not happy some random guy I don't even know has told him to leave me alone

Saying that it's not often at all I've had a problem but like in any club swinging or none swinging its going to happen occasionally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go to clubs alone now but was put off for ages for a few reasons

1) body conscious-like some of the above posters I thought I would be the only fat girl there and have to sit on my own all night, but was really happy to see a load of women of all shapes and sizes there so felt instantly relaxed

2) I heard they could be clicky- I didn't want to be the weird new girl on her own when everyone wlse knew people but I was made to feel instantly welcomed by the hosts and they introduced me to others and it was great!

3) my main concern was that it would be full of couples and I really wanted single guys. Since most clubs limit the numbers of single guys allowed in to 5ish I thought it would not give me enough choice of people to play with. But I decided to try the MILF monday day at townhouse after seeing lots of single guys and couples going and never looked back!

I bloody love going as a single fem now and wouldn't change it for the world! X

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Forgot bout that doh .....

Just wondered where they were and if they safe ..very new to all this ... Xx

They are safer than meeting somebody one on one, if you have a problem there are plenty of people around to help you out

Saying that it's not often at all I've had a problem but like in any club swinging or none swinging its going to happen occasionally"

If you alert staff to these rare occasions then guys will be dealt with accordingly. A club has it's reputation to think of.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

"Forgot bout that doh .....

Just wondered where they were and if they safe ..very new to all this ... Xx

They are safer than meeting somebody one on one, if you have a problem there are plenty of people around to help you out

I have found that if you get a guy that's push

y other guys will help you out as they don't want to be seen as the same, I've had it a couple of times when in a open room and a guys coming onto me a little strong and its obvious I'm not happy some random guy I don't even know has told him to leave me alone

Saying that it's not often at all I've had a problem but like in any club swinging or none swinging its going to happen occasionally

If you alert staff to these rare occasions then guys will be dealt with accordingly. A club has it's reputation to think of."

Only been once with friends, but would love to go back, but find it too intimidating to go on my own - would love to go again, but not on my own x

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"Forgot bout that doh .....

Just wondered where they were and if they safe ..very new to all this ... Xx

They are safer than meeting somebody one on one, if you have a problem there are plenty of people around to help you out

I have found that if you get a guy that's push

Saying that it's not often at all I've had a problem but like in any club swinging or none swinging its going to happen occasionally

If you alert staff to these rare occasions then guys will be dealt with accordingly. A club has it's reputation to think of.

Only been once with friends, but would love to go back, but find it too intimidating to go on my own - would love to go again, but not on my own x"

which club would you like to go to?

I go to VA a lot as I like it there and in my opinion is one of the best in this area, but there are plenty of clubs around, all different. If you say where you would like to go another fem might read this thread and accompany you, or I would be happy to socialise with you where I am.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Single guys would get more positive experiences with couples if the guys make an effort to chat with the male in the couple and not just focus on the female and ignore her man. If the male half thinks he's an ok bloke, he's making an effort to chat and interact, he is more likely to be on side for fun to happen

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By *not69Man over a year ago

Lancashire

"Last night at Townhouse we had 11 single ladies in!! We usually get a good mix at Townhouse and the single ladies certainly come out of the woodwork on our Saturday night parties!

xxx

I have often thought of attending Townhouse but worry that a) nobody will approach me and b) i'll bump into someone I know"

don't worry about bumping into someone you know. the chances are pretty slim, and if you do just ask yourself why are they here? and you'll find that they are there for the same thing as you.

there is a social at townhouse on the 23rd that will be a good night to be introduced to clubs. if you need someone to hold your hand while you find your feet let me know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back "

Honestly it's not difficult you just have to chat about normal every day stuff to start. Just socialise, don't have expectations, if you get fun it's a bonus. Just because you pay to get into a club it doesn't guarantee you fun. It's down to you to make you attractive to others, single fems or couples x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back "

Being a single person talking to a couple can be daunting for a lot of people, I find it really hard, some couples just seem to have the attitude no matter what you say one will be offended by it, I also find that when I try to talk to couples the woman usually just looks down her nose at me

It's hard to break the same sex barrier with a lot of couples

Female half's of couples don't seem to want to talk to women and male half's of couples don't seem to want to be approached by men

I find the who couples thing way to complicated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back

It's hard to break the same sex barrier with a lot of couples

Female half's of couples don't seem to want to talk to women and male half's of couples don't seem to want to be approached by men

I find the who couples thing way to complicated

I agree to an extent!

The couples I've played with tend to be ones I've made friends with first! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never go into anything with any expectations Iam not one of these that thinks by paying into a club Iam guaranteed sex... I love the social side to much haha get carried away with the dance floor watch out in xtasias haha x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back

It's hard to break the same sex barrier with a lot of couples

Female half's of couples don't seem to want to talk to women and male half's of couples don't seem to want to be approached by men

I find the who couples thing way to complicated

I agree to an extent!

The couples I've played with tend to be ones I've made friends with first! X"

Same here

I have played with a few couples but none of them have been couples I've played with just after meeting, they have all been couples I have got to know and met several times in a none sexual way before I've felt comfortable enough to join them

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back

It's hard to break the same sex barrier with a lot of couples

Female half's of couples don't seem to want to talk to women and male half's of couples don't seem to want to be approached by men

I find the who couples thing way to complicated

I agree to an extent!

The couples I've played with tend to be ones I've made friends with first! X

Same here

We chat to everyone about anything and everything. Flirts lol

We have been lucky and honoured to of had fun with single fems, single guys and couples. Sometimes people are just a bit nervous, it's not that they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back

It's hard to break the same sex barrier with a lot of couples

Female half's of couples don't seem to want to talk to women and male half's of couples don't seem to want to be approached by men

I find the who couples thing way to complicated

I'm the female half of a couple we have the same problem, we have been talking to other couples and the woman has just turned her back on me or snubbed me entirely. I wasn't even proposing anything or coming on to their husbands they just weren't comfortable in themselves and seemed to find other women a threat. I am the most easy going person you could meet - we have met and played with a fair few single ladies which I can only assume is down to everyone's attitudes.

To answer the OP we go to north west clubs (mainly Cupids or Partners) and have always found plenty of friendly single female on each night we've been. We usually go on a Saturday night.

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By *havenbabe01 OP Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I find there tends to be a lack of single women at clubs and it can be quite hard as a single guy to approach couples that take your fancy xx more single women would be great

Yeah Iam not the most confident guy when approaching people I struggle with the so called breaking the ice and the fear of the knock back

It's hard to break the same sex barrier with a lot of couples

Female half's of couples don't seem to want to talk to women and male half's of couples don't seem to want to be approached by men

I find the who couples thing way to complicated

To answer the OP we go to north west clubs (mainly Cupids or Partners) and have always found plenty of friendly single female on each night we've been. We usually go on a Saturday night. "

Thanks for the constructive comments x appreciated

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