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Singles night at chams, interested?

By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

If I were to organise a singles night at chams would anyone be interested in attending? There would be a guest list for single men and they would enter the club as a guest, no membership required for that one night. Prices would need to be confirmed by the club but I'd imagine it would be around £40 per single male.

I'm just trying to see what the numbers would be like to see if it's worth doing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So would chams be shut to couples on that night ?

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"So would chams be shut to couples on that night ?"

No, it would be open to couples as well as singles. There would be more single men and women in on that night though

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By *arpie666Woman over a year ago

Birmingham

Fantastic idea come on guys get your names down x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm up for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not interested in couples I'm only interested in single guys so it sounds good to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I were to organise a singles night at chams would anyone be interested in attending? There would be a guest list for single men and they would enter the club as a guest, no membership required for that one night. Prices would need to be confirmed by the club but I'd imagine it would be around £40 per single male.

I'm just trying to see what the numbers would be like to see if it's worth doing."
no thanks x

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"I'm not interested in couples I'm only interested in single guys so it sounds good to me

That's the whole point of this, there's not enough single men in clubs as far as I'm concerned lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like the idea but I think it would turn into a sausage fest lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like the idea but I think it would turn into a sausage fest lol

Oh good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's a good idea to be honest but do it as a vetted guest list and have a max number of single makes that can attend. single makes get it quite hard and there's couples and single ladies nights I think it's only fair come on guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes please

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

There would be a reasonable ratio of men to women. The list would be vetted by myself and club staff beforehand and anyone who acts like an idiot would be removed from the club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There would be a reasonable ratio of men to women. The list would be vetted by myself and club staff beforehand and anyone who acts like an idiot would be removed from the club."

How would you "vett" people ?

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By *ootballPaulMan over a year ago

Manchester

Humm.... it would be a good excuse for me to finally check this club out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes id be interested

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

I'd be interested but as a member anyway I can get in

There's a pretty high single guy ratio on a Friday night say, would it be similar or higher than that?

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"There would be a reasonable ratio of men to women. The list would be vetted by myself and club staff beforehand and anyone who acts like an idiot would be removed from the club.

How would you "vett" people ?"

Check veris, forum posts etc

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"I'd be interested but as a member anyway I can get in

There's a pretty high single guy ratio on a Friday night say, would it be similar or higher than that?"

I have to disagree, most of my female friends agree too. It's predominantly couples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It would have to be a Wednesday or Thursday night or Sunday, other nights are already 'themed'

Wednesday and Thursday too close Friday, the only advantage would be single male non-members could get in based on their fab-Id and as said before that would become a sausage fest

I'll give it a miss, ps. I'm already a member as a couple and a single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There would be a reasonable ratio of men to women. The list would be vetted by myself and club staff beforehand and anyone who acts like an idiot would be removed from the club.

How would you "vett" people ?

Check veris, forum posts etc

Thats me left out then lol

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By *hattyman80Man over a year ago

stockport

Id be up for that for sure. Although I'm a Chams goer anyway so I'll be around regardless lol

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"There would be a reasonable ratio of men to women. The list would be vetted by myself and club staff beforehand and anyone who acts like an idiot would be removed from the club.

How would you "vett" people ?

Check veris, forum posts etc

Thats me left out then lol"

That's for the single males, women can go in anyways.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It would have to be a Wednesday or Thursday night or Sunday, other nights are already 'themed'

Wednesday and Thursday too close Friday, the only advantage would be single male non-members could get in based on their fab-Id and as said before that would become a sausage fest

I'll give it a miss, ps. I'm already a member as a couple and a single "

I've already mentioned there would be a reasonable ratio between men and women, it would defeat the object if I only let men in.

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"I'd be interested but as a member anyway I can get in

There's a pretty high single guy ratio on a Friday night say, would it be similar or higher than that?

I have to disagree, most of my female friends agree too. It's predominantly couples "

I'll have to start going on Fridays again then, I stopped going on a Friday a year ago roughly because each time I went there was a big surplus of single guys

If it's improved, from my point of view anyway, I'll give it a go again!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It would have to be a Wednesday or Thursday night or Sunday, other nights are already 'themed'

Wednesday and Thursday too close Friday, the only advantage would be single male non-members could get in based on their fab-Id and as said before that would become a sausage fest

I'll give it a miss, ps. I'm already a member as a couple and a single

I've already mentioned there would be a reasonable ratio between men and women, it would defeat the object if I only let men in."

You're vetting and adjusting ratios lol

Sounds like a power trip, I'll give it a miss thanks

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It would have to be a Wednesday or Thursday night or Sunday, other nights are already 'themed'

Wednesday and Thursday too close Friday, the only advantage would be single male non-members could get in based on their fab-Id and as said before that would become a sausage fest

I'll give it a miss, ps. I'm already a member as a couple and a single

I've already mentioned there would be a reasonable ratio between men and women, it would defeat the object if I only let men in.

You're vetting and adjusting ratios lol

Sounds like a power trip, I'll give it a miss thanks"

It isn't meant to sound that way, this was basically just an idea as my friends and I have noticed a lack of singles in the club. The club have told me there would need to be a decent ratio of men to women, hence the vetting. It was simply a harmless idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It would have to be a Wednesday or Thursday night or Sunday, other nights are already 'themed'

Wednesday and Thursday too close Friday, the only advantage would be single male non-members could get in based on their fab-Id and as said before that would become a sausage fest

I'll give it a miss, ps. I'm already a member as a couple and a single

I've already mentioned there would be a reasonable ratio between men and women, it would defeat the object if I only let men in.

You're vetting and adjusting ratios lol

Sounds like a power trip, I'll give it a miss thanks

Ok sorry, I mis-judged it

Well good work, keep the effort up, as I've said I'm already a member but hope it goes well for you and is a success

Apologies xxx

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

It was supposed to be beneficial to single men and women but it feels like the general opinion is negative, shame because I think it would have been worth trying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was supposed to be beneficial to single men and women but it feels like the general opinion is negative, shame because I think it would have been worth trying. "

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It would have to be a Wednesday or Thursday night or Sunday, other nights are already 'themed'

Wednesday and Thursday too close Friday, the only advantage would be single male non-members could get in based on their fab-Id and as said before that would become a sausage fest

I'll give it a miss, ps. I'm already a member as a couple and a single

I've already mentioned there would be a reasonable ratio between men and women, it would defeat the object if I only let men in.

You're vetting and adjusting ratios lol

Sounds like a power trip, I'll give it a miss thanks

Im sure you and your friends attend more frequently than me, when do you think the ratio of single males seemed to decrease as traditionally clubs have been known for high rather then low ratios

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was supposed to be beneficial to single men and women but it feels like the general opinion is negative, shame because I think it would have been worth trying. "

Don't give up yet, your thread's only been up an hour.

It sounds like a good idea to me.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It wouldbea Wednesday

Im sure you and your friends attend more frequently than me, when do you think the ratio of single males seemed to decrease as traditionally clubs have been known for high rather then low ratios "

This isn't only about single males, I want single females to attend too. But a lot of single females want single men.

I think the issue is that everyone wants the majority of people to just suit their tastes.

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It wouldbea Wednesday

Im sure you and your friends attend more frequently than me, when do you think the ratio of single males seemed to decrease as traditionally clubs have been known for high rather then low ratios

This isn't only about single males, I want single females to attend too. But a lot of single females want single men.

I think the issue is that everyone wants the majority of people to just suit their tastes. "

Well yes I won't deny I'd like a lot of single females to attend as well!!

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It wouldbea Wednesday

Im sure you and your friends attend more frequently than me, when do you think the ratio of single males seemed to decrease as traditionally clubs have been known for high rather then low ratios

This isn't only about single males, I want single females to attend too. But a lot of single females want single men.

I think the issue is that everyone wants the majority of people to just suit their tastes.

Well yes I won't deny I'd like a lot of single females to attend as well!!"

Exactly my point. I want men, you want women, I'm trying to encourage more men AND women to attend. You need more men if you want more women because a lot of women want men lol.

It doesn't seem like the idea will take off because people always moan about single men lol.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

But the club will still be open as normal to members?

So other than the single guys who aren't already members you have little way of vetting who is there that night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in if it happens

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"But the club will still be open as normal to members?

So other than the single guys who aren't already members you have little way of vetting who is there that night."

The vetting would be so there wasn't an overwhelming amount of single men since that's the group that most people have an issue with.

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By *ildman2Man over a year ago

Ribble valley

I'd love to be included if it comes off

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

"But the club will still be open as normal to members?

So other than the single guys who aren't already members you have little way of vetting who is there that night.

The vetting would be so there wasn't an overwhelming amount of single men since that's the group that most people have an issue with. "

I understand that.

But say you have 25 vetted and lovely men on your list but a further 30 fully paid up members of Chams who aren't on fab decide to go. There is little you can do about that as it is a regular club night.

(just pulling numbers out of thin air before anyone asks where I get them from)

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"But the club will still be open as normal to members?

So other than the single guys who aren't already members you have little way of vetting who is there that night.

The vetting would be so there wasn't an overwhelming amount of single men since that's the group that most people have an issue with.

I understand that.

(just pulling numbers out of thin air before anyone asks where I get them from)"

I'd obviously have to take into account the members but until the night I wouldn't know how many there would be. At the moment there seems to be an ok ratio between single men and women so I don't think it would make too much difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like a good idea, very interested

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By *arpie666Woman over a year ago

Birmingham

Well im a reg and week after week I hear the ladies complain "wheres all the single guys" there is no doubt whatsoever that the club is seriously left wanting on the single guy front. I don't understand the negativity, couples have their nite and we have bi nite so it seems only fair we give a singles night a whirl..if it don't work it don't work...hey we tried ?.....never gonna know until we do?

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"I'd be interested but as a member anyway I can get in

There's a pretty high single guy ratio on a Friday night say, would it be similar or higher than that?

I have to disagree, most of my female friends agree too. It's predominantly couples "

When we went you couldn't move for single guys. A very predatory atmosphere and even saw a women get attacked. I cant imagine it with even more single guys

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"But the club will still be open as normal to members?

So other than the single guys who aren't already members you have little way of vetting who is there that night.

The vetting would be so there wasn't an overwhelming amount of single men since that's the group that most people have an issue with.

I understand that.

(just pulling numbers out of thin air before anyone asks where I get them from)

Any particular night you were thinking of doing this on?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A good post by the op and it soon starts with the single guy bashing.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"I'd be interested but as a member anyway I can get in

There's a pretty high single guy ratio on a Friday night say, would it be similar or higher than that?

I have to disagree, most of my female friends agree too. It's predominantly couples

When we went you couldn't move for single guys. A very predatory atmosphere and even saw a women get attacked. I cant imagine it with even more single guys

That doesn't sound at all like the nights I'm there. I go every Friday and Sunday and I've never seen anything like that. Was the attacker reported?

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"A good post by the op and it soon starts with the single guy bashing. "

It's annoying because I never have an issue with single men in chams, they seem to get a lot of grief though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was supposed to be beneficial to single men and women but it feels like the general opinion is negative, shame because I think it would have been worth trying. "

The problem is that Friday nights are for singles so I don't get the difference in what your suggesting other than the place would be full of couples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why I don't understand is that I'm a single guy and can't get a membership at charms as its full and there is a waiting list!

Perhaps they should revoke membership if someone hasn't been for over a year, give the rest of us keen fellas a chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well im a reg and week after week I hear the ladies complain "wheres all the single guys" there is no doubt whatsoever that the club is seriously left wanting on the single guy front. I don't understand the negativity, couples have their nite and we have bi nite so it seems only fair we give a singles night a whirl..if it don't work it don't work...hey we tried ?.....never gonna know until we do?"

I thought that Friday nights were for singles?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not interested in couples I'm only interested in single guys so it sounds good to me

That's the whole point of this, there's not enough single men in clubs as far as I'm concerned lol. "

Agreed

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

Yes I'd definitely be interested as not into couples really. Could be fun!

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"It was supposed to be beneficial to single men and women but it feels like the general opinion is negative, shame because I think it would have been worth trying.

The problem is that Friday nights are for singles so I don't get the difference in what your suggesting other than the place would be full of couples "

There isn't a singles night, every night except Mondays and Saturdays are for everyone. I didn't mention this being on a Friday, someone just asked what the difference would be between this night and Friday, it was just used as an example.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"Yes I'd definitely be interested as not into couples really. Could be fun!

Thanks a lot, we need more women to stand up and say they would also like to see more singles!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Up north we call it 'greedy girls' where ratio is 3:1 men to women however, the problem u may have is if u mix with 'regular couples' with higher ratio of single men, youll find itll put regulars off especially couples/other single fems. Not all single women like groups of men following/watching them all night...very intimidating. So unless ur patrolling round to keep an eye on the guys it doesnt always work wen mixing in a normal night...not saying it wont but I have experienced this in several clubs n thats just with normal entry. Good luck if u go ahead with it

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By *arpie666Woman over a year ago

Birmingham

Simple solution guys n gals if u don't fancy singles nite the just don't go when it's on !!! I don't fancy naked nite on Tues ... so i don't go....simple really... single guys get rough end of it always..I'm there at least twice a week and never seen anything like that happen ... mind you have seen women having a pop more than once but no one mentions that lol ! Just give it a chance let's not condem before its even off the ground..who know it could be a roaring success

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"Up north we call it 'greedy girls' where ratio is 3:1 men to women however, the problem u may have is if u mix with 'regular couples' with higher ratio of single men, youll find itll put regulars off especially couples/other single fems. Not all single women like groups of men following/watching them all night...very intimidating. So unless ur patrolling round to keep an eye on the guys it doesnt always work wen mixing in a normal night...not saying it wont but I have experienced this in several clubs n thats just with normal entry. Good luck if u go ahead with it

Thanks, I never witnessed the whole 'single men following' thing. I do see them a lot when there's a free for all in the round room but that's kinda the point of the round room lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was supposed to be beneficial to single men and women but it feels like the general opinion is negative, shame because I think it would have been worth trying.

The problem is that Friday nights are for singles so I don't get the difference in what your suggesting other than the place would be full of couples

Ah right okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks, I never witnessed the whole 'single men following' thing. I do see them a lot when there's a free for all in the round room but that's kinda the point of the round room lol. "

Wen I attend the greedy girls night or milf mondays...'all' the women know its a cock fest. Its so much fun. But on normal nights if the other guests are not expecting it n they turn up to a hoard of men hanging round the bar its off putting. Its getting the word out to make sure all guests are aware wot night it is

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

Thanks, I never witnessed the whole 'single men following' thing. I do see them a lot when there's a free for all in the round room but that's kinda the point of the round room lol.

If it goes ahead I intend to make a massive deal of it so everyone is aware.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks, I never witnessed the whole 'single men following' thing. I do see them a lot when there's a free for all in the round room but that's kinda the point of the round room lol.

If it goes ahead I intend to make a massive deal of it so everyone is aware. "

Brilliant...Ill be keeping an eye out for this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its an annual membership ergo revoked/renewed after a year anyway - if you dont go in over a year you aren't one anyway

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

Thanks, I never witnessed the whole 'single men following' thing. I do see them a lot when there's a free for all in the round room but that's kinda the point of the round room lol.

If it goes ahead I intend to make a massive deal of it so everyone is aware.

Brilliant...Ill be keeping an eye out for this!

Good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why I don't understand is that I'm a single guy and can't get a membership at charms as its full and there is a waiting list!

Perhaps they should revoke membership if someone hasn't been for over a year, give the rest of us keen fellas a chance"

Like this idea I also would need to know I could get in before I travelled down as the cost of membership then the idea it's a lotto as to if you get in on the night or not is off putting if this night was run on a fab guest list then that would be a good way of making it worth will no.shows banned for the event and this could work

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"Why I don't understand is that I'm a single guy and can't get a membership at charms as its full and there is a waiting list!

Perhaps they should revoke membership if someone hasn't been for over a year, give the rest of us keen fellas a chance

Exactly, it also gives people a chance to 'try before you buy'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm def up for it, chams is a great place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Extremely interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm up for it. Great idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly, it also gives people a chance to 'try before you buy'."

And i guess gives them the chance to see how we conduct ourselves before giving membership

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it is lack of men then check who is on the wait list and let some fresh blood in make there day x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or instead of singles night have a newbie night open to singles and couples x

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

"Why I don't understand is that I'm a single guy and can't get a membership at charms as its full and there is a waiting list!

Perhaps they should revoke membership if someone hasn't been for over a year, give the rest of us keen fellas a chance"

Chams single guy membership is only for 12 months, so if they haven't been in over a year the membership is invalid.

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By *ushandkittyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

So basically a chance for non member single guys whether they realise the etiquette of the club or not to come in.

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By *endrix30Man over a year ago

dudley

I am very interested in a singles night, keep me posted. Its a great idea.

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By *ushandkittyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

And I hope you've approached the club before publicising this as they may feel pressurised into something that they aren't completely happy with.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"So basically a chance for non member single guys whether they realise the etiquette of the club or not to come in."

No actually, it's a chance for single people to come and socialise in a place where they know there will be singles. There are so many couples in clubs that it's hard for singles to get together.

Of course I've spoken to the club manager about it, I wouldn't offer out a venue without doing so.

Basically this thread is to find out who, if anyone, would be interested, not to slag off single guys. This was my idea that I pitched to the club because I've heard many people mention the lack of singles at chams. I'd appreciate it if people could keep the negativity to a minimum, if you're not interested in the night, just pass over the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm just trying to see what the numbers would be like to see if it's worth doing."

Depending on which evening, I'd be interested.

Please keep me in the loop and in mind.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So basically a chance for non member single guys whether they realise the etiquette of the club or not to come in.

No actually, it's a chance for single people to come and socialise in a place where they know there will be singles. There are so many couples in clubs that it's hard for singles to get together.

Of course I've spoken to the club manager about it, I wouldn't offer out a venue without doing so.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"I'd be interested but as a member anyway I can get in

There's a pretty high single guy ratio on a Friday night say, would it be similar or higher than that?

I have to disagree, most of my female friends agree too. It's predominantly couples

When we went you couldn't move for single guys. A very predatory atmosphere and even saw a women get attacked. I cant imagine it with even more single guys

That doesn't sound at all like the nights I'm there. I go every Friday and Sunday and I've never seen anything like that. Was the attacker reported? "

We was reported and asked to leave. But I don't know if he was barred or anything like that.

We were there on a Friday night, there must have been 4-5 men per woman. Lots of following around.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

We was reported and asked to leave. But I don't know if he was barred or anything like that.

We were there on a Friday night, there must have been 4-5 men per woman. Lots of following around."

I'm sure the ratio of single men is based upon the amount of couples AND single women in the club so if they have a load of couples in they let more men in. It might seem there are a lot of men but if you compare it to the amount of couples it isn't that bad.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

We was reported and asked to leave. But I don't know if he was barred or anything like that.

We were there on a Friday night, there must have been 4-5 men per woman. Lots of following around.

Different people like different things, obviously this applies to clubs too. Chams on a Friday nights didn't suit how we like to play, but it could be perfect for others.

If you think there is a demand for a night with more single guys then I hope it goes well for you. I think it's great to see people who are willing to try new things to try and make the lifestyle even better.

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By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

"That's the whole point of this, there's not enough single men in clubs as far as I'm concerned lol.

Agreed"

You sure about this, or do you mean there aren't enough SUITABLE single men? I know there are plenty of men who only go into the bar twice in one night - on the way in, and on the way out.

Where they go, I have no idea, but if you were to go and start playing in an open room, it would soon become like a scene from an African wildlife documentary - out of an empty clear blue sky, a single vulture appears and homes in on the stricken antelope...5 minutes later there's dozens of vultures clambering over the top of each other to get to their dinner.

If, however, you are sitting in the bar all night drumming your fingers, you might think there are "not enough single men" in there. Of course, prowling around upstairs, are a gaggle of single blokes who are bemoaning the fact there are "no single women" in the place.

You can lead a horse to water...

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By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

"No actually, it's a chance for single people to come and socialise in a place where they know there will be singles. "

But as was demonstrated in another thread I saw earlier, it seems that socialising eats into the "shags per hour/entry fee" ratio

It's sad to say, but if there were 25 single women in the bar, yet two were upstairs with, um, "their hands full", guess where two-thirds of the single men in the club would be...

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"That's the whole point of this, there's not enough single men in clubs as far as I'm concerned lol.

Agreed

You sure about this, or do you mean there aren't enough SUITABLE single men? I know there are plenty of men who only go into the bar twice in one night - on the way in, and on the way out.

You can lead a horse to water..."

I agree about the open room thing, but if you play in an open room you should expect an audience and people trying to join in.

I often walk around the club and yes, there are single men but I've never known them to be as predatory and boisterous as people here have mentioned.

At the end of the day this is still just an idea, it wasn't an open debate about the behaviour of single guys. I'm just trying to see if there's enough interest to make it a viable option. If you're not interested you don't need to comment with negativity, just move onto the next thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolutely, as a single guy I will love to attend gig without feeling like I shouldn't be there. Am in so please keep pushing and Wednesday or Thursday sounds a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been to a club in gran canaria tonight and the single guys were a pest, confrontation kills the atmosphere, we won't be going

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By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

"I agree about the open room thing, but if you play in an open room you should expect an audience and people trying to join in.

I often walk around the club and yes, there are single men but I've never known them to be as predatory and boisterous as people here have mentioned.

Obviously you missed the point. I wasn't commenting on the behaviour of the single men*, I was saying there already are plenty of them in the place. In the same way I'd say to those men that there are single women there, contrary to their belief that it's a single woman-free zone. You are trying to fix a problem that doesn't exist.

What I was saying was that the idea of organising a singles' night is largely pissing into the wind, because to a large proportion of the target, this means chatting nicely in the bar, getting to know one another, making new friends.

However, to the other large proportion of the target, they would expect a night where "single meets single, they go upstairs and fuck". Both groups are likely to be unimpressed by the other's idea of a "singles night".

I'm not trying to be negative, just pointing out that your problem isn't the amount of single men, or women, in the place, they are already there - it's changing how they interact. Bringing in a bus-load of single men might not solve your problem, they might all just troop upstairs to prepare their mighty love-sausages for the orgy to come (or not, as the case may be).

Whilst some women are moaning about the apparent lack of single men, upstairs, I assure you, there are just as many men complaining that no "serious" single women go to the club, that they apparently go to sit about all night talking or smoking instead of playing. (Again, I'm not commenting on the validity of that view, just pointing out the difference in how different people see the club - as was demonstrated so wonderfully in that other thread that got locked)

*How they behave doesn't affect me, I couldn't care less. I'm happy to let them wear the carpet out upstairs, while they wait for the women to tire of talking and come up to grab them for filthy sex - I'm downstairs chatting to those women in the bar. Guess who generally has the better outcome?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of negative views about the behaviours of single males at clubs and how the OP's idea won't help.

Could I suggest none of the single males on this thread would put themselves in that group, so perhaps the behaviours of single males would improve?

Also, the suggestion was for singles, male and female. Again, it's going to be the participants on this thread who are aware/invited, so we are all of a like mind.

I've never attended a club and I have a hesitance around going, based partly on the unknown and in part on all the bad press I read in the forums.

From a personal perspective it seems like a great opportunity to venture out and hopefully have an enjoyable night out.

I'd attend with no expectations or sense of entitlement, just nervous anticipation.

The biggest challenge for me is finding out where the hell Chams is.

Tuppenceworth spent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would go but £40 is a little over the top , £30 ish is better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am confused that the OP has spoken to the Club Manager but cannot state how much it would be.

I assume all the OP wants to do is make an event with a guestlist which means no membership is needed. Usual entrance fee would therefore apply would it not?

I will be following very carefully when this event will be as myself and my partner go on a Wednesday so need to ensure we don't turn up for a sausage fest...

Anyway we find it empties out on a Weds about 5pm as most have to get back to their wives...

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

OP, I'm not trying to bash the idea, but perhaps something that might help with the situation you describe, and that others point out as a barrier, is the identification of who is single, and who is part of a couple.

You said you would have a mix of singles and couples, so how about something like wrist bands:

Green = single (man or woman) & wants to play with other singles

Yellow = part of a couple & looking to play with other couples

Purple = to be worn in addition to green or yellow, means looking to play with singles or couples.

Perhaps the women would then be able to see which men are truely interested in meeting other singles, and which are hedging their bets and will try and get their leg over in whatever combination!

Obviously conversations could then be had about bisexual, or same sex play. Also wrist bands would be an indicator, rather than a binding contract as to who can play with who etc.

Just an idea, it might be a shit one, but im just throwing it out there!

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

I'm a member of chams anyway, would probably go to a singles night to see what it's like. However when I've been it seems to me there is a lack of single women about the place, the highest proportion group in there always seems to be single guys on the nights I've been.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"OP, I'm not trying to bash the idea, but perhaps something that might help with the situation you describe, and that others point out as a barrier, is the identification of who is single, and who is part of a couple.

You said you would have a mix of singles and couples, so how about something like wrist bands:

Green = single (man or woman) & wants to play with other singles

Yellow = part of a couple & looking to play with other couples

Purple = to be worn in addition to green or yellow, means looking to play with singles or couples.

Perhaps the women would then be able to see which men are truely interested in meeting other singles, and which are hedging their bets and will try and get their leg over in whatever combination!

Obviously conversations could then be had about bisexual, or same sex play. Also wrist bands would be an indicator, rather than a binding contract as to who can play with who etc.

Just an idea, it might be a shit one, but im just throwing it out there!

I think wristbands is a good idea, they have it in clubs in Europe and call it the traffic lights system, lol. A good way to identify who is single and who is part of a couple in the club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You say the reason you want to organise this night because the lack of single guys, but I wondering is there a lack of single guys or is there a lack of single guys that you fancy

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By *tankyCouple over a year ago

midlands

We go to clubs now and again to find single guys we find both a shortage and a lack of quality so l feel the right night at the right club with hot guys would be a rouring success but achieving it is another issue.

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

I'm a maybe. And interested where the rest of this thread will head..

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

Right, just gonna answer everyone in one post.

I didn't mean to sound defensive in any of my posts, I wasnt expecting as much of a negative reaction.

The reason I don't know about costs is that I just mentioned this idea to the manager and we agreed I needed to find out if enough people would be interested to make it worth while.

Again I'm going to say, this is for single men AND women, it would never work if there weren't enough women.

Maybe I am only noticing that there aren't men that suit my tastes but I've heard several women state that we need more singles and all of them couldn't only be attracted to the same type of man as me.

I have a feeling this won't go ahead anyways, it seems pointless as everyone just keeps bitching about it being a sausage fest, failing to see the amount of times I've mentioned that there would only be enough men allowed to go that made a suitable ratio between women and singles.

Everyone I spoke to in the club thought it was a good idea and I had great feedback from women who don't play with couples or would prefer more men and single women to play with.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

OP, if you believe it can work, then go for it. Get a couple of people to help you with organising the guest list. Sell tickets in advance to reduce no shows and to cover your costs.

Maybe consider other venues as well. Chams seems to be open every night of the week, perhaps find a club where they are not, and hire the venue for an evening?

If you believe in it, and you really think there is a gap in the market, then go for it

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By *aysmitMan over a year ago

walsall

Hi ul come might even wear my speedos xx

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"OP, if you believe it can work, then go for it. Get a couple of people to help you with organising the guest list. Sell tickets in advance to reduce no shows and to cover your costs.

Maybe consider other venues as well. Chams seems to be open every night of the week, perhaps find a club where they are not, and hire the venue for an evening?

If you believe in it, and you really think there is a gap in the market, then go for it

Thanks for that, I really do think it would work well if I can get the women in.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

I would probably put my name down and try it if it goes ahead, but I did go to a singles night at Xtasia (was the opening night of what they called swingles) I think it was a Wednesday or Thursday night and only men turned up, lol. Not one single woman came and was very disappointing, but to be fair to Paul and Flirt they did give a months free entry to the club to all the guys that went. Not trying to be negative here just telling it like it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right, just gonna answer everyone in one post.

I didn't mean to sound defensive in any of my posts, I wasnt expecting as much of a negative reaction.

The reason I don't know about costs is that I just mentioned this idea to the manager and we agreed I needed to find out if enough people would be interested to make it worth while.

Again I'm going to say, this is for single men AND women, it would never work if there weren't enough women.

Everyone I spoke to in the club thought it was a good idea and I had great feedback from women who don't play with couples or would prefer more men and single women to play with. "

Can't say id mind a sausage fest to be fair, I definitely don't think enough single men got to clubs (when I've been to one anyway). What ratio were you thinking of?

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"Right, just gonna answer everyone in one post.

I didn't mean to sound defensive in any of my posts, I wasnt expecting as much of a negative reaction.

The reason I don't know about costs is that I just mentioned this idea to the manager and we agreed I needed to find out if enough people would be interested to make it worth while.

Again I'm going to say, this is for single men AND women, it would never work if there weren't enough women.

Everyone I spoke to in the club thought it was a good idea and I had great feedback from women who don't play with couples or would prefer more men and single women to play with.

Can't say id mind a sausage fest to be fair, I definitely don't think enough single men got to clubs (when I've been to one anyway). What ratio were you thinking of? "

I'm not sure, it's still just an idea. I personally would love a sausage fest but I'm trying to make it for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am confused that the OP has spoken to the Club Manager but cannot state how much it would be.

I assume all the OP wants to do is make an event with a guestlist which means no membership is needed. Usual entrance fee would therefore apply would it not?

I will be following very carefully when this event will be as myself and my partner go on a Wednesday so need to ensure we don't turn up for a sausage fest...

Anyway we find it empties out on a Weds about 5pm as most have to get back to their wives..."

Why are you confused?

The op has chatted to the club manager, they both feel it's an idea to explore.

Step 2, explore....... See if there's enough interest and move on from there.

The op is still at step 2 and probably wondering why the hell she bothered.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am confused that the OP has spoken to the Club Manager but cannot state how much it would be.

I assume all the OP wants to do is make an event with a guestlist which means no membership is needed. Usual entrance fee would therefore apply would it not?

I will be following very carefully when this event will be as myself and my partner go on a Wednesday so need to ensure we don't turn up for a sausage fest...

Anyway we find it empties out on a Weds about 5pm as most have to get back to their wives...

Why are you confused?

The op has chatted to the club manager, they both feel it's an idea to explore.

Step 2, explore....... See if there's enough interest and move on from there.

The op is still at step 2 and probably wondering why the hell she bothered.

Step 1 - the club manager would indicate at that initial discussion how much it would be.

All the OP has to do is just what any of us do who set up an event at Chams.

Advise the club, advertise it in here, form a guest list - set out whatever parameters they wish for people to be on the guest list - and people on that list don't need membership. Submit the guest list to the club about 48hrs before the event and voila...you have your singles night.

Its not a big deal or debate - just do it.

As people have said the club will be open for members anyway but its the guys getting in without membership that is key and for that they need to be on the list.

My advice to the OP - just do it - put it on forums and advertise it. Don't invite debate from the doubters and those who don't want to go just ask for people to put their name down.

It isn't for me or my partner but I wish anyone who wishes to further the popularity of swinging well and Chams is, in my opinion, the best place to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would it differ from a normal Friday night ?

It wouldbea Wednesday

Im sure you and your friends attend more frequently than me, when do you think the ratio of single males seemed to decrease as traditionally clubs have been known for high rather then low ratios

This isn't only about single males, I want single females to attend too. But a lot of single females want single men.

I think the issue is that everyone wants the majority of people to just suit their tastes.

Well yes I won't deny I'd like a lot of single females to attend as well!!

Exactly my point. I want men, you want women, I'm trying to encourage more men AND women to attend. You need more men if you want more women because a lot of women want men lol.

It doesn't seem like the idea will take off because people always moan about single men lol. "

Hey I think it's a great idea!

If it's on a night when I can make it I'd definitely attend!

Need lots of hot young guys with great bodies - pretty please!!

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By *heekychap70Man over a year ago

Hinckley

Don't you think that if this was open as a single members night most singles would attend anyway. I've been to day events at other clubs and I'm afraid that the ratios would be far too great. This idea I feel has been raised just to get fresh (meat)....I mean faces in that wouldn't normally pay a £50 guest fee.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am confused that the OP has spoken to the Club Manager but cannot state how much it would be.

I assume all the OP wants to do is make an event with a guestlist which means no membership is needed. Usual entrance fee would therefore apply would it not?

I will be following very carefully when this event will be as myself and my partner go on a Wednesday so need to ensure we don't turn up for a sausage fest...

Anyway we find it empties out on a Weds about 5pm as most have to get back to their wives...

Why are you confused?

The op has chatted to the club manager, they both feel it's an idea to explore.

Step 2, explore....... See if there's enough interest and move on from there.

The op is still at step 2 and probably wondering why the hell she bothered.

Step 1 - the club manager would indicate at that initial discussion how much it would be.

All the OP has to do is just what any of us do who set up an event at Chams.

Its not a big deal or debate - just do it.

As people have said the club will be open for members anyway but its the guys getting in without membership that is key and for that they need to be on the list.

My advice to the OP - just do it - put it on forums and advertise it. Don't invite debate from the doubters and those who don't want to go just ask for people to put their name down.

It isn't for me or my partner but I wish anyone who wishes to further the popularity of swinging well and Chams is, in my opinion, the best place to do it.

You're assuming that the op and the rest of us know that;

"All the OP has to do is just what any of us do who set up an event at Chams."

I've never set one up there and never been to chams. Can't speak for the op, although she's obviously been there.

Just because you know everything and have an intimate knowledge of the venue and process, don't assume the rest of us do.

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

Oh don't give up OP, just cos a few people have had some bad experiences doesn't mean it's not a great idea!

The only problem I can forsee is men 'expecting' sex ( see the other thread about a guy wanting to 'get his money's worth' ), but hopefully that can be overcome. There's been lots of women on here saying they'd be interested, maybe you just have to manage the numbers? Definitely worth a try tho!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it was a singles night and couples were banned from going then it would get a big thumbs up from me OP!

I'm sick to death of couples whining and thinking they own swinging clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a singles night and couples were banned from going then it would get a big thumbs up from me OP!

I'm sick to death of couples whining and thinking they own swinging clubs.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"If it was a singles night and couples were banned from going then it would get a big thumbs up from me OP!

I'm sick to death of couples whining and thinking they own swinging clubs.

There are couples only nights, and mixed couples and singles nights, so there is no reason why singles shouldn't have a night too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jeez man did any of you actually read the post!

It's to give single men who ARE NOT members the opportunity to go... If it's held on a Friday when single men CAN go then what's the moaning about! Couples who attend a Friday are fully aware single men attend so if you're not interested In single men DON'T go on the Friday!

It will also give some men the opportunity to possibly be offered amembership, going by their mannerisms and attitude.

Of course those being added to the list will need to be considered and have certain things taken into account, Llike how long they've been on the site and if any verifications... Not like you'd want someone added who's been on the site over a year with no veris. Think needs to be a mixture if different ages, sizes etc as everyone has a different taste to who they're attracted to.

Think it's a great idea, I went chams Friday and would have definitely liked a more variety of single men there... But hey I go with the attitude that they'll be people there I can talk to either way and anything else would be a plus

Do it OP!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it was a singles night and couples were banned from going then it would get a big thumbs up from me OP!

I'm sick to death of couples whining and thinking they own swinging clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez man did any of you actually read the post!

It will also give some men the opportunity to possibly be offered amembership, going by their mannerisms and attitude.

Do it OP! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Set it up _eeley x

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

I've just got in from a night out and expected half a dozen more negative posts, thanks to those of you that are supporting what is still just an idea.

Westy68, I didn't invite debate, as the title of this thread says, I'm asking if it's something people would be interested in. I'm not asking what people who wouldn't go their opinion but I got it anyway.

I haven't discussed the final details with the club because we agreed to find out if it's something people would be interested in before sorting out the details.

Please people, if it's not for you then just pass over the thread, I've asked all along for people who ARE interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've just got in from a night out and expected half a dozen more negative posts, thanks to those of you that are supporting what is still just an idea.

I haven't discussed the final details with the club because we agreed to find out if it's something people would be interested in before sorting out the details.

Please people, if it's not for you then just pass over the thread, I've asked all along for people who ARE interested.

Apologies if I sound like a bitch but I was hoping that people would see this for what it is, an idea to cater for some people that feel like their night would be made better by having more singles around, men or women. "
hey sexy have you not been in threads before surely you are not naive enough to think people won't pass comment negative or positive ?? That's the point and not just that some people write for the most part unintelligible essays especially at this time of night ,common sense should have told you a night without men wouldn't be the most popular anyway we are after all irreplaceable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It seemed like some were more worried that they wouldn't be able to attend the club on the night it was set, or that they didn't want loads of men there. So best to do it on a night men can go (which is most) just avoid bi night and Saturday's and probably naked night too as not everyone's cup of tea. They hold a BBW every month and that's not to everyone's taste, so I don't see why most are jumping on the band wagon over one singles night being arranged.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It seemed like some were more worried that they wouldn't be able to attend the club on the night it was set, or that they didn't want loads of men there. So best to do it on a night men can go (which is most) just avoid bi night and Saturday's and probably naked night too as not everyone's cup of tea. They hold a BBW every month and that's not to everyone's taste, so I don't see why most are jumping on the band wagon over one singles night being arranged. "

Honey it's because many people like nothing better than to complain. It makes them feel good!

I'm definitely up for this if it happens if I can make it!

I really like chams as a club but I think it's lacking young, hot, fit males.

I'm told this is because there's a long waiting list for membership and when guys DO get a membership they tend to go pretty much until retirement. Not sure how true this is though? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do it on a Friday, couples have Saturday nights.

It's not going to be a weekly thing so I'm sure they would be ok holding a one off event with plenty of notice given

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm told this is because there's a long waiting list for membership and when guys DO get a membership they tend to go pretty much until retirement. Not sure how true this is though? X"

It isn't true. Pure rumour, they DO however have vet applicants to ascertain their suitability to the club .... And why not, demands outstripping supply so they can afford to provide what they see as a "better class of single guy"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honey it's because many people like nothing better than to complain. It makes them feel good!

I'm definitely up for this if it happens if I can make it!

I really like chams as a club but I think it's lacking young, hot, fit males.

I'm told this is because there's a long waiting list for membership and when guys DO get a membership they tend to go pretty much until retirement. Not sure how true this is though? X"

Recently it has felt like memberships have been renewed until retirement, with the odd one or two... but personally I don't want to fuck anyone old enough to be my Dad! So more younger ones would be good... I also think the cost puts some males of, but like some have said before, they spend more on a night out with the 'lads', so here you pay around £40, get access to wet areas, a chance to meet new people and hope things go further, or just have live porn lol. What does a typical spa day cost.. around £30- £50 anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm told this is because there's a long waiting list for membership and when guys DO get a membership they tend to go pretty much until retirement. Not sure how true this is though? X

So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

Agreed the men in there are all polite etc - but when choosing a partner to have sexy with then looks are paramount - and that's where chams seems to fall a little. The only six pack I've ever seen there was in a bargain booze bag!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

Clearly the owners/management of the club do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm down!

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"If it was a singles night and couples were banned from going then it would get a big thumbs up from me OP!

I'm sick to death of couples whining and thinking they own swinging clubs.

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this!

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

We would be interested in your idea op. Please keep us informed. Xx

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By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

"So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

Now, how would it be if a bloke said that he'd be right up for a singles' night if they had some hot firm-bodied young maidens there because he was unimpressed with the saggy-titted, stretch-marked old boilers that currently inhabit the place? Would that be an acceptable attitude? Hmmm...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

The thought of someone somewhere 'vetting' which single guys get membership totally puts me off. There are plenty of other clubs that allow single guys to attend without any kind of selection process. Think I'll stick to those.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

Yeah if that's what he wants and thinks - why shouldn't people feel free to say what they're looking for?

I look ok for an old un but I'm not a hot bodied 25 year old any more - and if that's what a guy wants in a meet then I'd love it if he had the guts to say so rather than coming out with the 'every woman is gorgeous and wonderful' stuff which is constantly bandied about in most forum threads!!

Rant over!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just lower the price for single men if you want more in? I for one wouldn't dream of paying 40/50 for entrance to a club. Understand the reasons why but think it puts most genuine guys off.

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By *ensual EroticismCouple over a year ago

derby

"Jeez man did any of you actually read the post!

It will also give some men the opportunity to possibly be offered amembership, going by their mannerisms and attitude.

Do it OP! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not just lower the price for single men if you want more in? I for one wouldn't dream of paying 40/50 for entrance to a club. Understand the reasons why but think it puts most genuine guys off. "

But surely if you understand the reason why it shouldnt put the genuine ones off? I've been to clubs that charge £20 and it feels like a knuckle dragging contest is going on. There's plenty men on here stating they'd attend, whether genuine or not who knows, but if willing to pay then they're genuine in my eyes... Also not the OPs decision on price

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

"Yeah if that's what he wants and thinks - why shouldn't people feel free to say what they're looking for?

Rant over!

I say the truth in my threads, and I regularly unleash the Forum beasts/crazies

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

I missed this comment when I was reading the thread. The 'vetting' would merely be checking veris, how they act on the forums just to keep the numbers down. The likelihood that someone who constantly abused people on the forums would be a nice person in real life is quite slim.

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By *ustonce1Man over a year ago

Leicester

No different really from a normal night,in fact normally there's too many guys acting like pushy bastards anyway with the attitude of I've paid my money now I want my lay!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No different really from a normal night,in fact normally there's too many guys acting like pushy bastards anyway with the attitude of I've paid my money now I want my lay!!!!!!"

Can I ask what you're basing this on please?

I've been to pretty much every club in the north west many times - and other clubs including Chams - and I've never experienced this!

Yes the men tend to outnumber the women - but even when I've been one of very few women amongst many men and made it obvious that I'm not 'greedy' the men have been nothing other than charming and friendly!

A club doesn't become 'Lord of the flies' if they allow more men than women! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A club doesn't become 'Lord of the flies' if they allow more men than women! X"

I have the conch!

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

I'm actually pretty disgusted by all the nastiness about single men, in general the men in chams are polite and not pushy at all. Obviously there are the odd one who is a pleb but that's the same everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So who decides what constitutes a 'better class of single guy'?

Fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm actually pretty disgusted by all the nastiness about single men, in general the men in chams are polite and not pushy at all. Obviously there are the odd one who is a pleb but that's the same everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree. I've been to different clubs around the country and only once had a problem with pushy guys. And even then, we asked them to back off and they did.

I've been to clubs on my own and the guys were great. Polite and friendly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No different really from a normal night,in fact normally there's too many guys acting like pushy bastards anyway with the attitude of I've paid my money now I want my lay!!!!!!

Can I ask what you're basing this on please?

I've been to pretty much every club in the north west many times - and other clubs including Chams - and I've never experienced this!

A club doesn't become 'Lord of the flies' if they allow more men than women! X"

Another user did create a post about how he had paid so much money to go to a club and was disappointed in the lack of action he got (apparently not enough females but there was as I was there so I saw how many)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

However that was attitude after going. not pushy or anything else in the club, as far as I'm aware

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"However that was attitude after going. not pushy or anything else in the club, as far as I'm aware "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No different really from a normal night,in fact normally there's too many guys acting like pushy bastards anyway with the attitude of I've paid my money now I want my lay!!!!!!

Can I ask what you're basing this on please?

I've been to pretty much every club in the north west many times - and other clubs including Chams - and I've never experienced this!

A club doesn't become 'Lord of the flies' if they allow more men than women! X

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

There are pushy and unpolite women everywhere too

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

It puts genuine guys off? So all the guys I've seen in clubs must have been fakes then! Perhaps they were women in disguise?

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

"Why not just lower the price for single men if you want more in? I for one wouldn't dream of paying 40/50 for entrance to a club. Understand the reasons why but think it puts most genuine guys off.

It puts genuine guys off? So all the guys I've seen in clubs must have been fakes then! Perhaps they were women in disguise? "

£50 is too much. Full stop

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"Why not just lower the price for single men if you want more in? I for one wouldn't dream of paying 40/50 for entrance to a club. Understand the reasons why but think it puts most genuine guys off.

It puts genuine guys off? So all the guys I've seen in clubs must have been fakes then! Perhaps they were women in disguise?

£50 is too much. Full stop"

If you have a membership its not £50 quid entry fee to chams though. I think it is about £35 entry free for single guys once you have a membership, and they do a Lloyalty system where you get a card, and have it stamped on each vist, when you get 6 stamps, every sixth visit is free entry. Personally i think that is a good deal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As more women are going clubs why not start charging them I would be willing to pay for a good night in a club why should we get in for free x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right, just gonna answer everyone in one post.

I didn't mean to sound defensive in any of my posts, I wasnt expecting as much of a negative reaction.

The reason I don't know about costs is that I just mentioned this idea to the manager and we agreed I needed to find out if enough people would be interested to make it worth while.

Again I'm going to say, this is for single men AND women, it would never work if there weren't enough women.

Everyone I spoke to in the club thought it was a good idea and I had great feedback from women who don't play with couples or would prefer more men and single women to play with.

Can't say id mind a sausage fest to be fair, I definitely don't think enough single men got to clubs (when I've been to one anyway). What ratio were you thinking of?

I'm not sure, it's still just an idea. I personally would love a sausage fest but I'm trying to make it for everyone "

Great idea, never enough single men there lately

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

I think it is a really good idea. Single lady looking for single guys......yes please.

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

Every 5 stamps. £35 is still a lot!?

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

Thanks to all the ladies that have shown their interest, not a sausage fest anymore!

Also, can we keep the thread about the singles night, not debating men's behaviour and prices into clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always go alone so be a usual night for me

. But I would be up for this as it would be nice to have a group if people meeting up to talk to

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By *rummiePartyManMan over a year ago

birmingham

"If I were to organise a singles night at chams would anyone be interested in attending?"

I note on your profile that you have a personal age bracket of 29-43. Is that the age range that you are trying to attract or can younger guys and us "over-43's" come as well?

Guys who are existing members only need to pay £33 anyway, so is your indicated £40 for the non-members only?

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

"Every 5 stamps. £35 is still a lot!?"

I don't know how much you usually spend on a night out but when you bear in mind you take your own alcohol it's not an expensive night at all.

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

"If I were to organise a singles night at chams would anyone be interested in attending?

I note on your profile that you have a personal age bracket of 29-43. Is that the age range that you are trying to attract or can younger guys and us "over-43's" come as well?

Guys who are existing members only need to pay £33 anyway, so is your indicated £40 for the non-members only?

I think it's said in the thread that the stated entry fee is for men who aren't members, to give them a chance to go, similar to the bbw nights.

And as op hasn't stated an age limit I'm sure we can all go ... It's up to her who she likes on the night

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

"If I were to organise a singles night at chams would anyone be interested in attending?

I note on your profile that you have a personal age bracket of 29-43. Is that the age range that you are trying to attract or can younger guys and us "over-43's" come as well?

Guys who are existing members only need to pay £33 anyway, so is your indicated £40 for the non-members only?

This isn't a night just for what I'm personally looking for, any male of any age, race etc can attend. The same with any women.

The price would be for non members, members would pay the usual fee.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know why there's so many people slating this idea I think it's a great idea and many others do to... I think you need to give the woman a break I garuntee if you ask a lot of the single women they would want more single men to play with... she's just trying to broaden the swinging scene and make maybe a night or two a month a little different where's the harm in that... il back you the whole way and I don't know how you've held your tongue for so long with people slating you for putting an idea out there for an area of interest.. people today are so rude get of your high horses....

Thank you for your audience ladies and gentlemen

Much love Ashley

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know why there's so many people slating this idea I think it's a great idea and many others do to... I think you need to give the woman a break I garuntee if you ask a lot of the single women they would want more single men to play with... she's just trying to broaden the swinging scene and make maybe a night or two a month a little different where's the harm in that... il back you the whole way and I don't know how you've held your tongue for so long with people slating you for putting an idea out there for an area of interest.. people today are so rude get of your high horses....

Thank you for your audience ladies and gentlemen

Much love Ashley "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you for your audience ladies and gentlemen

Much love Ashley

Well said! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I were to organise a singles night at chams would anyone be interested in attending?

I note on your profile that you have a personal age bracket of 29-43. Is that the age range that you are trying to attract or can younger guys and us "over-43's" come as well?

Guys who are existing members only need to pay £33 anyway, so is your indicated £40 for the non-members only?

Your just being picky now

Why would she do a social and only invite men she wants to shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For the sake of getting this back on track I fully support this and think it's a great idea, I would attend

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By *rummiePartyManMan over a year ago

birmingham

"This isn't a night just for what I'm personally looking for, any male of any age, race etc can attend. The same with any women.

The price would be for non members, members would pay the usual fee. "

Thank you for clarifying that.

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By *eeley OP Woman over a year ago

Dudley

Again, thanks for the support.

People just seem to want something to bitch about, from my own observations couples seem to seek out single men in clubs, hence why we need more. Couples also claim to want single females but often us ladies end up playing with each other lol.

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By *rince and princessCouple over a year ago

wolverhampton

This is s great idea so don't let the doom and gloomers put you off this venture .

Having been to Chams as a single guy as well as a couple I can see the benefit it would be for both single males and females to have a night to enjoy

Chams with other single folk , without the apprehensions of been there on your own trying to fit in

You have my support

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"Again, thanks for the support.

What about the coloured wristbands idea someone mentioned? I thought that was a good idea and make it easier to identify singles and couples in the club.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why not just lower the price for single men if you want more in? I for one wouldn't dream of paying 40/50 for entrance to a club. Understand the reasons why but think it puts most genuine guys off.

It puts genuine guys off? So all the guys I've seen in clubs must have been fakes then! Perhaps they were women in disguise?

£50 is too much. Full stop"

Yet you still go, as your constant club posts attest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Again, thanks for the support.

What about the coloured wristbands idea someone mentioned? I thought that was a good idea and make it easier to identify singles and couples in the club.

That would be a great idea, I have pissed off many women talking to their fellas at clubs, If they are stood alone how am I suppose to know they are with somebody

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