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By *amdacarr OP Couple
over a year ago
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Are there any clubs that have a higher proportion of younger guys?
Met a few at chameleons the other week, and hope to do so again this Friday, but most of the guys were late 30s 40s or older.
Perhaps the club thing doesn't appeal younger guys??? |
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over a year ago
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"Are there any clubs that have a higher proportion of younger guys?
Met a few at chameleons the other week, and hope to do so again this Friday, but most of the guys were late 30s 40s or older.
Perhaps the club thing doesn't appeal younger guys???"
I go to clubs, but I'm nearly 30, so maybe don't count lol. I'd have loved to have been visiting clubs from a younger age though as they're better than going out and getting shitfaced |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does appeal, but I would assume the majority of people there are older than me, and I suppose it's a little bit of a barrier. Then again, everyone is there for a similar reason, but the pricing may be a factor for some, I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've asked a number of the guys we meet this same question and two answers inevitably come up as to why they don't go to clubs:
1- it is too expensive for a young single guy
2- they don't want to go alone
We have yet to find a club where there is a decent number of guys in my preferred age range. It's best to go on big party nights and hope the volume gives a higher chance. In my opinion.
-Courtney |
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Iv been to a few clubs in Manchester. And it is expensive, but that doesn't bother me. But I'm not a keen goer cos the people there were all in their 40s,50s. Maybe if there was a club with a younger crowd il definitely be a regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've asked a number of the guys we meet this same question and two answers inevitably come up as to why they don't go to clubs:
1- it is too expensive for a young single guy
2- they don't want to go alone
We have yet to find a club where there is a decent number of guys in my preferred age range. It's best to go on big party nights and hope the volume gives a higher chance. In my opinion.
-Courtney"
I get the same. It's cheaper than a night on the piss by a long shot and it confuses me that they won't go alone, I don't understand why that matters |
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By *teed99Man
over a year ago
Kettering |
Being aware of visitors to The Vanilla Alternative, it would seem that people in their 20's (both girls and guys) usually come as couples or part of a larger group. There are plenty of them but as with all clubs, it changes from week to week as most are not very regular visitors. |
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I'm really eager to give a club a try. Amours sounds good but not sure where in the cc of Manchester it is. Price doesn't bother me just the going alone for the first ever time not knowing what to expect  |
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Started on the scene this year and been going to OurPlace4Fun on my own for a few months. Cost isn't much more than some of my mates spend on booze in a regular club and can't imagine going there with friends and seeing them have sex.  Definitely rather go alone.
I do still qualify as young, don't I??? |
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Hi _amdacarr (and rest of the thread)!
I'm a 21 year old guy (definitely of the slim variety), so resonate with what you're experiencing and what the reasons may be.
I agree the single guy prices can be an aspect, but it's not -always- and neither is it something that should be changed (supply/demand etc). Price as a sole excuse doesn't count, I think, as you could definitely save a little money even if you're usually strapped for cash. Once in a while is definitely possible and wouldn't stop me.
Going alone? Yes, I reckon that's a big reason. As a younger man, we know that we'll be a 'minority' in the ages there and it can be a little intimidating, especially when you see all these people who know what they're doing (or we think they do). Offering to go to a club -with- a younger guy, even just as buddies/not to play is something I'd wholly appreciate, for example.
But as for finding clubs that 'cater' to a younger male crowd, I've found it hard to find one myself. After mentioning that I'd like to try/have wondered about going to a club one night - the typical response I get is "just do it", "it's great" etc. Whilst that may be true, I think that women/couples underestimate how intimidating going for the first time, young & alone is. We often lack confidence & the know-how and are used to 1-on-1 scenarios more. Having groups of people playing/nude/etc is a little alien - and perhaps that's why it makes some anxious?
Hope this checks a few boxes? x |
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"Hi _amdacarr (and rest of the thread)!
I'm a 21 year old guy (definitely of the slim variety), so resonate with what you're experiencing and what the reasons may be.
I agree the single guy prices can be an aspect, but it's not -always- and neither is it something that should be changed (supply/demand etc). Price as a sole excuse doesn't count, I think, as you could definitely save a little money even if you're usually strapped for cash. Once in a while is definitely possible and wouldn't stop me.
Going alone? Yes, I reckon that's a big reason. As a younger man, we know that we'll be a 'minority' in the ages there and it can be a little intimidating, especially when you see all these people who know what they're doing (or we think they do). Offering to go to a club -with- a younger guy, even just as buddies/not to play is something I'd wholly appreciate, for example.
But as for finding clubs that 'cater' to a younger male crowd, I've found it hard to find one myself. After mentioning that I'd like to try/have wondered about going to a club one night - the typical response I get is "just do it", "it's great" etc. Whilst that may be true, I think that women/couples underestimate how intimidating going for the first time, young & alone is. We often lack confidence & the know-how and are used to 1-on-1 scenarios more. Having groups of people playing/nude/etc is a little alien - and perhaps that's why it makes some anxious?
Hope this checks a few boxes? x"
Well said. Exactly how I feel mate especially when never seen a room full of naked/half naked all playing.  |
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"I think that women/couples underestimate how intimidating going for the first time, young & alone is. We often lack confidence & the know-how and are used to 1-on-1 scenarios more. Having groups of people playing/nude/etc is a little alien - and perhaps that's why it makes some anxious?
Hope this checks a few boxes? x"
Eventhough it is not my case as before the swinging clubs I tried something different, I do agree.
However I still prefer 1-1, 2-1 or 3-1 meetings  |
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By *anB451Man
over a year ago
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I'd actually really like to go to a club but for me its the combination of the unknown and going alone.
I'd happily go to a bar on my own, but then I know how a bar works, what the etiquette's are etc. Where as a club is a total unknown.
The cash isn't an issue at all though as its cheaper than a night out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've asked a number of the guys we meet this same question and two answers inevitably come up as to why they don't go to clubs:
1- it is too expensive for a young single guy
2- they don't want to go alone
We have yet to find a club where there is a decent number of guys in my preferred age range. It's best to go on big party nights and hope the volume gives a higher chance. In my opinion.
-Courtney"
I used to think paying 25 quid was really expensive but if I go out and get wasted I usually spend around 50 to 100 quid. So for me, the cosy isn't the issue anymore, it's finding someone to go with or knowing that the club you're going to will welcome you. |
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To my mind younger single people have their own places, Like nightclubs and younger scene bars to go on the pull so to speak.
Having worked in hospitality and driven a taxi I know how an awful lot of late teens and twenty somethings behave on a night out especially after a couple of sherbets. Not sure they would add anything good to the experience for most of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To my mind younger single people have their own places, Like nightclubs and younger scene bars to go on the pull so to speak.
Having worked in hospitality and driven a taxi I know how an awful lot of late teens and twenty somethings behave on a night out especially after a couple of sherbets. Not sure they would add anything good to the experience for most of us."
Trust me they would this side of the fence.
When we have seen younger males in a club never been a problem. |
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"Trust me they would this side of the fence.
When we have seen younger males in a club never been a problem. "
By the way, what about young single girls in clubs??? It has always been the reason why I have never gone to swinger clubs in the past.
I went to my first social organised on here last weekend, and there was only one young couple!? I had to go in a normal club to know someone interesting  |
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there are some younger guys that attend Townhouse and the prices are very reasonable, with NO membership costs. Just need to attend an induction night. They also hold plenty events with cheaper prices.
The club is never swamped with unruly men, or too many. There is a good number of single ladies and couples too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I totally agree with this. I'm a young guy (25) and I was so nervous the first time I went to chams. I eventually bit the bullet and after a slow start finally found my feet, but I'd of felt a lot more confident if I wasn't alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a look at the Cougar & Cubs nights at Eurekas, a great night and lots of younger guys! 
Omg, you would have a ball! "
Coughars and cubs nights at eureekas are good.
The speed swinging is a good way to break thre ice. |
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Iv been to two swingers clubs. And although I had a good time I found them cliquey and full of older people. So I didn't feel comfortable. I would go again, but probably if I can persuade a female friend. As for price. I don't think it's an issue. Once u get membership out of the way, it's £25 to get in, when I go on a night out I end up paying double that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are there any clubs that have a higher proportion of younger guys?
Met a few at chameleons the other week, and hope to do so again this Friday, but most of the guys were late 30s 40s or older.
Perhaps the club thing doesn't appeal younger guys???"
I'm 26 and I have a strong interest in the club scene... |
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"We've asked a number of the guys we meet this same question and two answers inevitably come up as to why they don't go to clubs:
1- it is too expensive for a young single guy
2- they don't want to go alone
We have yet to find a club where there is a decent number of guys in my preferred age range. It's best to go on big party nights and hope the volume gives a higher chance. In my opinion.
-Courtney
I get the same. It's cheaper than a night on the piss by a long shot and it confuses me that they won't go alone, I don't understand why that matters"
Maybe the era of people being sociable has dwindles somewhat? Guys used to go out drinking etc by themselves and chat with everyone.
Who is at a club is a random thing, though it's less likely that there are tons of younger people, who are also my preference. When I go on busy days though there are usually enough attractive people to make it a great night. |
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"Are there any clubs that have a higher proportion of younger guys?
Met a few at chameleons the other week, and hope to do so again this Friday, but most of the guys were late 30s 40s or older.
Perhaps the club thing doesn't appeal younger guys???"
I am now a member of Chams. No worries |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is one of the reasons I haven't yet braved a club- as I usually play with 25-early 30s and I'd be afraid of being the youngest girl there with no one in my age range. |
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Cougars and cubs at eurekas is a great night for younger guys, I have been to that and a numerous of clubs.... Abfabs, TH, infusions and eurekas and find its a mix of all ages of both sexes, but the real reason is just the Unknown, but swinging shouldn't be about age, I'm 22 but more mature (so I have been told) than majority of what would be classes as Middle Aged men,
Advice for the OP and any other you g guys, look at the clubs that host young nights (cougars and cubs) and others that do newbie nights( TH, tease and others) and just remember everyone was a newbie, treat it as a pub where you have to contribute to the conversation and you will make friends for life in this lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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young people are looking to have sex without having relationships but talking to my son at uni you definitely don't need a sex club to get it regular and the girls appear to be as eager as the lads to experience life, but as we all get older we look for a partner or relationship and part of that pleasure is the courting
a lot of our mature friends met through swinging who are single are out of failed relationships for various reasons and have no real desire for another one soon so clubs and swinging are a great way for them to get sex without all the courting crap that goes with it. So based on the amount our lads getting at 22 he and his mates will have no need for any clubs for a long time yet. Maybe that's why we don't get many younger people in clubs |
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" young people are looking to have sex without having relationships but talking to my son at uni you definitely don't need a sex club to get it regular and the girls appear to be as eager as the lads to experience life, but as we all get older we look for a partner or relationship and part of that pleasure is the courting
a lot of our mature friends met through swinging who are single are out of failed relationships for various reasons and have no real desire for another one soon so clubs and swinging are a great way for them to get sex without all the courting crap that goes with it. So based on the amount our lads getting at 22 he and his mates will have no need for any clubs for a long time yet. Maybe that's why we don't get many younger people in clubs"
Wrong, because:
1) quality of sex is very low (unfortunately for now I need to say it is like that also in clubs...hope to change my mind soon...)
2) impossible to have MFF experiences
3) it is not easy at all in UK. Young girls think to drink and get drugs. Also in swinger clubs as far as my short experience!?!? |
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By *ft4ChrisMan
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Like it has already been said young guys like myself find the thought of going alone rather than the cost to be the problem. I want to go and have been looking at visiting Townhouse but I dont like the idea of going by myself and also what to fully expect. As like anything in life we get a picture in ourhead and it ends up not been anything like what we thought.
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"This is one of the reasons I haven't yet braved a club- as I usually play with 25-early 30s and I'd be afraid of being the youngest girl there with no one in my age range. "
I agree, infact I am trying these things only now at 28...there is people of my and your age though in the best clubs. So you could come 
PS: I do not really like how people behave in clubs though. I do prefer quality on quantity. One meeting, for the whole night. Not just playing, doing nothing with everyone  |
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I went to my first swingers club when I was 25, I don't think the price was a problem I wasn't earning much then and had my own house and the price is just similar to a normal night out and the added bonus I didn't have to pay a taxi fare home! As I drove..
Like others have said its getting the bottle to go there on your own, I picked up the courage as I had arranged to meet a couple there unfortunately they didn't show! So it was a lot of walkin around and the odd chat to a cpl..all the other single blokes could tell I was new and chatted to me also which was good.
I went to partners and I think it was a bloke called Clive who showed me around and told me all the do's and don't which made the experience very easy..
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By *D-1Man
over a year ago
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" young people are looking to have sex without having relationships but talking to my son at uni you definitely don't need a sex club to get it regular and the girls appear to be as eager as the lads to experience life, but as we all get older we look for a partner or relationship and part of that pleasure is the courting
a lot of our mature friends met through swinging who are single are out of failed relationships for various reasons and have no real desire for another one soon so clubs and swinging are a great way for them to get sex without all the courting crap that goes with it. So based on the amount our lads getting at 22 he and his mates will have no need for any clubs for a long time yet. Maybe that's why we don't get many younger people in clubs"
Spot on |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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"Iv been to a few clubs in Manchester. And it is expensive, but that doesn't bother me. But I'm not a keen goer cos the people there were all in their 40s,50s. Maybe if there was a club with a younger crowd il definitely be a regular"
think it's fair to say that swinging is a more mature persons hobby (not to say younger people don't try it). However, younger people go to night clubs to get parners, then they have new relationships,babies and young children. Not much time for swinging The older generation's kids are a bit older, can look after themselves & have a little more money. In my opinion swingers are 90% people in the 35-60 year old age range. So unless you want to watch mature people fucking, get along to a night club where all your peers are.
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" young people are looking to have sex without having relationships but talking to my son at uni you definitely don't need a sex club to get it regular and the girls appear to be as eager as the lads to experience life, but as we all get older we look for a partner or relationship and part of that pleasure is the courting
a lot of our mature friends met through swinging who are single are out of failed relationships for various reasons and have no real desire for another one soon so clubs and swinging are a great way for them to get sex without all the courting crap that goes with it. So based on the amount our lads getting at 22 he and his mates will have no need for any clubs for a long time yet. Maybe that's why we don't get many younger people in clubs
Wrong, because:
1) quality of sex is very low (unfortunately for now I need to say it is like that also in clubs...hope to change my mind soon...)
2) impossible to have MFF experiences
3) it is not easy at all in UK. Young girls think to drink and get drugs. Also in swinger clubs as far as my short experience!?!?"
Can we have that in English: because what you've written make no sense to anyone out side of anyone under 30.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a 20 year old I want to go to the club's.
Money isn't an issue but I'm a shy person and I would feel very nervous going alone.
From the threads I have read on here and the profiles I have seen it seems alot of the people who go have experience which I feel I lack and even though I am mature for my age I feel as if I would say or do the wrong thing by accident |
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To the OP
I note you've hidden your profile so no one knows your age preference desires etc!
Are you a cougar looking to eat (consume a cub) or of similar age?
But im my experience when attending clubs with my younger ex-partner the YOUNGER guys don't know how to behave or RESPECT women
They either seem to expect the woman to do all the work and just pointing at their cock is enough to initiate the action they want without putting any effort on their part (even engaging in a simple conversation). Or they are just unable to cope with the open advances of women more experienced than them. Or Just TOOO nervous and unable to cope with the situation!
Maybe the OP is looking for the impossible. (like the strong silent type that will talk to me and share his feelings) - IT AINT GONNA HAPPEN.
Sharing sex with a couple require experience and understanding of the couples dynamic. or maybe they don't find you attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a very confident guy and still wouldn't go alone just to ensure I don't make myself look like a cock by doing something wrong or improper .. I wouldn't want to disrespect anyone.. I'm sure loads of guys feel the same way.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've met & spoken to quite a few men who were at Kestrels for their first visit. One I thought I recognised from the forums so went and spoke to him & showed him around the place.
I can't speak for all clubs but Kestrels during the day is a very friendly place. I'll show you round & say hi if I'm there |
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"Are there any clubs that have a higher proportion of younger guys?
Met a few at chameleons the other week, and hope to do so again this Friday, but most of the guys were late 30s 40s or older.
Perhaps the club thing doesn't appeal younger guys???"
I'm 23 and I would love to attend a club but for some reason I always end up getting so nervous |
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By *D-1Man
over a year ago
London |
I've been around the club scene for 15 years and it's my preferred method of meeting new people. I actually think it's perfectly acceptable for mature ladies to play with younger guys. But funnily enough find it wrong for older guys (like moi) to play with girls in their 20's. Obviously that's just my view and don't mean to offend other old fuckers who like young girls. Fab is a great medium for everyone to chat and arrange to meet in clubs. Nearly all the clubs around the country have lockable play rooms, so if it's privacy you want, you've got it. I think it'd be wrong for young guys to pay less from the point of fairness. I believe the majority of ladies don't like playing with younger guys and this is borne out of experience and the fact that my partner (who in my opinion is one of the hottest women on fab), wouldn't want to play with someone under 35). So in conclusion all you sexy mature ladies pick the guy/guys you like and invite them to your favourite or nearest venue and job done. |
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