Single females are very sort after on here but after going to a few social i have been finding the males wanting to chat but the females not being to happy.I spoke to a few other single fems and they said they dont go with couples any more as they have had bad times Whats been your experiences? |
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"Single females are very sort after on here but after going to a few social i have been finding the males wanting to chat but the females not being to happy.I spoke to a few other single fems and they said they dont go with couples any more as they have had bad times Whats been your experiences? "
are you off to Manchester social dee
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You have to have the balls to say sorry not Interested in a chat if you go to a club or a social
But no harm in making friends ! In fact , making friends is the way forward .
Depends what you look for but when I was on the scene properly I had one bad experience with a couple (well established in swinging ) she got jealous and ended up making life kinda shit for me for a while .
From then on only know swinging couples as friends and would only meet Single guys at clubs |
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"Single females are very sort after on here but after going to a few social i have been finding the males wanting to chat but the females not being to happy.I spoke to a few other single fems and they said they dont go with couples any more as they have had bad times Whats been your experiences? are you off to Manchester social dee"
Yes i will be there next weekend x |
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I think it very much depends on the couple,
You have those who only play as a couple with another couple, not looking for a single of either gender. It could be because of jealousy or that is just how they wish to play, but I have never encountered any open jealousy in the 4 years I've been doing this.
Of course you could be prettier, younger or have a better figure than the Mrs or the husband is showing you a bit too much attention, this I have seen in a club.
But as part of a couple myself I find that sometimes single women are very careful to make sure that I am totally happy with them chatting or even playing with my husband. Makes me wonder what experiences they have had in the past.
But I don't have a jealous bone in my body, my husband is free to play with any woman who would have him  |
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My experience is very different, with couples, its been the woman making the first move with me....which for me, can be quite intimidating if pushy....and believe me they can!! Now i think about it, it wouldnt be tolerated if a guy! Ive had nothing but positive experiences really, and i have the option to say no to men and women at the end of the day. And if i dont feel inclined to play with anybody, being social and having a laugh is just as good. Which is probably why i am careful about the clubs i go too! |
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V here. Like the Queen of Tarts I don't ever get jealous. I am delighted if someone wants to share with Adam with me either including me or excluding. All I need is a little nod or glance from him or the other person so I know all are happy and he can do as he chooses .
When I am clubbing on my own I tend to avoid becoming the extra F in a FFM fantasy. I am bisexual and will happily meet and have sex with another woman but not for a man's pleasure (unless it's Adam) I've been there done that and whilst nothing bad happened, I find it quite dull. I will pile in when lots of couples are playing together. I like multiple pile ups of any gender. I have once upset another woman in a club, her fella wanted to play and I picked up on something so flirted a while with them both then extracated myself from their clutches only to be followed to the loo by the woman in tears demanding some action.
I don't respond to requests from couples who are just looking for extra pussy. Again .... Dull. Although there are a few couples we have met where I have been, and continue to be, very happy to play with on my own.
There's something for everyone though so respect and open communication is key.
V x
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Yes, I've found this too. Some women see a single fems as a threat. However, there are plenty of couples who don't, so it's just a case of bumping into the right people. |
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"Single females are very sort after on here but after going to a few social i have been finding the males wanting to chat but the females not being to happy.I spoke to a few other single fems and they said they dont go with couples any more as they have had bad times Whats been your experiences? "
I think it's the branding that sometimes gets in the way.
Some couples are too far on the spectrum of wanting a single female that it sometimes comes across to the point of desperate, and can be off putting.
Some females then get lost in the whole single female situation because they are so sort after and sometimes act in a way they may think they are expected to act and not be themselves, but instead acting to some stereotypicalised (not sure if this is a listed word, but I'm using it) expectation.
Not sure how many females would agree but the "unicorn" thing sometimes does come across as an unfortunate, unwanted pressure and a type of stigma that perhaps shouldn't be there.
We have been extremely fortunate to date with the majority of our meets, be it singles females, couples or multiple females. And I think this is because we treat our approach to singles in EXACTLY the same way we approach couples and treat the initial engaging no different to learn if everyone is comfortable with taking it further.
That's not to say we haven't ended up having some spontaneous play that included a single female (didn't know they were single at the time, but credit to the wonderful person she was).
But I think our successful experiences with single females is due to the fact that they have been comfortable in themselves and clearly comfortable with both of us: Jordan in the sense that he (hopefully) doesn't come across in that desperate way and Lizzie (hopefully) doesn't come across jealous. I think these two things make the lady feel comfortable to progress things and we have had once only and repeat meets with single fems.
Touching on the jealousy issue. I will admit that at times we both get jealous twangs (under control I hasten to add) but I don't think nothing is wrong with this, even in swinging. We are confident in our relationship and make assurances to each other when we swing.
It doesn't ruin our (or the other people's) night and it doesn't happen all the time. Only on rare occasions, and strangely at times or with people that you wouldn't expect it to.
So our experiences have been positive. We've met lots and lots of single females on the scene and played with quite a few, some we haven't but maybe will in the future should the opportunity arrive and the moment is right, and some we just wouldn't play with but nevertheless really enjoy their company.
However, that rings true of couples also.
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I always ask what the boundaries are if I'm playing with a couple & keep to them, as I would expect them to keep to my boundaries (if I had any!) & I haven't had a bad experience by sticking to that |
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I have had bad experiences with single females since we became a couple..( things like waiting till I am not there to ask Mr to play) Or touching me or him without asking...
However, as a couple we are open and friendly to all, be it guys, gals or couples that talk to us.. We will be social to all...
I however even if I did play alone wouldnt meet as a single female with a couple as I wouldnt want to be the extra Female.
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"Single females are very sort after on here but after going to a few social i have been finding the males wanting to chat but the females not being to happy.I spoke to a few other single fems and they said they dont go with couples any more as they have had bad times Whats been your experiences? are you off to Manchester social dee
Will buy you a drinky x
Yes i will be there next weekend x"
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I haven't had bad experiences with couples, but do tend to associate more with those that meet both sexes rather than just fems. I feel it is more of a relaxed situation as not a feeling of being pressurised. I normally get on with the female within a couple who only meet fems but within the couples i've come across the male has seemed a bit pushy. So it's fallen naturally for me to associate with couples that meet both |
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