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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey
So recently been encouraged to attend a club by a few different women. Before i go was wondering what do people feel should be the etiquette shown by a single male?
I know the basics of don't stare, follow, hide in corner but are there any subtle ones which turn you into a more welcome participant  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"we like it in the bar area at Chams if a guy comes and says hi, too many don't. Basics lie smiling and conversation are attractive traits. Good luck OP  "
Thanks i think that's the most daunting aspect! just need to man up me thinks x |
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"we like it in the bar area at Chams if a guy comes and says hi, too many don't. Basics lie smiling and conversation are attractive traits. Good luck OP
Thanks i think that's the most daunting aspect! just need to man up me thinks x"
Be confident,and understand people are NOT there to be nasty or aloof. Be yourself. Thinking aloud, when you arrive and are paying etc, if there are people arriving at same time say hi - we played with a guy last time we went who we spoke to on arrival, good ice breaker. cheers |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
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As others have said you need to chat to folks, everything else follows. It is sad the amount of guys that think just being there at the right time will get them invited to play!
So saying hello in the changing room, chatting at the bar or in the hot tub all break the ice.
As a couple we are there to play the same way you are. x
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"Probably a stupid question - no clubs here
How much is it in for males "
Work out clubs of interest to you, go to the Clubs tab and visit their websites and check prices and/or email clubs for more info |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey
So recently been encouraged to attend a club by a few different women. Before i go was wondering what do people feel should be the etiquette shown by a single male?
I know the basics of don't stare, follow, hide in corner but are there any subtle ones which turn you into a more welcome participant "
We don't play with guys but one thing that's starting to bug me about a club we go to is being followed, particularly in to the sauna where it's a small space anyway and not saying hello. I'd say hi when walking into one in a gym but not in a club? I would definitely echo the other comments, just common courtesy goes a long way, makes me feel like less of a performing seal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My advice would be for your first club visit either arrange to meet people there in advance or go as a couple ~ I think you'd have a much more positive experience which you could use when you go the time after on your own. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hey
So recently been encouraged to attend a club by a few different women. Before i go was wondering what do people feel should be the etiquette shown by a single male?
I know the basics of don't stare, follow, hide in corner but are there any subtle ones which turn you into a more welcome participant "
nope....
talk to people... and i mean talk to people, not just a female half of a couple you may be interested in....
and don't be an arse......
that about covers it!!! |
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"Hey
So recently been encouraged to attend a club by a few different women. Before i go was wondering what do people feel should be the etiquette shown by a single male?
I know the basics of don't stare, follow, hide in corner but are there any subtle ones which turn you into a more welcome participant
nope....
talk to people... and i mean talk to people, not just a female half of a couple you may be interested in....
and don't be an arse......
that about covers it!!! "
 wise words and succinct! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey
So recently been encouraged to attend a club by a few different women. Before i go was wondering what do people feel should be the etiquette shown by a single male?
I know the basics of don't stare, follow, hide in corner but are there any subtle ones which turn you into a more welcome participant
nope....
talk to people... and i mean talk to people, not just a female half of a couple you may be interested in....
and don't be an arse......
that about covers it!!! "
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"talk to people... and i mean talk to people, not just a female half of a couple you may be interested in...."
From a female point of view..... four things which have happened on the last 3 visits
Single guy nearby...waits till my fella went to changing room... suddenly starts to try and engage me in conversation... my guy comes back and he does one
While standing at the bar... single guys who come up to within an inch of you almost rubbing up against you... and no the bar area WASNT crowded
Stood talking to someone and the d*unken male half of a couple nearby tried to put the lips on me.... dont think he was expecting the "sac-tap" in return
Whilst playing in an open area, one did the "standard operating procedure" of choking his chicken whilst edging closer and closer to me ..... the shake of the head wasn`t acted upon but being loudly told to go forth and multiply had the desired effect |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"talk to people... and i mean talk to people, not just a female half of a couple you may be interested in....
From a female point of view..... four things which have happened on the last 3 visits
Single guy nearby...waits till my fella went to changing room... suddenly starts to try and engage me in conversation... my guy comes back and he does one
While standing at the bar... single guys who come up to within an inch of you almost rubbing up against you... and no the bar area WASNT crowded
Stood talking to someone and the d*unken male half of a couple nearby tried to put the lips on me.... dont think he was expecting the "sac-tap" in return
Whilst playing in an open area, one did the "standard operating procedure" of choking his chicken whilst edging closer and closer to me ..... the shake of the head wasn`t acted upon but being loudly told to go forth and multiply had the desired effect"
Tbh this is enough to put me off going... Its that kind of behaviour which has put me off clubs as its the opposite of fun and sexy   |
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By *jxxxxCouple
over a year ago
Leeds |
Make eye contact, smile, then man up and make an approach - even if it's to the husband while he is at the bar or something. Just need to be fairly casual but relatively low be identified about it. But if it doesn't work in a vanilla bar in town on a sat night, it won't work in a club!!!
If a couple is there on a night single guys are allowed, we're not stupid, we do our research, we are interested in a single guy to join us.
Well done you for asking the advice, too many single guys give all us guys a bad name. Enjoy it, the sexually charged atmosphere is amazing. You won't be everyone's cup of tea obviously so chat with a few people just be social. But one thing i can say as a bit of advice to a fellow guy - the good guys always get snapped up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be chatty and relax in the social areas. We always check people out in this area and go and talk to people we want to play with. Win over the social side and the rest will follow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"talk to people... and i mean talk to people, not just a female half of a couple you may be interested in....
From a female point of view..... four things which have happened on the last 3 visits
Single guy nearby...waits till my fella went to changing room... suddenly starts to try and engage me in conversation... my guy comes back and he does one
While standing at the bar... single guys who come up to within an inch of you almost rubbing up against you... and no the bar area WASNT crowded
Stood talking to someone and the d*unken male half of a couple nearby tried to put the lips on me.... dont think he was expecting the "sac-tap" in return
Whilst playing in an open area, one did the "standard operating procedure" of choking his chicken whilst edging closer and closer to me ..... the shake of the head wasn`t acted upon but being loudly told to go forth and multiply had the desired effect
Tbh this is enough to put me off going... Its that kind of behaviour which has put me off clubs as its the opposite of fun and sexy "
Don't be put off. You appear to be a considerate man who cares about how he comes across, that will stand you in good stead. The North West clubs are very friendly, perhaps look at the reviews in the forums and then just bite the bullet. You'll be fine |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can't quote all the replies but thanks. You have certainly helped. I think as you have all said it's a case of stop wondering and bite the bullet... I'll either like it or not but either way I'll know...
Now to review the clubs and pick the one which seems to be the most suited...  |
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Well we have been only to Chameleons but if you go there, once inside and changed get yourself a coffee and spend some time in the bar area. Great place to meet people. Oh ask for a LARGE towel on arrival cos on most guys the standard one is a little small! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Off to townhouse on 7th now. Wish me luck break a leg, we are dying to visit there, people that run it are lovely
I hope he doesn't, I have plans for him 
blimey that's a bit forward, ya minx....!have fun "
Haha we've been chatting for a little while, I offered to hold his hand, amongst other things, at Townhouse...I'm selfless like that |
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"Off to townhouse on 7th now. Wish me luck break a leg, we are dying to visit there, people that run it are lovely
I hope he doesn't, I have plans for him
blimey that's a bit forward, ya minx....!have fun
Haha we've been chatting for a little while, I offered to hold his hand, amongst other things, at Townhouse...I'm selfless like that "
all heart...! have fun x |
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