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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Dear all,
I've recently accepted I want to be party of the swinging club community and wanted to clear up a few questions and obviously hear some valued opinions of yours.
To give you the low down I'm a 26 year old single guy and find this site difficult to get my personality across without someone judging me by my pictures.
I think if I had the chance to meet people it would be great to be part of the social side of the clubs along side the naughty side.
What do I have to expect at the club? Do I walk in and everyone's chatting ? I literally have no idea on what to expect or what to look out for ? Is it mainly 90% men as my stereotypical view would cast ?
Look forward to hearing from you
Tommy |
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"Dear all,
I've recently accepted I want to be party of the swinging club community and wanted to clear up a few questions and obviously hear some valued opinions of yours.
To give you the low down I'm a 26 year old single guy and find this site difficult to get my personality across without someone judging me by my pictures.
I think if I had the chance to meet people it would be great to be part of the social side of the clubs along side the naughty side.
What do I have to expect at the club? Do I walk in and everyone's chatting ? I literally have no idea on what to expect or what to look out for ? Is it mainly 90% men as my stereotypical view would cast ?
Look forward to hearing from you
Tommy "
I pretty much think your view is wrong lol. Alot of clubs limit the numbers of single guys so they aren't inundated with them. We do at a club I work in. If a new single guy comes into the club I would show him round and explain how the club situation works and the etiquette we expect off single guys.
I would then introduce him to people whether they be regulars or new and they either come and speak to me at the bar and have a bit of a laugh or normally tend to chat and speak to people I've introduced them too. Just because you're talking to people doesn't mean you are initiating play.
Most guys soon find their feet and if you have good social skills and can conversate you will have a great night regardless if you play or not. Most of my playmates have been from meeting and building rapport in clubs having got to know them over a period of time and I find now if the chemistry and banter is there then the looks aren't at the top of the list.  |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"Dear all,
I've recently accepted I want to be party of the swinging club community and wanted to clear up a few questions and obviously hear some valued opinions of yours.
To give you the low down I'm a 26 year old single guy and find this site difficult to get my personality across without someone judging me by my pictures.
I think if I had the chance to meet people it would be great to be part of the social side of the clubs along side the naughty side.
What do I have to expect at the club? Do I walk in and everyone's chatting ? I literally have no idea on what to expect or what to look out for ? Is it mainly 90% men as my stereotypical view would cast ?
Look forward to hearing from you
Tommy
I pretty much think your view is wrong lol. Alot of clubs limit the numbers of single guys so they aren't inundated with them. We do at a club I work in. If a new single guy comes into the club I would show him round and explain how the club situation works and the etiquette we expect off single guys.
I would then introduce him to people whether they be regulars or new and they either come and speak to me at the bar and have a bit of a laugh or normally tend to chat and speak to people I've introduced them too. Just because you're talking to people doesn't mean you are initiating play.
Most guys soon find their feet and if you have good social skills and can conversate you will have a great night regardless if you play or not. Most of my playmates have been from meeting and building rapport in clubs having got to know them over a period of time and I find now if the chemistry and banter is there then the looks aren't at the top of the list. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to understand Tommy its about looks and nothing more. If you are good looking and well built you will definitely get laid. If you are not attractive you will be labeled "creepy" that's code word for not attractive enough to play. That's the truth, I hope this clears it up for you. Unfortunately its all about what type of shape your in and how attractive you are. When the ladies tell you that you are creepy or give them a bad vibe translation is you are not attractive enough to play with. |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"Dear all,
I've recently accepted I want to be party of the swinging club community and wanted to clear up a few questions and obviously hear some valued opinions of yours.
To give you the low down I'm a 26 year old single guy and find this site difficult to get my personality across without someone judging me by my pictures.
I think if I had the chance to meet people it would be great to be part of the social side of the clubs along side the naughty side.
What do I have to expect at the club? Do I walk in and everyone's chatting ? I literally have no idea on what to expect or what to look out for ? Is it mainly 90% men as my stereotypical view would cast ?
Look forward to hearing from you
Tommy
I pretty much think your view is wrong lol. Alot of clubs limit the numbers of single guys so they aren't inundated with them. We do at a club I work in. If a new single guy comes into the club I would show him round and explain how the club situation works and the etiquette we expect off single guys.
I would then introduce him to people whether they be regulars or new and they either come and speak to me at the bar and have a bit of a laugh or normally tend to chat and speak to people I've introduced them too. Just because you're talking to people doesn't mean you are initiating play.
Most guys soon find their feet and if you have good social skills and can conversate you will have a great night regardless if you play or not. Most of my playmates have been from meeting and building rapport in clubs having got to know them over a period of time and I find now if the chemistry and banter is there then the looks aren't at the top of the list. "
Spot on, I couldnt have put it better myself. The more you put in the more you get out. Dont slope off and sit in a corner or youll sit there a;; night on your own, socialise at the bar, make new friends, play is a bonus. Have fun |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"You have to understand Tommy its about looks and nothing more. If you are good looking and well built you will definitely get laid. If you are not attractive you will be labeled "creepy" that's code word for not attractive enough to play. That's the truth, I hope this clears it up for you. Unfortunately its all about what type of shape your in and how attractive you are. When the ladies tell you that you are creepy or give them a bad vibe translation is you are not attractive enough to play with."
This is so not true, my OH and many other ladies say it's also about personality. A man needs to be able to mix and socialise so that people can get to know him.
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We as a club limit the amount of single guys that come along and we do like to see verifications saying that your a nice guy from either a couple or single lady, which you have so you would be more than welcome to come along here if your around the area, you would need to book in first though as we do limit single guys. You also seem to be chatty so that is a big plus, I hope this helps, you just need to go along to a club and chat and have fun without expecting sex, then people will warm to you and you will get invites. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"You have to understand Tommy its about looks and nothing more. If you are good looking and well built you will definitely get laid. If you are not attractive you will be labeled "creepy" that's code word for not attractive enough to play. That's the truth, I hope this clears it up for you. Unfortunately its all about what type of shape your in and how attractive you are. When the ladies tell you that you are creepy or give them a bad vibe translation is you are not attractive enough to play with."
actually its all about attitude..if guys have a nice vibe about them..they get invites no matter their age or looks..ive watched couples and talked to them about how they watch guys 'behaviour',,as a single female going to clubs..i see who get invited and who doesnt and its obvious why... |
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