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Has anyone here stayed in the hotel during a club?
What's it like?
Obviously we want to attend the club too, but wondered if we should stay there or a local hotel as having problems getting hold of VA to book.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We stayed there. You would be crazy not too. So convenient, decent little room, just makes complete sense. "
Only stayed there once but when I do go again I will book anther room for the night, Fantastic club |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We stay there most times we visit. Very handy. Their office is shut Mon/Tues I think. We usually find Thursday-Sunday best to get hold of them or e-mail xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rooms are fine and it's great to freshen up in private too!Last time we went we could't get a room as they were all full and we were soo disappointed! VA is a lovely club. We've been a few times and wish it was closer! Enjoy!  |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I've got to ask ...... What is vanilla as in the sexual use not the flavour .... Lol ..... I really don't know "
Vanilla people are "regular" "normal" people who are sexually monogamous. Swingers are people who are sexually non-monogamous |
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"I've got to ask ...... What is vanilla as in the sexual use not the flavour .... Lol ..... I really don't know
Vanilla people are "regular" "normal" people who are sexually monogamous. Swingers are people who are sexually non-monogamous "
Vanilla has always been normal penetrative sex, monogamous or not.
Non vanilla sex is usually fetish, bdsm, toy, gay and lesbian sex. |
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Stay at the hotel attached if you can. The rooms are pretty basic but the convenience and having somewhere orivate to play if you so wish, not to mention after the club closes activities are worth every penny!
At the festival of fun though it's worth camping next to us because that will be loads and loads of fun lol
Xxx |
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By *teed99Man
over a year ago
Kettering |
The previous post mentioned The Festival of Fun. For those that might be interested, it is over the weekend of 7th/8th/9th August this year. Starts on Friday night and goes through to Sunday morning. Loads of people staying in the hotel rooms on site, camping and caravans on the outside areas, and people making full use of all the local hotels.
I've been to the last 2 and it really is a fun place to be. Bookings are already being taken at the club's reception. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've got to ask ...... What is vanilla as in the sexual use not the flavour .... Lol ..... I really don't know
Vanilla people are "regular" "normal" people who are sexually monogamous. Swingers are people who are sexually non-monogamous
Vanilla has always been normal penetrative sex, monogamous or not.
Non vanilla sex is usually fetish, bdsm, toy, gay and lesbian sex."
well it might well be but why point score?for nearly everyone in swinging these days vanilla means non swingers i would say 99% would give this answer. |
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"I've got to ask ...... What is vanilla as in the sexual use not the flavour .... Lol ..... I really don't know
Vanilla people are "regular" "normal" people who are sexually monogamous. Swingers are people who are sexually non-monogamous
Vanilla has always been normal penetrative sex, monogamous or not.
Non vanilla sex is usually fetish, bdsm, toy, gay and lesbian sex.
well it might well be but why point score?for nearly everyone in swinging these days vanilla means non swingers i would say 99% would give this answer."
Didn't sound like point scoring - it's a question of semantics, and I for one am grateful for both elucidations of term. |
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"Well I've just got through and booked!
Very excited. Although I've been to swingers events before this time I'm very much hoping to participate  "
Cool! When have you booked for? We booked the Festival of fun this morning too. Sooooo excited! |
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We have popped our cherry of swinging clubs with VA. We stayed in the hotel for a weekend. I would consider their rooms basic but clean and very useful as other fab have explained in previous posts. I will definitely book again next time we go. Xxx |
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We are going tomorrow.
Can't wait. Bit nervous (which I guess is usual for a first time) but really want to get involved. ??
As people have said, we're not staying for the room... Just the convenience.
Eeeek. Hope we mingle well and find some playmates.
We are both playing alone as well as together, so fingers crossed and wish me luck. |
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"We are going tomorrow.
Can't wait. Bit nervous (which I guess is usual for a first time) but really want to get involved. ??
As people have said, we're not staying for the room... Just the convenience.
Eeeek. Hope we mingle well and find some playmates.
We are both playing alone as well as together, so fingers crossed and wish me luck. "
It's great club. Tell them it's your first time and they'll look after you.
You'll have a great time!!
Just don't be a wall flower
Good luck
Xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He forgot to mention its a family run club .... lol
That's a good thing - is it not?!?
It really is a good thing xx "
I think so too. I've been to VA many a time and always had a great night. The owners are lovely. xx |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I've got to ask ...... What is vanilla as in the sexual use not the flavour .... Lol ..... I really don't know
Vanilla people are "regular" "normal" people who are sexually monogamous. Swingers are people who are sexually non-monogamous
Vanilla has always been normal penetrative sex, monogamous or not.
Non vanilla sex is usually fetish, bdsm, toy, gay and lesbian sex."
The Vanilla Alternative is primarily a swingers club rather than primarily a fetish, name, toy, gay or lesbian club. I assume this is because you would go there for an Alternative to Vanilla sex with your own partner.
The Life on the Swing Set podcast, episode 77: Words Matter - Vanilla vs Swinging, polyamory, and Open [relationships] is a whole episode about it.
But Vanilla can be used in a much broader context to mean plain or boring. But within swinging I have only known it to mean monogamous people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to say we went to VA last saturday, and trust us it has the WOW factor !!
The owners are amazing as are their family, and their hospitality to us was second to none !
As for the venue WOW ! Everything you could ask for and more, beautifully decorated, fantastic play areas and an awesome jacuzzi ( even though we didnt dip in this time ) Music was awesome and the DJ top notch.
We would highly recommend VA to anyone whether first timers or veterans lol, we will definitely be returning so watch the forums for some news on the festival of fun coming soon
S and J x |
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Can I ask some basic questions?
Who is responsible for condoms? Male, female or the one who initiates play?
How do you ask someone to play? Simple as "would you like to play/go to the play area?" After a bit of conversation?
Errrrr. If I get a bit worn out is it ok to lube up? Lol. 
So many questions.
I don't want to plan, just go with the flow, but I also don't want to make any mistakes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask some basic questions?
Who is responsible for condoms? Male, female or the one who initiates play?
How do you ask someone to play? Simple as "would you like to play/go to the play area?" After a bit of conversation?
Errrrr. If I get a bit worn out is it ok to lube up? Lol.
So many questions.
I don't want to plan, just go with the flow, but I also don't want to make any mistakes! "
Only you can take responsibility for your own sexual health. There are usually condoms around the place but why wouldn't you take your own and be sure you have what you want? We take our little swing kit with condoms, lube and other stuff we might need
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"Can I ask some basic questions?
Who is responsible for condoms? Male, female or the one who initiates play?
How do you ask someone to play? Simple as "would you like to play/go to the play area?" After a bit of conversation?
Errrrr. If I get a bit worn out is it ok to lube up? Lol.
So many questions.
I don't want to plan, just go with the flow, but I also don't want to make any mistakes!
Only you can take responsibility for your own sexual health. There are usually condoms around the place but why wouldn't you take your own and be sure you have what you want? We take our little swing kit with condoms, lube and other stuff we might need
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Great. I had the "kit" idea in mind but didn't want to come across as "super uptight cautious newbie".
You've really put my mind at ease. Thank you. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
Every man SHOULD supply his own condoms so that he has ones that he likes, that fit properly etc. But it's not a bad idea to have some back up ones as well.
In the VA, we generally find their are 3 stages: the clothed social, the hot tub, and the play time. So if you wanted to play with someone it would depend where you were in the night. For example if you were having a drink with them, after a while you could ask if they wanted to move the conversation to the hot tub, or get to know each other better in the hot tub. If you are already chatting in the hot tub you might ask if it's OK to touch or to kiss etc.
It's a great place, we really enjoy it there |
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"Can I ask some basic questions?
Who is responsible for condoms? Male, female or the one who initiates play?
How do you ask someone to play? Simple as "would you like to play/go to the play area?" After a bit of conversation?
Errrrr. If I get a bit worn out is it ok to lube up? Lol.
So many questions.
I don't want to plan, just go with the flow, but I also don't want to make any mistakes!
Only you can take responsibility for your own sexual health. There are usually condoms around the place but why wouldn't you take your own and be sure you have what you want? We take our little swing kit with condoms, lube and other stuff we might need
Great. I had the "kit" idea in mind but didn't want to come across as "super uptight cautious newbie".
You've really put my mind at ease. Thank you. "
We have a 'shag bag' as well lol
We like to use skyns because then you have any latex allergies covered as well
Lube is cool. Best policy is just ask. Be polite and spill it. We love that open honesty! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are going tomorrow.
Can't wait. Bit nervous (which I guess is usual for a first time) but really want to get involved. ??
As people have said, we're not staying for the room... Just the convenience.
Eeeek. Hope we mingle well and find some playmates.
We are both playing alone as well as together, so fingers crossed and wish me luck. "
We're off tomorrow too, love the place but rarely get chance to go. The owners are really friendly and will give you a tour and explain etiquette but if you want a friendly face to say hello to we'll be down from about 9pm |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
near kings lynn |
Desperately want to go back but now car less so totally reliant on a lift there and back which makes it tricky. 
As As others said you bring your own condoms to fit. I always take mine but always used the ones the guy has. He knows what fits him. Little bag of tricks is always with me. It now also has a small pack of wet wipes in too lol |
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