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"Crikey - social skills?!!!"  | |||
"Do woman mind men doing this ? " Yeh personally id find it very rude. The bar and social area are for socialising. If I was chatting to someone and a random fella was wanking away I'd be out of there. That's what play rooms areas are for. | |||
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"Crikey - social skills?!!! "lol but we've all seen it happen ! | |||
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"Would you do it in the middle of your local weatherspoons? It's quite self explanatory, social areas of clubs are named that for one reason.......they are for socialising! "  | |||
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"Crikey - social skills?!!! lol but we've all seen it happen ! "I've also seen people vomiting in the street, but it doesn't make it right. | |||
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"Crikey - social skills?!!! lol but we've all seen it happen ! "Nope we all haven't. Trust me they'd be a bollock down if they did it in front of me. | |||
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"I would say the bar would be considered a social area. Tugging away would just be a bit creepy and sad. But then again depends on the club some have clear defined play areas and some you see acts go on in the bar. Although never seen someone tug away alone. Would do nothing but weird us out. "i did see it in a club once and he kept catching lady's eyes pointing to it then saw him sat next to a lady talking as he was wanking away lol | |||
"Not the done thing....plus you will spill your drink ! " It's not the drink I'm worried about. | |||
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"I would say the bar would be considered a social area. Tugging away would just be a bit creepy and sad. But then again depends on the club some have clear defined play areas and some you see acts go on in the bar. Although never seen someone tug away alone. Would do nothing but weird us out. i did see it in a club once and he kept catching lady's eyes pointing to it then saw him sat next to a lady talking as he was wanking away lol"You asked if women in general would mind, not whether it was done. Of course its done, and some women would be OK with it, but I personally find it crass. In a private room, or a play room, wank away. No problem with that. In the socialising room, where new people will be sat clutching their drinks, not so good. | |||
"I would say the bar would be considered a social area. Tugging away would just be a bit creepy and sad. But then again depends on the club some have clear defined play areas and some you see acts go on in the bar. Although never seen someone tug away alone. Would do nothing but weird us out. i did see it in a club once and he kept catching lady's eyes pointing to it then saw him sat next to a lady talking as he was wanking away lol"Doesn't make it right. He was behaving like a prick! Don't you recognise that sort of behaviour as wrong?! | |||
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"Crikey - social skills?!!! lol but we've all seen it happen !
I've also seen people vomiting in the street, but it doesn't make it right."Better than all over the bar though | |||
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"Hell no!!! That's one way to make ladies avoid you! Whatever ever happened to good old conversation and a bit of effort! If you tugged on your cock in our bar then reached for the complimentary Doritos you'd get a kick up the arse!! Blurgh! " to be honist they did avoid him lol . | |||
"Some have different rules but end of day it it was it is ... A swingers club... Most I've been to allow it... Like anything .. If people don't like then don't go or move away .. If it's not breaking the rules then they can do it " Why should I not have a drink at the bar with friends because some sad fella has no concept of social skills? I'm not the one in the wrong. I think most clubs would frown upon this. Just because I am in a club does not mean I will put up with behaviour I find unacceptable. | |||
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"Some have different rules but end of day it it was it is ... A swingers club... Most I've been to allow it... Like anything .. If people don't like then don't go or move away .. If it's not breaking the rules then they can do it Why should I not have a drink at the bar with friends because some sad fella has no concept of social skills? I'm not the one in the wrong. I think most clubs would frown upon this. Just because I am in a club does not mean I will put up with behaviour I find unacceptable. " It does bemuse me that because you are in a Swingers club for some reason you should put up with unacceptable behaviour just because it is sexual. I don't leave my manners, respect or standards at the door just because I choose to swing. | |||
"If it's unacceptable to the club rules it should not happen ad I said... However ... If it's not breaking club rules then people can do it... If others like theyveill look.. If it's not fir them then they won't look ... As long as all keep within club rules " I'm sure there will be a wanking corner in most clubs for people like you and the OP. Surely you would prefer the glory holes though? | |||
"If it's unacceptable to the club rules it should not happen ad I said... However ... If it's not breaking club rules then people can do it... If others like theyveill look.. If it's not fir them then they won't look ... As long as all keep within club rules " there was a guy sat opposite me in a bar area with his mrs his towel open playing with him self | |||
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"If it's unacceptable to the club rules it should not happen ad I said... However ... If it's not breaking club rules then people can do it... If others like theyveill look.. If it's not fir them then they won't look ... As long as all keep within club rules I'm sure there will be a wanking corner in most clubs for people like you and the OP. Surely you would prefer the glory holes though?" in all serious ness it does happen and people don't always relise there causing offence it might seem a daft question to ask | |||
"If it's unacceptable to the club rules it should not happen ad I said... However ... If it's not breaking club rules then people can do it... If others like theyveill look.. If it's not fir them then they won't look ... As long as all keep within club rules " From a personal point of _iew if a fella was wanking at the bar next to me it is unacceptable to me. Club rules or not it would make me feel very uncomfortable and I would report it. I don't want to see his cock ffs I'm having a drink and that is unwanted attention. I would report it to the club and hoped they dealt with it appropriately. I think I've been to enough clubs to know what behaviour is unacceptable. | |||
"I think I've been to enough clubs to know what behaviour is unacceptable." Ah but, people only ask questions when they want us to agree with them. If they want to wank in front of the buffet then that's what we're gonna have to put up with. | |||
"I think I've been to enough clubs to know what behaviour is unacceptable. Ah but, people only ask questions when they want us to agree with them. If they want to wank in front of the buffet then that's what we're gonna have to put up with." Don't touch the egg mayonnaise butties then. Maybe its now acceptable to wank into the food .....within club rules of course. | |||
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"I think I've been to enough clubs to know what behaviour is unacceptable. Ah but, people only ask questions when they want us to agree with them. If they want to wank in front of the buffet then that's what we're gonna have to put up with. Don't touch the egg mayonnaise butties then. Maybe its now acceptable to wank into the food .....within club rules of course." Extra seasoning. 
I know people are saying 'if its not against club rules then...' but surely hygiene alone should prevent people from doing this. Why should I watch someone stroke his cock then delve with his wanky fingers into the peanuts? | |||
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"Ok what if a woman gave a man a hand job or bj etc in the bar area ? " Why can't you just _et a room? | |||
"If it's not against club rules then maybe that club ... Or a swingers club .. Isn't fir you .,, as someone said earlier it's not Weatherspoons and he's right ... " So you think that it is acceptable for a fella to wank by people that find it uncomfortable? Swingers clubs are for me. As I've said I've been to enough. They are not for people with poor social skills and a total disregard for the boundaries of others. Maybe it's all about respect. Both for yourself and others. | |||
"If it's not against club rules then maybe that club ... Or a swingers club .. Isn't fir you .,, as someone said earlier it's not Weatherspoons and he's right ... " Good because I hate Witherspoon. But in all seriousness what should I do walk into a club drop my clothes and fuck the first person I see? There needs to be social areas so you can be social before you move onto other things if anyone takes your fancy. | |||
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"I can't be only person that's seen men do it in bar area ? " Which clubs so I know to avoid? | |||
"I can't be only person that's seen men do it in bar area ? " That wasn't your original question though. Of course I've seen it. And I still didn't think it was acceptable. | |||
"There is a time and a place for wanking. At the bar is not it." | |||
"Think if I saw that I'd just laugh and point. "Totally so!   | |||
"If it's unacceptable to the club rules it should not happen ad I said... However ... If it's not breaking club rules then people can do it... If others like theyveill look.. If it's not fir them then they won't look ... As long as all keep within club rules " Could you name the clubs that it is exceptable at please? That way we'll know which to avoid! We've been to about 6 different clubs now and none that we've been to allow wanking in the social areas. Social areas are just that... | |||
"Not the done thing....plus you will spill your drink ! " Or someone else's.... | |||
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"If it's unacceptable to the club rules it should not happen ad I said... However ... If it's not breaking club rules then people can do it... If others like theyveill look.. If it's not fir them then they won't look ... As long as all keep within club rules Could you name the clubs that it is exceptable at please? That way we'll know which to avoid! We've been to about 6 different clubs now and none that we've been to allow wanking in the social areas. Social areas are just that..." was a long time ago I saw it so they might not alow it now | |||
"I can't be only person that's seen men do it in bar area ? Which clubs so I know to avoid?" and me. Has anybody else seen this behaviour or is it just the OP? Then maybe we can get feedbsck from the club concerned. | |||
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"Do woman mind men doing this ? " Because what goes on in a bar or social area in a club is so incredibly arousing that they can't control themselves?
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"Do woman mind men doing this ? " and you wonder why 'single guys get bashed' on here, jesus take a serious think about it... you bloody know the answer. | |||
"Not the done thing....plus you will spill your drink ! " And booze ain't cheap! | |||
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"this "social area" crap seems to be becoming more prevalent. Its a swingers club not bloody Weatherspoons "Can't believe what I have been reading on this thread - indeed what is all this social area bullshit? Using the bar area at Chameleons as an example we have seen people have sex, oral sex, and hand jobs. Why on earth is a guy having a little tug in any way different? I am absolutely sure that there will be all sorts of sexual activity at the bar this afternoon and evening at Chameleons. This is getting all too politically correct and it makes me wonder just how many people commenting have actually been to a Club at all! | |||
"this "social area" crap seems to be becoming more prevalent. Its a swingers club not bloody Weatherspoons
Can't believe what I have been reading on this thread - indeed what is all this social area bullshit? Using the bar area at Chameleons as an example we have seen people have sex, oral sex, and hand jobs. Why on earth is a guy having a little tug in any way different? I am absolutely sure that there will be all sorts of sexual activity at the bar this afternoon and evening at Chameleons.
This is getting all too politically correct and it makes me wonder just how many people commenting have actually been to a Club at all!" | |||
"Do woman mind men doing this ? " Yes! But not for all the weird reasons this thread started drifting off on, there are no clubs better than other clubs. Chill! I used to make a list of the "Doorway Wankers". Once on that list I wouldn't even entertain them in a chat. Ever. Two reasons, in the club context this shows that you have poor social skills. But more, I don't want a man who objectifies me, Swinging or not, I want a man who INTERACTS with me, talk to me, touch me (ask first!), but don't just stand there, wanking and staring with those puppy eyes! | |||
"this "social area" crap seems to be becoming more prevalent ... and it makes me wonder just how many people commenting have actually been to a Club at all!" | |||
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"This is getting all too politically correct and it makes me wonder just how many people commenting have actually been to a Club at all!" Well I personally have visited five different clubs, been to numerous parties and hosted parties here at home. Have I found this type of behaviour acceptable? Absolutely not! Incidentally, I have been to chams during the daytime and evening. While some might find that sort of behaviour in the bar ok, I personally feel it is crass and unnecessary. After all, there are more than enough rooms for play. I stand by my statement, it is called a social area for a reason | |||
"Would you do it in the middle of your local weatherspoons? It's quite self explanatory, social areas of clubs are named that for one reason.......they are for socialising! " Thats not strictly true is it? We have been to Chams in birmingham a few times and watch guys playing with females pussies in the bar area and sat at seats around bar. I know im hypocritical here but watching a female wank a guy in bar or a guy caressing a woman at a bar id be comfortable with but i wouldnt like to watch a lone guy yanking for britain in the social area | |||
"Personally if I saw someone doing that at a bar I would think 'sad wanker' , and avoid at all costs..... "This! There are plenty of areas in clubs for you to have a wank, the fact that you feel the need to do it in a social area tell me all I need to know about you. Shudder and avoid. | |||
"Some have different rules but end of day it it was it is ... A swingers club... Most I've been to allow it... Like anything .. If people don't like then don't go or move away .. If it's not breaking the rules then they can do it " It would be unacceptable in the French clubs I used to visit. Social areas are for chat and play areas for play. | |||
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"ive never been to a club(yet)but im shocked to read that this happens in the social area.maybe im an old prude. "mate it don't really happen that often so don't let it put u or anyone off | |||
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"What sort of moron would actually do this or even consider it remotely acceptable. Any half decent club would instantly eject someone who find this..." Your so right only a moron would do this but evidence proves this site has its fair share you only have to read the forums to notice how prevalent the morons are. Its probably the same guys that think it their right to touch spmeone without asking in a club because thay paid an entrance fee | |||
"this "social area" crap seems to be becoming more prevalent. Its a swingers club not bloody Weatherspoons
Can't believe what I have been reading on this thread - indeed what is all this social area bullshit? Using the bar area at Chameleons as an example we have seen people have sex, oral sex, and hand jobs. Why on earth is a guy having a little tug in any way different? I am absolutely sure that there will be all sorts of sexual activity at the bar this afternoon and evening at Chameleons.
This is getting all too politically correct and it makes me wonder just how many people commenting have actually been to a Club at all!"I am pretty sure you are right here guys. But maybe it's the context of the wanking. Is a guy just stood there alone having a tug? If so even id find that strange if it's in the context of others playing then not so strange. And my _iew point here is... (Prepare for backlash) is people should expect to see sexual activity anywhere in a club as long as it is in the right context. I didn't know social Areas meant no play!!! See you at the bar in Chams lol | |||
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"I think we need to separate a spontaneous sexual scene between people and a guy just having a wank on his own. There is a huge difference. I have seen people kissing and caressing in the bar area and then move upstairs...this is very horny to watch. But a lone guy with cock 'inth hand is just seedy and most people would frown on this. I think most club goers, hand on heart would not have seen this lonesome guy with cock 'inth hand....this would be a very rare occurance as believe it or not, most guys have abit more respect for themselves!! lol " My point exactly well put | |||
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"Sheesh what happened to being open minded and sexually liberated ?? Would you be the same if you saw a couple having a full on grope ? Or two women with their boobs out and fingers wandering ? The answer no so why is this any different ? If thats the guys thing then leave him to it, if you dont like it / approve move away. In our opinion it does nothing for us, however its not our place to judge so we would simply move away or avoid our eyes. Clubs are for liberated, sexually free people with their own kinks etc, whilst it may not be for you simply avert your eyes or move away. As for the food thing if a guy was stood doing that right by the food then yes that would be slightly concerning, however in all the times we have been at clubs we have never seen that happen. " Totally agreed. Well put. Where are we heading with all this kind of stuff, "safe" places, social only areas?..... Next thing will be a need to have fully dressed areas where no skin is on show. | |||
"Sheesh what happened to being open minded and sexually liberated ?? Would you be the same if you saw a couple having a full on grope ? Or two women with their boobs out and fingers wandering ? The answer no so why is this any different ? If thats the guys thing then leave him to it, if you dont like it / approve move away. In our opinion it does nothing for us, however its not our place to judge so we would simply move away or avoid our eyes. Clubs are for liberated, sexually free people with their own kinks etc, whilst it may not be for you simply avert your eyes or move away. As for the food thing if a guy was stood doing that right by the food then yes that would be slightly concerning, however in all the times we have been at clubs we have never seen that happen. Totally agreed. Well put. Where are we heading with all this kind of stuff, "safe" places, social only areas?..... Next thing will be a need to have fully dressed areas where no skin is on show. " lol...complimentary burkas on the way in! hehe | |||
"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it" "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs. | |||
"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs." LOL...recently I was having an afternoon drink in a pub and there was a couple in a little snug corner practically eating each other up!! I found it hilarious but you should have see the faces on the regulars!! The lady gave me a little wink and that was it, I dragged Jim off home and we shagged silly! hehe | |||
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"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs." So as its a swingers club your saying there shouldnt be any rules as everyone inside is deemed to be an adult and a swinger so as well as wanking and jizzing anywhere they please a woman should let any guy touch and fuck them as after all its a swingers club, | |||
"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs. So as its a swingers club your saying there shouldnt be any rules as everyone inside is deemed to be an adult and a swinger so as well as wanking and jizzing anywhere they please a woman should let any guy touch and fuck them as after all its a swingers club, " You really should not put words into people's mouths. If you are an adult, you know what is right and what is wrong. With respect, I think that you are being argumentative. No more input from us on this thread as we are setting of for Chameleons shortly and we need to prepare ourselves for the potential sight of people having sex in the bar area. | |||
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"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs. So as its a swingers club your saying there shouldnt be any rules as everyone inside is deemed to be an adult and a swinger so as well as wanking and jizzing anywhere they please a woman should let any guy touch and fuck them as after all its a swingers club, You really should not put words into people's mouths. If you are an adult, you know what is right and what is wrong. With respect, I think that you are being argumentative. No more input from us on this thread as we are setting of for Chameleons shortly and we need to prepare ourselves for the potential sight of people having sex in the bar area. "Nooo not being argumentative its xmas after all. I was just picking up on your point about it being a swinger club and there being too many rules which will spoil the spontanaity but then you go on to say were all adults and should know what is acceptable but this is subjective as this thread is prooving what is acceptable to some is aborrhent to others. But enjoy your day at Chams just hope the lone wanker isnt there with you lol | |||
"Do woman mind men doing this ? " Depends.... are you serving the drinks? | |||
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"So much I read puts me off visiting a club" Please don't be put off from visiting a club. I always now go by myself to either meet friends, meet an interesting guy or just to chill. It really is few and far between that these incidents happen. I love my regular haunt as I feel really safe there, can relax fully & it's fun. | |||
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"I wonder how differently this thread would have gone if it had been a question about a woman wanking? Very, I'd guess." My reply would be the same for either sex | |||
"I wonder how differently this thread would have gone if it had been a question about a woman wanking? Very, I'd guess." Depends if she was hot or not? | |||
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"Keep seeing this thread title and thinking "I was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar"..." | |||
"In Germany where the FKK culture is strong there are swingers / fetish clubs where both nudity & sexual activity is permitted / encouraged anywhere on the premises. I also have been to at least one club in the UK where the bar area is between 2 open play areas so it does happen there as does full sexual intercourse. The sensible thing for single guys is to find out what the venue rules are by watching & talking to the staff & members - no pun intended "FKK? | |||
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"I've just got this disturbed vision of a man in bottle bottom glasses, gurning as he tosses himself off in front of Mrs N. Help. arghhhhhhhh. Why do I keep having these thoughts." Downside of having a good imagination. | |||
"You need to spoil the mood for these guys, ladies. Order a tomato juice and leave a tampon in it." PMSL | |||
"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs." So are you saying it should be a free for all approach? Where would you draw the line? Ok for a man to stand in front of your wife wanking in her face while you're having a drink with another? If this is swinging I'm glad I'm not a part of it. | |||
"Do woman mind men doing this ? " Ironically this thread has probably put a few women off going to clubs. | |||
"What if this wanking man ejaculated? Is that acceptable in a room where people are getting to know each other to see if they want to take it further? I'm extremely open-minded but I think we shouldn't have anything goes policy just because it's a place for people to have sex. If I went to an orgy I would expect people to be doing sexual acts anywhere. In a club I would expect certain acts,by men and women,to be taking place in designated areas or at least have one safe haven where you aren't subjected to it "safe haven"? These are swingers clubs and with very rare exceptions expected to be safe havens in all areas. We find that the more rules there are in a club, the less spontaneous and the less fun the venue is likely to be. If the mood and sentiment really is swinging (sic) towards social meetings rather than swinging meetings then perhaps the time is right for swinging venues where people can remain fully dressed, drink and chat ... Oh wait a minute... Those places do already exist, they are called Pubs. So are you saying it should be a free for all approach? Where would you draw the line? Ok for a man to stand in front of your wife wanking in her face while you're having a drink with another? If this is swinging I'm glad I'm not a part of it. " i don't think that would happen I hate to think this thread would put people off . It's very rare to find a bloke just wanking in bar area ! | |||
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"Do woman mind men doing this ? " I wouldn't dare answer. Apparently people aren't allowed to have opinions... | |||
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"When I first started out 10 years ago, I was nervous and was delighted to find that my club of choice had a social area where I felt 'safe'. I was there to have sex but I also needed what I would call 'off ground'. So if nobody took my fancy, so to speak, I could still have a drink, chat and soak up the atmosphere without the expectancy of play. The play areas where separate and full on sex would only take place in the play areas; snogging, fondling and soft play would go on, but this added to the atmosphere. A decade on, I love the social side of swinging as much as I love to play and this is why we chose to have 2 large social areas in our club for people to just chill out in their skimpies (if they wish) without people f**king around them. Don't get me wrong, people may still 'soft play' in the social areas and this is really horny to watch, especially for us folk working, but it's an area where guests can flirt, chat, meet new friends, strut in their sexy underwear and settle their nerves. The social areas are not at all like Weatherspoons...I'd like to think that our social areas are like very classy cocktail bars actually and our members love the fact that they are not seedy or stereotypical. Those who want to settle in before play can do so without pressure, those who want to get straight to business can do so in our playrooms. It's the best of both worlds. I don't think that having social areas in clubs is detrimental at all or turning our clubs into social clubs/pubs as has been suggested, albeit tongue in cheek. What it does is gives guests options. For the new, tentative guests, they have a place to get their nerves in check, for those who are more experienced, the social area is a watering hole in between expeditions!! lol The whole thread has been lost a little. What we are talking about is a lonesome wanky man at the bar. Most of us would look at this poor soul and feel sorry for him or steer away. He is a rare occurance and shouldn't put guests off visiting a club. Thankfully, we have choice in the UK. There are lots of different clubs with different experiences on offer. If you want a full on experience where every corner is a potential shag pad, then there is a club that will offer this. If you want a club where socialising is central and play is a not an expectation, then there is a club that will offer this too. We are all adults and have voices/opinions. If you are in a swingers club and someone is wanking while talking to you about X Factor, then you should be adult enough to say to that person, do you mind not tugging on your hampton whilst talking about regular stuff...it's not cool. I really need to stress that the lonesome cock tugger at the bar is a rare thing and most guys would rather let someone else do the tugging in a play scene. Vic xxx " ur right it is rare to see men full on wankin in bar area . U might get a guy having a descreat rub to make his dick look bigger , is that acceptable ? | |||
"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area." Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. | |||
"Do woman mind men doing this ? " Few people would be impressed and you would probably be classed as a social misfit. | |||
"Crikey - social skills?!!! lol but we've all seen it happen !
Nope we all haven't. Trust me they'd be a bollock down if they did it in front of me."Pmsl xx | |||
"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area. Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. " im not going to have a wank in bar can stop at home and do that ! . It was just a question it's not something I want to do ! | |||
"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area. Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. " It was bi night, which I would imagine is a different vibe from couples/ mixed nights. We went on bi night and it wasn't like they said. I think it's the same vibe as No. 3. Nice place not seedy. Hope you don't let one post put you off going and seeing for yourself. I'm not in any way affiliated with Chams (I'm a northerner!), just wanted to give a different unbiased opinion. | |||
"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area. Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. " Lol ill think you will find it was a highly sarcastic post | |||
"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area. Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. " Well nice to know that cus i go Chams i am a sad wanker lol | |||
"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area. Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. Lol ill think you will find it was a highly sarcastic post "Ok so can somebody clarify what is acceptable - please don't refer me to the specific rules of the club because what ever the rules may be, these are my observations in chams A) single man wanking himself on his own B) Male part if a MF couple couple wanking himself off beside his F C) full blown oral/ sex between MF Now I'm not a prude and it didn't bother me, but I've seen a, b and c happen in chams 'social' areas | |||
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"Hell no!!! That's one way to make ladies avoid you! Whatever ever happened to good old conversation and a bit of effort! If you tugged on your cock in our bar then reached for the complimentary Doritos you'd get a kick up the arse!! Blurgh! " Cheesey dip anyone?  | |||
"Hell no!!! That's one way to make ladies avoid you! Whatever ever happened to good old conversation and a bit of effort! If you tugged on your cock in our bar then reached for the complimentary Doritos you'd get a kick up the arse!! Blurgh! " Complimentary Doritos?! Where is this place?! | |||
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"Hell no!!! That's one way to make ladies avoid you! Whatever ever happened to good old conversation and a bit of effort! If you tugged on your cock in our bar then reached for the complimentary Doritos you'd get a kick up the arse!! Blurgh! Cheesey dip anyone? "hahaha!! Yuck! | |||
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"Ok .... Bit of an update. Went to Chams tonight and saw all sorts of stuff going on in the bar area. Solo wanking, mutual wanking, oral guy on guy, oral woman on guy, full penetrative sex and some people eating ham sandwiches.... Ham fucking sandwiches! There should be a law against it, everyone know that tuna mayo is the only acceptable sandwich in s ba area. Well that's chams off my 2015 to do list. Road trip cancelled. Don't want a bar full of sad wankers. I can have a night out in Liverpool for that. Seriously glad that has been clarified cos it sounds seedy and really not for me. I have obviously been lucky that all the clubs I have been to so far have been full of people who know how to socialise in social areas. So OP there's your answer - go wank at the bar at Chams. Well nice to know that cus i go Chams i am a sad wanker lol " Only if you do it at the bar | |||
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"I wonder how differently this thread would have gone if it had been a question about a woman wanking? Very, I'd guess. My reply would be the same for either sex "Me too. | |||
"When I first started out 10 years ago, I was nervous and was delighted to find that my club of choice had a social area where I felt 'safe'. I was there to have sex but I also needed what I would call 'off ground'. So if nobody took my fancy, so to speak, I could still have a drink, chat and soak up the atmosphere without the expectancy of play. The play areas where separate and full on sex would only take place in the play areas; snogging, fondling and soft play would go on, but this added to the atmosphere. A decade on, I love the social side of swinging as much as I love to play and this is why we chose to have 2 large social areas in our club for people to just chill out in their skimpies (if they wish) without people f**king around them. Don't get me wrong, people may still 'soft play' in the social areas and this is really horny to watch, especially for us folk working, but it's an area where guests can flirt, chat, meet new friends, strut in their sexy underwear and settle their nerves. The social areas are not at all like Weatherspoons...I'd like to think that our social areas are like very classy cocktail bars actually and our members love the fact that they are not seedy or stereotypical. Those who want to settle in before play can do so without pressure, those who want to get straight to business can do so in our playrooms. It's the best of both worlds. I don't think that having social areas in clubs is detrimental at all or turning our clubs into social clubs/pubs as has been suggested, albeit tongue in cheek. What it does is gives guests options. For the new, tentative guests, they have a place to get their nerves in check, for those who are more experienced, the social area is a watering hole in between expeditions!! lol The whole thread has been lost a little. What we are talking about is a lonesome wanky man at the bar. Most of us would look at this poor soul and feel sorry for him or steer away. He is a rare occurance and shouldn't put guests off visiting a club. Thankfully, we have choice in the UK. There are lots of different clubs with different experiences on offer. If you want a full on experience where every corner is a potential shag pad, then there is a club that will offer this. If you want a club where socialising is central and play is a not an expectation, then there is a club that will offer this too. We are all adults and have voices/opinions. If you are in a swingers club and someone is wanking while talking to you about X Factor, then you should be adult enough to say to that person, do you mind not tugging on your hampton whilst talking about regular stuff...it's not cool. I really need to stress that the lonesome cock tugger at the bar is a rare thing and most guys would rather let someone else do the tugging in a play scene. Vic xxx " Your club is on my hitlist to visit next time I am up visiting my folks. | |||
"Would you do it in the middle of your local weatherspoons? It's quite self explanatory, social areas of clubs are named that for one reason.......they are for socialising! " I wondered why they chucked me out x | |||
"When I first started out 10 years ago, I was nervous and was delighted to find that my club of choice had a social area where I felt 'safe'. I was there to have sex but I also needed what I would call 'off ground'. So if nobody took my fancy, so to speak, I could still have a drink, chat and soak up the atmosphere without the expectancy of play. The play areas where separate and full on sex would only take place in the play areas; snogging, fondling and soft play would go on, but this added to the atmosphere. A decade on, I love the social side of swinging as much as I love to play and this is why we chose to have 2 large social areas in our club for people to just chill out in their skimpies (if they wish) without people f**king around them. Don't get me wrong, people may still 'soft play' in the social areas and this is really horny to watch, especially for us folk working, but it's an area where guests can flirt, chat, meet new friends, strut in their sexy underwear and settle their nerves. The social areas are not at all like Weatherspoons...I'd like to think that our social areas are like very classy cocktail bars actually and our members love the fact that they are not seedy or stereotypical. Those who want to settle in before play can do so without pressure, those who want to get straight to business can do so in our playrooms. It's the best of both worlds. I don't think that having social areas in clubs is detrimental at all or turning our clubs into social clubs/pubs as has been suggested, albeit tongue in cheek. What it does is gives guests options. For the new, tentative guests, they have a place to get their nerves in check, for those who are more experienced, the social area is a watering hole in between expeditions!! lol The whole thread has been lost a little. What we are talking about is a lonesome wanky man at the bar. Most of us would look at this poor soul and feel sorry for him or steer away. He is a rare occurance and shouldn't put guests off visiting a club. Thankfully, we have choice in the UK. There are lots of different clubs with different experiences on offer. If you want a full on experience where every corner is a potential shag pad, then there is a club that will offer this. If you want a club where socialising is central and play is a not an expectation, then there is a club that will offer this too. We are all adults and have voices/opinions. If you are in a swingers club and someone is wanking while talking to you about X Factor, then you should be adult enough to say to that person, do you mind not tugging on your hampton whilst talking about regular stuff...it's not cool. I really need to stress that the lonesome cock tugger at the bar is a rare thing and most guys would rather let someone else do the tugging in a play scene. Vic xxx Your club is on my hitlist to visit next time I am up visiting my folks. "That's great to hear! Look forward to putting a face to a name xx | |||
