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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just use the traffic light system at all times - you say yellow then things are moving outside your comfort zone, you say red its time to stop.
You don't bother with green, obviously  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I before have set up a code like I'll ask "are you alright for a drink" to know that all is alright, etc"
How do you say no to that question?
"Are you alright for a drink?" "No I'm not alright" Eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess if they say "Yes" then they move away from the situation they are in. That's a good one as well."
The drink thing is confusing. Traffic lights = simple and effective. Also very good in harder BDSM sessions as there's no 'no' involved |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I before have set up a code like I'll ask "are you alright for a drink" to know that all is alright, etc
How do you say no to that question?
"Are you alright for a drink?" "No I'm not alright" Eh?"
If they say "no", say "lets go and get a drink."... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I use the traffic lights in a one to one situation, so to know they are comfy with whatever is occurring.
The drink is where others are around and maybe trying to get involved arc..."
Glitterbabe, you can say RED to me any time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely any words would work as long as they are agreed in advance.
Presumably we are talking couples here, a single with a safe word doesn't really work does it?!!
Most couples I would have thought are in tune enough to be able to gauge when their partner is not comfortable in a situation.
However, ultimately surely we are all responsible for ourselves, if one is not comfortable in any swinging situation voicing that should be enough to stop play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely any words would work as long as they are agreed in advance.
Presumably we are talking couples here, a single with a safe word doesn't really work does it?!!
Most couples I would have thought are in tune enough to be able to gauge when their partner is not comfortable in a situation.
However, ultimately surely we are all responsible for ourselves, if one is not comfortable in any swinging situation voicing that should be enough to stop play. "
Fair point, and consent is the bottom line always so it should always be as simple as saying "stop" to whoever is involved and that's the end of it. |
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