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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. |
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i prefer to chat to people first to see if we get on on a social level but i have seen guys that have treated women as though they are a piece of meat and that really makes my blood boil.If you groped anyone in a pub or club you would get a slap and probably thrown out so why do people think its acceptable in a swingers club is beyond me |
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By *uddy13Man
over a year ago
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No I like to chat to people first see how you get on just cause it's a swingers club don't mean you can just grope or expect anything there has to be chemistry and you should always be polite and if someone says no then respect that no means no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the same can be said about some women at times. I've noticed some women at clubs treat men like a piece of meat and don't give them the same respect which they expect. |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Burnley |
"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. "
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I like to be spoken to like you would on the street (with respect). If there is chemistry then I take things further. But I get wound up with single males who assume because they have paid to get in a club then they are guaranteed sex. If this is the case see a prostitute |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Burnley |
"I like to be spoken to like you would on the street (with respect). If there is chemistry then I take things further. But I get wound up with single males who assume because they have paid to get in a club then they are guaranteed sex. If this is the case see a prostitute"
I never go to a club with expectations that anything will happen, that way if it doesnt Im not dissapointed. Some guys do tho, more often than not its guys that have gone in on a guest pass as opposed to regular members xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think the same can be said about some women at times. I've noticed some women at clubs treat men like a piece of meat and don't give them the same respect which they expect. "
Don't think I've ever seen a woman treat men like a piece of meat. Maybe this should have been reworded for everyone and not just single males |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would use a very sharp expression. Failing that and I was groped, a bloody hard slap. That kind of attitude really pisses me off.  "
Sadly if it resorts to a slap I believe it would be time to leave. Pisses a lot of us girls off and some couples to |
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Well I've been round the scene for a few years and concur twitch the views of the earlier comments on this thread. That no one should visit a club with any expectation what so ever. If you can't make polite conversion and find out what lady's or couples really want out of there evening or wait at a respectfull distance and wait to be asked and never just assume. |
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In all the clubs we have attended I think we're either lucky or single guys are well behaved as a general rule, in an orgy room for instance people everywhere it's inevitable there maybe a 'grope' here or there but a polite no thanks has always seen it go no further in our experience, the F has given a signal to anyone who she'd like to join us, this works for us x
Heard some horror stories but thankfully not had any happen to us. Xx  |
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By *coobysMan
over a year ago
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This one is close to my heart as many a disrespectful single has ruined potential fun.
I was once in a club and got invited along with another guy to play with this very attractive woman. We both had started to kiss and caress when a guy jumped in knocking me out of the way. The couple upped and left.
There is no place for people who don't respect others
One of the problems are many clubs charge very high prices for single guys. Many of the guys think at that price they are entitled to fun wrong wrong wrong. Trouble is there are those that think that way.
I will watch from a distance and if lucky enough to get invited to play then great news.
I go to clubs hopeful I will get some fun but knowing there is a good chance I won't.
I do try and chat to couples and singles on here and also whilst in the club.
The disrespectful guys do need throwing out and banning no exceptions. Sometimes there are too many singles and they follow people round which gives us respectful singles a bad name. |
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We've noticed, especially over the last few years guys are getting a lot more reserved.
They have had it hard so to speak, dammed if they do, and damned if they don't.
Obviously they need respect, as does everyone but some people on here who get upset when a single male approaches as timidly as humanly possible and then gets slated because he wasn't invited, seems a little harsh.
If we wanted to be just watched, which we have on occasion we usually tell the first guy who comes along and just ask if he could discreetly let anyone else know who appears. This works well as anyone who wants more than watching leaves without being branded a predator.
As nice as they are we're all different and all have different boundaries but I personally think it's our responsibility to communicate them. I can't think of an incident yet , even in orgy rooms where this doesn't work.
They arnt mind readers.
That being said, I've heard horror stories of guys just diving in there ramming fingers inside or diving on bareback. I would like to think they don't last long in the scene or a club.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do not go to clubs often but everytime I have been I have never once had any issues with single guys, if anything it has been females and couples that I have found to be a little aggressive in their approach .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the same can be said about some women at times. I've noticed some women at clubs treat men like a piece of meat and don't give them the same respect which they expect. "
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. "
. Go to a club in Cap d Agde . As I cannot speak the language have to wait to be selected. Either drop cock through bars in a cage and ladies assess. Have to use judgement in some other areas .Usually able to quickly assess the situation by the reaction ta gentle grope. Some couples will expect you to approach them or consider it arrogant if you wait for them to approach you . This however is a hard core swingers club. Some men have. attempted to push me out of the way when selected or tried to force their cock into the ladies mouth when I am fucking . Being polite with our being too reserved is my approach. At the club I go to some ladies will select on size / appearance so a necessity to display your equipment in a ready to use mods .
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. . Go to a club in Cap d Agde . As I cannot speak the language have to wait to be selected. Either drop cock through bars in a cage and ladies assess. Have to use judgement in some other areas .Usually able to quickly assess the situation by the reaction ta gentle grope. Some couples will expect you to approach them or consider it arrogant if you wait for them to approach you . This however is a hard core swingers club. Some men have. attempted to push me out of the way when selected or tried to force their cock into the ladies mouth when I am fucking . Being polite with our being too reserved is my approach. At the club I go to some ladies will select on size / appearance so a necessity to display your equipment in a ready to use mods ."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've noticed, especially over the last few years guys are getting a lot more reserved.
They have had it hard so to speak, dammed if they do, and damned if they don't.
Obviously they need respect, as does everyone but some people on here who get upset when a single male approaches as timidly as humanly possible and then gets slated because he wasn't invited, seems a little harsh.
If we wanted to be just watched, which we have on occasion we usually tell the first guy who comes along and just ask if he could discreetly let anyone else know who appears. This works well as anyone who wants more than watching leaves without being branded a predator.
As nice as they are we're all different and all have different boundaries but I personally think it's our responsibility to communicate them. I can't think of an incident yet , even in orgy rooms where this doesn't work.
They arnt mind readers.
That being said, I've heard horror stories of guys just diving in there ramming fingers inside or diving on bareback. I would like to think they don't last long in the scene or a club.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the same can be said about some women at times. I've noticed some women at clubs treat men like a piece of meat and don't give them the same respect which they expect. "
But those men will feel over the moon, thinking they are in high demand, lol.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I would use a very sharp expression. Failing that and I was groped, a bloody hard slap. That kind of attitude really pisses me off.
Sadly if it resorts to a slap I believe it would be time to leave. Pisses a lot of us girls off and some couples to "
A loud "BACK THE FUCK OFF!!" usually works in these situations.
Largely as it makes others in the area aware you're not happy, causes eyes to focus on the offender which results in embarrassment (and often signifies the end of any chance of others inviting them for fun) - and it's often followed soon after by the offender departing the club.
It's always also worth notifying club staff. Repeat offenders usually get banned or if there's no membership at least ejected on the night.
Clubs don't tolerate bad behaviour. From men, women or couples.
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"I like to be spoken to like you would on the street (with respect). If there is chemistry then I take things further. But I get wound up with single males who assume because they have paid to get in a club then they are guaranteed sex. If this is the case see a prostitute"
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i prefer to chat to people first to see if we get on on a social level but i have seen guys that have treated women as though they are a piece of meat and that really makes my blood boil.If you groped anyone in a pub or club you would get a slap and probably thrown out so why do people think its acceptable in a swingers club is beyond me "
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Chat first, keep it pleasant, light and complimentary. If you'd like to play say so but don't push it. If the response is not an immediate yes this is the time to say something like "catch up with you later" and move on.
If the response is thanks but no thanks then feel free to chat to that person later but don't ask again. If it's "maybe later" then leave it for a while or if they're playing make yourself visible but don't push it.
NEVER TOUCH WITHOUT AN INVITATION! That goes for everyone so if a lady keeps grabbing you and you don't want it complain to staff.
If you haven't had a verbal invite but think you've had a none verbal one (been pointed at, beckoned, winked) double check, catch their eye and point at yourself. If their eyes are closed then a gentle touch on the upper arm is usually ok. Do not touch people who are playing just to try to get an invite, that's the kind of behaviour that will stop play and get you kicked out.
If people are playing in an open room then watching and even wanking is acceptable or even encouraged. Don't talk, don't comment on the play or the people, don't crowd them (it can be very disconcerting to open your eyes to discover your audience is just centimetres away) and don't cum on them.
However, if there is an invitation to the room to come closer, touch or cum over the participants then of course do. Just make sure that all who are playing are happy with that - one person can get carried away and say things that the others are not up for.
Don't follow people, of course go and watch in open rooms but don't follow women and couples about the building in the hopes of something to see. Don't lurk hoping you'll get picked, unless you're an absolute babe the guys who get picked are the ones who have socialised and mingled and chatted and shown themselves to be pleasant and polite.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. . Go to a club in Cap d Agde . As I cannot speak the language have to wait to be selected. Either drop cock through bars in a cage and ladies assess. Have to use judgement in some other areas .Usually able to quickly assess the situation by the reaction ta gentle grope. Some couples will expect you to approach them or consider it arrogant if you wait for them to approach you . This however is a hard core swingers club. Some men have. attempted to push me out of the way when selected or tried to force their cock into the ladies mouth when I am fucking . Being polite with our being too reserved is my approach. At the club I go to some ladies will select on size / appearance so a necessity to display your equipment in a ready to use mods ."
Don't think this is my idea of fun.  |
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"Chat first, keep it pleasant, light and complimentary. If you'd like to play say so but don't push it. If the response is not an immediate yes this is the time to say something like "catch up with you later" and move on.
If the response is thanks but no thanks then feel free to chat to that person later but don't ask again. If it's "maybe later" then leave it for a while or if they're playing make yourself visible but don't push it.
NEVER TOUCH WITHOUT AN INVITATION! That goes for everyone so if a lady keeps grabbing you and you don't want it complain to staff.
If you haven't had a verbal invite but think you've had a none verbal one (been pointed at, beckoned, winked) double check, catch their eye and point at yourself. If their eyes are closed then a gentle touch on the upper arm is usually ok. Do not touch people who are playing just to try to get an invite, that's the kind of behaviour that will stop play and get you kicked out.
If people are playing in an open room then watching and even wanking is acceptable or even encouraged. Don't talk, don't comment on the play or the people, don't crowd them (it can be very disconcerting to open your eyes to discover your audience is just centimetres away) and don't cum on them.
However, if there is an invitation to the room to come closer, touch or cum over the participants then of course do. Just make sure that all who are playing are happy with that - one person can get carried away and say things that the others are not up for.
Don't follow people, of course go and watch in open rooms but don't follow women and couples about the building in the hopes of something to see. Don't lurk hoping you'll get picked, unless you're an absolute babe the guys who get picked are the ones who have socialised and mingled and chatted and shown themselves to be pleasant and polite.
Good luck."
That pretty much covers it! We haven't had any problems in any Club we've been to. Only advice to Single guys is make an effort to look great and keep the conversation light and flirty - we're in Clubs for sex, if we get life stories it just isn't going to happen...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Chat first, keep it pleasant, light and complimentary. If you'd like to play say so but don't push it. If the response is not an immediate yes this is the time to say something like "catch up with you later" and move on.
If the response is thanks but no thanks then feel free to chat to that person later but don't ask again. If it's "maybe later" then leave it for a while or if they're playing make yourself visible but don't push it.
NEVER TOUCH WITHOUT AN INVITATION! That goes for everyone so if a lady keeps grabbing you and you don't want it complain to staff.
If you haven't had a verbal invite but think you've had a none verbal one (been pointed at, beckoned, winked) double check, catch their eye and point at yourself. If their eyes are closed then a gentle touch on the upper arm is usually ok. Do not touch people who are playing just to try to get an invite, that's the kind of behaviour that will stop play and get you kicked out.
If people are playing in an open room then watching and even wanking is acceptable or even encouraged. Don't talk, don't comment on the play or the people, don't crowd them (it can be very disconcerting to open your eyes to discover your audience is just centimetres away) and don't cum on them.
However, if there is an invitation to the room to come closer, touch or cum over the participants then of course do. Just make sure that all who are playing are happy with that - one person can get carried away and say things that the others are not up for.
Don't follow people, of course go and watch in open rooms but don't follow women and couples about the building in the hopes of something to see. Don't lurk hoping you'll get picked, unless you're an absolute babe the guys who get picked are the ones who have socialised and mingled and chatted and shown themselves to be pleasant and polite.
Good luck.
That pretty much covers it! We haven't had any problems in any Club we've been to. Only advice to Single guys is make an effort to look great and keep the conversation light and flirty - we're in Clubs for sex, if we get life stories it just isn't going to happen... "
Im not bothered about life stories. I love a good chat. I'm on about that first move that's made for play.
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"Chat first, keep it pleasant, light and complimentary. If you'd like to play say so but don't push it. If the response is not an immediate yes this is the time to say something like "catch up with you later" and move on.
If the response is thanks but no thanks then feel free to chat to that person later but don't ask again. If it's "maybe later" then leave it for a while or if they're playing make yourself visible but don't push it.
NEVER TOUCH WITHOUT AN INVITATION! That goes for everyone so if a lady keeps grabbing you and you don't want it complain to staff.
If you haven't had a verbal invite but think you've had a none verbal one (been pointed at, beckoned, winked) double check, catch their eye and point at yourself. If their eyes are closed then a gentle touch on the upper arm is usually ok. Do not touch people who are playing just to try to get an invite, that's the kind of behaviour that will stop play and get you kicked out.
If people are playing in an open room then watching and even wanking is acceptable or even encouraged. Don't talk, don't comment on the play or the people, don't crowd them (it can be very disconcerting to open your eyes to discover your audience is just centimetres away) and don't cum on them.
However, if there is an invitation to the room to come closer, touch or cum over the participants then of course do. Just make sure that all who are playing are happy with that - one person can get carried away and say things that the others are not up for.
Don't follow people, of course go and watch in open rooms but don't follow women and couples about the building in the hopes of something to see. Don't lurk hoping you'll get picked, unless you're an absolute babe the guys who get picked are the ones who have socialised and mingled and chatted and shown themselves to be pleasant and polite.
Good luck.
That pretty much covers it! We haven't had any problems in any Club we've been to. Only advice to Single guys is make an effort to look great and keep the conversation light and flirty - we're in Clubs for sex, if we get life stories it just isn't going to happen...
Im not bothered about life stories. I love a good chat. I'm on about that first move that's made for play.
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The first time we went to a Club, when we were wide eyed and relatively innocent, we were approached by a guy whilst talking with a couple. He was quite confident and focused on Beth and asked if he could touch her. This lasted a couple of minutes as neither of us were sure if the other was ok with this - in the end I used our safe word and we walked off. Beth said she had enjoyed the attention, but wasn't sure I was ok with it! We have got much better at gauging each other now and much more robust about saying hello and no thanks!! |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Burnley |
"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol
^^^
This guy is as good as he says, but not everyone is."
Thanks for that, i really appreciate it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol
^^^
This guy is as good as he says, but not everyone is.
Thanks for that, i really appreciate it "
Sound like you are the 'PERFECT GENTLEMAN' x |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Burnley |
"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol
^^^
This guy is as good as he says, but not everyone is.
Thanks for that, i really appreciate it
Sound like you are the 'PERFECT GENTLEMAN' x"
I try to be nice, I make an effort to get on with people, and i treat people the way I like to be treated, with respect. I wouldn't go out of my way to get out of the cat and scurry round the other side to open the door for you, so maybe not perfect  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol
^^^
This guy is as good as he says, but not everyone is.
Thanks for that, i really appreciate it
Sound like you are the 'PERFECT GENTLEMAN' x
I try to be nice, I make an effort to get on with people, and i treat people the way I like to be treated, with respect. I wouldn't go out of my way to get out of the cat and scurry round the other side to open the door for you, so maybe not perfect "
Not asking for a date with respect to a car door. More respect in a club for the ladies and couples. So I think you have the manners that we deserve |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the same can be said about some women at times. I've noticed some women at clubs treat men like a piece of meat and don't give them the same respect which they expect. But those men will feel over the moon, thinking they are in high demand, lol."
Not necessarily as they actually refused to go into a room with the woman in question because of her attitude towards them |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Burnley |
"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol
^^^
This guy is as good as he says, but not everyone is.
Thanks for that, i really appreciate it
Sound like you are the 'PERFECT GENTLEMAN' x
I try to be nice, I make an effort to get on with people, and i treat people the way I like to be treated, with respect. I wouldn't go out of my way to get out of the cat and scurry round the other side to open the door for you, so maybe not perfect
Not asking for a date with respect to a car door. More respect in a club for the ladies and couples. So I think you have the manners that we deserve"
Yes, while in a club I do try to be the perfect gentleman, and playful, and sometimes cheeky too in a nice way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the ones who earn a negative reaction from people in clubs are unlikely to announce on here that their style is not to ask or stalk.
a few club visits i have had a stalker or someone trying to touch me.
acting very confident tends to put them off in the first place. |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"the ones who earn a negative reaction from people in clubs are unlikely to announce on here that their style is not to ask or stalk.
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I think that sort of guy is highly unlikely to be in the forums anyhow, more than likely he will be wanking over the pics he's managed to collect through his fake profile xx |
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over a year ago
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"And I don't go near men who have drank too much x
I always drive xx
See Mr perfect x"
From personal experience of knowing Ynot I can confirm that he is an absolute gentleman |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"And I don't go near men who have drank too much x
I always drive xx
See Mr perfect x
From personal experience of knowing Ynot I can confirm that he is an absolute gentleman "
Awww Nikki youll have me blushing, Thanks hun. Big hugs xxxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been swinging and visiting clubs for over 15 years now as part of a couple and recently as a single, and I feel that single guys are on average less pushier than they used to be. I recall a few occasions where I almost came to blows with guys over shoving me out of the way when my ex was putting on an ff show.
I think though that type of experience has informed my attitude as a single. I don't have a set way of how I approach people in clubs, I would say I generally see how they interact with others and then approach in a way that feels appropriate. But I definitely don't do the following people from room to room thing. Above all, I try to rely on my humour and personality if I meet people in clubs. After all, my looks won't get me anywhere! |
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Just been reading that its a common issue dis respectful dickheads in clubs are even in the best of the best of the northwest clubs but its dumbed down but noticed.....highlighted oviously in clubs in Blackpool clubs are targeted...strange.....and not from locals surprise surprise....probably people dont appreciate Blackpool as a major swinging resort with quality venues all unique in there own right impartial myself ....up the pool   |
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"I like to be spoken to like you would on the street (with respect). If there is chemistry then I take things further. But I get wound up with single males who assume because they have paid to get in a club then they are guaranteed sex. If this is the case see a prostitute"
I have the exact same opinion. I'm sick of men walking over and all they say is "wanna play?" Erm no actually.
I may be interested in talking to you and finding out more about you (not least your name) but I only play once that's been done if we both have a spark. Otherwise I wouldn't enjoy myself so what's the point. |
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By *coobysMan
over a year ago
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Unfortunately single men are all tarred with the same brush
Whilst respect has to be paramount it is a two way thing.
I have visited many clubs in my time. I socialise and mingle and try to get along with everyone. I have been told before now off a few couples to f-ck off when trying to talk to them. Obviously not being blessed with good looks gets you an f off from the odd disrespectful couples there are around.
Respect is what we all want first. I have witnessed many a single following people around and its annoying for me never mind the club.
Some single males think because they have paid a lot to get in that they should be entitled to fun. That's so wrong but its a fact of club life which is a shame because the good singles get tarred with the same brush. |
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From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube "
Your 'limited experience' doesn't tally with any club we've ever been to.
We don't do greedy girls nights - but your attitude comes across as very similar to the types of guys that are a negative experience in the club scene.
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"From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube "
I find this a very negative comment and again a case of tarring everyone with the same brush, i certainly don't consider myself ugly, nor that everyone in clubs are too, as in the real world everyone is different and i guess we can only strive to be perfect like you |
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"From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube "
I guess you should stick to You Tube & paying based on these comments. They do not represent our experiences... |
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"From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube "
If you don't want anyone near you when you're playing you should use a lockable room. If you.play in open rooms you are effectively inviting people to watch and even wank. |
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over a year ago
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All my female friends are greedy girls and you know who you are and they are beautiful gorgeous with in and out who go to clubs it as to be better then the local working news club nite out playing... bingo and the tombola
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"From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube "
What a negative and judgmental statement. Is it any wonder that single guys get tarred with the same brush. We can't all be blessed with Adonis like bodies, but we have personalities and feelings. If I wanted to pay for sex, I would visit brothels as you suggest, but I want to share an environment with like minded people where there is potential for but no guarantee of playing in a safe and relaxed way. Despite my slightly wobbly gut and rarely flaccid penis! |
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over a year ago
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I've played in a public room and found I enjoy exhibitionism at times... However when flat on my back playing with my FB there have men who will totally invade your space and come at your face cock in hand, expecting to just be able to do what they want with no invite!!!!
Other times I've been playing and found someone trying to finger me whilst I've been given a blowjob... The cheek of some guys is incredible - they don't get that just because you're in a public room you aren't a greedy girl
If you've always played private, exhibitionism can be the next step in fulfilling your fantasy and not necessarily a free for all with uninvited guys.
And now I'll climb down off my soapbox
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"I've played in a public room and found I enjoy exhibitionism at times... However when flat on my back playing with my FB there have men who will totally invade your space and come at your face cock in hand, expecting to just be able to do what they want with no invite!!!!
Other times I've been playing and found someone trying to finger me whilst I've been given a blowjob... The cheek of some guys is incredible - they don't get that just because you're in a public room you aren't a greedy girl
If you've always played private, exhibitionism can be the next step in fulfilling your fantasy and not necessarily a free for all with uninvited guys.
And now I'll climb down off my soapbox
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trust me even at greedy girl events guys shouldnt assume they can touch...
I have had a guy just randomly cum over me at a gg session and not even so much as say hi.. or touch.. or anything.. just cum over my shoulder or into my hair or something.. It normally makes me and everyone else giggle but its not really appropriate.
I do hate the random hands when I am playing.. |
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over a year ago
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"From my limited experiences of swingers clubs Greedy Girls the whole setup is completely weird for single guys...
I for one when having sex with a woman don't enjoy some fat ass wobble gut having a Sherman with his tiny flaccid cock anywhere near me...
Club owners are too blame they should filter the single guys...
Also why not just pay for sex, it's probably cheaper and women are better looking... Have a look at Sandys Superstars they even have vids on YouTube "
how exactly are the clubs meant to do that?? Strip in the entrance hall and anyone that doesn't meet up to your expectations not be allowed in??
If you don't like the club environment.. Its simple don't go.. And to say the girls are less attractive; who is the one fucking them?? No one said you had to..
I agree its a difficult set up for the guys.. Some greedy girls are very particular ( their prerogative to be ) but in this case i think they should either choose the guys before hand and go into a private room or have a dedicated person on hand who makes that judgement call for them.. Stopping the men touching who are not 'their type' you can still be an exhibitionist behind a screen so people can see but not touch |
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over a year ago
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"If the club has those facilities but some don't.... "
i agree but most that i attend have the rule that people are not allowed into a room ( unless it's the open rooms ) without invitation.. Could you not just leave the door open for people to watch??
Im not saying the men have a right to touch without asking but i have to stick up for the single guys here.. Its really difficult for them.. When the action starts it is difficult to ask for permission without touching first.. I say this because you would have to stop play to ask the question.. Which to be fair is a uncomfortable thing to do.. The guys will generally touch, to get your attention.. if they get pushed off or get told no; they back down... Once that's happened the room is aware that no touching is permitted and will alliterate that with others that come in the room later |
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"If the club has those facilities but some don't....
i agree but most that i attend have the rule that people are not allowed into a room ( unless it's the open rooms ) without invitation.. Could you not just leave the door open for people to watch??
Im not saying the men have a right to touch without asking but i have to stick up for the single guys here.. Its really difficult for them.. When the action starts it is difficult to ask for permission without touching first.. I say this because you would have to stop play to ask the question.. Which to be fair is a uncomfortable thing to do.. The guys will generally touch, to get your attention.. if they get pushed off or get told no; they back down... Once that's happened the room is aware that no touching is permitted and will alliterate that with others that come in the room later "
A slight touch is fine. But the amount of people I've seen that get all screechy and haughty... good grief.
And I mean a slight touch. Not a grope. |
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Someone was saying earlier about how clubs can 'filter' single guys...not sure about the terminology there but I know what you mean.
To be honest, I think single guys get bad press as there a lots of lovely respectful guys, but I know from experience that it takes just one bad guy at an event for it to spoil the whole night.
At Townhouse, we have an induction process. We don't have a yearly membership fee for guys, but they need to pop aong on the induction instead. During this we show them around, answer questions, talk about etiquette and how to get the most out of their experience...how to approach people respectfully and how to accept the knock back without it knocking confidence. The induction is to ease guys in as I believe that they can be just as nervous as everybody else and I sometimes think that they are nervous as they feel like the 'poor relation'. It's not fair really.
So we like to get to know our guys before we give them a membership and if I smell a rat, then they are asked to leave and not offered a membership.
Some people don't like this approach but the guys who understand the scene and know that it's more than a 'pay your money and you're guaranteed a shag' don't mind going through the process.
It's worked for 18 months and we rarely get any problems. Most guys talk to each other and most know that we are a fair club and look after our guys as we appreciate them. I also don't take any shit and don't suffer fools!
Going back to an earlier comment...I have actually asked more couples to leave due to inappropriate behaviour over the years than men. Some ladies think that because they are in demand, they can behave badly...no they can't.
It's all about respecting yourself, your fellow swingers and the club. Simple.
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Firstly thanks to all who have spoken up for us decent single guys.
Personally I would always chat to anyone before trying anything.
Nobody should touch another person without their permission.
Most of us guys will actually speak out if another guy is behaving inapropriately. We want the night ruined by one arsehole even less than the ladies.
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. "
Good question.
In a sex club, I try to behave as if it is not a sex club and rather an ordinary club. Normal manners apply, like trying to charm people, engaging them. So even if you don't play on that day you have made a contact who may play another time or may even invite a friend! It works. |
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
Good question.
In a sex club, I try to behave as if it is not a sex club and rather an ordinary club. Normal manners apply, like trying to charm people, engaging them. So even if you don't play on that day you have made a contact who may play another time or may even invite a friend! It works. "
Good answer. I quite possibly am the most hard work person to talk to or get to know online. However face to face I'm completely different. I love the social side of swinging in a club and getting to know someone however I do have a boundary that keeps my everyday life and swinging life separate |
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over a year ago
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If a bloke or couple approach me in a club I like to be spoken to as you would if you have met me in the street. Horny talks come once you decide to take things further x |
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Very informative thread. Thanks for sharing.
I've not been to a club yet but it's definitely on my near future list. All the posts confirm that if I go to a club and be myself (friendly, considerate and definitely not pushy) then there's a good chance I'll meet some nice peeps and have a laugh, maybe more.
Clearly still got a lot to learn about the etiquette but the whole thing doesn't seem as daunting as it did before reading this.
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"Very informative thread. Thanks for sharing.
I've not been to a club yet but it's definitely on my near future list. All the posts confirm that if I go to a club and be myself (friendly, considerate and definitely not pushy) then there's a good chance I'll meet some nice peeps and have a laugh, maybe more.
Clearly still got a lot to learn about the etiquette but the whole thing doesn't seem as daunting as it did before reading this.
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Some blokes have wandering hands and others sit or stand wanking in front of single women and couples.
Something happened in a club not so long ago which got me thinking about this topic.
Basically if you have manners and common sense and speak to people with respect it goes a long way and you'll stand out more from the male predators ... |
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"Very informative thread. Thanks for sharing.
I've not been to a club yet but it's definitely on my near future list. All the posts confirm that if I go to a club and be myself (friendly, considerate and definitely not pushy) then there's a good chance I'll meet some nice peeps and have a laugh, maybe more.
Clearly still got a lot to learn about the etiquette but the whole thing doesn't seem as daunting as it did before reading this.
Some blokes have wandering hands and others sit or stand wanking in front of single women and couples.
Something happened in a club not so long ago which got me thinking about this topic.
Basically if you have manners and common sense and speak to people with respect it goes a long way and you'll stand out more from the male predators ... "
I shall take your advice on board, thanks.
It does seem common sense and everything that has been recommended is how I tend to conduct myself anyway.
I guess I just need to get myself out there and see what happens |
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"Very informative thread. Thanks for sharing.
I've not been to a club yet but it's definitely on my near future list. All the posts confirm that if I go to a club and be myself (friendly, considerate and definitely not pushy) then there's a good chance I'll meet some nice peeps and have a laugh, maybe more.
Clearly still got a lot to learn about the etiquette but the whole thing doesn't seem as daunting as it did before reading this.
Some blokes have wandering hands and others sit or stand wanking in front of single women and couples.
Something happened in a club not so long ago which got me thinking about this topic.
Basically if you have manners and common sense and speak to people with respect it goes a long way and you'll stand out more from the male predators ...
I shall take your advice on board, thanks.
It does seem common sense and everything that has been recommended is how I tend to conduct myself anyway.
I guess I just need to get myself out there and see what happens"
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"Very informative thread. Thanks for sharing.
I've not been to a club yet but it's definitely on my near future list. All the posts confirm that if I go to a club and be myself (friendly, considerate and definitely not pushy) then there's a good chance I'll meet some nice peeps and have a laugh, maybe more.
Clearly still got a lot to learn about the etiquette but the whole thing doesn't seem as daunting as it did before reading this.
Some blokes have wandering hands and others sit or stand wanking in front of single women and couples.
Something happened in a club not so long ago which got me thinking about this topic.
Basically if you have manners and common sense and speak to people with respect it goes a long way and you'll stand out more from the male predators ...
I shall take your advice on board, thanks.
It does seem common sense and everything that has been recommended is how I tend to conduct myself anyway.
I guess I just need to get myself out there and see what happens
good luck with your new adveadventures "
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"Thanks. Think I'll need it!
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You know if you want a friendly club to attend for the first time come to blackpool for the eve and spend your time in connections. Read the reviews. Couldn't ask for a more friendly place and faces. Relaxing and a no pressure club. No joining a fee and cheap to get in x |
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Been wondering about this myself... Currently contemplating my 1st visit to a club.. Probably townhouse and very nervous as to how I go about approaching women/couples! |
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"Been wondering about this myself... Currently contemplating my 1st visit to a club.. Probably townhouse and very nervous as to how I go about approaching women/couples! "
most people socialize first in the bar /lounge area its really relaxed and very friendly. You'll soon lose your nerves once you're in there.. Its not as bad as your expecting.. Get your face seen before going to the play rooms, that way people will recognise you and be more inclined to invite you to play |
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"Thanks alot for the advice just nervous about misreading a situation and getting pied off I suppose! "
Be calm and confident but not over powering. Talk to people as you would in a local pub and you'll be fine. Respect others. I wish you well |
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You know if you want a friendly club to attend for the first time come to blackpool for the eve and spend your time in connections. Read the reviews. Couldn't ask for a more friendly place and faces. Relaxing and a no pressure club. No joining a fee and cheap to get in x "
Checked the website and reviews, looks great, yours too
Definitely something to consider if I could sort the logistics of hotel and time. Was thinking of amour in Manchester because it's local but a trip out for some sea air might be good for me! |
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"All this reads scary to me. I don't know if i could slap someone but I suppose this is why it would be wise to go with someone "
Why would you slap someone? |
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"All this reads scary to me. I don't know if i could slap someone but I suppose this is why it would be wise to go with someone
Why would you slap someone?"
9 comments in someone refers to slapping someone. I think she maybe referring to that. Other than that I have no idea  |
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"All this reads scary to me. I don't know if i could slap someone but I suppose this is why it would be wise to go with someone
Why would you slap someone?
9 comments in someone refers to slapping someone. I think she maybe referring to that. Other than that I have no idea "
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"All this reads scary to me. I don't know if i could slap someone but I suppose this is why it would be wise to go with someone
Why would you slap someone?
9 comments in someone refers to slapping someone. I think she maybe referring to that. Other than that I have no idea
If anyone slaps someone they should be thrown out. "
Can't say I've ever felt the need to go that far in the swinging lifestyle however in my everyday life that's a different story |
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"All this reads scary to me. I don't know if i could slap someone but I suppose this is why it would be wise to go with someone
Why would you slap someone?"
someone further up the thread mentioned if they got groped, a slap would suffice, or words to that effect. I should have quoted from it. I actually meant to put I wouldnt slap someone |
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"All this reads scary to me. I don't know if i could slap someone but I suppose this is why it would be wise to go with someone
Why would you slap someone?
someone further up the thread mentioned if they got groped, a slap would suffice, or words to that effect. I should have quoted from it. I actually meant to put I wouldnt slap someone "
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We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you. |
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"We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you."
Ive noticed wandering hands in saunas, jacuzzi and bars before any action has started. In an open orgy/gangbang room I've never had any real issues. I say no and they stand aside. It's the people who assume that because they are in a swinging club that they are guaranteed sex |
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"We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you."
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"We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you."
This.
When we get the (rare) opportunity to go to a club, the social chit-chat isn't what we're looking for. We enjoy the unknown - the play with strangers, the dark rooms, the mystery. We want to be US, playing with others and indulging in sexual delights with whoever takes our joint fancy. We're there for the action, not the preamble.
However, each to his/her own. Whilst we are open to being joined by (and joining in with) people we've not chatted to, we do expect to be able to mutter "nah - gerrof" (particularly if they smell/are too forward/rough/pushy) but likewise we'd not assume we can dive on in without any decorum.
It's all about consideration and reading the signals from the people you're engaging with.
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"We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you.
This.
When we get the (rare) opportunity to go to a club, the social chit-chat isn't what we're looking for. We enjoy the unknown - the play with strangers, the dark rooms, the mystery. We want to be US, playing with others and indulging in sexual delights with whoever takes our joint fancy. We're there for the action, not the preamble.
However, each to his/her own. Whilst we are open to being joined by (and joining in with) people we've not chatted to, we do expect to be able to mutter "nah - gerrof" (particularly if they smell/are too forward/rough/pushy) but likewise we'd not assume we can dive on in without any decorum.
It's all about consideration and reading the signals from the people you're engaging with.
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"We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you."
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"We've played in open rooms at clubs for over 14 years. We expect guys who want to play to join in - a gentle touch at first and if we don't want them we say so.
Over the years there appears to be too many precious people that play in open rooms that get upset at the slightest of touches. If it bothers so much that "no thanks" isn't enough then a private meet or a private room is the answer.
We now find that many single guys won't approach without a signed affadavit saying it's ok and that is ruining the club scene for us.
If you don't want to be touched, and can't say no without aggression, maybe an open room isn't for you.
This.
When we get the (rare) opportunity to go to a club, the social chit-chat isn't what we're looking for. We enjoy the unknown - the play with strangers, the dark rooms, the mystery. We want to be US, playing with others and indulging in sexual delights with whoever takes our joint fancy. We're there for the action, not the preamble.
However, each to his/her own. Whilst we are open to being joined by (and joining in with) people we've not chatted to, we do expect to be able to mutter "nah - gerrof" (particularly if they smell/ are too forward/rough/pushy) but likewise we'd not assume we can dive on in without any decorum.
It's all about consideration and reading the signals from the people you're engaging with.
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Yep quality answer i get that total its simple!!!! communication
Some folk have little communication skills these days due to the world we live in |
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I respect other people and as such will ask prior to trying to engage with anybody- single or a couple. If I get told 'no' then I'll stop any further interaction. I've witness guys persisting and it's both wrong and unnerving. Which part of no do some people not understand.
We are all after adult fun, but limits and boundaries should be respected. |
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I ad a non swingin fun girl in a club playin with me in a open rooms on saturday we had lots of enthusiastic single guys very willing to join us but a stern no from the girl was sufficent by the young lady and the guys said thankyou anyway lol and moved on to others .... ..
So a total respect to all
wont name the club...
No means No
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"I ad a non swingin fun girl in a club playin with me in a open rooms on saturday we had lots of enthusiastic single guys very willing to join us but a stern no from the girl was sufficent by the young lady and the guys said thankyou anyway lol and moved on to others .... ..
So a total respect to all
wont name the club...
No means No
end of "
Tarzan how the hell did you get a non swinger in a swinging club. Bizarre |
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. "
I always follow the etiquette of the club and polite conversation first and never move in without being asked to join. Guess that why I don't get a lot of action |
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"I ad a non swingin fun girl in a club playin with me in a open rooms on saturday we had lots of enthusiastic single guys very willing to join us but a stern no from the girl was sufficent by the young lady and the guys said thankyou anyway lol and moved on to others .... ..
So a total respect to all
wont name the club...
No means No
end of
Tarzan how the hell did you get a non swinger in a swinging club. Bizarre "
I could turn water into wine lol given time  |
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer. "
My pet hate about guys in clubs is the, what I call, pied piper effect... single lady that just has a train of guys following her around. There is etiquette in swinging just like the is with any personal interaction and people's wishes must be respected |
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On a few occasions in a club I have had to raise my voice and say "back off" or " what you think you are doing" this startles them
failing that my heel digging in their foot hurts.
I might add the club in question I havent been to for a good 8 months |
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Had a good think about this as I go to clubs quite a lot. I like to make the choice, I don't wait for men to come and chat to me and I have never once failed to get what I want from the man/men I have chosen. Now I'm not particularly gorgeous slim and young but like this site, women call the shots. It says something about single men who "swing" particularly in clubs I think. They pay a premium in the hopes they will have some sex so when offered they do not look the gift horse in the mouth so to speak and women know this. Interesting dynamic and one that a university somewhere should take a look at, maybe some of our antipodean friends?? |
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This whole club thing scares the bejesus out of me,people read other people different from themselves and could read something that's not.
Wanking in a corner seems to seedy for me.
But rejection hurts and with fugly looks like mine I'd be in the lounge all night shaking like a leaf. Lol |
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over a year ago
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol"
Ah, yes, the 'Zombies' and the 'Penguins'. And then there are the 'Peacocks'
I was once at Radletts and this guy walks in, looks at the women and says to the hosts, "Is that all you've got". Later, he tries to chat me up. What a damn fool |
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"Just wondering from a single male perspective... do you all dive in feet first seeing a single female or couple in a club or do you have a certain etiquette about you? Not had any major problems myself but I have noticed over the past a few weeks some wondering hands and not taking no for an answer.
Blooody cheek ....i hope you told him where to go?
I never touch unless ive been told I can. I dont climb onto or stand next to open beds wanking hoping to get an BJ and I dont wank under a towel. I wear boxers and watch respectfully from a reasonable distance. I try to engage in conversation with single females and couples, always involving both halves of a couple and not just the lady.
No always means No, no questions asked.
Some guys would do a lot better if they actually spoke to people insteadd of silently wandering round the corrridors looking for a cheap thrill, its like the walking dead sometimes lol
Ah, yes, the 'Zombies' and the 'Penguins'. And then there are the 'Peacocks'
I was once at Radletts and this guy walks in, looks at the women and says to the hosts, "Is that all you've got". Later, he tries to chat me up. What a damn fool"
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Interesting subject on the whole we haven't had too much to complain about and most people know or learn how to behave.
A couple of tips we've learnt:
1. How to avoid a smelly dick.
Undertake the sniff test. Before blowing hold the cock, smell the bell if you smell cheese give a quick wank and move on quickly, but don't blow!
2. The club pest (otherwise known as the club twat).
Usually can be found in every location in the club. Avoid at all cost give them an aggressive wank in the glory hole hopefully they'll do one!
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"Interesting subject on the whole we haven't had too much to complain about and most people know or learn how to behave.
A couple of tips we've learnt:
1. How to avoid a smelly dick.
Undertake the sniff test. Before blowing hold the cock, smell the bell if you smell cheese give a quick wank and move on quickly, but don't blow!
2. The club pest (otherwise known as the club twat).
Usually can be found in every location in the club. Avoid at all cost give them an aggressive wank in the glory hole hopefully they'll do one!
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suppose it's the same for a smelly fanny really quick stroke cuddle smell fingers nice n clean u be busy smelly fingers u be dizzy lol xxx |
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"Interesting subject on the whole we haven't had too much to complain about and most people know or learn how to behave.
A couple of tips we've learnt:
1. How to avoid a smelly dick.
Undertake the sniff test. Before blowing hold the cock, smell the bell if you smell cheese give a quick wank and move on quickly, but don't blow!
2. The club pest (otherwise known as the club twat).
Usually can be found in every location in the club. Avoid at all cost give them an aggressive wank in the glory hole hopefully they'll do one!
suppose it's the same for a smelly fanny really quick stroke cuddle smell fingers nice n clean u be busy smelly fingers u be dizzy lol xxx "
I'd like to think out hygiene is paramount |
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