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So at our recent visits to clubs we have had no problem in having single men join us. We have seen lots of couples come and watch us play but none ever want to play with us. Whats the best way to invite couples to play at clubs? |
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over a year ago
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We prefer to chat to people see how the chemistry us before playing, so perhaps expecting people to just join in is a little too much for most people
Given the fact your both super hot, people may feel intimidated, if we were in a club with you we wouldn't just join in, just watch, but if we spoke first and got along in the bar then..... |
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We visited Chams for the first time on Sunday evening. We did have a great time but would of been better if we had gone over and chatted to the couples we fancied.
There was certainly the (Beautiful Crowd) who just seemed to be chatting to the like bodied people. Lol.
I suppose it's a confidence thing. Especially when you are a 50 ish couple with lumps and bumps.
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As you are happy to play with single guys too , why not ask a couple you like the look of if they would like to join you with the guy you choose ?
This may take the fear factor away  |
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To the op, generally we find it's down to the girls. Usually it's just a glance and a smile and a cheeky eyebrow is enough.
Sometimes when playing next to another couple one of them will make a compliment about to the other, if it's returned it usually goes from there.
You're right though it's definately different to attracting a single male, where breathing is normally enough....;-) doesn't bother us we enjoy single males.
It is right though, sometimes, and I expect we 're all guilty of this occasionally, we second guess others and think "we wouldn't be for them, but they are gorgeous!" - only to find at the end of the night while talking in the bar "yeah we saw you come into the room and hoped you'd play"...doh!
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cheers guys, hopefully it will work, we have been turned down a few times our selves. We don't want to "date" people, we are there to swing lol
So my plan is to walk up to the couples and ask if they would like to play.
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"To the op, generally we find it's down to the girls. Usually it's just a glance and a smile and a cheeky eyebrow is enough.
Sometimes when playing next to another couple one of them will make a compliment about to the other, if it's returned it usually goes from there.
You're right though it's definately different to attracting a single male, where breathing is normally enough....;-) doesn't bother us we enjoy single males.
It is right though, sometimes, and I expect we 're all guilty of this occasionally, we second guess others and think "we wouldn't be for them, but they are gorgeous!" - only to find at the end of the night while talking in the bar "yeah we saw you come into the room and hoped you'd play"...doh!
lol i know what you mean, from my view it feels as if you've been rejected when couples walk away without a word. Were all nervous lol and seen as im naked in a room full of people i am sure someone could at least speak. :D
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"cheers guys, hopefully it will work, we have been turned down a few times our selves. We don't want to "date" people, we are there to swing lol
So my plan is to walk up to the couples and ask if they would like to play.
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"cheers guys, hopefully it will work, we have been turned down a few times our selves. We don't want to "date" people, we are there to swing lol
So my plan is to walk up to the couples and ask if they would like to play.
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I agree, not there to date. have to click but don't kneed their life stories.
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Could be worse, we were at in a club recently and a rather unpleasant couple assumed they could just join in without asking. They were promptly asked to bugger off! It is a surprise when your fucking your misses from behind rather hard and a small old arab woman just tries to finger your arse |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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Will follow this thread with interest. There are a couple of factors for me. The first one was, and to some extent still is, who do I "fancy" and the same for my OH. What I mean is what someone else said, I don't want to date them just to have fun!
The second can be about the club being busy enough to have a "selection" as it were, but not so busy it is difficult to speak to people.
This matters more to me (male) in some ways as I find MMF a bit boring and prefer a foursome -straight swap or otherwise. I think I need to practice my flirting skills some more. |
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Just an intensified version of regular dating...
You both wish you had spoke up sooner... Confidence issue? I don't think so, we are all just so conditioned to give each other space (nobody likes a space invader).
I think it's all in the eyes, some people like the hungry eyes locked on them through a dimly lit room others hate it... |
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one of the raunchiest moments I can ever remember happened at a club. We were happily playing together. I think I was behind Mrs N fondling her boobs or something. This gorgeous lady in red stockings and suspenders looked her at her and just said in a deep voice " ooooooo do you mind if I kiss her."
It's lived forever in my memory. The way she said it was just so dirty and earthy. Try that way LOL |
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"Could be worse, we were at in a club recently and a rather unpleasant couple assumed they could just join in without asking. They were promptly asked to bugger off! It is a surprise when your fucking your misses from behind rather hard and a small old arab woman just tries to finger your arse"
jesus,just spat out my brew. |
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"Could be worse, we were at in a club recently and a rather unpleasant couple assumed they could just join in without asking. They were promptly asked to bugger off! It is a surprise when your fucking your misses from behind rather hard and a small old arab woman just tries to finger your arse
jesus,just spat out my brew."
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By *jandjbCouple
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"one of the raunchiest moments I can ever remember happened at a club. We were happily playing together. I think I was behind Mrs N fondling her boobs or something. This gorgeous lady in red stockings and suspenders looked her at her and just said in a deep voice " ooooooo do you mind if I kiss her."
It's lived forever in my memory. The way she said it was just so dirty and earthy. Try that way LOL"
This is how we ended up playing with someone else. Our third time in Cupids, first time in the couples room and the female of a couple we had only spoken to in the changing room asked a similar question. The rest is history! I do think for couples that fem to fem like this can work well. |
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"one of the raunchiest moments I can ever remember happened at a club. We were happily playing together. I think I was behind Mrs N fondling her boobs or something. This gorgeous lady in red stockings and suspenders looked her at her and just said in a deep voice " ooooooo do you mind if I kiss her."
It's lived forever in my memory. The way she said it was just so dirty and earthy. Try that way LOL
This is how we ended up playing with someone else. Our third time in Cupids, first time in the couples room and the female of a couple we had only spoken to in the changing room asked a similar question. The rest is history! I do think for couples that fem to fem like this can work well. "
I just wish I had the confidence too ask things like that x |
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