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Daytimes at Eurekas

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've been looking through the threads and it seems we're not the only people to think that Eurekas really needs a couples area outside. The facilities are great, the pool and the countryside are fab and we are really enjoying our time there, especially in this gorgeous weather. But we're noobies and although I'm sure the single guys are all lovely chaps they do tend to prowl around desperately searching out the action, whispering to each other as they pass asking if it's quiet in the field or is anything happening in the pool and it is all a little bit intimidating.

So, ok, if you are in the middle of the field and you start playing it's fairly obvious you want to be watched and you're happy to be wanked over and possibly cool with somebody joining in. But, like I said, we're noobies and not quite up for that yet, so we thought we'd quietly slip into the woods to play a little bit with each other. We found a quiet spot and it was great. However after a few minutes the guys got wind of what we were doing and literally came out of the woodwork, like cock wielding zombies, forming a circle around us and soon there were half a dozen angry erections being waved at us just a couple of feet away. My partner found it a little alarming and that was it, moment gone, everything stopped. I'm sure if I'd have asked the guys to leave us in peace they would have done but it kinda spoils the atmos.

Why not have an area, say part of the lower field, or even the woods to the left of the path going between the fields, that is couples only. And you could set up some tables and benches at the edge for the single guys to sit and watch the braver couples who are playing near them. Then the not so brave couples could go deeper into the woods and be watched from a safer distance and the really timid could go really deep into the woods still and enjoy some privacy.

The single guys I'm sure would be happy as they wouldn't need to cover so much ground searching for some action as it would be in one place. The couples who are happy to be watched would be able to choose how near or far away they're comfortable with being watched. And I'm sure more couples would play more knowing they're not going to be suddenly surrounded by furiously wanking men.

In fact why not do that with the whole lower field?

It seems that the rooms are pretty cramped as well, and looking at the threads this causes some friction (no pun intended) between the couples wanting to play and the guys wanting to watch, with bouncers having to be deployed at the doors.

I realise that if I wanted privacy I could stay indoors and that isn't really what I'm asking for. I was just hoping that there would be less of a scrum with the guys just a little too desperate to watch and wank over us. Perhaps it would be better to have one big room with a line on the floor half way. Then only couples or guys specifically invited to play could cross the line and join in. Again the braver couples could choose to play nearer the line and the really brave could play amongst them.

They really need to replace the tables with the kind of couches they have in the playing rooms and it would look less like it's heads down for bingo at seven and more of a nightclub atmosphere.

I'm really not against the single guys being there as when I'm not with my partner I'm one of them and I understand the ethos of the club is that they should be welcome, but I think some clever changes would create a more fluid vibe, making it better for everyone, instead of the current situation of couples booking tables to sit at all night and the guys waiting around the edges to get a peek past a bouncer and around the door of a very small dark room.

Having couples book a table and then protecting it all night is possibly the least sexy way of accommodating a swingers club that I can imagine and even if the couples aren't cliquey it gives the impression they don't want you to sit with them.

Last moan, why are there towels on every single sunbed around the pool but only half a dozen people sitting on them. Are you all German for God's sake???? You're all intent on reserving your favourite little bit of space next to your favourite people and it makes you seem CLIQUEY!

J&J

xxx

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Long post and I got bored reading half way down. Play is strictly forbidden by the pool. The woods is for dogging and men do swamp which I can see why intimidating to newbies so the idea of couples onky section is good but will watching. The lower field has a new section with taller grass with pathes cut into it leading to circular spaces for more private play. Obviously just needs growing

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I didn't realise the woods were for dogging

We have played in the woods a couple if times once with an audience and when I asked a guy to back off he did and other times we managed to find a secluded space and no one disturbed us.

I know what the op means about some of the single men though.

As to the other points I would say they are probably best taken up with Eureka itself.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

We've been to Eurekas a couple of times and have decided it's not for us. Apart from the fact it's a monumental trek, we just didn't like the atmosphere - it felt cliquey around the pool and we didn't like being 'dogged' through the woods by a dozen or so elderly gentlemen. Every time we stopped, they stopped (and seemingly developed an interest in the local bird-life as they stared up into the trees). When we walked on, the train continued. It felt like a bliddy conga line!

It's one of the reasons we won't be going back. We like single guys - but not like that.

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"We've been to Eurekas a couple of times and have decided it's not for us. Apart from the fact it's a monumental trek, we just didn't like the atmosphere - it felt cliquey around the pool and we didn't like being 'dogged' through the woods by a dozen or so elderly gentlemen. Every time we stopped, they stopped (and seemingly developed an interest in the local bird-life as they stared up into the trees). When we walked on, the train continued. It felt like a bliddy conga line!

It's one of the reasons we won't be going back. We like single guys - but not like that."

I'm sure if you asked them to go they would have. As for the clique around the pool.....

I believe cliques only exist if people think themselves as invaders from the outside. I just start random conversations with said cliques and there is no clique

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"I didn't realise the woods were for dogging

Not specifically I don't think but in the eyes of the single men it seems so. I should have made my view of it more clear

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

It's one of the reasons we won't be going back. We like single guys - but not like that.

I'm sure if you asked them to go they would have. As for the clique around the pool.....

I believe cliques only exist if people think themselves as invaders from the outside. I just start random conversations with said cliques and there is no clique"

Not sure how we'd have done that as they tailed about 50m behind us... holler 'go away' across the woodland?

As for cliques - maybe we felt like invaders because that's how we perceived we were treated. Perhaps I'm wrong - but when you smile at people and are met with a glare of stony indifference, you tend not to want to push it any further. For us, it's a very long way to go to end up feeling awkward.

I'm not slating the club though - I'm sure many, many people have a first rate time there. I'm only saying it's not for us and the reasons why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are considering a visit in a couple of weeks. What do we need to know and what day /night is best?

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

It's one of the reasons we won't be going back. We like single guys - but not like that.

I'm sure if you asked them to go they would have. As for the clique around the pool.....

I believe cliques only exist if people think themselves as invaders from the outside. I just start random conversations with said cliques and there is no clique

Not sure how we'd have done that as they tailed about 50m behind us... holler 'go away' across the woodland?

I'm not slating the club though - I'm sure many, many people have a first rate time there. I'm only saying it's not for us and the reasons why."

Never experienced that myself and a shame you guys did. It is understandable you not wanting to go again.

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"We are considering a visit in a couple of weeks. What do we need to know and what day /night is best?"

A hot day is good if you want to just chill. I've only been on a Monday during the day and Friday and Saturday day and night. Friday day when it was sunny was my favourite day and Saturday night was my favourite night but that was a special event.

Best to read reviews to help you decide

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

We experienced the glare when we smiled at people round the pool too and put it down to us being at the older end of the spectrum.

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By *arehamMan over a year ago

handforth

I love going there on a sunny day ,sitting out side having a cup of tea on the balcony and a sandwich ,then going to have a swim and a walk round the field and the woods,but when I went into the main room with all the table's I got the impression that I was as welcome as a fart in a space suit, apart from that I like this place.

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By *unsurreycouple1Couple over a year ago

Surrey

It's one of the reasons we won't be going back. We like single guys - but not like that."

We felt the same, funny atmosphere. far too many single meerkats and to be honest at best shabby.

The accommodation is a shed, pure and simple no point to try and glam it up.

Its a shame the idea is great, but we found it very hard to connect and relax.

Not in our top 10 for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been going to eureka daytime for over a year.mainly wed or fri

I go as a single most the time and havent encountered glares. the regulars are very friendly and I meet so many new people. Last time there was a fri I met two lady forumities by pool, maybe we looked cliquey having a laugh all day.anybody who spoke or smiled got same back it was a lovely hot day

that accasion I didnt go to woods or field as were having a naturist day, accasionly I have gone down there and its just like my nudist beach a few meerkats.i tell them to back off if get too close, and when not so busy can be areas bit more private.

there are single men who do like to watch/join in but think it be bit Unfair to fence private areas for couple only outside as I wont be allowed to peek either

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"Ive been going to eureka daytime for over a year.mainly wed or fri

I go as a single most the time and havent encountered glares...

The linking factor here seems to be that single ladies are more likely to receive a warm welcome. The only three comments that have mentioned glares or a bad atmosphere have come from couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok , I don't want to exclude single guys from watching the fun at all. I'd just like to have a say in how close they get to me. Frankly if there's a guy watching my partner give me a blow job and he's ten feet away, I'm likely to give him a cheeky wink as he wanks off while watching us and give my partners tits a squeeze for him.

If he's nearer to me than my partner who's doing the sucking I might get a bit pissed off and the mood might change.

I like wankers, I am one!!!

If there's a line drawn in the sand we can get really close to the line if catching random cum in our hair turns us on or we can cross the line and suck the cock producing the random cum, or be six feet away from the line if we like to see the ejaculate land just in front of our feet.

Or if we're shy we can get as far away from the line as we can get where all the other young, fit noobies are hiding being shy.

And the fact is, if more people are feeling more comfortable with how the watchers are watching, they are more likely to play, so there will be more play for the watchers to see.

More couples having sex = more watchers watchers watching sex = more people having cummed.

QED!

Single guys are good for the club and they want to see something exciting happening. and they hope to be asked to join in.

That's more likely to happen in a less intimidating environment dontcha reckon?

And the club will be more popular, and it will make more money, and the facilities can be invested in, and there will be more space for more people, and they will all be paying so the owners will make more money and the club will have a better reputation and everyone will be happier and I will take the franchise for the next club somewhere in Spain or France because I can see this model can properly expand if it is run for the benefit of all the users, not just the regulars, who seem to have a hold over how it's all run at the moment to the detrimennt of the 70% of people who would go 400% more if this fantastic facility was better executed .

Sorry I know there will be a lot of regulars who will hate to see any change, sat there with there rum and , opposite each other, naked at the same table for the past twenty years, but really, think about it. Once it starts to attract more customers, warmly invited into an attractive nightclub based fun room, full of horny mingling sexy people, you're so onto a winner!

The new middle aged are the ravers of the 80s dropping E's years ago and partying hard. Big fish little fish cardboard box and all that. They want to party in a big space and get amongst it, not stand at the edge waiting for the oldies to relinquish their booked bingo tables so they can have a sit down.

We're not shy and we have a few quid.

Just look at the changing user group on fabswingers, chaturbate, killing kittens, etc etc. this place can properly be an inclusive, fun experience for so many people, not excluding the old guard, just inviting the new guard, who want to get involved with swinging and would enjoy this fantastic facility and the regulars ould love the influx of horny new people!

J&J

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Ive been going to eureka daytime for over a year.mainly wed or fri

I go as a single most the time and havent encountered glares...

The linking factor here seems to be that single ladies are more likely to receive a warm welcome. The only three comments that have mentioned glares or a bad atmosphere have come from couples.

Yes I agree. We try to be as inclusive and friendly as we can but with one or two exceptions are met with less than welcoming faces. It's human nature suppose but not an aspect I enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive been going to eureka daytime for over a year.mainly wed or fri

I go as a single most the time and havent encountered glares...

The linking factor here seems to be that single ladies are more likely to receive a warm welcome. The only three comments that have mentioned glares or a bad atmosphere have come from couples.

yes good point couples see it differently. However I am there as a couple sometimes and still haven't encountered this, but thats just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love eureka

Private/ do not approach play areas in field and woods would be fantastic, awesome idea

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

"Ive been going to eureka daytime for over a year.mainly wed or fri

I go as a single most the time and havent encountered glares...

The linking factor here seems to be that single ladies are more likely to receive a warm welcome. The only three comments that have mentioned glares or a bad atmosphere have come from couples.

yes good point couples see it differently. However I am there as a couple sometimes and still haven't encountered this, but thats just me"

But you are, by your own admission, one of the regulars. We're regulars at Kestrels and don't experience the same issues so I don't think it's purely down to us being unwilling to socialise.

Maybe it's one of those things you just can't put your finger on. Maybe we just don't 'fit' in that particular club. Either way, I doubt we'll ever return. One daytime visit and one evening visit were enough for us to assess it wasn't the place for us.

And OP - we're so with you on the table layout of the main clubhouse! (Plus the music was so loud the night we went we couldn't have socialised if our lives depended on it)

The general atmosphere and venue was all a bit... 1970s holiday camp.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I agree, I wouldn't want to see a fenced off area either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have known eureka for quite a few years. And I was at one time a very regular attendee. Not these days though. That is not to say I would not attend. There have been many changes in recent years some of which are good and others not so much. And if you like it or not there is a clique. This is something the club really needs to look at. Dont get me wrong eureka has lots of plus but it also has some serious downs.

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By *urekaPartiesCouple over a year ago

FAWKHAM

Hi guys ...

Mike here one of the owners of eureka , myself and Lenny the other part owner !! Would like to respond to this post !! Firstly it would have been really nice for j&j to say something to us !!!

We are constantly refurbishing eureka as many of our customers know !!! And this 1970s bingo hall has well in excess of 2000 gold/silver members mostly satisfied ... Can't please everyone of course

which leads to this statement !!! Myself and Lenny are sorry J&J that eureka does not meet your requirements in any shape or for !! So we respectfully suggest that you go to another venue that meets your needs ... Needless to say we wish you all the best !!! And please to all our loyal old and new customers ... We look forward to welcoming you all !!!!

Mike Davies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive been going to eureka daytime for over a year.mainly wed or fri

I go as a single most the time and havent encountered glares...

The linking factor here seems to be that single ladies are more likely to receive a warm welcome. The only three comments that have mentioned glares or a bad atmosphere have come from couples.

yes good point couples see it differently. However I am there as a couple sometimes and still haven't encountered this, but thats just me

But you are, by your own admission, one of the regulars. We're regulars at Kestrels and don't experience the same issues so I don't think it's purely down to us being unwilling to socialise.

And OP - we're so with you on the table layout of the main clubhouse! (Plus the music was so loud the night we went we couldn't have socialised if our lives depended on it)

The general atmosphere and venue was all a bit... 1970s holiday camp."

yes im a regular once or if lucky twice a month. You find kestrals relaxed and favourite. Kestrals is bit expensive for a first visit single lady they want 15 membership and 15 for day i dont want to pay membership .so I havent been yet im not worried about posh facilities. Ive heard many problems with single men there too eg the famous stable being opened by single men not going by the door shut rule.no club is perfect and not all the people that go to either club are perfect either

You may think eureka looks like a 70's holiday camp I would say its unique, if you look at the history it was a hippy camp many years ago and has alot of character, changed to naturist club and ive seen many changes in the time I have been going.summer time there can be be 100/200 people visiting by day. So cant be all bad. Its not a purpose built swingers club its a naturist club that allows free range sex like the hippy days

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to lighten the mood a little...

I will clear up the dogging woods thing.

The woods up by the entry road are known as the dogging woods because before the gates to eureka were installed that is exactly what they were, dogging woods and they the name stuck... And it still goes on today just in a different way..

A little info..goes... a long.... way..... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi guys ...

We are constantly refurbishing eureka as many of our customers know !!! And this 1970s bingo hall has well in excess of 2000 gold/silver members mostly satisfied ... Can't please everyone of course

Mike Davies "

Oh dear. It looks like I got myself barred. That's certainly a new low!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"which leads to this statement !!! Myself and Lenny are sorry J&J that eureka does not meet your requirements in any shape or for !! So we respectfully suggest that you go to another venue that meets your needs ...

Mike Davies

Oh dear. It looks like I got myself barred. That's certainly a new low!!!

Sorry to see this happen publicly like this in view of the fact that your original post also said that you had enjoyed your visits

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By *inkershoes69Woman over a year ago

maidstone

God i hate kestrals!! Eureka anytime

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys ...

We are constantly refurbishing eureka as many of our customers know !!! And this 1970s bingo hall has well in excess of 2000 gold/silver members mostly satisfied ... Can't please everyone of course

Mike Davies

Oh dear. It looks like I got myself barred. That's certainly a new low!!!

I don't think that would bother you too much, you did what you set out to do.all clubs have points brought up in forums that some people dont like.no club can please everyone.

I will still be going when I can I personally love it there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am just all urs comments I am single man and am planing go to eureka this weekend am planing that long time cos is a first visit and am little nervous only if am reading that am dnt really know if is write place for me yes if am see couple make me horny and will be nice waching or join only am dnt wanna be rude or piss somebody off is not me just make me horny sorry for my english hope can understanding wath am wanna say x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Am just all urs comments I am single man and am planing go to eureka this weekend am planing that long time cos is a first visit and am little nervous only if am reading that am dnt really know if is write place for me yes if am see couple make me horny and will be nice waching or join only am dnt wanna be rude or piss somebody off is not me just make me horny sorry for my english hope can understanding wath am wanna say x"

Remain respectful and you'll be fine. The staff will welcome you and show you round and the single men seem to be friendly towards each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Remain respectful and you'll be fine. The staff will welcome you and show you round and the single men seem to be friendly towards each other."
thanx for ur comment nicecouple

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By *urekaPartiesCouple over a year ago

FAWKHAM

With respect a ban wasn't mentioned. We suggested you tried other venues to find what you're looking for.

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By *riskynriskyCouple over a year ago

Essex.

We have been going to Eureka's for two years now, on average about once a month, twice if we are lucky.

We found the pool a great place to meet new friends and socialise. The towels on the empty sunbeds are usually owned by people in the pool or who occasionally pop up to the club house for the loo or to get food or drink. We have never seen towels left on sunbeds for ages...

Some people say there is a clique. We have made friends with people who have been going for a long time and we have introduced people to the club. I can assure you we are not the kind of people who are included in cliques, we are normally the ones looking in...lol

I fully admit there are one or two tables that we wouldn't want to sit on but that is only down to one or two rude couples but you can't blame the club for that.

As for the woods or field, maybe a couple of tiki bar style huts with roll down sides for some privacy...The club was founded on the principles of exclusion for no one... Many people go for that freedom.

We like many people use the tables as somewhere to keep our drinks and have a rest. After about 10 most people are too busy having fun to worry about other people sittingat their table, bar the one or two couples mmentioned above, they seem to think they own the table and seats....lol

We have Eureka's to be a friendly fun filled place, being welcomed by new and old. We truly believe if we can go somewhere and make friends, anyone can...

Mike and Lenny have poured a lot of time, money and effort into improving the club.Probably a fair bit of blood, sweat and tears as well. We have been told by others there is more to come. You see them walking round chatting to people, asking if everything is ok... We have been to a couple of other clubs and didn't see this level of service...

Finally I think Mike was just saying if the club is not for you look for a club more to your taste. It's a bit like the people on here that complain about the women looking for black guys... Don't dwell on it, move on...

We will finish by saying we know that the club isn't perfect but it's moving in the right direction and that we are happy club goers with no other involvement.... We hope you find what you are looking for in a club...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone should just chill out and enjoy whatever floats your boat. We have been to loads of clubs all over the country and beyond and you can find fault in most of them but you can also find good in most of them.. We do know one that is crap though. And no it's not Eureka before you start on us..lol

The sun is out and a good time should be had by all...

Come to think of it we might venture down to Kent on Saturday, it been a while since we Eureka'd!! lol

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