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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received. |
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over a year ago
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Whenever I go to a club I make sure that there are guys going that I've been chatting to and We're interested in meeting. I don't often play with guys at clubs that I have just met. |
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Perhaps you should consider going for a 100% cotton and feel privileged if you get silk 
Clubs are meant to be a fun night away from the real world so... Don't take it too seriously and let yourself go. |
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Just looked at you pics and figured it out . Many of the guys there are low in self esteem and go for the women who they see as in their league the ones who wont say no. They may see you as a possible no. If there is a pool or jacuzzi get talking and drop the hand leave no doubt as to what you want or just ask for a shag and tell them you need it now straight talk is a real turn on |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Whenever I go to a club I make sure that there are guys going that I've been chatting to and We're interested in meeting. I don't often play with guys at clubs that I have just met. "
Tried that on Friday, but he buggered off to play elsewhere.
Just been told I need to dress up more.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whenever I go to a club I make sure that there are guys going that I've been chatting to and We're interested in meeting. I don't often play with guys at clubs that I have just met. "
I'm exactly the same. The one and only time I've played in a club with a total stranger it was a disaster.
I usually go knowing there are guys there I've met before or have got to know on the run up with the view of chatting (or maybe more) on the night and so far it seems to work  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whenever I go to a club I make sure that there are guys going that I've been chatting to and We're interested in meeting. I don't often play with guys at clubs that I have just met.
Tried that on Friday, but he buggered off to play elsewhere.
Just been told I need to dress up more. "
If there is someone in a club that I want to play with it doesn't bother me if they've played before or not, as long as they are clean and freshened up then I don't see the problem. At the end of the day it's a club and a lot of people with play with several others during the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have found that if you go to the same place regularly there tends to be a "same old faces" attitude and have experienced no interest. Maybe mixing it up a little may help?  |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Whenever I go to a club I make sure that there are guys going that I've been chatting to and We're interested in meeting. I don't often play with guys at clubs that I have just met.
Tried that on Friday, but he buggered off to play elsewhere.
Just been told I need to dress up more.
If there is someone in a club that I want to play with it doesn't bother me if they've played before or not, as long as they are clean and freshened up then I don't see the problem. At the end of the day it's a club and a lot of people with play with several others during the night."
I didn't give a toss whether he'd played or not. He asked to meet me at the club so we could get to know each other. He then chose to play with others, then when I asked if he wanted to _et a room, he turned me down.
I agree - I have no problem with what others do in a club, and as long as the cock is clean and the condom is replaced that's fine, but when I do arrange to meet someone for fun, I hope I am not being unreasonable for expecting it. |
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We can't understand why the guys aren't queuing up to spend time with you.
Maybe they are a little intimidated by a strong woman. Or maybe it's just bad timing.
We often go to Isis but don't think we have been there at the same time as you.
Don't give up though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg I'm so glad it's not just me.... Lol I think that maybe I scare them... I can sit and chat without problem... But when I hear people complaining of being followed all night I'm thinking " do I smell then "
I find it easier to find fun if I go as a pair, be that another lady or a gent x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just the same for me!!! Maybe us single girls are intimidating? I don't know what it is... Maybe I am too reserved... But being ignored even when you smile at people doesn't help... Maybe it's because I'm bigger ? I've also noticed that couples eye me with suspicion... Its a shame because I liked going to clubs but have stopped as I always end up feeling like billy no mates  |
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received."
Same for me but I console myself with the fact I'm just too gorgeous for most.
That, and I look a bit scary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle to so am curious to see your feedback "
And here man are complaining that the don't get anything lol what is going ok we should a light green I am interested red already have one lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ironic, isn't it
Agree with the post that said to get in the pool and reach between the legs of the man next to you
Was at cupids once and the same happened in the steam room, was good |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received."
Why should you lower your expectations? If you are struggling at Clubs why not try the vanilla world and pick up guys in the regular way? I am sure that a "regular" guy would think he had woke up in heaven if you took him to a real club on your second date lol
As Dr Hook used to say.. Girls can get it any time they like,they can pick and choose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a form of intimidation hun you are a very sexy strong lady and come across confident...some guys arent sure how to handle that...my suggestion is not to lower the expectation of the kind of guy you want more to enjoy yourself...a happy person in a club who looks like they are having a good time is attractive to almost anyone. ..its all about having fun...I hope you have a more succesful visit next time x |
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"Its a form of intimidation hun you are a very sexy strong lady and come across confident...some guys arent sure how to handle that...my suggestion is not to lower the expectation of the kind of guy you want more to enjoy yourself...a happy person in a club who looks like they are having a good time is attractive to almost anyone. ..its all about having fun...I hope you have a more succesful visit next time x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have found that if you go to the same place regularly there tends to be a "same old faces" attitude and have experienced no interest. Maybe mixing it up a little may help? "
I think I need to vary where I go to also...mix it up a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received."
just looked at your pics and wow, you are hot so I am baffled as to why you don't have a long line of men queued up to try and bed you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Omg I'm so glad it's not just me.... Lol I think that maybe I scare them... I can sit and chat without problem... But when I hear people complaining of being followed all night I'm thinking " do I smell then "
I find it easier to find fun if I go as a pair, be that another lady or a gent x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go to a club on my own and the same has happened to me.
I think sometimes, guys aren't sure HOW to ask. Too blunt and they get lumped with the 'fancy a fuck' brigade. Too hesitant and we think they're not interested.
Rather than ask outright myself, I tend to ask if they've met anyone they'd like to play with...and often they say 'yes..you!' Result!!
If they mention someone else they've seen then I tell them that I hope they enjoy themselves and then no one feels offended or passed over. XxX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received."
Me thinks we should meet for a drink when I'm in York and you car practice your techniques on me ?? |
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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago
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By co-incidence a similar thing in reverse happened to us in a club last night.
We had got our drinks went and sat at a table next to where a woman was sitting on her own. We assumed that her partner was off to the toilet or something. After a while she was still alone so we started chatting to her. Turns out she had come to the club alone (well done her). We got on very well chatting.
We had a wander round the club with her then at the bar I quietly asked her if she'd like to play, but also said we would not take offence if she said no.
Luckily and unexpectedly she did want to play and it was fantastic.
So in short, if we met the OP in a club, (we actually have met her at a social a while ago), we'd follow the same formula.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From the few times that i have gone to the clubs. No one has really tickled my fancy at the clubs unless it is someone i've spoken to beforehand and they're attending too.
Then again. I'm not the most ideal meet for some and i know i won't tickle others as they do me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure what clubs you've been going to but they must be mental. We go to chameleons...dress down ie naked or towel and never noticed anyone going without....in fact as a single woman you would have your pick....can't understand why you're having a problem but hope it improves for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle to so am curious to see your feedback "
To be honest me personally I just looked at your pictures and that second pic holy fuck I'd be straight on my toes if you came near me with that. Brought tears to my eyes ouch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your stunning good looks may be off putting to some guys, whereas they think it's kinda pointless chatting with you because your out of their league, I for one would put myself in that category, your certainly a very attractive lady x good luck x |
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"I go to a club on my own and the same has happened to me.
I think sometimes, guys aren't sure HOW to ask. Too blunt and they get lumped with the 'fancy a fuck' brigade. Too hesitant and we think they're not interested.
Rather than ask outright myself, I tend to ask if they've met anyone they'd like to play with...and often they say 'yes..you!' Result!!
If they mention someone else they've seen then I tell them that I hope they enjoy themselves and then no one feels offended or passed over. XxX "
I find this is the case, the decent guys hold back a little cos they don't want to be pushy.
So I do the pushy bit! I ask them if they'd like to play. I get a few no thanks and sometimes they're not ready to play but mostly it works for me.
Be more straightforward, make it very simple and do it with a smile and a pleasant tone that lets them know they can decline and you won't be mardy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure what clubs you've been going to but they must be mental. We go to chameleons...dress down ie naked or towel and never noticed anyone going without....in fact as a single woman you would have your pick....can't understand why you're having a problem but hope it improves for you x"
As a single woman I find chams the worst for it... Not sure why.. but then I don't tend to push at all x |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Not sure what clubs you've been going to but they must be mental. We go to chameleons...dress down ie naked or towel and never noticed anyone going without....in fact as a single woman you would have your pick....can't understand why you're having a problem but hope it improves for you x
As a single woman I find chams the worst for it... Not sure why.. but then I don't tend to push at all x "
The second time I went to Chams (the first time on my own) I could not understand where all the men were. It was like a ghost town in there. Then someone told me it was the rugby world cup at 7am Sat morning, so nobody was out.
Moral of that story - pick my times better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the problem might be that single guys generally want to stay that way .
So they prefer to play with couples , or in group scenarios as it's safer .
Too many single girls are looking for more than just NSA sex , and they spoil it for girls like the op .
At least that's what we have found from chatting and playing with a few anyway !
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By (user no longer on site)
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That's strange as you seem a nice lady, some guys feel threatened by an attractive and strong woman in fear getting rejected if they asked you for a play. An 'no' can bruised most men's ego and ruined their night at club.
Don't give up, just take it as a bad night at club.
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think the problem might be that single guys generally want to stay that way .
So they prefer to play with couples , or in group scenarios as it's safer .
Too many single girls are looking for more than just NSA sex , and they spoil it for girls like the op .
At least that's what we have found from chatting and playing with a few anyway !
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I have noticed the more couples at a club, the less single men want to play with me. I don't want to have to resort to a male club buddy though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received."
Maybe you are right and kidding yourself , maybe time to rethink your preferences. |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received.
Maybe you are right and kidding yourself , maybe time to rethink your preferences. "
Probably right. Unfortunately its difficult to just change the kind of guy I fancy, just like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received.
Maybe you are right and kidding yourself , maybe time to rethink your preferences.
Probably right. Unfortunately its difficult to just change the kind of guy I fancy, just like that."
I can understand that , I just know I have had to alter the way I think the older I've got. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a single woman who enjoys visiting clubs, sometimes alone, sometimes with a (female) mate. I've noticed though I seem to struggle to get interest from single men when others don't.
Now I don't expect that single men are there to be used as some kind of shag menu to work my way though (if only!), but I do wonder why I don't attract the sort of queue that others complain about at clubs. I do approach men, but get declined, so what am I doing wrong? Am I kidding myself going for the fitter, younger bloke? Is it time to admit to myself that the only men attracted to me are the ones I am not attracted to?
I am happy to sit and chat, and my last visit to a club was enjoyable socially, but I am wondering if I am expecting too much wanting a shag.
Any hints and tips gratefully received."
You are certainly going to the wrong club. I do remember we were all trying to catch your attention during Manchester social. |
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I have that problem somtimes. Men look and smile but iv only had a few come up to me and chat. Youd think been single women and looking friendly and sexy would maybe encourage them to say hi but most just look and follow me around. Glad it isnt just me tho hah x |
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves "
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs. |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs. "
If you do, let me know! |
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs.
If you do, let me know! "
I am kicking myself, I never, ever get any sexy yummy single women ask me to _et a room with me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think quite a few men get intimidated by single fems in a club. A lot of single guys moan on here that they don't get meets very easily and can't handle the rejection, I guess a face 2 face rejection would be even worse so they avoid the issue as best as they can.
I know in this case the OP has explained that she's been confident enough to make the suggestion of playing and they've said no....personally I don't understand that from looking at your pictures.
Try not to question it too much or let it knock your confidence though, all the guys on here would jump at the chance of meeting you |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs.
If you do, let me know!
I am kicking myself, I never, ever get any sexy yummy single women ask me to _et a room with me... "
Renty, I will make a trip to London just for you. |
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs.
If you do, let me know!
I am kicking myself, I never, ever get any sexy yummy single women ask me to _et a room with me...
Renty, I will make a trip to London just for you."
I am holding you to that...And I always collect that which is owed to me, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps they don't know who Fermat was?
On the other hand I suspect Andrew Wiles isn't your type either....
Keep smiling.... Don't go kissing frogs...keep searching out the princes
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"I think quite a few men get intimidated by single fems in a club. A lot of single guys moan on here that they don't get meets very easily and can't handle the rejection, I guess a face 2 face rejection would be even worse so they avoid the issue as best as they can.
I know in this case the OP has explained that she's been confident enough to make the suggestion of playing and they've said no....personally I don't understand that from looking at your pictures.
Try not to question it too much or let it knock your confidence though, all the guys on here would jump at the chance of meeting you "
Lets put it to the test,I am yet to discover what intimidation is.... |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs.
If you do, let me know!
I am kicking myself, I never, ever get any sexy yummy single women ask me to _et a room with me...
Renty, I will make a trip to London just for you."
Can I come too please Wyrd...pretty please
To your OP...I know what you mean - I've never been to a club on my own (apart from socials) and I'm a fairly confident gobshite but I do feel "odd" about the thought of going on my own as to whether I'd end up in the corner like Billy No Mates...may just have to bite the bullet so to speak and feck off to Blackpool at the weekend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think quite a few men get intimidated by single fems in a club. A lot of single guys moan on here that they don't get meets very easily and can't handle the rejection, I guess a face 2 face rejection would be even worse so they avoid the issue as best as they can.
I know in this case the OP has explained that she's been confident enough to make the suggestion of playing and they've said no....personally I don't understand that from looking at your pictures.
Try not to question it too much or let it knock your confidence though, all the guys on here would jump at the chance of meeting you
Lets put it to the test,I am yet to discover what intimidation is.... "
Well as an example quite a few men I've come across don't always feel very comfortable with the fact that i'm taller then them, then I go and put on high heels lol
Shows a good strong character in my opinion if you've never felt intimidated before, it means you're very comfortable with who you are and that's a very sexy and appealing quality providing it doesn't turn in to arrogance |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs.
If you do, let me know!
I am kicking myself, I never, ever get any sexy yummy single women ask me to _et a room with me...
Renty, I will make a trip to London just for you.
Can I come too please Wyrd...pretty please
To your OP...I know what you mean - I've never been to a club on my own (apart from socials) and I'm a fairly confident gobshite but I do feel "odd" about the thought of going on my own as to whether I'd end up in the corner like Billy No Mates...may just have to bite the bullet so to speak and feck off to Blackpool at the weekend "
Feck off, he's mine
Now I have a shiny card for Infusions I was hoping to join you, but am with my daughter this weekend. I am sure we can sort something another time though. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"You are probably so hot they don't know what to do with themselves
I agree to an extent with this, I find it incredulous that a normal red bloodied bloke would turn down the chance to play with you.
Damnnn and double damnnn, I should attend these clubs.
If you do, let me know!
I am kicking myself, I never, ever get any sexy yummy single women ask me to _et a room with me...
Renty, I will make a trip to London just for you.
Can I come too please Wyrd...pretty please
To your OP...I know what you mean - I've never been to a club on my own (apart from socials) and I'm a fairly confident gobshite but I do feel "odd" about the thought of going on my own as to whether I'd end up in the corner like Billy No Mates...may just have to bite the bullet so to speak and feck off to Blackpool at the weekend
Feck off, he's mine
Now I have a shiny card for Infusions I was hoping to join you, but am with my daughter this weekend. I am sure we can sort something another time though."
Greedy bint! |
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Seems odd this, can't comment why it would be as I'm not a clubber. Can't stand that kind of social situation, I'm the kind of person that doesn't like parties, I have to get pissed to enjoy myself at them. You say you've arranged to meet guys there and get knocked back? Quite frankly there are some right rude people about. I'd suggest you look further afield than York, Manchester has a nice guy whos very interested... |
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Well from our point of view its "how do you approach the regal and out of our league unicorn"
As we are both introverts we'd be terrified of a guaranteed rejection (perceived or accurate).
Although if you approached US in a club we'd be thrilled x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at your profile and reading others response I'd say the visual effect you have is very good.
I've never met you and am well up for some feisty conversation myself. Happy to debate whatever.
When I'm in a club though it's a different matter. I like things to be seductive rather than a debate. Could this be where the wheels fall off?
Hope you find what you seek xx |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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I suppose for me it`s part being rejected and part fear of not coming up to expectations which would prevent me from approaching anyone at a club and also being a gentleman and waiting to be invited!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love to have the courage to a club on my own but I just don't have the confidence.
I normally go to a club with a friend and have been told this is a bit off putting and it’s like we are hunting in packs.
I really can't understand how you are getting knocked back as you look amazing to me. It their loss your fantastic.
I just normally chat in the bar or jacuzzi and see what goes from there.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose for me it`s part being rejected and part fear of not coming up to expectations which would prevent me from approaching anyone at a club and also being a gentleman and waiting to be invited! "
I agree with this fear of rejection for me well to be honest the rejection is fine if people are not attracted to me but i will just be embarresed and feel stupid i even asked, i wait for invites |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am always being approached in clubs, if hubby goes to the bar etc, I think it's down to your attitude and demure, I see plenty of single ladies looking bored and miserable so that doesn't help in terms of approachability.
I suspect if this was a post by a man we would be telling him it's his own fault |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've meet the OP and I'm quite surprised that you aren't really successful in clubs. Attractive and confident I would think that mewould approach you. If they are not then I think that says more about the men not approaching you and their lack of confidence. |
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I have had the same problem most of times I have been Was left high and dry once when guy I was chatting to told me he would be back as needed the toilet only never returned. Felt a right numpty!! |
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The guy probably saw it as an opportunity to get in the club with the sole purpose of meeting other women. . You were probably his excuse! I've met the OP she's a wonderful woman! I'd meet play and stay with her in a club! X |
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I used to go clubbing parties etc and I m nothing fantastic but what I do find is confidence is a huge turn on all round xx
And iv looked at your pics and you look quite tastey so chin up and confidence all the way with an air of not giving a flying fook |
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I think the only time women don't get attention at clubs is when it's obvious they don't want it. Like a case of approach with care or at your own peril. Otherwise there can be a queue lol
But the fact age is brought into the originator's questioning, it appears that its more important than the person maybe and that gives off negative vibes too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I too don't receive a lot of attention. I'm no super model, far from it, but I have often been told its because I'm attractive and guys are scared of rejection so go for people the feel are more likely to say yes. I am shy though and would never approach somebody, the nights when I've had a drink and relaxed and come out of my shell I've had great success. Maybe the guys read my shyness as being a stuck up bitch....which couldn't be further from the truth. Even if I don't wanna play with the guy I'm always up for a chat and giggle and make some new friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle in clubs because I always feel that I'm forcing myself on someone and they only chat to be polite. I'm sure I miss out on a lot of play opportunities because of this. I always assumed that the guys would be all over the more confident and therefore more attractive women, but from reading this it doesn't seem to be the case either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle in clubs because I always feel that I'm forcing myself on someone and they only chat to be polite. I'm sure I miss out on a lot of play opportunities because of this. I always assumed that the guys would be all over the more confident and therefore more attractive women, but from reading this it doesn't seem to be the case either. "
I agree I feel exactly the same and always assumed the guy would make the first move (wish I could) but on many occasions they've messaged me on fab the next day asking me to meet them, so I guess guys are shy too and we expect them to do all the work...poor guys lol x |
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Clearly the guys at the clubs you all seem to go to are mad !!
Actually to be fair - decent guys try not to be too pushy. Don't forget we are simple 12 year olds really - we don't get the subtle hints, the flirtatious looks - sometime unless you actually grab us between the legs we don't realise your not repulsed by our presence !
Well fingers crossed for later this week !!
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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"Clearly the guys at the clubs you all seem to go to are mad !!
Actually to be fair - decent guys try not to be too pushy. Don't forget we are simple 12 year olds really - we don't get the subtle hints, the flirtatious looks - sometime unless you actually grab us between the legs we don't realise your not repulsed by our presence !
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I suspect if this was a post by a man we would be telling him it's his own fault"
Nope, I would be commiserating with him and giving him some hints and tips if he asked. And, barring a few meanies, so would most of the people on this forum.
"The guy probably saw it as an opportunity to get in the club with the sole purpose of meeting other women."
We didn't go together. The idea was to see how we got on as he wanted a fem to team up with in the future. Lucky escape I reckon.
"But the fact age is brought into the originator's questioning, it appears that its more important than the person maybe and that gives off negative vibes too."
I don't know how you work out I give off negative vibes from a random comment about my age preferences.
"how on God's Earth would you get turned down at a club? Just asking but bet it never happens..."
I'm afraid it does, and if you read the whole thread its not just me it happens to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure what clubs you've been going to but they must be mental. We go to chameleons...dress down ie naked or towel and never noticed anyone going without....in fact as a single woman you would have your pick....can't understand why you're having a problem but hope it improves for you x
As a single woman I find chams the worst for it... Not sure why.. but then I don't tend to push at all x
The second time I went to Chams (the first time on my own) I could not understand where all the men were. It was like a ghost town in there. Then someone told me it was the rugby world cup at 7am Sat morning, so nobody was out.
Moral of that story - pick my times better. "
Wow...bemused..when we go as a couple Sam could easily play with half a dozen single guys...and usually does....as you say...must be a timing thing. To be fair...she is very forward |
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