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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We are thinking about going next month.

We have looked at reviews and website.

As a female bbw average looking would I fit in there as ive heard some clubs if your not a perfect size and looks you dont fit in.

So looking for peoples opnions please

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By *havenbabe01Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

hi guys

no need to worry about a thing

VA welcomes everybody

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By *teed99Man over a year ago

Kettering

It doesn't matter if you go on a Friday when it's couples and limited singles or Saturday for couples and single ladies only, at VA's people of all ages and all sizes are equally welcome. Everyone is so friendly and conversation flows allowing all visitors to feel relaxed. When it comes to more serious matters it's completely down to personal choice. You make the decision and everyone respects your views. This wonderful family run club needs to be experienced to be believed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely go along - it's a great club with great staff.

Atmosphere is always hot - I luv this club and am thinking of becoming a member.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a BBW myself I would say of the three clubs closest to me, all of which I have frequented, VA was by far the one I felt most uncomfortable in to the point that I actually left. I even went again after my first bad experience to give it another go as I wondered if it was just the night in question that made me feel like that... But again I left early... I guess it depends how body confident you are and how confident you are at chatting to people you don't know. Happy to discuss in private.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I love the club and may be there in my lingerie this weekend...

I have seen every shape and size there, I would say people make a big effort dress, theme ( for parties ie... Nighties)

I think it's just finding your place and bring comfortable.

I went to another place a year ago that I didn't like and now I do....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club "

I don't believe I am in the minority here... it is very much the view of several couples and singles I have met...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for every ones points think we will discuss and decide near time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As a BBW myself I would say of the three clubs closest to me, all of which I have frequented, VA was by far the one I felt most uncomfortable in to the point that I actually left. I even went again after my first bad experience to give it another go as I wondered if it was just the night in question that made me feel like that... But again I left early... I guess it depends how body confident you are and how confident you are at chatting to people you don't know. Happy to discuss in private. "

You have blocked couples lol x

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By *havenbabe01Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I would like to know when some of these people go to VA as I never see them there

we are there every weekend and there are people of all shapes and sizes and backgrounds

all enjoying the fantastic atmosphere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've looked at there site and looks really nice any tips on the best nights to go? And also local hotels?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We will be visiting all clubs in the area at some point just deciding which to go to first x

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By *havenbabe01Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

va is open on Fridays and Saturdays

Friday nights single guys are allowed in but the number is limited

Saturdays are for couples and single females

both nights are fun but guess it depends what your looking for

Saturdays are busier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"va is open on Fridays and Saturdays

Friday nights single guys are allowed in but the number is limited

Saturdays are for couples and single females

both nights are fun but guess it depends what your looking for

Saturdays are busier"

Saturdays it is!

And do they have themed nights? Some clubs tend to get busier when they have these

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By *havenbabe01Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

yes they do have theme nights

and in general they can be a little busier although va is norally busy anyway lol

the details of them nights are on the web site

the next being this Saturday the clubs birthday party and pajama party

all themes are totally optional

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yes they do have theme nights

and in general they can be a little busier although va is norally busy anyway lol

the details of them nights are on the web site

the next being this Saturday the clubs birthday party and pajama party

all themes are totally optional"

Thank you for the help...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for all your opinions. We have decided on VA then at some point we will try jaydees and tease x

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

We've been quite a few times now of the past 3 years. We have seen all different shapes and sizes there and all seemed to be having a great time. We've never seen any negative behavior in this regard atall.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club

I don't believe I am in the minority here... it is very much the view of several couples and singles I have met..."

We've been to va many times and never felt awkward or out of place, you said in your original post about feeling "body confident" I stand by what I originally said it would seem more your problem than the clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club

I don't believe I am in the minority here... it is very much the view of several couples and singles I have met...

Us neither and i'm not a skinny minny...never felt uncomfortable or judged in any way...great mix of a splendid variety of people...

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

I would suggest ...That you go by the reviews and try the place out for yourself definately regardless of what opinions are on a thread like this .. you won't know if you don't try ..just make an effort to socialise and you will find if it's one of the club's for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club

... you have responded perfectly to the logic of my view and my personal opinion... as to why people feel uncomfortable at va... we are all entitled to our own views mine was one yours is another the original poster asked for peoples opinion...

Would I want to associate with someone who is, in your own words, "blunt" ? I think not... note to self... now you remember why you never post on forums!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club

Would I want to associate with someone who is, in your own words, "blunt" ? I think not... note to self... now you remember why you never post on forums!!!"

I agree actually

No need for them to smack down your opinion simply because they are possibly regulars

Perhaps instead they could of asked how they could help make you feel more comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club

Would I want to associate with someone who is, in your own words, "blunt" ? I think not... note to self... now you remember why you never post on forums!!!

I agree actually

No need for them to smack down your opinion simply because they are possibly regulars

Perhaps instead they could of asked how they could help make you feel more comfortable "

I didn't mean to smack anyone down and I'm sorry if it came across like that, as for being a regulars we are members but we are members of a lot of clubs and va certainly wasn't the club we visited the most in the last 12 months, yes there are some beautiful people at va but you find that at a lot of the bigger more popular clubs but equally there is a good mix people just as in other clubs, sexiness I don't believe comes from what size or shape you are it's how you feel about yourself, I'm sorry if I offended anyone because that certainly wasn't my intention, but I still don't see what a club can do about someone's "body confidence"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think not... note to self... now you remember why you never post on forums!!!"

Call me a cynic but I find it a little odd that this is the only thread ever posted on...

For the record I've been to VA several times over the last few years seen all shapes and sizes and a huge variation in ages. I'd echo the majority of posts that this is a very inclusive club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to be blunt but surely that says more about you than it does about the club "
Yes your right no matter what club you go to if not feeling good about yourself it will be the same thing .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my point was merely that it shouldn't matter whether or not you are a BBW or whatever... if you are not body confident then that manifests itself in whatever club and I found that I was much more conscious in va then any other club I've attended...

The original poster is obviously conscious of her size as she stated that she was a BBW of average looks...

I'm not offended, however, as stated everyone has an opinion, I had one...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Call me a cynic but I find it a little odd that this is the only thread ever posted on...

oh I have posted on this forum several times over the years as I have been on and off sites... but with my experience of VA I felt that I could offer my opinion... sorry I didn't realise that only certain people were allowed to post on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Call me a cynic but I find it a little odd that this is the only thread ever posted on...

So what do you think va could do to make it a better experience for you ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what do you think va could do to make it a better experience for you ?"

You have missed the point of this thread and people being entitled to opinion entirely... The OP asked for views and I responded purely on the basis of my own experience...

I personally have no intention of returning to VA and all this thread is achieving is reinforcing my viewpoint...

So everyone... enjoy VA... or not... Your choice, your view your opinion...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow didnt mean for all this to happen.

I am a bbw but we are regulars at chams and I don't feel uncomfortable there. But we thought it would be nice to venture out to other clubs.

We are looking forward to 7th march when we will be able to make our own opinions on VA.

Thanks all x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow didnt mean for all this to happen.

I am a bbw but we are regulars at chams and I don't feel uncomfortable there. But we thought it would be nice to venture out to other clubs.

We are looking forward to 7th march when we will be able to make our own opinions on VA.

Thanks all x"

We love chameleons go there very often, I think you've got the right attitude go and make up your own mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wow didnt mean for all this to happen.

I am a bbw but we are regulars at chams and I don't feel uncomfortable there. But we thought it would be nice to venture out to other clubs.

We are looking forward to 7th march when we will be able to make our own opinions on VA.

Thanks all x

We love chameleons go there very often, I think you've got the right attitude go and make up your own mind "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Call me a cynic but I find it a little odd that this is the only thread ever posted on...

Like I say, call me a cynic but a hidden profile that has only ever posted on this thread (according to the green arrow) and is posting negative comments about a club makes me suspicious...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

forums are for everyone! everyone is entitled to an opinion here ! no one has the right to try bully someone else to silence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are thinking about going next month.

We have looked at reviews and website.

As a female bbw average looking would I fit in there as ive heard some clubs if your not a perfect size and looks you dont fit in.

So looking for peoples opnions please "
Every club I have been too ... You get all sizes and its normal and that's whats lovely as no one likes the same things. You will be fine at VA people love that club as very friendly .xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"forums are for everyone! everyone is entitled to an opinion here ! no one has the right to try bully someone else to silence"

Can you explain to me where there is any bullying in this thread, I've seen different opinions and people stating that but I can't see any bullying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And why pray are you so cynical? - a smear campaign against the club? are you the VA police?? Am I not allowed the freedom of speech?? I don't feel I have to justify my comments or my right to post on a forum and express my opinion to anyone or justify the status of my profile... The OP asked for views I expressed mine.

All these negative comments are doing is actually reinforcing my viewpoint and I stand by the statements I have made. You really are a cliquey crowd aren't you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And why pray are you so cynical? - a smear campaign against the club? are you the VA police?? Am I not allowed the freedom of speech?? I don't feel I have to justify my comments or my right to post on a forum and express my opinion to anyone or justify the status of my profile... The OP asked for views I expressed mine.

All these negative comments are doing is actually reinforcing my viewpoint and I stand by the statements I have made. You really are a cliquey crowd aren't you? "

some only

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Call me a cynic but I find it a little odd that this is the only thread ever posted on...

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By *etsplay4realCouple over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"Wow didnt mean for all this to happen.

I am a bbw but we are regulars at chams and I don't feel uncomfortable there. But we thought it would be nice to venture out to other clubs.

We are looking forward to 7th march when we will be able to make our own opinions on VA.

Thanks all x"

We think everyone will be interested and look forward to your personal feed back in this thread after your visit on the 7th. We wish you well and enjoy.

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