Read the reviews and see which club stands out. Aim to just make a potential short first visit - that way, if you want to stay longer, you won't feel disappointed if it's not your thing, and you leave after an hour or so.
When you arrive, spend some time in the lounge, bar, cafe area etc. This will likely let you unwind, and get more into the mood for seeing some play in action.
When I go to clubs, I aim for the club facilities and vibe to be my thing, and the play is a good bonus.
Also, look for non member days, as these don't require such a big financial commitment from you. Helps you see what they're like, who goes etc. Tho non-members may be in larger no's those days, you'll still get a feel for the place and the vibe there.
All clubs have strictly enforced rules on consensual play, so relax about being coerced into anything. If anyone is too pushy, tell them 'no thanks' and ask them to let you have some space.
One option is just for the two of you to use a private room and have some fun, as this may help you get much more into the mood, possibly inviting others to join you later on.
Check on alcohol rules, some let you take your own. Whilst not great for the driver, it may be nice for one of you to have a drink.
Wear what you are comfortable wearing, so probably outfits you like. Whilst they state stuff like 'dress to impress', actually it's much better for you to dress what you feel great wearing - this is what I do, and I think it shows me off for the better.
From Stoke you've got a reasonable catchment area for clubs, if you're willing to travel for an hour or so. Consider whether a bigger or smaller more intimate place is right for you too, and choose accordingly.
Overall, relax and have fun. Most everyone finds them much better than their anxiety sometimes projects that they will be. Have a great time!! |
