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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Really want to go to swingers club as single male but a bit shy ? Is it a bit daunting or should I dive in and do it , bit worried cus I need to be discreet too xx |
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By *iccardaTV/TS
over a year ago
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i would recommend going to a club, as i find they are great places to meet and socialise with people.
if its your first time i would suggest contacting the organiser to have a chat and get a feel for the night you have decided to go on
Go with the view that your just going to have a look and socialise and you will have a good time
Yours
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"Really want to go to swingers club as single male but a bit shy ? Is it a bit daunting or should I dive in and do it , bit worried cus I need to be discreet too xx"
Do you not most of the other people there need to be descrete to |
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Just look at a club as a pub with lingerie ......walking through the door is the hardest thing once you are inside same as a pub but with.better scenery  |
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Pick a club that welcomes single men and ask for the full guided when you get there (most offer this).
Then socialise in the social area - usually the bar. Chat to people. Start with hello and if you're nervous say so. If you think someone looks good tell them - we put so much effort into getting ready it's lovely to get a genuine compliment.
If talking to a couple talk to both and don't address all your comments to her tits - even if she's topless! And if they are just being polite then say "really good talking to you" and move on.
In fact even if the conversation is going well still move on, people like a chance to chat to a few people and couples like a chance to discuss between them if they might consider you.
If you'd like to play with someone then ask if they fancy playing or getting a room. If it's early in the evening they may say not yet. Not yet in a swingers club is not a polite refusal, it really does mean not yet. Many don't want to peak too soon.
If the reply is no thanks then accept it gracefully. And it doesn't mean you can't still be pleasant and friendly - who knows who they might point you out to as a well mannered single male...
Don't touch without an invite and don't follow people. At my last club visit there was a man who I liked the look of But instead of mingling he spent all his time racing from one playroom to the next hoping he wasn't missing out on something good. He was, both me and another lady said we would have played with him if he'd bothered to interact with us.
If watching play don't stand too close and try not to distract people, a running commentary is not good. If they're playing in an open room then they are happy to be watched.
And it's perfectly acceptable to thank someone for the show, just let them find their knickers and get their breath back!
If someone appears to beckon you in just double check that they mean you.
Take your own condoms but remember that some have allergies so may ask you to use theirs. Obviously hygiene is important. Dress smart casual with nice undies. In some clubs single guys are asked to dress down to a towel and/or shorts. Feel free to take your own towel though clubs do provide them. Make sure you smell nice but nothing overpowering.
You may also want to take flip flops if it's a dress down club.
Many clubs are licensed or have a bring your own policy. Though it may be tempting to have some Dutch courage try to resist as most won't pick a d*unk playmate and even beer breath from one can put people off. Add in the potential for brewers droop...
Above all go expecting a slightly naughty version of a night in a good pub or club. Don't expect play, though there's nothing wrong with being hopeful.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Pick a club that welcomes single men and ask for the full guided when you get there (most offer this).
Then socialise in the social area - usually the bar. Chat to people. Start with hello and if you're nervous say so. If you think someone looks good tell them - we put so much effort into getting ready it's lovely to get a genuine compliment.
If talking to a couple talk to both and don't address all your comments to her tits - even if she's topless! And if they are just being polite then say "really good talking to you" and move on.
In fact even if the conversation is going well still move on, people like a chance to chat to a few people and couples like a chance to discuss between them if they might consider you.
If you'd like to play with someone then ask if they fancy playing or getting a room. If it's early in the evening they may say not yet. Not yet in a swingers club is not a polite refusal, it really does mean not yet. Many don't want to peak too soon.
If the reply is no thanks then accept it gracefully. And it doesn't mean you can't still be pleasant and friendly - who knows who they might point you out to as a well mannered single male...
Don't touch without an invite and don't follow people. At my last club visit there was a man who I liked the look of But instead of mingling he spent all his time racing from one playroom to the next hoping he wasn't missing out on something good. He was, both me and another lady said we would have played with him if he'd bothered to interact with us.
If watching play don't stand too close and try not to distract people, a running commentary is not good. If they're playing in an open room then they are happy to be watched.
And it's perfectly acceptable to thank someone for the show, just let them find their knickers and get their breath back!
If someone appears to beckon you in just double check that they mean you.
Take your own condoms but remember that some have allergies so may ask you to use theirs. Obviously hygiene is important. Dress smart casual with nice undies. In some clubs single guys are asked to dress down to a towel and/or shorts. Feel free to take your own towel though clubs do provide them. Make sure you smell nice but nothing overpowering.
You may also want to take flip flops if it's a dress down club.
Many clubs are licensed or have a bring your own policy. Though it may be tempting to have some Dutch courage try to resist as most won't pick a d*unk playmate and even beer breath from one can put people off. Add in the potential for brewers droop...
Above all go expecting a slightly naughty version of a night in a good pub or club. Don't expect play, though there's nothing wrong with being hopeful.
Good luck. "
Spot on and excellent advice in our opinion !  |
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"i would recommend going to a club, as i find they are great places to meet and socialise with people.
if its your first time i would suggest contacting the organiser to have a chat and get a feel for the night you have decided to go on
Go with the view that your just going to have a look and socialise and you will have a good time
Yours
_iccarda "
Excellent advice Riccarda! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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as above , go with confidence and chat in general don't talk about sex straight of, if you don't socialize you will be left sitting in the corner, go and enjoy it realy isn't as scarey as you may think |
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i am always barefootin may be i av lovly feet thats another nice thing about tarzan he has nice feet.
id say Be nice in the clubs and you wont go far wrong 
Lmao x 
