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"I’ve looked through them, I was meaning more someone to come along so I’m not just there alone "
As a club-going single woman, I get asked this at least 10x a week - why would I want to spend my evening out babysitting someone I don't know and might not like, and acting like a tour guide? Why would I want to have a guy hanging around and potentially getting in the way of me enjoying the company of other men? And nine times out of ten, the guy will expect to play with his +1 (regardless of all the promises before hand that he won't!) and someone you don't like or fancy pestering for a shag is a guaranteed way to ensure the party isn't fun.
I'm quite happy to pay my own entry and get myself to a club, and certainly wouldn't take anyone asa+1 with me that I don't know and trust. After all, if my +1 acted like a dick in the club, it reflects badly on me and jeopardises my membership if we attended as a "couple".
OP, if you can't walk into what essentially is a bar/pub (all clubs have a social area), buy a drink, and chat to people.... then perhaps clubs aren't for you.... |
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As above really.
Tip - always consider and state what you bring to the LS not what you can take out of it .
There’s a couple of options for clubs in your vicinity. Check out their websites, register your interest (most clubs will have a waiting list for single guys). When the time comes, pay your membership and get a date in the diary.
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"I’ve looked through them, I was meaning more someone to come along so I’m not just there alone
As a club-going single woman, I get asked this at least 10x a week - why would I want to spend my evening out babysitting someone I don't know and might not like, and acting like a tour guide? Why would I want to have a guy hanging around and potentially getting in the way of me enjoying the company of other men? And nine times out of ten, the guy will expect to play with his +1 (regardless of all the promises before hand that he won't!) and someone you don't like or fancy pestering for a shag is a guaranteed way to ensure the party isn't fun.
I'm quite happy to pay my own entry and get myself to a club, and certainly wouldn't take anyone asa+1 with me that I don't know and trust. After all, if my +1 acted like a dick in the club, it reflects badly on me and jeopardises my membership if we attended as a "couple".
OP, if you can't walk into what essentially is a bar/pub (all clubs have a social area), buy a drink, and chat to people.... then perhaps clubs aren't for you...."
Very much this! I learned my lesson, took a guy to a club (I thought I knew him quite well, and he assured me he did go to a club before), and he lost it there. So no more taking "newbies" with me.
Put your big boy's pants on, OP, and just go. What's the worst that can happen? |
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