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Silverleigh. Getting over the first hurdle.
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By *omAnne OP Couple 6 weeks ago
London |
As a couple, we don’t really like approaching single men for play and prefer them to approach us.
If we go to Silverleigh, as a couple, we know everyone is very friendly. That’s a bit of a problem if we are looking to play.
This may sound naive but how do we know men are interested in joining us in a non-verbal manner and what signals can we put out, again non- verbally, to show we are interested?
Most of the people like a chat but how do we hint we might like to go a bit further?
Can any of the men out there give us some advice please (not offers).
Thanks. |
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By *i015Man 6 weeks ago
Millbrook, Southampton |
"As a couple, we don’t really like approaching single men for play and prefer them to approach us.
If we go to Silverleigh, as a couple, we know everyone is very friendly. That’s a bit of a problem if we are looking to play.
This may sound naive but how do we know men are interested in joining us in a non-verbal manner and what signals can we put out, again non- verbally, to show we are interested?
Most of the people like a chat but how do we hint we might like to go a bit further?
Can any of the men out there give us some advice please (not offers).
Thanks."
Just chat with them, find out what they like and if you share any interest or kinks, drop hints of what you want to do or try, if their interested in the same things as you then they will probably ask if you want to try those interests with them. |
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By *aveonMan 6 weeks ago
Dartford |
Most men chatting would be interested - when are you there next time?
Look at their body signs, are they playing with themselves in front of you, just a little touch of themselves, would be a sign. If you then do the same that is quite a sure sign to him |
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Yes Siverleigh is difficult because we all know its a naturist spa with an identity problem. Most are there to swing but also the opportunity of dropping a clanger with someone just being freindly in what is officially a naturist spa.
I would say don't over think. If you think you're picking up a vibe chances are you are. Ask politely and respectfully in clear terms. That way there can be no misunderstanding or confusion, rather than hoping someone reads your signs and non verbal efforts wrong. If by the off chance you read it wrong you'll be fine anyway. Any vanilla naturist who choses to go there regularly know the place and won't be offended. Most likely a no thanks. And you won't get in trouble with the venue for a polite and respectful proposal if you get it wrong. They know its a swingers spot, they tell you where you can and can't have sex on the tour and they'd have to chuck out 80% of their clientele for being swingers.
And from my experience of the place with My Girl the guys after testing the water a little first generally are pretty forthcoming (sadly for them we were just there for the naturism  ) |
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"Most men chatting would be interested - when are you there next time?
Look at their body signs, are they playing with themselves in front of you, just a little touch of themselves, would be a sign. If you then do the same that is quite a sure sign to him "
If a guy played with himself in front of us during conversation it would be an absolute no for us. But I guess we are all different. |
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By *23bbcMan 6 weeks ago
Romford |
MY advice would be to put a meet up on Fab on when you are going to Silverleigh chat with the guys you are interested in and then play there. I have been at Silverleigh and it seems very social compared to other places so this maybe the best way forward! |
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The first time I went to Silverleigh on my own a guy asked me 'Are you just here for the social aspect?' I thought it was a nice way to find out if I was interested in playing or not.
If we are chatting with somebody we'd like to play with we will say 'We're going to find a room, would you like to join us?'
Good luck.
Ms x |
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By *omAnne OP Couple 5 weeks ago
London |
"Yes Siverleigh is difficult because we all know its a naturist spa with an identity problem. Most are there to swing but also the opportunity of dropping a clanger with someone just being freindly in what is officially a naturist spa.
I would say don't over think. If you think you're picking up a vibe chances are you are. Ask politely and respectfully in clear terms. That way there can be no misunderstanding or confusion, rather than hoping someone reads your signs and non verbal efforts wrong. If by the off chance you read it wrong you'll be fine anyway. Any vanilla naturist who choses to go there regularly know the place and won't be offended. Most likely a no thanks. And you won't get in trouble with the venue for a polite and respectful proposal if you get it wrong. They know its a swingers spot, they tell you where you can and can't have sex on the tour and they'd have to chuck out 80% of their clientele for being swingers.
And from my experience of the place with My Girl the guys after testing the water a little first generally are pretty forthcoming (sadly for them we were just there for the naturism )"
We are still not sure where you can have sex in there. Can someone tell us? We know there are two playrooms. Is that it? |
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"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn
You can have sex in the TV room?"
Yes. Like the two smaller rooms, you can have sex there. All three are lockable, although in my experience the TV room seems popular for open play (although not always).
Play only really happens in those rooms, elsewhere it’s officially naturist x |
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"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn
It hasn’t shown porn for a couple of years now.
You have to make do with Homes Under The Hammer to get you in the mood! "
It’s probably the only thing that goes under the hammer in that downmarket dive of a place.
Silverleigh is not exactly a place that anyone could claim as classy. |
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"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn
It hasn’t shown porn for a couple of years now.
You have to make do with Homes Under The Hammer to get you in the mood!
It’s probably the only thing that goes under the hammer in that downmarket dive of a place.
Silverleigh is not exactly a place that anyone could claim as classy."
You’re entitled to your opinion, however I’m sure many would think your comment is rather harsh. |
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By *ony1111Man 5 weeks ago
Hertfordshire |
It may not be “particularly classy” but it’s a nice play to stay and relax for a day or night , for a single man you can stay midweek for about £75 and use facilities from midday and leave at midday the next day , perfect for sunbathing, friendly people, nice pool, I would imagine a classy place with spa facilities would cost a lot more and you can’t get your kit off, It may be a little bit dated, but it has its fans I’m sure, I love it, a bit of table tennis in the garden, ideal for a no frills short stay 👌 |
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