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By (user no longer on site)
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Hiya!
WHAT GOES ON at a swingers club is ... fun, frolicking, laughing, flirting and NOTHING that you don't want.
PEOPLE ACT .... that they think you're an attractive couple, and that they would like to explore a few naughty things with you! They will be VERY circumspect, and they will be looking for signals (from you) that you want to take it further. If you don't want to take it further, there will be no problem.
TO SAY NO .... if someone makes an outright suggestion that you don't find appealing, just say 'thanks but no thanks'. Don't try to think of a viable 'excuse' - you don't have to justify WHY you don't want to play with them. Your bodies, your right to decide who you do/don't want to play with!
WHAT TO TAKE ... condoms (in case you decide you DO want to play), but you can often buy condoms from the bar/machines. Also, if it's a club with a jacuzzi/pool/sauna, you might want to take your own towel (although, again, you can usually get towels from bar/reception)
WHAT TO WEAR .... check out the dress code at which club you're planning on going to. Some are 'towel clubs', where people are expected to strip down to underwear/towels as soon as they arrive. Other clubs permit smart or sexy outfits in the bar/lounge or dancefloor areas.
Any club which has 'public' playrooms, or rooms with peeking-windows, will probably expect you to dress down a little in the playroom areas, even if you only intend to watch, for your first few visits.
The main thing to remember is that you DON'T have to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. EVERYONE there was new once, and they know how it feels!
Pluck up your courage and go for it!  |
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Just to agree with the post above, that the main thing to remember is that you are in charge of your night and that what you want is the most important thing.
You should never feel pressured into doing anything that you don't feel happy with and the golden rule at all clubs is no thank you means no thank you.
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