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I was just looking at a club website and on the dress code it suggests that ladies should not wear trousers.
A few years ago I remember one club had a rule banning any sexual activity between men.
Personally I’d change both of those rules.
What swing club rules would you change?
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By *oxesMan 44 weeks ago
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"I was just looking at a club website and on the dress code it suggests that ladies should not wear trousers.
A few years ago I remember one club had a rule banning any sexual activity between men.
Personally I’d change both of those rules.
What swing club rules would you change?
(Don’t name the club - just talk about the rules!)"
I was on Germany well Berlin to be precise. The clubs (vannila) is all black you socks and underwear also have to be black. |
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"I was just looking at a club website and on the dress code it suggests that ladies should not wear trousers.
A few years ago I remember one club had a rule banning any sexual activity between men.
Personally I’d change both of those rules.
What swing club rules would you change?
(Don’t name the club - just talk about the rules!)"
No trousers for women - I understand this rule. It’s easier for women to play when wearing dresses and I prefer to wear a dress. I wear trousers all week lol |
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"No sex play in the pool"
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them. |
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"I like a dress code. I know what’s expected of me. I think some could be a little relaxed though. "
I like a dress code, but I find it a bit of an old-fashioned sexist stereotype to expect women to only wear skirts and not trousers. |
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I like a dress code, but I find it a bit of an old-fashioned sexist stereotype to expect women to only wear skirts and not trousers.
Would a body stocking be permissible or not ?"
It’s obviously down to the women how they want to dress. F will always wear a dress/skirt or just lingerie.
Our preference though is that men look smarter! |
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"No sex play in the pool
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them. "
You do know pool water is constantly filtered? |
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"No sex play in the pool
That would be a murky pool of misery with mystery scum floating on top if that rule went"
Pool water is filtered, otherwise even without sex play the water would get dirty. |
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"No sex play in the pool
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them.
You do know pool water is constantly filtered?"
Jizz actually blocks the filters and stops them working effectively. That’s why you shouldn’t have sex in pools or hot tubs (also it’s disgusting for everyone else who wants to use it after you).
You only dump the water and clean the filters by backwashing, which requires the pool or hot tub to be closed for variable amount of time depending on how dirty the filters are and how large the pool is. |
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"No sex play in the pool
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them.
You do know pool water is constantly filtered?
Jizz actually blocks the filters and stops them working effectively. That’s why you shouldn’t have sex in pools or hot tubs (also it’s disgusting for everyone else who wants to use it after you).
You only dump the water and clean the filters by backwashing, which requires the pool or hot tub to be closed for variable amount of time depending on how dirty the filters are and how large the pool is."
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"No sex play in the pool
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them.
You do know pool water is constantly filtered?
Jizz actually blocks the filters and stops them working effectively. That’s why you shouldn’t have sex in pools or hot tubs (also it’s disgusting for everyone else who wants to use it after you).
You only dump the water and clean the filters by backwashing, which requires the pool or hot tub to be closed for variable amount of time depending on how dirty the filters are and how large the pool is."
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not. "
Agree, I stay away from clubs where its enforced dress down. Which is a pity as some are clubs in would otherwise like to visit. |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not. "
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there. |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there."
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women"
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left. |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left. "
Yeah that's weird. When we've attended GG nights Shogun doesn't play so he is fully dressed keeping an eye on me, but I expect men who are playing to dress down |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left. "
That's a different environment to a normal club night. I can understand it for that type of night. |
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"Forced dress down on arrival or by X time, in the social/ bar area.
Yes, hate this rule. We won't go to lingerie nights as we refuse to dress down"
I don't like being forced to do anything I don't consent to. Prefer clubs that respect body autonomy, so prefer places where it's dress down in play areas only. I thought dress down *could* include sexy nightwear/ nighties as well as lingerie though?! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"More clubs to have the dress down rule. Much prefer it personally."
A good compromise would be different event nights, some dress down on arrival, others in play areas only, etc rather than 1 rule all the time in a club? |
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"Forced dress down on arrival or by X time, in the social/ bar area.
Yes, hate this rule. We won't go to lingerie nights as we refuse to dress down
I don't like being forced to do anything I don't consent to. Prefer clubs that respect body autonomy, so prefer places where it's dress down in play areas only. I thought dress down *could* include sexy nightwear/ nighties as well as lingerie though?!"
That’s my take on dress down, skimpy dress, lingerie, skirts, tops. Anything you wouldn’t wear for a normal night out really. |
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"Forced dress down on arrival or by X time, in the social/ bar area.
Yes, hate this rule. We won't go to lingerie nights as we refuse to dress down
I don't like being forced to do anything I don't consent to. Prefer clubs that respect body autonomy, so prefer places where it's dress down in play areas only. I thought dress down *could* include sexy nightwear/ nighties as well as lingerie though?!"
A popular club I attended has separate clothes-free and dressed times. Think there's also clothing optional days. |
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"Forced dress down on arrival or by X time, in the social/ bar area.
Yes, hate this rule. We won't go to lingerie nights as we refuse to dress down
I don't like being forced to do anything I don't consent to. Prefer clubs that respect body autonomy, so prefer places where it's dress down in play areas only. I thought dress down *could* include sexy nightwear/ nighties as well as lingerie though?!
A popular club I attended has separate clothes-free and dressed times. Think there's also clothing optional days."
Sounds great that it caters to all preferences
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Dress down from minute one, as is the case in most (if not all) German/Dutch clubs.
Nothing worse than some guy popping his cock out of his jeans and expecting to fuck Mrs. As is very common in Spanish/French clubs. |
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"No sex play in the pool
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them. "
Never heard that excuse, for bringing thrush home, before! |
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"No sex play in the pool
Ew no. Rather not get into a scummy pool with sperm and everything else floating in it … and rather not end up with thrush from the amount of chlorine that’s put in to maintain them.
Never heard that excuse, for bringing thrush home, before!"
Chlorine kills the good and bad bacteria that keeps a vagina healthy. The heat of a hot tub can encourage yeast growth ….
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
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The only rule I'd like to see would be compulsory membership at all clubs, with ID provided. Whether that memberships was free or charged I don't care.
But the fact some clubs allow people to just rock up with no idea who they are is concerning.
Aside from the personal safety aspect, surely licenced adult clubs need to keep a record of who is on the premises at any given time in case of emergency?
Most clubs have clear indications of dress up/down policies, gender specific nights and events and any other club specific policies about who can/can't access certain areas, so people can make informed choices before attending.
It's nice that clubs are different and they shouldn't be expected to be the same everywhere.
That said. The traditional model of mixed nights on a Friday and couples/women only on a Saturday could do with mixing up a little, as it prevents some men from attending. |
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That said. The traditional model of mixed nights on a Friday and couples/women only on a Saturday could do with mixing up a little, as it prevents some men from attending. "
Maybe allow couples to sign in a guest, that way they can add extra singles but still have to join |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
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That said. The traditional model of mixed nights on a Friday and couples/women only on a Saturday could do with mixing up a little, as it prevents some men from attending.
Maybe allow couples to sign in a guest, that way they can add extra singles but still have to join "
I like the idea.
I also think clubs would benefit from a 'try before you buy' membership. What puts some people off joining is the worry that they have to pay an annual membership to get in only to find they don't actually enjoy a club and won't go back.
That and it puts off one off visitors who may only be in the area once or twice a year. Some kind of 'day pass' option?
If people could 'bring a friend' (ID provided of course) to test the water in a club it would both boost numbers attending on a specific night and hopefully club membership numbers long term.
There's no end of clubs I'd love to visit at least once but it would never be viable to join them all as most would be one off visits due to distance. |
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"No single guys on a Saturday night.
Speaking as part of a couple, we prefer fun for all nights. Always serm to quiet when when couples and women only. "
If the less “sociable” single guys are properly managed then I think it’s a potential win for everybody. |
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"No single guys on a Saturday night.
Speaking as part of a couple, we prefer fun for all nights. Always serm to quiet when when couples and women only.
Completely agree"
Completely disagree.
We choose to usually go on couples only nights. Single men change the dynamic.
When we want to meet single men, we choose those nights.
We’ve all been to club nights where it’s over run by men. This happens when couples stay away.
I recently read a post by a single man bemoaning the fact that a club had 30 men and 4 women in it and that he’d paid a lot of money and got no action.
Clubs are always tempted by single men as they are willing to pay more.
It’s no wonder couples only house parties are getting more popular.
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"No single guys on a Saturday night.
Speaking as part of a couple, we prefer fun for all nights. Always serm to quiet when when couples and women only.
Completely agree
Completely disagree.
We choose to usually go on couples only nights. Single men change the dynamic.
When we want to meet single men, we choose those nights.
We’ve all been to club nights where it’s over run by men. This happens when couples stay away.
I recently read a post by a single man bemoaning the fact that a club had 30 men and 4 women in it and that he’d paid a lot of money and got no action.
Clubs are always tempted by single men as they are willing to pay more.
It’s no wonder couples only house parties are getting more popular.
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That's on the club to monitor its numbers and let in a suitable number depending on the size of venue. I find the clubs that do this have balance correct. Everyone looks for different things and I feel when all included then it makes for better atmosphere. It shouldn't stop you seeking what you are looking for. |
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"No single guys on a Saturday night.
Speaking as part of a couple, we prefer fun for all nights. Always serm to quiet when when couples and women only.
Completely agree
Completely disagree.
We choose to usually go on couples only nights. Single men change the dynamic.
When we want to meet single men, we choose those nights.
We’ve all been to club nights where it’s over run by men. This happens when couples stay away.
I recently read a post by a single man bemoaning the fact that a club had 30 men and 4 women in it and that he’d paid a lot of money and got no action.
Clubs are always tempted by single men as they are willing to pay more.
It’s no wonder couples only house parties are getting more popular.
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What if there was a couples only area? Or rather than every Saturday night being couples only, just every other Saturday? |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left. "
Think all playing areas should be mandatory dress.down . Then there's ar social area for those who don't wanna dress down |
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Think all playing areas should be mandatory dress.down . Then there's ar social area for those who don't wanna dress down "
Layout can affect this, but if you had a club with predominantly social areas in one part, and predominantly playrooms in another, you could have a "dress down beyond this point".
People can opt to get naked, dress down or play in area 1 if they want but, area 2 restricted unless you get you do.
Body confidence is an issue, but I care more about people that do dress down not feeling intimidated. |
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By * and BCouple 44 weeks ago
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We think it's good different clubs having different rules. Different clubs for different people. If not happy with one club rules then folk can choose a club that rules are good for them. As a few have said not everyone is happy with dress down and also not everyone is happy with no dress down. Makes for clubs to have different experiences, one club could be a merry go round and another a roller coaster ride   |
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By *iasubTV/TS 44 weeks ago
Ilkeston |
"We think it's good different clubs having different rules. Different clubs for different people. If not happy with one club rules then folk can choose a club that rules are good for them. As a few have said not everyone is happy with dress down and also not everyone is happy with no dress down. Makes for clubs to have different experiences, one club could be a merry go round and another a roller coaster ride "
Exactly this. There will be a place for everyone  |
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"OP4F had a no anal policy... we didn't realise and we went there to find some DP action. Not sure if they still have the rule, but I'd have changed that on the night!"
Get the policy - especially if one hasn’t prepared for anal. Seen someone shit in a room and traipse it around a club leaving for staff to clean up. |
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By *iasubTV/TS 44 weeks ago
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"OP4F had a no anal policy... we didn't realise and we went there to find some DP action. Not sure if they still have the rule, but I'd have changed that on the night!
Get the policy - especially if one hasn’t prepared for anal. Seen someone shit in a room and traipse it around a club leaving for staff to clean up. "
Omg  id be mortified if it was me |
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"OP4F had a no anal policy... we didn't realise and we went there to find some DP action. Not sure if they still have the rule, but I'd have changed that on the night!
Get the policy - especially if one hasn’t prepared for anal. Seen someone shit in a room and traipse it around a club leaving for staff to clean up.
Omg id be mortified if it was me "
I believe it was a female and she seemed to find it amusing, whilst staff (mid party) are scrubbing away.
It’s not something I do (personal reasons), so maybe those who do anal can enlighten me … does that commonly happen? |
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By *iasubTV/TS 44 weeks ago
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"OP4F had a no anal policy... we didn't realise and we went there to find some DP action. Not sure if they still have the rule, but I'd have changed that on the night!
Get the policy - especially if one hasn’t prepared for anal. Seen someone shit in a room and traipse it around a club leaving for staff to clean up.
Omg id be mortified if it was me
I believe it was a female and she seemed to find it amusing, whilst staff (mid party) are scrubbing away.
It’s not something I do (personal reasons), so maybe those who do anal can enlighten me … does that commonly happen? "
I can honestly say id never go back after that but not to even clean it up is even worse
Not to that extent normally if you haven’t cleaned properly you can get a little but not much and it certainly wouldn’t leave a trail. They must not have been to the loo for that to happen for a very long time. More to the point it would have been sooooo uncomfortable to do for both people. I just hope the other person cleaned very well after  |
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"OP4F had a no anal policy... we didn't realise and we went there to find some DP action. Not sure if they still have the rule, but I'd have changed that on the night!
Get the policy - especially if one hasn’t prepared for anal. Seen someone shit in a room and traipse it around a club leaving for staff to clean up.
Omg id be mortified if it was me
I believe it was a female and she seemed to find it amusing, whilst staff (mid party) are scrubbing away.
It’s not something I do (personal reasons), so maybe those who do anal can enlighten me … does that commonly happen?
I can honestly say id never go back after that but not to even clean it up is even worse
Not to that extent normally if you haven’t cleaned properly you can get a little but not much and it certainly wouldn’t leave a trail. They must not have been to the loo for that to happen for a very long time. More to the point it would have been sooooo uncomfortable to do for both people. I just hope the other person cleaned very well after "
Well this has put me right off my tea. |
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"No single guys on a Saturday night.
Speaking as part of a couple, we prefer fun for all nights. Always serm to quiet when when couples and women only.
Completely agree
Completely disagree.
We choose to usually go on couples only nights. Single men change the dynamic.
When we want to meet single men, we choose those nights.
We’ve all been to club nights where it’s over run by men. This happens when couples stay away.
I recently read a post by a single man bemoaning the fact that a club had 30 men and 4 women in it and that he’d paid a lot of money and got no action.
Clubs are always tempted by single men as they are willing to pay more.
It’s no wonder couples only house parties are getting more popular.
What if there was a couples only area? Or rather than every Saturday night being couples only, just every other Saturday? "
We have been to clubs that do that and it’s just not the same as most of the club is then single men.
If you take Abfabs and Kestrels. Every session is couples and single men except Saturday night.
If they stop the couples only on Saturday nights we would personally stop going. |
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"I would like bi events to only have bi people attend them. I don’t get why so many straight men attend events meant for bi people  "
So that they can get into couples only areas, usually.
Or else they want their cock sucked if there aren't any women around! |
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"I would like bi events to only have bi people attend them. I don’t get why so many straight men attend events meant for bi people "
Libertines is good for this, they guestlist everyone and if your profile isn't bi you don't get on the list |
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"I would like bi events to only have bi people attend them. I don’t get why so many straight men attend events meant for bi people "
You should try a bi event at Club Play then, all are vetted to make sure that they are bi and have bi verifications xx |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left.
Think all playing areas should be mandatory dress.down . Then there's ar social area for those who don't wanna dress down "
See, I don’t mind having sex still clothed.
If I’m not feeling that good about my body then I might not want to take all my clothes off. Nobody else in a swing club is entitled to see my whole body.
I’d just play in the social areas instead if that were the policy.  |
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left.
Think all playing areas should be mandatory dress.down . Then there's ar social area for those who don't wanna dress down
See, I don’t mind having sex still clothed.
If I’m not feeling that good about my body then I might not want to take all my clothes off. Nobody else in a swing club is entitled to see my whole body.
I’d just play in the social areas instead if that were the policy. "
CFNM nights are good for this, women get to feel less self conscious, and men are naked or dressed down. If you know the event is aimed at that, then men not wanting to dress down can give it a swerve. |
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CFNM nights are good for this, women get to feel less self conscious, and men are naked or dressed down. If you know the event is aimed at that, then men not wanting to dress down can give it a swerve. "
I’ve been to those events on the kink scene lots of times but they do tend to attract male subs who expect femdoms. And that’s fine if I’m trying to meet a cute new sub but not so much if I’m trying to meet anyone else! |
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Allow single guys on Saturdays.
Maybe on a fortnightly basis or once a month would do even. We live clubs but Fridays are really difficult to get available honestly.
I'd also do away with dress down only policies and have all clubs off this as a preference |
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By *elkieWoman 43 weeks ago
Durham |
"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left.
Yeah that's weird. When we've attended GG nights Shogun doesn't play so he is fully dressed keeping an eye on me, but I expect men who are playing to dress down"
I’d rather see all men dressing down. Your husband is probably lovely, but it spoils my headspace as a single woman when there’s fully dressed men around whether they’re single or couples, playing or not. |
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By *oxy jWoman 43 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
"Ban people with annoying over the top fake moans from hollering the rooms down "
oh very much this these people are a embarrassment they sound like they need putting down
and yes you can tell the difference between real n fake
do they not realise that everyone is laughing at them |
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By *oxy jWoman 43 weeks ago
taunton somerset |
make it one charge to get in stop exploiting men
stop with couples only night on a sat night thats one night of the week where a club should be open to all
kick people out if they are pissed yes that includes women n couples
id like to see a few more men in clubs
more kink nights more bi nights
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"make it one charge to get in stop exploiting men
stop with couples only night on a sat night thats one night of the week where a club should be open to all
kick people out if they are pissed yes that includes women n couples
id like to see a few more men in clubs
more kink nights more bi nights
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How about couples can sign in a single male guest on a Saturday and additionally single men per couple already inside. Regulates numbers, stops packs of wanking dead. |
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"make it one charge to get in stop exploiting men
stop with couples only night on a sat night thats one night of the week where a club should be open to all
kick people out if they are pissed yes that includes women n couples
id like to see a few more men in clubs
more kink nights more bi nights
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Agree on the allowing single males on Saturday nights. Even alternative weekends. I don’t attend couples and single female nights they aren’t my cuppa tea. |
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"make it one charge to get in stop exploiting men
stop with couples only night on a sat night thats one night of the week where a club should be open to all
kick people out if they are pissed yes that includes women n couples
id like to see a few more men in clubs
more kink nights more bi nights
How about couples can sign in a single male guest on a Saturday and additionally single men per couple already inside. Regulates numbers, stops packs of wanking dead."
We have been to a club that does this, changed the dynamic, single men were being a nuisance and not sticking to the rules. We stopped going there. |
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"I would like bi events to only have bi people attend them. I don’t get why so many straight men attend events meant for bi people
You should try a bi event at Club Play then, all are vetted to make sure that they are bi and have bi verifications xx"
Thank you, it is on our list. We will hopefully get there in the next month or so x |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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100% this.
We would attend more nights if a reasonable number of single guys were there. We can never understand why they are looked down upon by some. Most clubs wouldn’t survive without them and they add an extra option for fun. |
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"Not so much a rule change but wish there was more couple only nights in/around Manchester "
I think there's quite a few .... I know Cupids has every Wednesday and some events hosted by AandC (I think) that are more couple oriented. In the place towards Liverpool it also has a couples and SF event.
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"To dress down to enter a certain part of the club. Being a bigger girl I'm not comfortable with that which puts me off a lot of clubs. I think I should be able to chose to dress down or not.
I think the dress down rule should apply to men, women should be optional. Most will choose to dress sexy, but the option for women should be there.
Why men and not women? Men have the same issues regarding body confidence etc as women
Agreed, but we have been to greedy girl nights where Miss was in lingerie and surrounded by 20 guys all fully dressed, still wearing coats, hoods up. It's very intimidating, we left.
Think all playing areas should be mandatory dress.down . Then there's ar social area for those who don't wanna dress down "
Yes, I entirely agree with this. |
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The clubs I go to tend to do them anyway, but I’d make them all:
Dress down if want to leave the bar/ social area
Proper ID shown to be a member
Proper bar not BYOB
Proper staff, who do proper tours and explain rules
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"The clubs I go to tend to do them anyway, but I’d make them all:
Dress down if want to leave the bar/ social area
Proper ID shown to be a member
Proper bar not BYOB
Proper staff, who do proper tours and explain rules
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Ban food and games in clubs. Forced fun isn’t for me ha |
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" When we've attended GG nights Shogun doesn't play so he is fully dressed keeping an eye on me, but I expect men who are playing to dress down
I’d rather see all men dressing down. Your husband is probably lovely, but it spoils my headspace as a single woman when there’s fully dressed men around whether they’re single or couples, playing or not. "
I agree. Why should a fully clothed man be able to look at me naked ? |
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"The clubs I go to tend to do them anyway, but I’d make them all:
Dress down if want to leave the bar/ social area
Proper ID shown to be a member
Proper bar not BYOB
Proper staff, who do proper tours and explain rules
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All this apart from BYOB, buying booze onsite may be convenient but it's stupidly expensive. Some people may have the money to burn but there's minimum 600% markup on a shot of vodka. Having it behind the bar and served by a barman still works. |
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"The clubs I go to tend to do them anyway, but I’d make them all:
Dress down if want to leave the bar/ social area
Proper ID shown to be a member
Proper bar not BYOB
Proper staff, who do proper tours and explain rules
All this apart from BYOB, buying booze onsite may be convenient but it's stupidly expensive. Some people may have the money to burn but there's minimum 600% markup on a shot of vodka. Having it behind the bar and served by a barman still works. "
You need a license for alcohol to be able to serve, regardless of it being a BYOB.
Most clubs/bars I've been to, the bar has always been reasonbly priced. |
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"The clubs I go to tend to do them anyway, but I’d make them all:
Dress down if want to leave the bar/ social area
Proper ID shown to be a member
Proper bar not BYOB
Proper staff, who do proper tours and explain rules
All this apart from BYOB, buying booze onsite may be convenient but it's stupidly expensive. Some people may have the money to burn but there's minimum 600% markup on a shot of vodka. Having it behind the bar and served by a barman still works.
You need a license for alcohol to be able to serve, regardless of it being a BYOB.
Most clubs/bars I've been to, the bar has always been reasonbly priced. "
Our experience of our favourite club is that it’s reasonably priced and not out of line with pubs etc. |
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Our experience of our favourite club is that it’s reasonably priced and not out of line with pubs etc. "
Still, BYOB seems very popular at other venues like Chameleons, Attic, Atlantis. There is no license required for BYOB, even charging for corkage (which nobody does, it's rolled into club entry fee). |
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"The clubs I go to tend to do them anyway, but I’d make them all:
Dress down if want to leave the bar/ social area
Proper ID shown to be a member
Proper bar not BYOB
Proper staff, who do proper tours and explain rules
All this apart from BYOB, buying booze onsite may be convenient but it's stupidly expensive. Some people may have the money to burn but there's minimum 600% markup on a shot of vodka. Having it behind the bar and served by a barman still works. "
Nah I don’t like it.
I’d stick with my rules lol.
Feels amateurish and house party vibes.
Prefer a classy bar area that feels like a proper bar lol
Appreciate probably more experience. But thinn it gives better vibes in the bar areas. |
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"I was just looking at a club website and on the dress code it suggests that ladies should not wear trousers.
A few years ago I remember one club had a rule banning any sexual activity between men.
Personally I’d change both of those rules.
What swing club rules would you change?
(Don’t name the club - just talk about the rules!)"
Dress code is good for ing out those who cannot follow rules. Two rules I'd like to be added is:
1. No touching/joining without asking and getting permission. (It's better to be invited than to be told to leave.)
2. No running commentary on what's going on in front of your eyes. (We had a good fuck ruined by a lady who sat next to us and started instructing me "Oh, yeah, give it to that bitch, fuck her hard...")
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"100% this.
We would attend more nights if a reasonable number of single guys were there. We can never understand why they are looked down upon by some. Most clubs wouldn’t survive without them and they add an extra option for fun."
Definitely this. People complain that clubs are “over run” with single guys. In 23 years of swinging this has never been our experience. We must have gone on the wrong nights! |
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2. No running commentary on what's going on in front of your eyes. (We had a good fuck ruined by a lady who sat next to us and started instructing me "Oh, yeah, give it to that bitch, fuck her hard...")
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THIS!!! Just feels weird doesn't it. |
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"chatting about random crap in play areas.. when you are playing and someone is talking at room volume about politics or something trivial "
Bloody cars, usually fucking ferrarweez, whatever they might be! |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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Pondering out loud. Having pod rooms with locks on the door, but on a timer (5 min warning prior to unlock), say some 30mins, some 1hr, some longer, as well as open rooms. Windows with blinds on them too. |
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"100% this.
We would attend more nights if a reasonable number of single guys were there. We can never understand why they are looked down upon by some. Most clubs wouldn’t survive without them and they add an extra option for fun.
Definitely this. People complain that clubs are “over run” with single guys. In 23 years of swinging this has never been our experience. We must have gone on the wrong nights!"
A club should have a ratio system, for every couple and/or single woman they should allow a single guy. If the dynamic starts to look bit off then use the discretion to say the ratio is full. Clubs that allow signing in a single male guest should be included in the ratio. |
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"No sitting down next to the person you came with
No sitting down next to the person who you just came all over.
Don't be a dog in the manger!"
Rude old man !
It means you talk to the person either side of you and make new friends . |
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