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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
I joined in the hope of being of being able to visit classy clubs in the Uk but unfortunately my nerves have gotten the better of me and I won’t ho solo ! I know that’s cowardly lol
Does anyone have an interest in meeting up and having few drinks before heading to a club with no pressure to play !
Would love if someone could guide me as to how to find someone to walk through the door with basically
Feel free to PM me ( preferably ) with any advice x |
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Practice by going to a pub on your own and striking up conversations with strangers.
It needn’t be weird just keep it simple and inoffensive.
Lots of men never learn this very basic skill as they’re always with their mates or their wife on a night out.
An easy social ability is the key to club success.
Also, we met a guy once at a club in similar circumstances to yours and he hung about all evening like a lost puppy.
It’s not attractive. |
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Hi pink
Thanks very much for the detailed reply
To be honest striking up a convo is no problem to be at all ( good conversation that is )
Are single well behind guys allowed to visit places you go too ? |
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"Hi pink
Thanks very much for the detailed reply
To be honest striking up a convo is no problem to be at all ( good conversation that is )
Are single well behind guys allowed to visit places you go too ?"
Single men are welcome in clubs on most nights, apart from those reserved for couples and single ladies only. Do your homework first by choosing the club you want to visit wisely, check the requirements for single men (they usually need to book in advance), follow the dress code, go with no expectations and try and enjoy your night. If anything sexual happens, treat it as a bonus. |
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"Hi all
I joined in the hope of being of being able to visit classy clubs in the Uk but unfortunately my nerves have gotten the better of me and I won’t ho solo ! I know that’s cowardly lol
Does anyone have an interest in meeting up and having few drinks before heading to a club with no pressure to play !
Would love if someone could guide me as to how to find someone to walk through the door with basically
Feel free to PM me ( preferably ) with any advice x"
Many years ago I adopted the strategy when approaching things I had not done before of asking myself, what’s the worst that could happen. If the answer wasn’t death, serious injury, permanent disfigurement or ruin, I opted to do it. I would recommend such a strategy as something that will enrich your life in so many positive ways. If a choice turns out not to be great, chalk it down to experience. You have learned something, experienced something and probably have a great story to share. There is nothing scary about swinging clubs. The worst that could happen is you spend a few quid getting in and no one talks to you. |
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"Hi all
I joined in the hope of being of being able to visit classy clubs in the Uk but unfortunately my nerves have gotten the better of me and I won’t ho solo ! I know that’s cowardly lol
Does anyone have an interest in meeting up and having few drinks before heading to a club with no pressure to play !
Would love if someone could guide me as to how to find someone to walk through the door with basically
Feel free to PM me ( preferably ) with any advice xMany years ago I adopted the strategy when approaching things I had not done before of asking myself, what’s the worst that could happen. If the answer wasn’t death, serious injury, permanent disfigurement or ruin, I opted to do it. I would recommend such a strategy as something that will enrich your life in so many positive ways. If a choice turns out not to be great, chalk it down to experience. You have learned something, experienced something and probably have a great story to share. There is nothing scary about swinging clubs. The worst that could happen is you spend a few quid getting in and no one talks to you."
Likewise I would say this is great advise. It's reminiscent of my own experience of the club scene as single guy many years ago. I just had to throw myself in at the deep and overcome my social anxiety (well not overcome as such but become adapt at managing it). Because despite what many think the key to success in a club is not about a huge cock or beating your chest or making strong advances like Pepé Le Pew. The key is being self assured, able to read the room/vibes, respectful and pleasant to be around. To some this comes more natural than others but practise makes perfect. What is the worse that can happen? Get yourself out there and make striking up a conversation with strangers and thing that comes natural. Personally I find myself these day striking up conversations and social interactions with people I wouldn't have done years ago.
Like been said above hanging on to an individual, couple or group like a puppy dog in a club is not an attractive. We have in the past had people being a bit clingy to us because we're the first ones who talked to them all night. Naturally why often these 'show me the ropes' or 'hold my hand into the club' threads don't go down too well. Also when in the club avoid joining the ranks of the wanking dead. I get it's a difficult environment and that lost puppy dog feeling can be very real. But don't make the mistake like so many others of seeking inclusion and pack safety in the crowd of wanking dead. It will lead you astray and away from success however comforting it may feel. The key to being respected and liked is standing up as your own man and being your own sovereign social butterfly. |
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"Hi all
I joined in the hope of being of being able to visit classy clubs in the Uk but unfortunately my nerves have gotten the better of me and I won’t ho solo ! I know that’s cowardly lol
Does anyone have an interest in meeting up and having few drinks before heading to a club with no pressure to play !
Would love if someone could guide me as to how to find someone to walk through the door with basically
Feel free to PM me ( preferably ) with any advice xMany years ago I adopted the strategy when approaching things I had not done before of asking myself, what’s the worst that could happen. If the answer wasn’t death, serious injury, permanent disfigurement or ruin, I opted to do it. I would recommend such a strategy as something that will enrich your life in so many positive ways. If a choice turns out not to be great, chalk it down to experience. You have learned something, experienced something and probably have a great story to share. There is nothing scary about swinging clubs. The worst that could happen is you spend a few quid getting in and no one talks to you.
Likewise I would say this is great advise. It's reminiscent of my own experience of the club scene as single guy many years ago. I just had to throw myself in at the deep and overcome my social anxiety (well not overcome as such but become adapt at managing it). Because despite what many think the key to success in a club is not about a huge cock or beating your chest or making strong advances like Pepé Le Pew. The key is being self assured, able to read the room/vibes, respectful and pleasant to be around. To some this comes more natural than others but practise makes perfect. What is the worse that can happen? Get yourself out there and make striking up a conversation with strangers and thing that comes natural. Personally I find myself these day striking up conversations and social interactions with people I wouldn't have done years ago.
Like been said above hanging on to an individual, couple or group like a puppy dog in a club is not an attractive. We have in the past had people being a bit clingy to us because we're the first ones who talked to them all night. Naturally why often these 'show me the ropes' or 'hold my hand into the club' threads don't go down too well. Also when in the club avoid joining the ranks of the wanking dead. I get it's a difficult environment and that lost puppy dog feeling can be very real. But don't make the mistake like so many others of seeking inclusion and pack safety in the crowd of wanking dead. It will lead you astray and away from success however comforting it may feel. The key to being respected and liked is standing up as your own man and being your own sovereign social butterfly. "
Agree with all of the above. Last time we were in a club we were followed around all evening by groups of pretty good looking, possibly well hung guys. My wife chose the 60+ guy that spoke to her and made conversation.
Woman and couples don’t just want a cock. |
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