Hi all, my FWB partner and I are considering our first visit to a club. I know this sounds naive but we really don’t know what to expect. As it’s our first time she is curious to just watch and then maybe suck me, have me fuck her.
What are the etiquette rules? Is it ok to watch? Is it ok to just be turned on but only focus on each other?
Also, we’re thinking of going to London for this. Any recommendations for newbies? |
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Hi OP,
Things vary from club to club but here are the general etiquette rules:
1. No means no but it’s ok to ask
2. No touching without asking
3. Playrooms tend to have doors and ropes/chains:
a) If the door is closed, leave it the hell alone!
b) If the door is open but the rope/chain is across, look but keep out
c) if the door is open without a chain, see rules 1 and 2
4. People playing in public areas are happy to be watched and if you apply rules 1 and 2, may welcome you joining in.
5. If people are doing things you don’t understand, ask respectfully. It’s a great conversation starter and you may learn something!
6. If people are doing things you don’t like, walk away, consenting adults don’t need your input.
7. If something worries you, speak to/report it to management.
The key thing is not to hide in a corner waiting for someone to talk to you. Make the effort to introduce yourself and engage with people. From the social conversation comes more interesting interactions!
Good luck! |
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"Hi OP,
Things vary from club to club but here are the general etiquette rules:
1. No means no but it’s ok to ask
2. No touching without asking
3. Playrooms tend to have doors and ropes/chains:
a) If the door is closed, leave it the hell alone!
b) If the door is open but the rope/chain is across, look but keep out
c) if the door is open without a chain, see rules 1 and 2
4. People playing in public areas are happy to be watched and if you apply rules 1 and 2, may welcome you joining in.
5. If people are doing things you don’t understand, ask respectfully. It’s a great conversation starter and you may learn something!
6. If people are doing things you don’t like, walk away, consenting adults don’t need your input.
7. If something worries you, speak to/report it to management.
The key thing is not to hide in a corner waiting for someone to talk to you. Make the effort to introduce yourself and engage with people. From the social conversation comes more interesting interactions!
Good luck!"
Very well said wish all men who visited clubs knew your rules  |
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"Hi all, my FWB partner and I are considering our first visit to a club. I know this sounds naive but we really don’t know what to expect. As it’s our first time she is curious to just watch and then maybe suck me, have me fuck her.
What are the etiquette rules? Is it ok to watch? Is it ok to just be turned on but only focus on each other?
Also, we’re thinking of going to London for this. Any recommendations for newbies?"
You already got great advice, but I am going to throw some of mine.
1) do you want a club with more night-club feel, where you come in dressed to impress and maybe, later on, proceed to dressing down? Or would you rather attend a spa-based club, where it doesn't matter much what you were wearing getting through the door as you need to dress down on arrival?
2) it is absolutely fine to just watch. If people are choosing to play in open areas, they are consenting to being watched, as long as it's just that. They may want others to join, but people need to ask permission first before touching. Also, if watching others, please do give them space. I have had people (well, men) within what felt like millimetres from me "just wanting to watch", then touching me without my consent once my guard was down in the middle of play.
3) if using hot tub, please be respectful of others in there. At least have a quick rinse before going in, and give people space. It is a great place for a conversation (if the bubbles are not too loud), but some seem to treat it as "free for all" area where they can touch others uninvited. The underwater "footsie" is the most annoying for me, particularly when I'm just trying to chill.
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"Hi OP,
Things vary from club to club but here are the general etiquette rules:
1. No means no but it’s ok to ask
2. No touching without asking
3. Playrooms tend to have doors and ropes/chains:
a) If the door is closed, leave it the hell alone!
b) If the door is open but the rope/chain is across, look but keep out
c) if the door is open without a chain, see rules 1 and 2
4. People playing in public areas are happy to be watched and if you apply rules 1 and 2, may welcome you joining in.
5. If people are doing things you don’t understand, ask respectfully. It’s a great conversation starter and you may learn something!
6. If people are doing things you don’t like, walk away, consenting adults don’t need your input.
7. If something worries you, speak to/report it to management.
The key thing is not to hide in a corner waiting for someone to talk to you. Make the effort to introduce yourself and engage with people. From the social conversation comes more interesting interactions!
Good luck!"
Thank you. Great reply |
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"Hi all, my FWB partner and I are considering our first visit to a club. I know this sounds naive but we really don’t know what to expect. As it’s our first time she is curious to just watch and then maybe suck me, have me fuck her.
What are the etiquette rules? Is it ok to watch? Is it ok to just be turned on but only focus on each other?
Also, we’re thinking of going to London for this. Any recommendations for newbies?
You already got great advice, but I am going to throw some of mine.
1) do you want a club with more night-club feel, where you come in dressed to impress and maybe, later on, proceed to dressing down? Or would you rather attend a spa-based club, where it doesn't matter much what you were wearing getting through the door as you need to dress down on arrival?
2) it is absolutely fine to just watch. If people are choosing to play in open areas, they are consenting to being watched, as long as it's just that. They may want others to join, but people need to ask permission first before touching. Also, if watching others, please do give them space. I have had people (well, men) within what felt like millimetres from me "just wanting to watch", then touching me without my consent once my guard was down in the middle of play.
3) if using hot tub, please be respectful of others in there. At least have a quick rinse before going in, and give people space. It is a great place for a conversation (if the bubbles are not too loud), but some seem to treat it as "free for all" area where they can touch others uninvited. The underwater "footsie" is the most annoying for me, particularly when I'm just trying to chill.
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Thank you for your reply. Possibly more of a nightclub feel at first? |
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