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over a year ago
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So we’ve attended a couple of the North East clubs over the past 3 weekends (won’t be naming and shaming as that’s not the intent of the post).
We’ve noticed a definite drop in standards from when we first started visiting clubs several years ago. Not sure if this is born out of not wanting to upset anyone as appreciate Covid must have been a horrific time for club owners. Main things for us are:
Dress Code - this always used to be smart as if dressing for a night out (spoilers - you are). Jeans and t-shirts seem more and more common and this is ladies I’m talking about. This wouldn’t be as bad if any kind of dress down was adhered to.
Vaping - no issues at all with people smoking or vaping, but this is happening blatantly in social areas and going unchecked.
Mobile Phones - tho is a HUGE one for us, as surely discretion is paramount for all of us in a club setting. Signs everywhere saying no mobile phones and yet again blatant use in social areas.
I know people will ask why we didn’t challenge ourselves, but we’ve paid admission to have a fun time, not police clubs lax policies.
Thoughts? Are we being too sensitive here or have people seen the same?? |
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We couldn't agree more, it's been almost 12 months since we have ventured to a club for these very reasons, last time we're in a club I even commented to the staff that it was nice to see that someone had made the effort to wear their best track suit for the evening  , I genuinely believe that the pandemic has had a significant negative affect on etiquette, maybe we've just become too sensitive also.
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"We couldn't agree more, it's been almost 12 months since we have ventured to a club for these very reasons, last time we're in a club I even commented to the staff that it was nice to see that someone had made the effort to wear their best track suit for the evening , I genuinely believe that the pandemic has had a significant negative affect on etiquette, maybe we've just become too sensitive also.
Mr Hayes "
Glad to hear it isn’t just us. A little short sighted of owners if they don’t think that any short term gain isn’t going to result in long term pain as people simply won’t go back.
Also a bit demoralising for the better half who has spent an age getting ready (hair, makeup, stockings, heels) only to get there and see others have clearly made a beeline to the club straight after doing the big shop. |
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I agree too, on both points. Dress code standards, I'm nit sure if it is just lower level of dressing up or just times are changing now, what people class as dressed up is different from years ago. Not just a club setting either, most other hospitality venues you see similar.
Mobile phones, I've seen a few incidents with mobile phones. Just casual use, but that can only lead to the next step and photographic use. |
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"I agree too, on both points. Dress code standards, I'm nit sure if it is just lower level of dressing up or just times are changing now, what people class as dressed up is different from years ago. Not just a club setting either, most other hospitality venues you see similar.
Mobile phones, I've seen a few incidents with mobile phones. Just casual use, but that can only lead to the next step and photographic use. "
To be honest all you have to do is scroll through the pics on here to see that a vast amount of people are taking pictures in clubs, you can even tell which club they've been taken in, personally if I was a club owner I'd be checking and banning people for using their phones and posting pics, but that's just me and my moral compass
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The dress code for me is more of an age thing. I’m 35 and I haven’t worn anything other than a T-shirt, jeans and trainers for a night out since I was under 18. Fashion has moved on and clubs should be trying to move with the times. |
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"The dress code for me is more of an age thing. I’m 35 and I haven’t worn anything other than a T-shirt, jeans and trainers for a night out since I was under 18. Fashion has moved on and clubs should be trying to move with the times."
Speaking as an old fart I genuinely don’t think it’s an age thing - it’s more an effort thing. Wetherspoons around the country are full of jeans, T-shirts and trainers. It’s not what we want to see at a sex club. |
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"So we’ve attended a couple of the North East clubs over the past 3 weekends (won’t be naming and shaming as that’s not the intent of the post).
We’ve noticed a definite drop in standards from when we first started visiting clubs several years ago. Not sure if this is born out of not wanting to upset anyone as appreciate Covid must have been a horrific time for club owners. Main things for us are:
Dress Code - this always used to be smart as if dressing for a night out (spoilers - you are). Jeans and t-shirts seem more and more common and this is ladies I’m talking about. This wouldn’t be as bad if any kind of dress down was adhered to.
Vaping - no issues at all with people smoking or vaping, but this is happening blatantly in social areas and going unchecked.
Mobile Phones - tho is a HUGE one for us, as surely discretion is paramount for all of us in a club setting. Signs everywhere saying no mobile phones and yet again blatant use in social areas.
I know people will ask why we didn’t challenge ourselves, but we’ve paid admission to have a fun time, not police clubs lax policies.
Thoughts? Are we being too sensitive here or have people seen the same??"
I agree with you on these things and I agree that you’re not there to police
The club I attend has a suggestion box and online emailing if you want to raise suggestions sometimes that’s all it takes xx |
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"The dress code for me is more of an age thing. I’m 35 and I haven’t worn anything other than a T-shirt, jeans and trainers for a night out since I was under 18. Fashion has moved on and clubs should be trying to move with the times.
Speaking as an old fart I genuinely don’t think it’s an age thing - it’s more an effort thing. Wetherspoons around the country are full of jeans, T-shirts and trainers. It’s not what we want to see at a sex club."
Absolutely agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The dress code for me is more of an age thing. I’m 35 and I haven’t worn anything other than a T-shirt, jeans and trainers for a night out since I was under 18. Fashion has moved on and clubs should be trying to move with the times.
Speaking as an old fart I genuinely don’t think it’s an age thing - it’s more an effort thing. Wetherspoons around the country are full of jeans, T-shirts and trainers. It’s not what we want to see at a sex club."
I strongly disagree. I’ve got a friend who dresses in shirts, shoes and dress pants and he’s ridiculed by everyone our age and younger for looking like one of our Dads. Clubs should be for everyone and modernising the dress code will attract a younger crowd. You can still dress your way but you shouldn’t want to push the younger crowd away. |
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"So we’ve attended a couple of the North East clubs over the past 3 weekends (won’t be naming and shaming as that’s not the intent of the post).
We’ve noticed a definite drop in standards from when we first started visiting clubs several years ago. Not sure if this is born out of not wanting to upset anyone as appreciate Covid must have been a horrific time for club owners. Main things for us are:
Dress Code - this always used to be smart as if dressing for a night out (spoilers - you are). Jeans and t-shirts seem more and more common and this is ladies I’m talking about. This wouldn’t be as bad if any kind of dress down was adhered to.
Vaping - no issues at all with people smoking or vaping, but this is happening blatantly in social areas and going unchecked.
Mobile Phones - tho is a HUGE one for us, as surely discretion is paramount for all of us in a club setting. Signs everywhere saying no mobile phones and yet again blatant use in social areas.
I know people will ask why we didn’t challenge ourselves, but we’ve paid admission to have a fun time, not police clubs lax policies.
Thoughts? Are we being too sensitive here or have people seen the same??"
Totally agree and it’s one of the reasons we’ve stopped going to clubs in the UK. Lowering your standards to attract more people is the beginning of the end of any club. We’ve seen people in shorts and t shirt! It does nothing to help create a sexy atmosphere |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The dress code for me is more of an age thing. I’m 35 and I haven’t worn anything other than a T-shirt, jeans and trainers for a night out since I was under 18. Fashion has moved on and clubs should be trying to move with the times.
Speaking as an old fart I genuinely don’t think it’s an age thing - it’s more an effort thing. Wetherspoons around the country are full of jeans, T-shirts and trainers. It’s not what we want to see at a sex club.
I strongly disagree. I’ve got a friend who dresses in shirts, shoes and dress pants and he’s ridiculed by everyone our age and younger for looking like one of our Dads. Clubs should be for everyone and modernising the dress code will attract a younger crowd. You can still dress your way but you shouldn’t want to push the younger crowd away."
I’m not for a second suggesting pushing younger crowd away - and if I’m honest my comment refers more to women than men - just don’t think jeans and t shirt is a sexy look conducive with a sex club environment. But respect your opinion even if I massively disagree with it. We’re clearly looking for different things |
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"A social or a club meet is surely like an interview
You bring your A game and go with the idea to impress and wow whomever you are meeting
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100% this! |
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It’s a real shame when people don’t make the effort, for a night out.
I can only speak from my experience at Townhouse. Where I’ve overheard someone being told, by a member of staff, they need to remove their trainers, as it goes against the club dress code.  |
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