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By *uvBugs OP Couple
over a year ago
CAMBS |
We are a happy go lucky pair and regularly attend a few clubs specifically Derby. We have found over the last few months that we are either avoided or sometimes ignored. We are always friendly to anybody. We've always enjoyed playing in clubs but are we too old to share a room with someone or couples? We are off to the Attic this Saturday but are slowly having second thoughts  |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
Age isn't an issue for us typically (despite our filters) as we go off hiw the couple are.
You should be fine at The Attic as it gets a whole host of different age groups.
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"We are a happy go lucky pair and regularly attend a few clubs specifically Derby. We have found over the last few months that we are either avoided or sometimes ignored. We are always friendly to anybody. We've always enjoyed playing in clubs but are we too old to share a room with someone or couples? We are off to the Attic this Saturday but are slowly having second thoughts "
We've been to the attic quite a few times, and let me re assure you. Your by no means the oldest we've seen there. It a very inclusive place.  (mrs) |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
"We are a happy go lucky pair and regularly attend a few clubs specifically Derby. We have found over the last few months that we are either avoided or sometimes ignored. We are always friendly to anybody. We've always enjoyed playing in clubs but are we too old to share a room with someone or couples? We are off to the Attic this Saturday but are slowly having second thoughts "
Go, do you're own thing and have fun you shouldn't let a few bad experiences put you off.
I (Mr) in our early swinging days got pushed off the bed by another couple who wanted my wifey to themselves. It was in the days before we knew what unicorn hunters were  we quickly stopped the fun and played elsewhere. What im saying is everyone as bad experiences but the bad ones make the good ones even more fun... Don't chuck in the towel 
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By *uvBugs OP Couple
over a year ago
CAMBS |
Thanks for the encouraging words, maybe it's something we have to work on even more. We aren't amatuers at playing and we do enjoy playing alone. We just like that extra bit of fun as many do. Must work harder LOL
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"We are a happy go lucky pair and regularly attend a few clubs specifically Derby. We have found over the last few months that we are either avoided or sometimes ignored. We are always friendly to anybody. We've always enjoyed playing in clubs but are we too old to share a room with someone or couples? We are off to the Attic this Saturday but are slowly having second thoughts "
Sensual or sexy moments are about the atitude or responsiveness of the people involved not their age at all. Also looks can attract and excite but if after that initial reaction there is a cold unresponsive reaction the experience is flat on the other hand if you open your mind to the people you are with the experience can be explosive. I am sure the right people will come along now and then so dont give up.
I started my swinging journey watching a couple 20 years older than I was then covered in a towel but enjoying themselves and its still the most sensual exciting time I have had amongst hundreds since. |
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LuvBugs, I put up a similar question on here a few months back.
Being now in our early sixties, we feel that going to swingers clubs could be awkward. We'd hate to be the oldest people there and not see at least another couple of a similar age group!
Ageism is a thing, and it may not be overt.
We were regulars at Abfab and Radlett, and also Eureka, and have been to many house parties, and always enjoyed it. Molly loves getting glammed up and going out.
However, for the last few years, we've been going to naturist places for the most part, worrying that we'd be 'gatecrashing' venues for a younger demographic.
Our fear would be going to a club where they just want the "beautiful people" lol.
We've been interested in going to the Penthouse Playrooms in Dunstable and have had some conversations on here with people well into their sixties and even early seventies who have been there, who tell us that we would be made welcome there, and that our age isn't an issue.
I even contacted the club about it and had a very reassuring message from them saying that we would be welcome.
So, we're going to definitely give the Penthouse Playrooms a visit in the next few weeks.
We're also thinking of going to the new Abfab as lots of people have told us that there is a very wide age-range that go there. (We haven't been there since they closed down the old venue and moved).
We'll post a review of our experience from an age perspective once we've visited.
If anybody has any information with regards to which clubs in the south are welcoming of an older age group, we'd love to hear from you.
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By *uvBugs OP Couple
over a year ago
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"LuvBugs, I put up a similar question on here a few months back.
Being now in our early sixties, we feel that going to swingers clubs could be awkward. We'd hate to be the oldest people there and not see at least another couple of a similar age group!
Ageism is a thing, and it may not be overt.
We were regulars at Abfab and Radlett, and also Eureka, and have been to many house parties, and always enjoyed it. Molly loves getting glammed up and going out.
However, for the last few years, we've been going to naturist places for the most part, worrying that we'd be 'gatecrashing' venues for a younger demographic.
Our fear would be going to a club where they just want the "beautiful people" lol.
We've been interested in going to the Penthouse Playrooms in Dunstable and have had some conversations on here with people well into their sixties and even early seventies who have been there, who tell us that we would be made welcome there, and that our age isn't an issue.
I even contacted the club about it and had a very reassuring message from them saying that we would be welcome.
So, we're going to definitely give the Penthouse Playrooms a visit in the next few weeks.
We're also thinking of going to the new Abfab as lots of people have told us that there is a very wide age-range that go there. (We haven't been there since they closed down the old venue and moved).
We'll post a review of our experience from an age perspective once we've visited.
If anybody has any information with regards to which clubs in the south are welcoming of an older age group, we'd love to hear from you.
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Thank you for taken the time to explain your knowledge and experiences. We always thought we were hardened swingers but as we got older and more relevant, post covid, it doesn't always feel the same as before for us (We used to have plenty of playmates) But we will keep going until the feelings tell us to stop. Once again thanks for your input x |
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"LuvBugs, I put up a similar question on here a few months back.
Being now in our early sixties, we feel that going to swingers clubs could be awkward. We'd hate to be the oldest people there and not see at least another couple of a similar age group!
Ageism is a thing, and it may not be overt.
We were regulars at Abfab and Radlett, and also Eureka, and have been to many house parties, and always enjoyed it. Molly loves getting glammed up and going out.
However, for the last few years, we've been going to naturist places for the most part, worrying that we'd be 'gatecrashing' venues for a younger demographic.
Our fear would be going to a club where they just want the "beautiful people" lol.
We've been interested in going to the Penthouse Playrooms in Dunstable and have had some conversations on here with people well into their sixties and even early seventies who have been there, who tell us that we would be made welcome there, and that our age isn't an issue.
I even contacted the club about it and had a very reassuring message from them saying that we would be welcome.
So, we're going to definitely give the Penthouse Playrooms a visit in the next few weeks.
We're also thinking of going to the new Abfab as lots of people have told us that there is a very wide age-range that go there. (We haven't been there since they closed down the old venue and moved).
We'll post a review of our experience from an age perspective once we've visited.
If anybody has any information with regards to which clubs in the south are welcoming of an older age group, we'd love to hear from you.
Thank you for taken the time to explain your knowledge and experiences. We always thought we were hardened swingers but as we got older and more relevant, post covid, it doesn't always feel the same as before for us (We used to have plenty of playmates) But we will keep going until the feelings tell us to stop. Once again thanks for your input x"
I think your mention of covid is very true. Since covid I have not been so keen to get out and meet but I am a keen dancer and I have dropped from probably four or five times a week to two or three and numbers at the dances have dropped.
However I have found of late I have been chatting and finding a lot of the more mature couples on here (and probably classier couples) who probably wouldn't go now to clubs but still want to meet up in little groups and at socials. When I started in this scene more than twenty years ago it was mainly social with benefits and the social was the bigger part but the younger generation seem to "want to cut to the chase" straight away and feel it sort of isn't as interesting.
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The idea of mature couples and singles meeting in small groups would be great.
There are hotels and Airbnbs etc. Also smaller clubs and spas like Silverleigh which are naturist, but have onsite accommodation. How we could arrange this is another thing!
It would be great if there was a 'mature' forum on here.
If any mature couples or decent respectful males would like to direct message us, we'd love to get to know you and if we click, we'll add as a friend once we've built a rapport. |
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At the club we were at last week, there was a gentleman there who was turning 80 this month.
As long as your respectful, warm and fun I don't think being older bothers a lot of people.
I'm 39 , I wouldn't go with someone who was 19 at all. Someone who was 59 though, yip no worries at all  |
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"I think that interest in us older people naturally wanes. I wouldn't stop going unless you only enjoy it if you can play with others. "
For our fabulous forum moderator interest is DEFINITELY NOT waning  |
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"I think that interest in us older people naturally wanes. I wouldn't stop going unless you only enjoy it if you can play with others.
For our fabulous forum moderator interest is DEFINITELY NOT waning "
You're too kind |
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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago
Hampshire |
We had a very similar concern but tbh it was more in our heads than experience & looking back we were our own worst enemy's & thought we'd suffer ageism but that couldn't be further from the truth, we've been to several clubs, some we've played in others just a social, but if we haven't played its been our choice not that others didnt fancy us. One thing we have come to realise is that age in itself is also a kink, some people prefer their own age bracket while others prefer older couples, we always ask a young couple when contacted by them, have you fully read our profile & understand our age & the answer is always the same, "yes & it's not a problem"
One bit of advice I'd give is head to the over 40s night at liberty Elite which is great but also Abfabs/kestrels has a really diverse age range
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"I think that interest in us older people naturally wanes. I wouldn't stop going unless you only enjoy it if you can play with others.
For our fabulous forum moderator interest is DEFINITELY NOT waning
You're too kind "
Stop it 
Nicecouple561 can message me ANYTIME for a chat
Not in the 48-73 age bracket but worth the bother, without any bother |
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