Without knowing what club or format of club there's some more specific advice may not be able to help with. But here's a few general points:
Do your research on the club (website, forum's, or even phone them). Knowing practical details like dress code, cash only or card or both, arrangements for towels, parking, licenced bar or bring a bottle, etc. Basically remove all the things that will cause unnecessary stress come the night by sorting them out before hand.
Always tell them it's your first night and get them to give you a tour. Don't be afraid to ask any questions. A good club will help you ease in, feel comfortable and maybe introduce you to some suitable members.
Go with no plan, no ticks, no objectives list other than to enjoy each others company, the company of others and to let things flow naturally. Every club night is different and the best nights just flow and are not forced regardless of what you do or don't do.
Don't expect people to make the first move. Dont sit in a corner of the social space and expect others to come to you. Lots of people are shy, even the experienced swingers. Although you maybe new don't fear making the first move. Because there are often times in a club where both parties are intrested but no one makes the first move.
Always a good idea to pack some mints and some fragrance to keep you smelling great as the night goes on.
I sure there's lots more things we haven't mentioned but it's a start. |
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"Without knowing what club or format of club there's some more specific advice may not be able to help with. But here's a few general points:
Do your research on the club (website, forum's, or even phone them). Knowing practical details like dress code, cash only or card or both, arrangements for towels, parking, licenced bar or bring a bottle, etc. Basically remove all the things that will cause unnecessary stress come the night by sorting them out before hand.
Always tell them it's your first night and get them to give you a tour. Don't be afraid to ask any questions. A good club will help you ease in, feel comfortable and maybe introduce you to some suitable members.
Go with no plan, no ticks, no objectives list other than to enjoy each others company, the company of others and to let things flow naturally. Every club night is different and the best nights just flow and are not forced regardless of what you do or don't do.
Don't expect people to make the first move. Dont sit in a corner of the social space and expect others to come to you. Lots of people are shy, even the experienced swingers. Although you maybe new don't fear making the first move. Because there are often times in a club where both parties are intrested but no one makes the first move.
Always a good idea to pack some mints and some fragrance to keep you smelling great as the night goes on.
I sure there's lots more things we haven't mentioned but it's a start."
Everything I was going to ask , now to find the local friendly club!  |
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