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Female Club buddies - are there any ?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

All

Can you help.

I would like to attend clubs (been to Xtasia and Atlantis) but dont like going alone. I used to go with wife, she decided it wasn't for her and we eventually seperated.

The thing is now, to meet a female on here for a sexual encounter, there obviously has to be that 'spark'. I have met many women who say 'I love speaking to you, love your company, love your personality, but there is not that sexual spark.

So, ideally, I would like to meet a female, where we enjoy each others company, feel safe with each other, and could go to a club, together, socialise together, but then 'play with others' knowing, at the end of, we can go home together.

Does this thing exist ?.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

You not made any male pals you can go clubbing with, chat/ drink/ socialise with inside the club?

Or is it more the cheaper entry and guaranteed shag at the end of the night you're looking for?

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

OP, how are you going to attend clubs if you're mostly free late at night?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does your wife know you've separated?

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

OP; unless you are going to become a regular at one particular club, to get yourself ‘accepted’ in to the local clique, forget about the club scene. For now at least. Get yourself along to the organised socials, where you’re more likely to meet genuine swingers looking for more than ‘quick hits’ and fantasy fulfilments

You’ll also receive more sympathy as a solo man than in a Fab forum thread

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

"OP; unless you are going to become a regular at one particular club, to get yourself ‘accepted’ in to the local clique, forget about the club scene. For now at least. Get yourself along to the organised socials, where you’re more likely to meet genuine swingers looking for more than ‘quick hits’ and fantasy fulfilments

You’ll also receive more sympathy as a solo man than in a Fab forum thread

You realise it's from the same pool of people that go to clubs AND socials?

It's certain people who don't want to engage with single guys, not a place.

I'm not sure why you go out of your way looking for threads on clubs just to diss them. Every. Single. Time.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Does this thing exist ?."

Go home together ? Are you wanting to live with someone ?

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By *ightNWet69Woman over a year ago

dark side of the moon

You’ll also receive more sympathy as a solo man than in a Fab forum thread

You realise it's from the same pool of people that go to clubs AND socials?

It's certain people who don't want to engage with single guys, not a place.

I'm not sure why you go out of your way looking for threads on clubs just to diss them. Every. Single. Time. "

well said

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By *sBlueWoman over a year ago

Up North

You’ll also receive more sympathy as a solo man than in a Fab forum thread

You realise it's from the same pool of people that go to clubs AND socials?

It's certain people who don't want to engage with single guys, not a place.

I'm not sure why you go out of your way looking for threads on clubs just to diss them. Every. Single. Time. "

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

You’ll also receive more sympathy as a solo man than in a Fab forum thread

You realise it's from the same pool of people that go to clubs AND socials?

It's certain people who don't want to engage with single guys, not a place.

I'm not sure why you go out of your way looking for threads on clubs just to diss them. Every. Single. Time. "

If you read my original comment again, you’ll see it is the only positive response offered to the OP

As for my “dissing” the clubs; I always give credit where it’s due, my (very) recent review of Chams testament to this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe try the pre social meeting drinks before attending the clubs. I’m sure there will be single women looking for the same. Good luck

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Stranger things have happened, why not a live in club buddy. Think of the rent you'd be saving ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A lot of people on here seem to think they know my life better than me.

1. I am free late at niggt, how coukd i go to clubs ?. When the hell do you think clubs are open - 3pm on a Sunday afternoon !!.

2. Does my wife know we are seperated ?. I would have thought the fact I, my car and my belingings are not in her house, and tge fact i am currently paying 300pcm on a short term house share may give her a clue.

Any other questions ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

3. Can't I go with a mate ?. Yeah, great, tell you what , I will just rock up ones if my mates houses, tell their mives- dont fret X, I am just taking X to a swing club. You undersrand dont you, I dont want to go alone.

Purely priceless some of these answers.

Have you ever been to a singles night at a swing club ?. Ever been pestered by blokes - we were, and I dont want to be one of them thank you very much !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Go home together ?

Look where I live !!!. The nearest club is 2 hours away. Of course I dont want to live with them - what on earth ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My profile. Ooooh sorry, you know, my 32yr marriage, my kids lives being torn apart, the worry about how we are both going to cope financially with the break up, the things like, how do we split the bills, sell the house, who lives there til its sold etc...

Yes, you are right, i really should have said 'sod all the heartbreak it has caused to everyone i love - i must remember to update my Fab profile, after all, that is the most important thing !!!!.

Sorry my question was polite, these answers are disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does your wife know you've separated? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh, and reason I cant meet til late ? Because I am working 14 hour days doing overtime coz I am currently payibg 990 quid on a mortgage, and am now paying 300pcm plus food outlay to stop my wife and kids having to leave the family gome.

What a selfish prick I am eh ?????

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"My profile. Ooooh sorry, you know, my 32yr marriage, my kids lives being torn apart, the worry about how we are both going to cope financially with the break up, the things like, how do we split the bills, sell the house, who lives there til its sold etc...

Yes, you are right, i really should have said 'sod all the heartbreak it has caused to everyone i love - i must remember to update my Fab profile, after all, that is the most important thing !!!!.

Sorry my question was polite, these answers are disgusting.

If everything you've just said is true, why are you on FAB looking for women to visit a swingers club with? If you're devastated, as any normal person would be, you wouldn't be thinking about hooking up.

Also worth asking exactly what you think you're able to offer someone at this stage in your situation? That's a lot of sorting out you've got to do before you invite someone else in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Get a f.....g grip will you. You have NO and I mean NO idea what i have been through, why we have split up, and what we did to try and make it work. Now, i am not going to explain it to you.

Lets turn the tables shall we, see how you like hirrible questions......

So, why are you on a sex site. Is it because in the vanilla world people dont find you attractive so you never get asked out, so being on here, where guys come for a no frills chwap fucj, is the only chance you have of getting male attention.

Not nice is it !!!!

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

Thank you OP for showing your true nature.

I am sure that my fellow sad and desperate women on here but closer to you geographically will be queuing up to assist you to get over your financial and emotional problems by taking you to a swingers club!

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"Get a f.....g grip will you. You have NO and I mean NO idea what i have been through, why we have split up, and what we did to try and make it work. Now, i am not going to explain it to you.

Lets turn the tables shall we, see how you like hirrible questions......

Not nice is it !!!!"

The difference being there's no basis for your question. BTW, you've have made an assumption that it's Vixen, it's not, it's Moose.

You've just labelled everyone who uses FAB as people who can't find sex in the 'real world'.

What I know, based on what you have written, is that 9 weeks ago you were asking for help fisting your wife and talking about her dressing up and going out for attention. Now 9 weeks later, you've separated and moved out and you're heart broken about what's happened. So to help deal with that situation, you've started a post to find a woman to go to swinger clubs with. Presumably, she's also on here because she can't get any attention in vanilla life.

These are not assumptions, they're all things you've written.

You did not think this through did you?

If the original post wasn't enough to put people off meeting you, your little factually inaccurate tantrum should do the trick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No mate, I posted a legitimate opening question because, to be honest after 32yrs of marriage, living with the same woman since I was 16, 15 of these being sexless, starting an 'affair', hence the questions about fisting etc... as having not had sex with my wife since I predict a riot was at Number 1, ghen deciding, I didnt want an affair, I want to be single, without all the issues of relationships i have just got out of, and could see me going down the same path again, and as, I would be more tgan happy to share wild rip roaring sex screaming the house down with someone i could meet off here, or Ashley Maddison or whatever - which I could do, but I really dont think the family i am currently renting their spare bedroom off would bd too happy.

So, all I was asking was, is there such a tjing where people hook up, to go to swing clubs together, even if you are not looking to play together, just do i dont have to go slone, as, quite frankly, my morale and confidence, and mental well being sure aint the best it has ever been.

But no, I am a lying, cgesting, still married prick according to those who want to make judgements without knowing a person.

You know, the wierd tjing is about this, after wanting to leave my wife for 5yrs, and finally getting tge guts to do it - resding these posts has honezyly made me wonder if i have done the right thing, coz, if these are this us what eomen are really like (when you are married for that long, i havent really looked at tjings like this before) maybe my wife wasnt as bad as i thought she was !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And sorry about the spelling mistakes, i left my family the computer, sk i only have this phone, and i am not good with tge keys.

I am off this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do I think it is possible ? Yes. (Well, one can dream... Roll up, ladies, roll up)

But I suspect OP, if you give off the same energy as this thread, ppl will keep you at arms length.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"And sorry about the spelling mistakes, i left my family the computer, sk i only have this phone, and i am not good with tge keys.

I am off this site.

You'll be missed.

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By *he Dark GentlemanMan over a year ago

London

Looking at this thread it appeared the op was asking a genuine question and was met with a barrage of cynical or sarcastic answers.

Yes, he lost it but it's not nice when you ask a genuine question and get hammered by people you don't know for it.

Place nice everyone

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

OP, sorry to hear about your situation but with all that going on, do you think this is the best place for you? You are being rude towards people trying to help you and sorry, we are not mind readers, we were only going by the little information we had.

FYI, swingers clubs ARE open at 3pm on a Sunday (ex.: Kestrels, Chameleons). Also, swinging is not a cheap hobby, have you thought about entry fees/membership fees etc on top of your already stretched finances?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"OP, sorry to hear about your situation but with all that going on, do you think this is the best place for you? You are being rude towards people trying to help you and sorry, we are not mind readers, we were only going by the little information we had.

The OP was clear enough. He retaliated because of the posts after that which you didn't mention

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Looking at this thread it appeared the op was asking a genuine question and was met with a barrage of cynical or sarcastic answers.

Yes, he lost it but it's not nice when you ask a genuine question and get hammered by people you don't know for it.

Place nice everyone

This

Seriously , if you all you want to do is attack people / be sarcastic/look for anything to pick on instead of trying to help when someone is asking for it, please don't as it really isn't pleasant

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