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"Townhouse is very high on me and my partners list of clubs to visit. I have heard so many great things about the venue. " It's too far. I think I might try Jaydees | |||
"Xtasia is primarily night club based, you stay dressed until you undress. There is a hot tub downstairs. Chams is primarily a spa based club, you dress down on arrival and has a relaxed chilled atmosphere with a dance floor area which opens around 10pm. Both these clubs have open and lockable rooms but Chams has far more rooms. Both tend to have respectful men who attend, I've never had a problem in either. " Sounds like you work there whos the first | |||
"I tried a club. It wasn't really for me but back of mind, I don't want to give up on clubs completely. Things I liked about clubs: 1.fun relaxed nightclub atmosphere 2.socialising with like-minded people 3.hot tubs/spa facilities Things I didn't like: 1. In your face sexual acts every where I went apart from the bar 2. Seems the men in couples played in fmm set up (I'm not into ffm. Was hoping to find 1 or 2 men I physically fancied so I could play with them privately) 3. The few single men who approached me and were available acted way too desperate or impersonal. Didn't want to chat to see if we click, just asked if I play with them. Is clubs just not for me from reading my likes and dislikes? "Clubs are tricky and all of them are different in terms of vibe and clientele they attracted. The key as you are trying to find out is to be in a club you are comfortable. Event nights tend to be full on and not everyones cup of tea. I personally prefer quiet evenings when the music is not loud and mingling is easier. I am not sure if you tried Liberty Elite, I was there last night and there were at least 10 single females and single men are mostly very well behaved. Occasionally you will find the odd bad apple anywhere you go. This issue sometimes does happen on event nights by guest list only when no members are allowed and some of the bad apples may be attending. It is a safe club with great staff and members. I hope you don't give up. Besides it is normal to have bad nights. Nevertheless as a single man I tend to have more good times than bad or frustrating ones. | |||
"Xtasia is primarily night club based, you stay dressed until you undress. There is a hot tub downstairs. Chams is primarily a spa based club, you dress down on arrival and has a relaxed chilled atmosphere with a dance floor area which opens around 10pm. Both these clubs have open and lockable rooms but Chams has far more rooms. Both tend to have respectful men who attend, I've never had a problem in either. Sounds like you work there whos the first " Work where? I mentioned 2 clubs and work at neither, would be a bit far to travel for work. Also, who's the first what? | |||
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"What a heart breaking thread! I’m a single guy who attends chameleons and Iv also visited a few other clubs. I personally prefer weekday. / evenings as I find clubs to much on a Friday / Saturday. But that’s just me… however, I’d say from what Iv experienced it can be the same for everyone, males, females and couples. The thing is to talk, and that seems to be what a lot of people seem to miss! As a single male, Iv had situations where I was happy to chat, nothing more. But some seem to think that all males just want you for sex. Iv seen females and couples not talk, and then moan that no one approached them? Unfortunately there will always be a few “idiots” who just grab and Harass, but just tell the club, it’s a good way of getting shot of them and change others behavior. But if you do nothing, nothing will change! For me a weekday / evening at a club is a chilled out vibe, maybe your play, maybe not. Doesn’t matter… and that the thing, don’t go with preconceptions. You may or may not fancy anyone there. And that’s fine, don’t play, but next time there maybe someone who takes your fancy, so approach them and chat. If mutual attraction, then great, if not, we’ll no drama, chat and then go somewhere and relax. Sauna. / steam room, outside sun bathing etc. What ever the case, attending a club or any function really, doesn’t mean automatically play. We’ll it does if your a female and don’t care who I guess! But as a guy, its not a given. And to me that’s fine. Enjoy and be safe X " Totally agree with you  | |||
"Looking at what you've said we'd suggest Pandoras Leeds would be a good call. Downstairs is a good nightclub and lounge vibe. Everyone is freindly, relaxed and easy-going. It also has a lovely hottub and Swimming pool in the wet area. Plus an absolute abundance of rooms and room configurations upstairs should take things futher." I dunno if I like clubs enough to want to travel so far for them. I was just hoping I enjoy them more than trying to chat to men on fab. But my first time experience made me feel it was equally as depressing as online. The instant "you want to play" put me right off single men who just there to lurk , wank and fuck. None of them had any social skills to want to talk to me like a normal human being. Couples just stayed together and invited single men to have 3somes with. Hopefully it was that particular night and type of club rather than that's what swinging is all about. no idea atm but I don't want to go to a night like that again as it's pretty expensive night out.  | |||
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"What a heart breaking thread! I’m a single guy who attends chameleons and Iv also visited a few other clubs. I personally prefer weekday. / evenings as I find clubs to much on a Friday / Saturday. But that’s just me… however, I’d say from what Iv experienced it can be the same for everyone, males, females and couples. The thing is to talk, and that seems to be what a lot of people seem to miss! As a single male, Iv had situations where I was happy to chat, nothing more. But some seem to think that all males just want you for sex. Iv seen females and couples not talk, and then moan that no one approached them? Unfortunately there will always be a few “idiots” who just grab and Harass, but just tell the club, it’s a good way of getting shot of them and change others behavior. But if you do nothing, nothing will change! For me a weekday / evening at a club is a chilled out vibe, maybe your play, maybe not. Doesn’t matter… and that the thing, don’t go with preconceptions. You may or may not fancy anyone there. And that’s fine, don’t play, but next time there maybe someone who takes your fancy, so approach them and chat. If mutual attraction, then great, if not, we’ll no drama, chat and then go somewhere and relax. Sauna. / steam room, outside sun bathing etc. What ever the case, attending a club or any function really, doesn’t mean automatically play. We’ll it does if your a female and don’t care who I guess! But as a guy, its not a given. And to me that’s fine. Enjoy and be safe X " I was sociable with lots of couples. The male side of the couples ended up lacking social skills, saying what I consider inappropriate creepy comments. I did give a honest feedback to the host of the club who just apologize saying that isn't their usual clients or vibe. They just suggested going to another themed night that would interest me more (femdom where I'm hoping the men be more respectful and friendly) TBH I found all the men I spoke to (in a couple and single) creeped me out as they just instantly wanted me to play. I went there definitely with no expectations of sex. But I did hope they be more friendly and respectful than they were. My male friend had a better time than me. The women I chatted to were really lovely. Just a shame I am not bisexual as the night would of been totally different. The bi women were respectful towards me,, just told me I was attractive but didn't ask to play or talk sexually to me. | |||
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"Looking at what you've said we'd suggest Pandoras Leeds would be a good call. Downstairs is a good nightclub and lounge vibe. Everyone is freindly, relaxed and easy-going. It also has a lovely hottub and Swimming pool in the wet area. Plus an absolute abundance of rooms and room configurations upstairs should take things futher. I dunno if I like clubs enough to want to travel so far for them. I was just hoping I enjoy them more than trying to chat to men on fab. But my first time experience made me feel it was equally as depressing as online. The instant "you want to play" put me right off single men who just there to lurk , wank and fuck. None of them had any social skills to want to talk to me like a normal human being. Couples just stayed together and invited single men to have 3somes with. Hopefully it was that particular night and type of club rather than that's what swinging is all about. no idea atm but I don't want to go to a night like that again as it's pretty expensive night out. "That's fair enough with regard the travel. As for your experience of people in clubs this unfortunately that can be the case everywhere. We can identify with what your saying. Clubs to some extent are random and you are at the mercy of who's there on the night. Having said that we've also meet some great singles and couples in clubs. Fun, articulate and intelligent. They are out there and we've had some great times at clubs. With regards to finding couples being straight does reduce your chances (which of course is perfectly OK, just talking pragmatically). A lot of couples have a bi-fem and are looking for a bi-fem so everyone can enjoy everyone. Also (if you don't mind my probing) do you make effort to approach and engage couples or do you just wait to be approached? The reason I ask is because some single women are of the veiw that as a valuable commodity in a club they need do nothing and everyone will come to them. Not necessarily the case, especially with couples. Couples can be shy too or simply just in their comfort zone as they stand. Never be afraid to make the first move with a couple or a single guy if you fancy them and this may also help to find the best people who aren't desperate, letchy or beggy for a single lady. And have you considered a couples and single ladies night. No single men and lots of couples looking for ladies (as apposed to guys for 3somes). Although as with normal club nights they may be looking for bi-fems and there's no guarantee you'll find any of the couples interested to talk to and be with. | |||
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"Have you tried La Boudoir in London I've not been but you mention higher quality and I remember there being talk that you need to submit photos and then they decide whether to grant membership or not I remember a few disgruntled posts from people that had been allowed to attend pre Covid but their memberships were declined when they reopened I got the impression from those posts memberships are based on how people looked " But then I would find that off putting too that only "beautiful" people can go but who says they will have a beautiful personality and attitude to match? I mean the most beautiful woman in the room asked me to play with her and partner was terribly intoxicated which was a big turn off. She couldn't walk properly, let alone do anything more. But she looked like a super model | |||
"Looking at what you've said we'd suggest Pandoras Leeds would be a good call. Downstairs is a good nightclub and lounge vibe. Everyone is freindly, relaxed and easy-going. It also has a lovely hottub and Swimming pool in the wet area. Plus an absolute abundance of rooms and room configurations upstairs should take things futher. I dunno if I like clubs enough to want to travel so far for them. I was just hoping I enjoy them more than trying to chat to men on fab. But my first time experience made me feel it was equally as depressing as online. The instant "you want to play" put me right off single men who just there to lurk , wank and fuck. None of them had any social skills to want to talk to me like a normal human being. Couples just stayed together and invited single men to have 3somes with. Hopefully it was that particular night and type of club rather than that's what swinging is all about. no idea atm but I don't want to go to a night like that again as it's pretty expensive night out.
That's fair enough with regard the travel. As for your experience of people in clubs this unfortunately that can be the case everywhere. We can identify with what your saying. Clubs to some extent are random and you are at the mercy of who's there on the night. Having said that we've also meet some great singles and couples in clubs. Fun, articulate and intelligent. They are out there and we've had some great times at clubs.
With regards to finding couples being straight does reduce your chances (which of course is perfectly OK, just talking pragmatically). A lot of couples have a bi-fem and are looking for a bi-fem so everyone can enjoy everyone. Also (if you don't mind my probing) do you make effort to approach and engage couples or do you just wait to be approached? The reason I ask is because some single women are of the veiw that as a valuable commodity in a club they need do nothing and everyone will come to them. Not necessarily the case, especially with couples. Couples can be shy too or simply just in their comfort zone as they stand. Never be afraid to make the first move with a couple or a single guy if you fancy them and this may also help to find the best people who aren't desperate, letchy or beggy for a single lady.
And have you considered a couples and single ladies night. No single men and lots of couples looking for ladies (as apposed to guys for 3somes). Although as with normal club nights they may be looking for bi-fems and there's no guarantee you'll find any of the couples interested to talk to and be with."But going on a bi night, what my chances of meeting two bi men who be interested in me? All will it just be bi fem mainly there? As I'm totally straight, not interested in women sexually at all. So could never do FFM. It really doesn't appeal to me. I actually was the one who approached everyone I met. I am naturally friendly person. But all the men I was being friendly with took it as a come on to talk dirty to me which I found off putting. And the single men just came up and asked me to fuck them even before I opened my mouth to say hi. I understand normal social etiquette but it seem to work differently in the club I attended. The host recommended femdom night. Maybe that's more my thing | |||
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"I enjoy kestrels/ab fabs and the vibe is a good one "Why would you recommend it over other clubs? | |||
"I enjoy kestrels/ab fabs and the vibe is a good one
Why would you recommend it over other clubs?"People are happy to chat if you make convo and easy to get involved if just to chill or more The pool is great size to relax in and no play allowed now. Sundays are busy and different to Fri/Sat busy times so depending on what you looking for. It’s mellow during daytimes and gets busier into night depending again what you are looking to get. It’s the vibe that makes it great,as interaction and staff wanna help make sure you enjoy yourself and that any over the top stuff, you say no and they will remove them if try more but this rarely happens anyway. It’s clean and comfy and no pressure | |||
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" Abfabs, I've been once and it was OK. The pool, lots of guys playing with themselves, not my thing. I've read that it doesn't happen now, so might try it again. " Oh believe you me - it still happens. | |||
" Abfabs, I've been once and it was OK. The pool, lots of guys playing with themselves, not my thing. I've read that it doesn't happen now, so might try it again. Oh believe you me - it still happens. " Then I won't be going again | |||
" Abfabs, I've been once and it was OK. The pool, lots of guys playing with themselves, not my thing. I've read that it doesn't happen now, so might try it again. Oh believe you me - it still happens. " The pool now is no play area so seeing you keep saying this and seem to dislike you’ll find its not | |||
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"seems that there are just as many people put off from going to a clubs as there are from wanting to go ?? theres a lot of negatives , I guess it s down to the individual to get out of it what they want...." I just wanted to be treated like a normal human being than an object. The calibre of men was nearly as bad as on fab. Just inappropriate chat about sex and nothing else. Considering it was a swingers club, why did they need to be so seedy about their advances like they had no idea how to socialize with a fellow human being? | |||
" Abfabs, I've been once and it was OK. The pool, lots of guys playing with themselves, not my thing. I've read that it doesn't happen now, so might try it again. Oh believe you me - it still happens. Then I won't be going again " I really find it unhygienic bathing in other people's juices | |||
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"I just wanted to be treated like a normal human being than an object. The calibre of men was nearly as bad as on fab. Just inappropriate chat about sex and nothing else. Considering it was a swingers club, why did they need to be so seedy about their advances like they had no idea how to socialize with a fellow human being?" I understand exactly where you’re coming from. I’d like to go to a club as a single female, but I would still expect people to have some social skills and a bit of charm about them… standards do still exist. I don’t feel like it’s too much to ask x | |||
"Come to Hellfire.. Especially for one of our parties. No bathing in peoples juices. "I can't find it on google. | |||
"I just wanted to be treated like a normal human being than an object. The calibre of men was nearly as bad as on fab. Just inappropriate chat about sex and nothing else. Considering it was a swingers club, why did they need to be so seedy about their advances like they had no idea how to socialize with a fellow human being? I understand exactly where you’re coming from. I’d like to go to a club as a single female, but I would still expect people to have some social skills and a bit of charm about them… standards do still exist. I don’t feel like it’s too much to ask x "I only met one guy who was part of a couple who spoke to me normally but then thinking back, was because he wasn't attracted to me? Lol his wife was more flirty than him and kept teasing me about covering up too much  | |||
"I just wanted to be treated like a normal human being than an object. The calibre of men was nearly as bad as on fab. Just inappropriate chat about sex and nothing else. Considering it was a swingers club, why did they need to be so seedy about their advances like they had no idea how to socialize with a fellow human being? I understand exactly where you’re coming from. I’d like to go to a club as a single female, but I would still expect people to have some social skills and a bit of charm about them… standards do still exist. I don’t feel like it’s too much to ask x
I only met one guy who was part of a couple who spoke to me normally but then thinking back, was because he wasn't attracted to me? Lol his wife was more flirty than him and kept teasing me about covering up too much "I’m sure he would have been, maybes you’d just managed to find a diamond in the rough Hope your next visit is more successful! I will pluck up the courage to go one day | |||
"Come to Hellfire.. Especially for one of our parties. No bathing in peoples juices.
I can't find it on google. "The Hellfire Club, Sunbury. Or, go to the club reviews section on here and scroll down.. | |||
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"It doesn’t sound like you had a great time. I’m single and go on my own. It can be hit and miss and there are sometimes arseholes who have no respect. But I’ve been many times when the guys have chatted and been respectful and had a great time. I normally go to Chams and any problems the staff are very good at sorting them out. I’ve found couples more difficult to deal with because I don’t know what they want and sometimes the man is pushy and the woman is giving me dirty looks. (Your pics are ace and I wish you were bi "Lol thank you. I wish I was bi too, the women are way hotter and nicer to chat to. But sorry I just love cock, lots of cock and muscle. Just not into vag  | |||
