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I can't find the original post, which was quite full so I thought I'd start a second one.
I noticed really horny FEMS/couples not understanding why the average Joe was having a hard time!
I've been to a few as a single male and also as part of a couple,so I've seen it from both sides. You can see it from the king's side,and as a pauper!!
Guess which one had the best time!?.. lol |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
If you've seen it from both sides, you might be able to help me! First time going to a club this weekend with a partner - I am a straight woman. Do we go on a Friday, or a Saturday (his slight preference)? |
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"If you've seen it from both sides, you might be able to help me! First time going to a club this weekend with a partner - I am a straight woman. Do we go on a Friday, or a Saturday (his slight preference)? "
First of, fantastic pics!!
I think the general advice is to set your boundaries in advance, and don't move too far from them, because they were set when you weren't in your sex head, so to speak. You'll always be able to another time and extend your boundaries. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
Thank you!
And yeah, I totally get what you mean. We've been talking about it for quite a while - my first time, but not his, so we've had some good conversations about what to expect/how to look after each other. |
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After visiting Club Play as a single guy, then shortly after visiting Chams in Darlaston as a couple, I vowed I would never visit another club as a single guy ever again.
The reality for me is; I don't live close enough to any club to become a regular, and get myself known as a fun, respectful guy, but I've also been 'spoiled' almost, by visiting as a couple, and experiencing a very different side to the club scene; the King and the pauper analogy fits it well |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place? |
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"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?"
Thanks for the positive feedback from you both, and your general comments. I went to my first clubs as a singleton. You know two things.
Pauper:
A, all the male halves are of the couple know your looking to play with their female partners.
B, they are there, but HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW WHICH ONES THEY ARE!!!?.. lol
The stressed is the rejection, and you feel that everyone in the club is watching, which they aren't, and those that are, are probably more empathetic than you realise, which is different from letting you play with them .
King: as a couple people are more likely to engage positively with you.
The only advice I can offe is,
A: be very respectful to the female of the couple
B: engage with male as well!
C:if you realise they don't want to play with you, leave with good grace, and thank them for the conversation.
D: in reality, it's a numbers game.
My first club was literally 5 minutes by car from my house. I shuddered when I heard how far others had travelled.
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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"If you've seen it from both sides, you might be able to help me! First time going to a club this weekend with a partner - I am a straight woman. Do we go on a Friday, or a Saturday (his slight preference)? "
Hey
Depends on what club you go to, and the mix on the night, also what you're looking for.
As a first time as a pair I'd suggest a Saturday as it more evenly balanced for both of you.
Fridays are there are generally more single men, in ratio to single fems & couple's.
Either way enjoy yourself and top tip, use a safe word for any situation which you want to walk away from, Mine is "fancy a smoke"....I don't smoke
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?"
In my experience, there’s two kinds of single guys. There’s the one who is out to have a good night whatever happens, and there’s the one who will only consider it a good night if they have sex. The first kind are easy to get on with - but there are definitely a tiny minority of blokes who make me feel like I shouldn’t be there because I’m not their type, or like conversation should lead to play, or like I’m a 2am girl. And some but not all of these chaps aren’t great with consent. There’s nothing management can act upon, but that kind of attitude can still spoil my night when I come across it.
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
I've been as both a single man, and now as part of a couple. It is a completely different dynamic. Neither is better or worse. It's just different.
As part of a couple, a large part of my mind is on my partner. I want to make sure they're happy. They're a lot more sociable and chatty than I am, so it's easier for me to take a back seat. We always play together first, and often I end up not playing with anyone else. But we have some great nights together there.
As a single man, I had to make an effort and break out of my shell. I had to talk with people. But I only had myself to think about. I had many great nights, and made some very good friends (one of whom is now my partner).
I obviously don't see clubs through the eyes of a woman, but in my experience most of the single men are decent. Some are idiots, and unfortunately it only takes one to spoil your night. But mostly they know how to behave. This experience has been at a couple of female-run clubs with a reputation for not taking any nonsense and a strong social tradition. Other places might be different.
We mostly go on Fridays (when single men are allowed in) because we prefer those nights. That's the atmosphere and group of regulars that we got used to when we went as singles.
As for which night would be best for you, that depends. Do you want to play with other couples, with single women, or with single men? That will be the biggest factor in your choice. |
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"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?
In my experience, there’s two kinds of single guys. There’s the one who is out to have a good night whatever happens, and there’s the one who will only consider it a good night if they have sex. The first kind are easy to get on with - but there are definitely a tiny minority of blokes who make me feel like I shouldn’t be there because I’m not their type, or like conversation should lead to play, or like I’m a 2am girl. And some but not all of these chaps aren’t great with consent. There’s nothing management can act upon, but that kind of attitude can still spoil my night when I come across it.
Does that make sense?"
Makes sense entirely. When people feel entitled to go beyond just the initial stages of making a move on you, can't be a pleasant experience. I think you'll find other men don't like to see it either. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?
Thanks for the positive feedback from you both, and your general comments. I went to my first clubs as a singleton. You know two things.
Pauper:
A, all the male halves are of the couple know your looking to play with their female partners.
B, they are there, but HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW WHICH ONES THEY ARE!!!?.. lol
The stressed is the rejection, and you feel that everyone in the club is watching, which they aren't, and those that are, are probably more empathetic than you realise, which is different from letting you play with them .
King: as a couple people are more likely to engage positively with you.
The only advice I can offe is,
A: be very respectful to the female of the couple
B: engage with male as well!
C:if you realise they don't want to play with you, leave with good grace, and thank them for the conversation.
D: in reality, it's a numbers game.
My first club was literally 5 minutes by car from my house. I shuddered when I heard how far others had travelled.
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Yeah…that makes a lot of sense. Thanks for expanding on it all |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"If you've seen it from both sides, you might be able to help me! First time going to a club this weekend with a partner - I am a straight woman. Do we go on a Friday, or a Saturday (his slight preference)?
Hey
Depends on what club you go to, and the mix on the night, also what you're looking for.
As a first time as a pair I'd suggest a Saturday as it more evenly balanced for both of you.
Fridays are there are generally more single men, in ratio to single fems & couple's.
Either way enjoy yourself and top tip, use a safe word for any situation which you want to walk away from, Mine is "fancy a smoke"....I don't smoke
Gets you out of many awkward conversations hahaha "
Thank you - I like that tip…!! I guess I will have more of an idea of if/what we want once I’ve actually been in one. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?
In my experience, there’s two kinds of single guys. There’s the one who is out to have a good night whatever happens, and there’s the one who will only consider it a good night if they have sex. The first kind are easy to get on with - but there are definitely a tiny minority of blokes who make me feel like I shouldn’t be there because I’m not their type, or like conversation should lead to play, or like I’m a 2am girl. And some but not all of these chaps aren’t great with consent. There’s nothing management can act upon, but that kind of attitude can still spoil my night when I come across it.
Does that make sense?"
Yes, that makes total sense. And I couples night might be a gentler introduction. I’m just nervous of making couple dynamic errors
But the plan is to just have a chilled night with my lover, so will see what happens |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"I've been as both a single man, and now as part of a couple. It is a completely different dynamic. Neither is better or worse. It's just different.
As part of a couple, a large part of my mind is on my partner. I want to make sure they're happy. They're a lot more sociable and chatty than I am, so it's easier for me to take a back seat. We always play together first, and often I end up not playing with anyone else. But we have some great nights together there.
As a single man, I had to make an effort and break out of my shell. I had to talk with people. But I only had myself to think about. I had many great nights, and made some very good friends (one of whom is now my partner).
I obviously don't see clubs through the eyes of a woman, but in my experience most of the single men are decent. Some are idiots, and unfortunately it only takes one to spoil your night. But mostly they know how to behave. This experience has been at a couple of female-run clubs with a reputation for not taking any nonsense and a strong social tradition. Other places might be different.
We mostly go on Fridays (when single men are allowed in) because we prefer those nights. That's the atmosphere and group of regulars that we got used to when we went as singles.
As for which night would be best for you, that depends. Do you want to play with other couples, with single women, or with single men? That will be the biggest factor in your choice."
Thanks for your thoughts. Your final paragraph - yeah, that’s the question. |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"I've been as both a single man, and now as part of a couple. It is a completely different dynamic. Neither is better or worse. It's just different.
As part of a couple, a large part of my mind is on my partner. I want to make sure they're happy. They're a lot more sociable and chatty than I am, so it's easier for me to take a back seat. We always play together first, and often I end up not playing with anyone else. But we have some great nights together there.
As a single man, I had to make an effort and break out of my shell. I had to talk with people. But I only had myself to think about. I had many great nights, and made some very good friends (one of whom is now my partner).
I obviously don't see clubs through the eyes of a woman, but in my experience most of the single men are decent. Some are idiots, and unfortunately it only takes one to spoil your night. But mostly they know how to behave. This experience has been at a couple of female-run clubs with a reputation for not taking any nonsense and a strong social tradition. Other places might be different.
We mostly go on Fridays (when single men are allowed in) because we prefer those nights. That's the atmosphere and group of regulars that we got used to when we went as singles.
As for which night would be best for you, that depends. Do you want to play with other couples, with single women, or with single men? That will be the biggest factor in your choice."
Well said. As I was reading this post and comments, formulating one myself based on my experience, I then saw this which perfectly encapsulated what I was going to say and describes my experiences as well.
About the only thing I would add is to try both Friday and Saturday and see which you prefer, bearing in mind every night can be different. I tend not finally decide whether I like a club) specific night until I've been 2-3 times. |
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I find it the opposite way around. I'm looking for single men but not couples.
I'm therefore more likely to play with a guy on his own than a could up one.
This kind of thing also leads to a lot of males asking me to take them. My profile is clear in looking for independent club goers (I parent enough kids thanks) but they think their only chance of action is to be in a couple
I get the nerves but I think lots of people don't go cause they don't realise its just like going to a pub.... withbedrooms conveniently located upstairs to it |
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By *ad66Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
For what it's worth, our first time (club play Blackpool) we signed in, had a quick drink & as we both vape decided to go out to the smoking area and sat there & people just started chatting to us & as soon as we said it was our first time they couldn't have been nicer & helpful. As the bar areas are quite busy just like any pub/club is, it's slightly more intimidating but in the smoking area it seems a lot more relaxed & easier to get chatting. This is our go to method now for any club.
You will find that the social side is probably the even better than the sex side because you can talk openly with others without the fear of shocking anyone & you can share your secret
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Clubs vary so much, each of us going varies so much and the people there on each night vary so much.
We started slow, just seeing what we were comfortable with. The most awkward bit, especially with 2 couples is being clear whether you all fancy each other! We were rubbish at reading each other's body language and missed out on some interesting times. That was because we didn’t want to hurt, upset each other or the other Party. We’ve learnt that saying no isn’t such a bad thing though!! (nor is saying YES!)
M has been to Clubs on his own, not to play, but has had a great time. We are both now more comfortable to wander round on our own and see what happens. Clubs are so much safer than going to Pubs, much easier to be adventurous and easier to have options
They aren’t for everyone, but they are so worth trying to see if they are what you want |
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By *iraelWoman
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?
Thanks for the positive feedback from you both, and your general comments. I went to my first clubs as a singleton. You know two things.
Pauper:
A, all the male halves are of the couple know your looking to play with their female partners.
B, they are there, but HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW WHICH ONES THEY ARE!!!?.. lol
The stressed is the rejection, and you feel that everyone in the club is watching, which they aren't, and those that are, are probably more empathetic than you realise, which is different from letting you play with them .
King: as a couple people are more likely to engage positively with you.
The only advice I can offe is,
A: be very respectful to the female of the couple
B: engage with male as well!
C:if you realise they don't want to play with you, leave with good grace, and thank them for the conversation.
D: in reality, it's a numbers game.
My first club was literally 5 minutes by car from my house. I shuddered when I heard how far others had travelled.
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This is such a good post, and as I mostly attend as a single women, this also applies! I think, “ooh he looks nice!” but then spot he’s in a couple and basically end up scratching him off my list. If he’s allowed to play solo he’ll find me, and I’ll strike up a chat with both but have found far too often the woman is then rude when she finds out I’m straight.
But having a friend where on numerous occasions women have come over to chat up her solo playing husband and completely blanked her EVEN AFTER he’s introduced her as his wife, it’s not just some single men who need to learn manners. |
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By *iraelWoman
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"That's really interesting - thanks for the reply. I was kind of assuming that the single guys would be respectful (as the clubs seem to be working hard to make sure thing go smoothly), but they weren't?
The king and pauper analogy - do you mean that single men are paupers because they don't get to play? And that changes the atmosphere into a less than great place?
In my experience, there’s two kinds of single guys. There’s the one who is out to have a good night whatever happens, and there’s the one who will only consider it a good night if they have sex. The first kind are easy to get on with - but there are definitely a tiny minority of blokes who make me feel like I shouldn’t be there because I’m not their type, or like conversation should lead to play, or like I’m a 2am girl. And some but not all of these chaps aren’t great with consent. There’s nothing management can act upon, but that kind of attitude can still spoil my night when I come across it.
Does that make sense?"
This makes sense, ESPECIALLY the 2am bit.
We’ve never even talked before, you haven’t attempted conversation or even said hello all night and yet the minute I head for the lockers it’s all “hey baby”. Er. No. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"I've been as both a single man, and now as part of a couple. It is a completely different dynamic. Neither is better or worse. It's just different.
As part of a couple, a large part of my mind is on my partner. I want to make sure they're happy. They're a lot more sociable and chatty than I am, so it's easier for me to take a back seat. We always play together first, and often I end up not playing with anyone else. But we have some great nights together there.
As a single man, I had to make an effort and break out of my shell. I had to talk with people. But I only had myself to think about. I had many great nights, and made some very good friends (one of whom is now my partner).
I obviously don't see clubs through the eyes of a woman, but in my experience most of the single men are decent. Some are idiots, and unfortunately it only takes one to spoil your night. But mostly they know how to behave. This experience has been at a couple of female-run clubs with a reputation for not taking any nonsense and a strong social tradition. Other places might be different.
We mostly go on Fridays (when single men are allowed in) because we prefer those nights. That's the atmosphere and group of regulars that we got used to when we went as singles.
As for which night would be best for you, that depends. Do you want to play with other couples, with single women, or with single men? That will be the biggest factor in your choice.
Well said. As I was reading this post and comments, formulating one myself based on my experience, I then saw this which perfectly encapsulated what I was going to say and describes my experiences as well.
About the only thing I would add is to try both Friday and Saturday and see which you prefer, bearing in mind every night can be different. I tend not finally decide whether I like a club) specific night until I've been 2-3 times."
Yeah…I can imagine it takes a few visits to get a good feel for what the night is like, and what we enjoy most. Going tonight, so here we go! |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"I've been as both a single man, and now as part of a couple. It is a completely different dynamic. Neither is better or worse. It's just different.
As part of a couple, a large part of my mind is on my partner. I want to make sure they're happy. They're a lot more sociable and chatty than I am, so it's easier for me to take a back seat. We always play together first, and often I end up not playing with anyone else. But we have some great nights together there.
As a single man, I had to make an effort and break out of my shell. I had to talk with people. But I only had myself to think about. I had many great nights, and made some very good friends (one of whom is now my partner).
I obviously don't see clubs through the eyes of a woman, but in my experience most of the single men are decent. Some are idiots, and unfortunately it only takes one to spoil your night. But mostly they know how to behave. This experience has been at a couple of female-run clubs with a reputation for not taking any nonsense and a strong social tradition. Other places might be different.
We mostly go on Fridays (when single men are allowed in) because we prefer those nights. That's the atmosphere and group of regulars that we got used to when we went as singles.
As for which night would be best for you, that depends. Do you want to play with other couples, with single women, or with single men? That will be the biggest factor in your choice.
Well said. As I was reading this post and comments, formulating one myself based on my experience, I then saw this which perfectly encapsulated what I was going to say and describes my experiences as well.
About the only thing I would add is to try both Friday and Saturday and see which you prefer, bearing in mind every night can be different. I tend not finally decide whether I like a club) specific night until I've been 2-3 times.
Yeah…I can imagine it takes a few visits to get a good feel for what the night is like, and what we enjoy most. Going tonight, so here we go! "
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I've stopped going as it seems to be less about the social side and just persuing sex. I get I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and actually haven't played in a club for years (unless I've taken a friend to play with), but what's wrong with having a chat and a laugh with no agenda for later? My experience has been people are only going to chat to those they want to play with, usually makes for a lonely night. |
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Sadly there are a minority of single men who no matter how much you explain the rules to, how much they agree that it's about the social aspect above play, they just seem to go to far. Some plain can't hold drink. Some are just (insert inappropriate slur here). Should anyone come into contact with this sort please be firm but polite with them and inform a member of staff so they can act upon the information.
As for the majority of single men these then fall into 2 main categories, those you will have NO bother from as they just sit in corners, observe and are to shy to make conversation. And those whom understand the scene and are respectful, understand and will accept rejection with poise and grace. |
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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago
Hampshire |
From a couples side & this is our experience - we've been in this lifestyle for a long time & concider ourselves experienced rather than hardened but have only recently started using clubs after a couple of unsuccessful attempts of trying to get a single guy to play with in a mmf scenario from fab
Our first time was a day visit & my experience was fantastic where we allowed 2 guys to join us in play- who were both really respectful & polite, the same with 2 further day visits, so tried a Friday night - what a nightmare harrased by guys who were really disrespectful & rude so left early
Tried again a few weeks later & was much better but as the night drew on the atmosphere changed in that the single guys who hadn't had chance to play but drank a lot more became more persistent as their attitude was they'd paid their entry fee & so we're entitled to play - we were actually playing with another couple & had politely turned a few away but allowed them to watch, but this wasn't enough for one guy who tried to get too close to us, despite a firm no thanks & please step back he then got really aggressive & abusive , not only spoiling our fun but also that of all those others that had been enjoying the show
He was eventually made to leave after a lot of hassle, which totally ruined our evening & left me shaking & crying, so much so that we'll never do a Friday again
My advise to single guys would be to read the room be respectful to both the male & female & if they don't want to play, respect that & move on & if invited to play, once you've cum don't just walk away with out a thanks or offering tissue to clean up your mess at least say thanks, after all just because we are swingers & enjoy the company of other like minded people doesn't make me a slag or a piece of meat for your gratification only. |
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"I find it the opposite way around. I'm looking for single men but not couples.
I'm therefore more likely to play with a guy on his own than a could up one.
This kind of thing also leads to a lot of males asking me to take them. My profile is clear in looking for independent club goers (I parent enough kids thanks) but they think their only chance of action is to be in a couple
I get the nerves but I think lots of people don't go cause they don't realise its just like going to a pub.... withbedrooms conveniently located upstairs to it"
I second this.
I took a man who I thought I knew well for his first club experience and have decided I never will again. It was too much for me and not the relaxed night I planned on having at all.
So many men want a woman to take them but then you're deceiving people (in my opinion) because you'll be assumed to be a couple which like you I wouldn't approach to initiate any further as many couples seek ff scenarios which aren't for me. Yes it's cheaper (not much depending on club) but not always the best option. |
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"If you've seen it from both sides, you might be able to help me! First time going to a club this weekend with a partner - I am a straight woman. Do we go on a Friday, or a Saturday (his slight preference)? "
My question would be, how do you and your partner play now.
Is it just other couples or do you look for single guys
Start by using the same guide you have one 121 meets to determine the best club nights to attend (and if you ever venture in the week check it isn't a bi night)
Then set your guides on if your staying in couple only rooms, locked rooms, open rooms etc
Is it a club with a wet area is that what you want to do
(if you do and you go thinking of a spa evening for just the two of you then you'll likely have a nice time no matter if anything else happens or not)
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By *ad66Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"We considered it last night, but first visit nerves took over. We will get there, one day x "
Me & Caz were the same but eventually (a year!) took the plunge & when we went in & after the initial nerves felt so relaxed & realised that everyone wasn't staring at us & thinking "perverts" they were the nicest, friendliest people you could ever wish to meet with a "welcome to our world" attitude.
When you do pluck up the courage you'll wonder what you were afraid of & will get to meet future friends and hear some of the funniest stories ever |
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By *KG12Couple
over a year ago
Burnley |
"We considered it last night, but first visit nerves took over. We will get there, one day x
Me & Caz were the same but eventually (a year!) took the plunge & when we went in & after the initial nerves felt so relaxed & realised that everyone wasn't staring at us & thinking "perverts" they were the nicest, friendliest people you could ever wish to meet with a "welcome to our world" attitude.
When you do pluck up the courage you'll wonder what you were afraid of & will get to meet future friends and hear some of the funniest stories ever "
Thanks for that. Guess it's one of them, you never know till you've tried it. |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
Essex |
I was put off the club scene many years ago by a couple I used to meet. The female told me that a lot of single guys are not invited to play in the clubs she’s been too.
So it put me off wasting my money as it’s normally a lot more expensive to attend as a single guy. |
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Swinging is all about the club scene for me, I have visited lots of venues, mostly alone but sometimes accompanied.
I travel with work so I am always keen to try new places when I stay locally, the main things that put me off are expensive mandatory membership, I might be lucky to visit some places twice in a year, so if I can't come in as a non-member or on a reasonably priced membership rate then its a non starter.
My personal preference is dress down venues with wet facilities, so if I have to wear more than a towel I won't visit.
The things that make me want to revisit a club are clean working facilities, friendly people who are not cliquey (including the staff). I also like to see clubs set the right expectations for new visitors, this cuts down on the amount of entitled idiots turning up thinking they are owed something! |
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As a single guy I've always been aware that its not always easy to play at clubs.
My preference these days is to visit a spa club like Kestrels.
Chill and use the facilities, Chat to people and if anything happens it happens.
If no play goes on I've still had a relaxing sociable time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single guy, the cost if membership and then the entrance cost and also the nearest club is an hour away, have considered it many times but do think these clubs are designed with single females and couples in mind. |
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"Too far away;
Too many cliques;
Too few women
Might make it a nice weekend away for you? Don't expect too much, but look to be positive."
I should have added; “Why I have stopped going to clubs”……. |
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"As a single guy, the cost if membership and then the entrance cost and also the nearest club is an hour away, have considered it many times but do think these clubs are designed with single females and couples in mind. "
The cost would be a good reason. I don't think they're designed as such fior couples and females, but straight males wouldn't be turning up if they weren't there. |
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