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Where to sit as a single guy
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" The worst thing you can do in a club as a single guy is follow people around, particularly with your cock in your hand. " Er... Can I ask why? Asking for a friend  | |||
"What do you mean by no one talking to you? Have you approached people to initiate a conversation without success? Or was expecting people to come to you? If the latter you will wait forever. A single guy in a club needs to the proactive and takes the lead. Generally a hi or good evening is enough to break the ice." It's tricky. I've tried talking in the past but most of the time it's clear they aren't interested and then have to do the awkward 'ok see you later' shuffle away lol. So I generally wait now, it seems to work ok for me and I've met some nice people. | |||
"Wherever people congregate, bar, smoking area, social area." I'd rapidly turn into the skint, d*unk bloke who smokes 20 a day. Of my few club visits, it seems you do need to be the 'aggressor' as a single male to initiate things. But I have a psychological block and find I'm incapable (unless I'm tipsy). | |||
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"Wherever people congregate, bar, smoking area, social area. I'd rapidly turn into the skint, d*unk bloke who smokes 20 a day. Of my few club visits, it seems you do need to be the 'aggressor' as a single male to initiate things. But I have a psychological block and find I'm incapable (unless I'm tipsy). " If you acted as the ‘aggressor’ around us at a club you’d soon be told to leave. No need for this behaviour. Be normal, natural and attentive. Read the room, if people are interested they’ll talk more and invite you in. If it feels like it’s going nowhere, wish people a good evening and circulate. Forget that sex is an option and just talk to people.  | |||
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"That will be my problem when I visit club for first time: I don't smoke, drink and not overly sociable lol but I do love hot tubs "But you do have the advantage of being female! Everyone will want to talk to you | |||
"That will be my problem when I visit club for first time: I don't smoke, drink and not overly sociable lol but I do love hot tubs
But you do have the advantage of being female! Everyone will want to talk to you "We will see lol i haven't gone yet | |||
"That will be my problem when I visit club for first time: I don't smoke, drink and not overly sociable lol but I do love hot tubs
But you do have the advantage of being female! Everyone will want to talk to you
We will see lol i haven't gone yet"Come tonight! No time like the present! | |||
"That will be my problem when I visit club for first time: I don't smoke, drink and not overly sociable lol but I do love hot tubs "I don't smoke either, but that doesn't stop me spending time in the smoking area. It's a good place to be sociable - there's a smaller group that's frequently changing, and you don't have the crowd and noise of the bar. More people can get involved in the conversation. But settle yourself in the hot tub and I am sure you'll be more than fine. | |||
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"If no one is talking to me, what should I do when I'm in a club alone? " Walk about following people whist playing with yourself under your towel | |||
"If no one is talking to me, what should I do when I'm in a club alone? " I reckon to the bar and folk will find you and apeak to you without awkwardness and pressure | |||
"If no one is talking to me, what should I do when I'm in a club alone? Walk about following people whist playing with yourself under your towel " I will tell them you said it was alright | |||
"If no one is talking to me, what should I do when I'm in a club alone? " What do you do when you’re on your own n a regular bar or club? Before you visit, maybe message the club to introduce yourself; they will look after you and help you get introduced to people. This will be social only, so manage those expectations. Just chat to people in the social areas. Don’t over think it and don’t go with an expectation of shenanigans. Just be friendly, amusing and courteous. There is no secret formula, but if you are pleasant and respectful, most club attendees are nice people. | |||
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"Just walk around and watch people fuck. Men pay more money than the women and couples to get in so you're entitled to watch the sex in public areas. Stay at a respectful distance and enjoy the view. "I thought the point of the public areas was to watch... Why would you fuck there and not want to be watched lol | |||
"I think I would be good if people who are looking for single guys have a flag or hat to wear so we know which ones to talk to" Maybe not a flag or hat!!! but I do think that a wrist band would be helpful. | |||
"Just walk around and watch people fuck. Men pay more money than the women and couples to get in so you're entitled to watch the sex in public areas. Stay at a respectful distance and enjoy the view.
I thought the point of the public areas was to watch... Why would you fuck there and not want to be watched lol"Exactly! | |||
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"Look: As someone who goes regularly as a single man; just forget you’re going to go to have sex. Relax. Talk to men and women, if you talk to a couple talk to them both not to just the man or the woman. If you’re talking to a woman just relax, flirt have a joke be fun. Don’t be self-deprecating - if you don’t know goes to do it with Charm it just comes off a bit pathetic. Don’t fish for compliments If you’re on your own - No one feels sorry for you. You’re confident enough to arrive by yourself you should be confident enough to chat with others. The best thing about these clubs - unlike vanilla clubs being a Dick will not get you positive attention; so most people want to be open and engaging. If they’re not then you’re not missing out on anything just someone who’s a dickhead. If you’re fun you end up being a magnet; try and be engaging what I mean by that is not too be the centre of attention but try and be someone who gets everyone involved (this is a delicate thing to do) you don’t have to be the funniest person in the room just the most engaging. I don’t go into a club thinking I’m the funniest, the most charming, The whatever…I just think I’m going to be open and will chat with anyone…I will reflect the energy I get. Just relax. Smile. Be happy." Brilliant | |||
"If no one is talking to me, what should I do when I'm in a club alone? " Depends on club. Make an effort to say hello to everyone, even other single guys. If you park yourself at the end of the bar, you will end up staying there all night. If you find the thought of speaking to folks too daunting, go home and try again another night. If you don't make any effort, it's pointless. We always chat, even as a couple you get ignored, some folks just can't engage, just smile and move on. | |||
"I think I would be good if people who are looking for single guys have a flag or hat to wear so we know which ones to talk to Maybe not a flag or hat!!! but I do think that a wrist band would be helpful. " What a good idea | |||
"I think I would be good if people who are looking for single guys have a flag or hat to wear so we know which ones to talk to Maybe not a flag or hat!!! but I do think that a wrist band would be helpful. What a good idea " My local club used to do wristbands for people who were interested in single guys. Not sure why it stopped. | |||
"I think I would be good if people who are looking for single guys have a flag or hat to wear so we know which ones to talk to Maybe not a flag or hat!!! but I do think that a wrist band would be helpful. What a good idea My local club used to do wristbands for people who were interested in single guys. Not sure why it stopped. " God no, we like to chat to singles and couples even if we don't want to play. Happy to chat to anyone, old, young, fat, thin, couples, singles, gay, straight, bi, confused, trans, anyone, but it doesn't mean we want sex with you. | |||
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"Also? Look for groups, not individuals. It’s often easier to join a discussion already going than start one from scratch" I found it even more difficult to join a conversation with a group. Clubs tend to be occupied by groups of friends congregating together, who are having a great time between themselves, and far from welcoming to single guys. To the OP; I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy, and they’re all pretty much the same, as far as making you feel ‘at home’. Just give it an hour or so, and if you’re feeling like a gatecrasher, just leave, and either try another night, or another club. Every club will say they’ll look after you as a newcomer, but the reality is, once you’ve paid your money, you’re on your own, and then it’ll come down to who is in when you are. Good luck  | |||
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"Interesting reading the responses and a good balance to the regular replies to men struggling to get meets/veris to go a club. Obviously going to a club is not a panacea. Personally in single male days going to a club alone and trying to make conversation, approach and chat-up couples would have been my worst nightmare although obviously works for some. Much prefered more intimate settings and chatting beforehand. I guess we are all different. " PS this male half answering. Female half went to lots of clubs in single days and had lots of fun. Obviously a bit different for ladies | |||
" PS this male half answering. Female half went to lots of clubs in single days and had lots of fun. Obviously a bit different for ladies "“Fantastic! A single guy!” Said no club ever…… | |||
" PS this male half answering. Female half went to lots of clubs in single days and had lots of fun. Obviously a bit different for ladies
“Fantastic! A single guy!” Said no club ever…… "Oh I think most are quite happy on the right night as you pay a lot more | |||
" PS this male half answering. Female half went to lots of clubs in single days and had lots of fun. Obviously a bit different for ladies
“Fantastic! A single guy!” Said no club ever……
Oh I think most are quite happy on the right night as you pay a lot more "Yep; the ‘Penis Pound’ keeps the coffers swollen if nothing else  | |||
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"Come and say hello! Would prefer blokes to smile and introduce themselves - much better than being on the receiving end of a stare and stroke! Ella" So agree! Just come and say hello, we also try to say hello to single guys, couple and single girls. We aren’t always going to jump your bones but we will happily say hi which is much more likely to us all having fun  | |||
"Also? Look for groups, not individuals. It’s often easier to join a discussion already going than start one from scratch I found it even more difficult to join a conversation with a group. Clubs tend to be occupied by groups of friends congregating together, who are having a great time between themselves, and far from welcoming to single guys. To the OP; I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy, and they’re all pretty much the same, as far as making you feel ‘at home’. Just give it an hour or so, and if you’re feeling like a gatecrasher, just leave, and either try another night, or another club. Every club will say they’ll look after you as a newcomer, but the reality is, once you’ve paid your money, you’re on your own, and then it’ll come down to who is in when you are. Good luck "Even as a couple, we'd get pointed to where lockers are, rules for hot tubs etc, but that's about it. Iv never been introduced to anyone or felt anyone has gone the extra mile. To me it is a myth. And when I have seen single guys they normally congregate amongst themselves,enjoying the ambience.  | |||
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"Also? Look for groups, not individuals. It’s often easier to join a discussion already going than start one from scratch I found it even more difficult to join a conversation with a group. Clubs tend to be occupied by groups of friends congregating together, who are having a great time between themselves, and far from welcoming to single guys. To the OP; I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy, and they’re all pretty much the same, as far as making you feel ‘at home’. Just give it an hour or so, and if you’re feeling like a gatecrasher, just leave, and either try another night, or another club. Every club will say they’ll look after you as a newcomer, but the reality is, once you’ve paid your money, you’re on your own, and then it’ll come down to who is in when you are. Good luck Even as a couple, we'd get pointed to where lockers are, rules for hot tubs etc, but that's about it. Iv never been introduced to anyone or felt anyone has gone the extra mile. To me it is a myth. And when I have seen single guys they normally congregate amongst themselves,enjoying the ambience. "totally agree with this but have been introduced to a couple before but only happened the once majority of time no one speaks to single males | |||
"Smoking area. Even if you don’t smoke, the most chatty/social people are in the smoking are talking" As a non-smoker who finds the smell of cigarette smoke a huge turn off... you need to be aware this suggestion could backfire. Better to just be friendly and chatty in general... not make yourself smell horrible. Nit | |||
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"Also? Look for groups, not individuals. It’s often easier to join a discussion already going than start one from scratch I found it even more difficult to join a conversation with a group. Clubs tend to be occupied by groups of friends congregating together, who are having a great time between themselves, and far from welcoming to single guys. To the OP; I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy, and they’re all pretty much the same, as far as making you feel ‘at home’. Just give it an hour or so, and if you’re feeling like a gatecrasher, just leave, and either try another night, or another club. Every club will say they’ll look after you as a newcomer, but the reality is, once you’ve paid your money, you’re on your own, and then it’ll come down to who is in when you are. Good luck Even as a couple, we'd get pointed to where lockers are, rules for hot tubs etc, but that's about it. Iv never been introduced to anyone or felt anyone has gone the extra mile. To me it is a myth. And when I have seen single guys they normally congregate amongst themselves,enjoying the ambience. "I’ve been to three different clubs, ‘coupled up’ with a play partner, and while the reception from staff doesn’t really vary to that as a single guy, once you’re inside, you do get approached by other couples, and single females. It’s a much more positive reception to when I’ve gone by myself, and what was different about me? I was the same each time, the only difference is, I had a woman with me. Single guys need to visit one club several times, to become ‘accepted’ by the regulars. Then your popularity will take off | |||
"Smoking area. Even if you don’t smoke, the most chatty/social people are in the smoking are talking As a non-smoker who finds the smell of cigarette smoke a huge turn off... you need to be aware this suggestion could backfire. Better to just be friendly and chatty in general... not make yourself smell horrible. Nit" I was just saying what it is like at Newport chams that's all like with all these threads people can have a say but no one has to listen & less of the nit! Thanks | |||
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