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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
Hi!
I’m dating a girl at the moment who iv inteoduced to the world of kink. We’ve tried bondage, sub/dom (we’re both switches), sex games (apps) and a few toys - mostly vibrators.
She doesnt find swinging appealing at all and honestly we have quite a protective relationship where we wouldnt wish to see each other with someone else.
I have previously attended a sex club with an ex partner and had the pleasure of using a bdsm themed room - including Furniture, bondage equipment etc.
Would love to take my girlfriend here as im 100% sure she will love it but i believe the place is now closed. It was in Manchester by Victoria Station if anyone knows whats happened to it?
Wondering if anyone is aware of anywhere else where I could take my girlfriend?
As were not swingers we’d want privacy and i reckon the single men will scare her from ever coming back so a place we can simply go in, use the facilities and leave without being bothered would be ideal.
But most importantly if the venue can provide as much bdsm related equipment and furniture as possible that would be great!!! I want to try everything there is possible with her! Lol
In terms of locations were looking ideally in either London or Manchester.
Any advice anyone can give is greatly appreciate!
PS for those wondering; iv only used this site for forums and havent updated my profile in ages. Im completely loyal to my girlfriend lol |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
I have had submissives of a similar view.
We used to go to The Hellfire Club (THC) and Kestrels/Abfabs that both have dungeons and went on a couples only night to THC and a Saturday night to Abfabs.
THC also has a couple of BDSM orientated nights I have not been to them but they may be worth considering.
Your other options would be to hire a private dungeon which may be pricy in London and may be cheaper in Manchester.
Another option if you want to do non sexual activity such as impact is the London Alternative Market afterparty.
Finally if you are on the alternative lifestyle site, there are more kink and BDSM events happening so it may be worth checking those, although vibrators and sex toys probably could not be used at places that are not sex clubs.
Good luck |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
Are you looking for a private dungeon, or a specialist kink event?
In your shoes, I’d take a wander along to LAM/ lamchester and ask the team there for ideas. There are private dungeons around, but often rely on word of mouth.
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There are lots of private BDSM facilities available in London, often with amenities for an overnight stay.
For example, check out the Blue Door Dungeon in Islington (available by the hour or overnight) or the Serpent Rooms also in north London - there are numerous other.
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
There are quite a few private dungeons in London
You would also probably be okay at a lot of kink events, if you avoid the big ones and try somewhere like Debauchery in London or the Sunday KT's in Dunstable they won't and don't have issues with creepy single guys |
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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"There are lots of private BDSM facilities available in London, often with amenities for an overnight stay.
For example, check out the Blue Door Dungeon in Islington (available by the hour or overnight) or the Serpent Rooms also in north London - there are numerous other.
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Just googled these and blue door dungeon is exactly what im looking for! Seems from the gallery they also have fleshlights which iv always wanted her to use on me when she ties me up.
Thanks so much for this! |
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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Are you looking for a private dungeon, or a specialist kink event?
In your shoes, I’d take a wander along to LAM/ lamchester and ask the team there for ideas. There are private dungeons around, but often rely on word of mouth.
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More of a private dungeon. I think my ignorance made it confusing. Iv just come to learn in this forum that its not just swingers clubs that have dungeons lol
Googled lamchester and it looks awesome! Will definitely have to check it out and get some new toys! |
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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I have had submissives of a similar view.
We used to go to The Hellfire Club (THC) and Kestrels/Abfabs that both have dungeons and went on a couples only night to THC and a Saturday night to Abfabs.
THC also has a couple of BDSM orientated nights I have not been to them but they may be worth considering.
Your other options would be to hire a private dungeon which may be pricy in London and may be cheaper in Manchester.
Another option if you want to do non sexual activity such as impact is the London Alternative Market afterparty.
Finally if you are on the alternative lifestyle site, there are more kink and BDSM events happening so it may be worth checking those, although vibrators and sex toys probably could not be used at places that are not sex clubs.
Good luck"
Thank you for the suggestions! Will definitely check them out.
From your profile it seems youre very experienced in bdsm play. I feel im very amatuer but eager to learn more. Would you mind if i add you as a friend and occasionally dm you for your opinion/advice?
- First question tbh would be for suggestions on positions for bondage. The mrs always slams her legs together stopping me from doing any more when she orgasms. Any suggestions for a way to force her legs apart without being uncomfortable and using a something solid like a bar?
Im trying to make her squirt lol |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"I have had submissives of a similar view.
We used to go to The Hellfire Club (THC) and Kestrels/Abfabs that both have dungeons and went on a couples only night to THC and a Saturday night to Abfabs.
THC also has a couple of BDSM orientated nights I have not been to them but they may be worth considering.
Your other options would be to hire a private dungeon which may be pricy in London and may be cheaper in Manchester.
Another option if you want to do non sexual activity such as impact is the London Alternative Market afterparty.
Finally if you are on the alternative lifestyle site, there are more kink and BDSM events happening so it may be worth checking those, although vibrators and sex toys probably could not be used at places that are not sex clubs.
Good luck
Thank you for the suggestions! Will definitely check them out.
From your profile it seems youre very experienced in bdsm play. I feel im very amatuer but eager to learn more. Would you mind if i add you as a friend and occasionally dm you for your opinion/advice?
- First question tbh would be for suggestions on positions for bondage. The mrs always slams her legs together stopping me from doing any more when she orgasms. Any suggestions for a way to force her legs apart without being uncomfortable and using a something solid like a bar?
Im trying to make her squirt lol"
Best to DM, always happy to help where I can.
A lot depends where you are doing the play but if it's basic bedroom bondage you can try the following.
Buying a spreader bar to keep her legs apart. Basically a metal bar, some have adjustable lengths, buy the one with cuffs that can be attached at the ankles. It will keep her legs apart but not still.
Another option if you do not do rope is to purchase 4 cuffs one for each ankle and wrist and then cuff her and tie off the cuffs so she is spreadeagled on the bed.
The items can be found on amazon or eBay. You may need 4 short lengths of rope rope to tie the cuffs off.
By the way, despite the hype not all women squirt, or if they do squirt not all enjoy it. |
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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I have had submissives of a similar view.
We used to go to The Hellfire Club (THC) and Kestrels/Abfabs that both have dungeons and went on a couples only night to THC and a Saturday night to Abfabs.
THC also has a couple of BDSM orientated nights I have not been to them but they may be worth considering.
Your other options would be to hire a private dungeon which may be pricy in London and may be cheaper in Manchester.
Another option if you want to do non sexual activity such as impact is the London Alternative Market afterparty.
Finally if you are on the alternative lifestyle site, there are more kink and BDSM events happening so it may be worth checking those, although vibrators and sex toys probably could not be used at places that are not sex clubs.
Good luck
Thank you for the suggestions! Will definitely check them out.
From your profile it seems youre very experienced in bdsm play. I feel im very amatuer but eager to learn more. Would you mind if i add you as a friend and occasionally dm you for your opinion/advice?
- First question tbh would be for suggestions on positions for bondage. The mrs always slams her legs together stopping me from doing any more when she orgasms. Any suggestions for a way to force her legs apart without being uncomfortable and using a something solid like a bar?
Im trying to make her squirt lol
Best to DM, always happy to help where I can.
A lot depends where you are doing the play but if it's basic bedroom bondage you can try the following.
Buying a spreader bar to keep her legs apart. Basically a metal bar, some have adjustable lengths, buy the one with cuffs that can be attached at the ankles. It will keep her legs apart but not still.
Another option if you do not do rope is to purchase 4 cuffs one for each ankle and wrist and then cuff her and tie off the cuffs so she is spreadeagled on the bed.
The items can be found on amazon or eBay. You may need 4 short lengths of rope rope to tie the cuffs off.
By the way, despite the hype not all women squirt, or if they do squirt not all enjoy it."
I have some under bed restraints with cuffs. I’ll have to try tying her wrists to her thighs and attaching that to the bed restraints to keep the legs open.
Thanks for the tip!
And yes its a shame they don’t always squirt! Iv only ever managed to do it once before - proud to say i was using only my cock too
Im sure my current girlfriend will squirt one day with the way she gets dripping wet when i restrain her and subject her to prolonged pussy play. Fingers crossed she’ll love it!
I have another problem but im not sure theres a solution… Usually bdsm sessions result in soreness for her and sometimes she has to stop before im able to finish. I try to take it slow with some toy play and oral to warm her up but it doesnt seem to help much lol
Im wondering if theres any toys or recommendations for lube which may help?
If theres any ladies with advice regarding the above please post a message and let us know what you think |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"I have previously attended a sex club with an ex partner and had the pleasure of using a bdsm themed room - including Furniture, bondage equipment etc.
Would love to take my girlfriend here as im 100% sure she will love it but i believe the place is now closed. It was in Manchester by Victoria Station if anyone knows whats happened to it?
Wondering if anyone is aware of anywhere else where I could take my girlfriend? "
The place you're talking about was MUD (Manchester's Unbelievable Dungeon)
Unfortunately after the very publically reported accident there, network rail were reluctant to renew the lease (even though they knew what it was, they didn't want people knowing they knew).
In Manchester I'd suggest MARS (Manchester Alternative Rooms) or Manchester Chambers (Ashton dungeon hire) for private hire.
Neither are in the city center so if you're on public transport Ashton is easier to get to. |
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"I have had submissives of a similar view.
We used to go to The Hellfire Club (THC) and Kestrels/Abfabs that both have dungeons and went on a couples only night to THC and a Saturday night to Abfabs.
THC also has a couple of BDSM orientated nights I have not been to them but they may be worth considering.
Your other options would be to hire a private dungeon which may be pricy in London and may be cheaper in Manchester.
Another option if you want to do non sexual activity such as impact is the London Alternative Market afterparty.
Finally if you are on the alternative lifestyle site, there are more kink and BDSM events happening so it may be worth checking those, although vibrators and sex toys probably could not be used at places that are not sex clubs.
Good luck
Thank you for the suggestions! Will definitely check them out.
From your profile it seems youre very experienced in bdsm play. I feel im very amatuer but eager to learn more. Would you mind if i add you as a friend and occasionally dm you for your opinion/advice?
- First question tbh would be for suggestions on positions for bondage. The mrs always slams her legs together stopping me from doing any more when she orgasms. Any suggestions for a way to force her legs apart without being uncomfortable and using a something solid like a bar?
Im trying to make her squirt lol"
You can buy spreader bars, but I used to use heavy duty dog collars on chains to restrain my ladies thighs so they didn't head crush me, and the hands were handcuffted to the other bedposts .
Just for your info I was thinking about making custom made sex furniture for people like yourself. If your interested let me know  |
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Blue door had a lot of stuff, but was a bit unhygienic when we went late last year. Lube was on some of the toys, there were fluids on the floor in corners, and we were overall not impressed by that compared to other places which are immaculate. Secret dungeon is our favourite but we can't recommend it as it means people keep booking it when we want to go! Brighton dungeon is excellent for couples but not really set up for groups. |
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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I have had submissives of a similar view.
We used to go to The Hellfire Club (THC) and Kestrels/Abfabs that both have dungeons and went on a couples only night to THC and a Saturday night to Abfabs.
THC also has a couple of BDSM orientated nights I have not been to them but they may be worth considering.
Your other options would be to hire a private dungeon which may be pricy in London and may be cheaper in Manchester.
Another option if you want to do non sexual activity such as impact is the London Alternative Market afterparty.
Finally if you are on the alternative lifestyle site, there are more kink and BDSM events happening so it may be worth checking those, although vibrators and sex toys probably could not be used at places that are not sex clubs.
Good luck
Thank you for the suggestions! Will definitely check them out.
From your profile it seems youre very experienced in bdsm play. I feel im very amatuer but eager to learn more. Would you mind if i add you as a friend and occasionally dm you for your opinion/advice?
- First question tbh would be for suggestions on positions for bondage. The mrs always slams her legs together stopping me from doing any more when she orgasms. Any suggestions for a way to force her legs apart without being uncomfortable and using a something solid like a bar?
Im trying to make her squirt lol
You can buy spreader bars, but I used to use heavy duty dog collars on chains to restrain my ladies thighs so they didn't head crush me, and the hands were handcuffted to the other bedposts.
Just for your info I was thinking about making custom made sex furniture for people like yourself. If your interested let me know "
Awesome tip, will definitely try. Thanks!
Custom furniture sounds awesome! Lets connect! |
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By *igharry OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Blue door had a lot of stuff, but was a bit unhygienic when we went late last year. Lube was on some of the toys, there were fluids on the floor in corners, and we were overall not impressed by that compared to other places which are immaculate. Secret dungeon is our favourite but we can't recommend it as it means people keep booking it when we want to go! Brighton dungeon is excellent for couples but not really set up for groups."
Thank you very much for this. Me and the mrs are clean freaks so that would completely turn us both off!
Such a shame because i was hoping she could tie me to the st andrews cross and use the fleshlight on me.
I havent checked out Secret Dungeons website and its not definitely at the top of the list to try out! Lol |
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over a year ago
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You'd be best to hire a dungeon space privately.
Many offer full hire of their facilities.
That way you get the ambience and furniture to use without having anyone else there to watch you or interrupt you. |
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