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Hi I never been to a club before and decided Vanilla Alternative will be my "break my Virginity" venue. Anyone been there can give me newbie tips to make the experience more comfortable? I'm pretty shy and reserved. Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc Much appreciated  |
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over a year ago
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"Hi I never been to a club before and decided Vanilla Alternative will be my "break my Virginity" venue. Anyone been there can give me newbie tips to make the experience more comfortable? I'm pretty shy and reserved. Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc Much appreciated "
It's a great club. It's my favourite and regular.
Best advice is connect on the forums with people going when you are then at least you have people to chat with you've already spoken to.
You can wear clothes at the bar boy dress down in playrooms so robe, towel or underwear.
If you need to stay booking a room there is handy. |
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over a year ago
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"Hi I never been to a club before and decided Vanilla Alternative will be my "break my Virginity" venue. Anyone been there can give me newbie tips to make the experience more comfortable? I'm pretty shy and reserved. Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc Much appreciated
It's a great club. It's my favourite and regular.
Best advice is connect on the forums with people going when you are then at least you have people to chat with you've already spoken to.
You can wear clothes at the bar boy dress down in playrooms so robe, towel or underwear.
If you need to stay booking a room there is handy. "
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"Hi I never been to a club before and decided Vanilla Alternative will be my "break my Virginity" venue. Anyone been there can give me newbie tips to make the experience more comfortable? I'm pretty shy and reserved. Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc Much appreciated
It's a great club. It's my favourite and regular.
Best advice is connect on the forums with people going when you are then at least you have people to chat with you've already spoken to.
You can wear clothes at the bar boy dress down in playrooms so robe, towel or underwear.
If you need to stay booking a room there is handy.
*but not boy"
Thank you. Will older gentlemen feel comfortable there as I read the reviews and most seem to be under 40 |
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By *i3188Man
over a year ago
Just outside Spalding |
"Hi I never been to a club before and decided Vanilla Alternative will be my "break my Virginity" venue. Anyone been there can give me newbie tips to make the experience more comfortable? I'm pretty shy and reserved. Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc Much appreciated
It's a great club. It's my favourite and regular.
Best advice is connect on the forums with people going when you are then at least you have people to chat with you've already spoken to.
You can wear clothes at the bar boy dress down in playrooms so robe, towel or underwear.
If you need to stay booking a room there is handy.
*but not boy
Thank you. Will older gentlemen feel comfortable there as I read the reviews and most seem to be under 40"
Hi , I’m an older gentleman and I’m going this Weds coming 13th , I tend to go once every three or four weeks.
I go on my own , but have found everyone to be really lovely.
All there for a good time and it’s great to have a chat and share a glass of Fizz with friends.
Without doubt my favourite club , very clean and well organised.
An older gentleman should not feel out of place …. I never have. ! |
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Like Essex butterfly, VA is my favourite club too and i try to get there about twice a month as a single female.
This might sound like a cliché but strangers are just friends you’ve not met yet, as this is so true as people that come to VA are such a great crowd
In terms of getting naked, I would probably bet those nerves will disappear within an hour but if they don’t you don’t have to get naked, you can wear sexy lingerie or something that you feel good wearing.
I go to MILF club on Wednesday daytime and you might want to think about a daytime event to dip your toes. Think of it a a bit of sunbathing surrounded by open minded people and if you want to take bikini off then do it, if not it’s fine to leave on.
It’s such a chilled place and there are people of all ages, shapes and sizes. In terms of a younger group of guys you might be thinking about a specific event night so do check out first but daytime is a good mix.
Hope you pop your cherry soon x
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"Like Essex butterfly, VA is my favourite club too and i try to get there about twice a month as a single female.
This might sound like a cliché but strangers are just friends you’ve not met yet, as this is so true as people that come to VA are such a great crowd
In terms of getting naked, I would probably bet those nerves will disappear within an hour but if they don’t you don’t have to get naked, you can wear sexy lingerie or something that you feel good wearing.
I go to MILF club on Wednesday daytime and you might want to think about a daytime event to dip your toes. Think of it a a bit of sunbathing surrounded by open minded people and if you want to take bikini off then do it, if not it’s fine to leave on.
It’s such a chilled place and there are people of all ages, shapes and sizes. In terms of a younger group of guys you might be thinking about a specific event night so do check out first but daytime is a good mix.
Hope you pop your cherry soon x
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Thank you. If I went on a Friday, could I go earlier for sunbathing? Or is it better to pick a week day? Which one is best where it's not too quiet or too busy? Thank you |
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We have been a few times and loved it. We have just booked the camp site for Friday 29th. It’s a bi night event . But we are hoping to get there early afternoon and just sit about with the tent making friends and having a few drinks. Just like we would at a festival. |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"Does anyone which area the sexual activities happen and where the quiet areas are?"
The bar area has a dance floor and some seating. Most are dressed in this area. The play areas are then , couples room, jacuzzi with surrounding play areas, then the room parallel to jacuzzi with several play bed 1x with a privacy curtain. Then next to them are some relaxed beds in the corridor/chill area that connect the 3 above areas. Then lastly there is the dungeon off the opposite end of the bar with several play stations including the glory hole.
Remember when u visit just chat to people. U don't have to do anything u don't want to and that includes getting naked. Have great fun. I love it there. The ages of people vary lots |
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Attended the VA for 1st time in Feb and now I don't go anywhere else ! My bf has even started attending too .. Absolutely amazing club very relaxed. You don't end to dress down if u r not comfortable with it... I attend bi night every month and also booked for festival 5-7aug camp3d last month and camping for festival too x camping is open from April to September as far as I know and u book camp slot on the website with tickets. X
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"Attended the VA for 1st time in Feb and now I don't go anywhere else ! My bf has even started attending too .. Absolutely amazing club very relaxed. You don't end to dress down if u r not comfortable with it... I attend bi night every month and also booked for festival 5-7aug camp3d last month and camping for festival too x camping is open from April to September as far as I know and u book camp slot on the website with tickets. X
Hope this helps."
Yes helpful as the venue hasn't replied to my email yet. I asked what time can we get there to set up tent and when you said September, is that inclusive of that month please? |
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"Does anyone which area the sexual activities happen and where the quiet areas are?
The bar area has a dance floor and some seating. Most are dressed in this area. The play areas are then , couples room, jacuzzi with surrounding play areas, then the room parallel to jacuzzi with several play bed 1x with a privacy curtain. Then next to them are some relaxed beds in the corridor/chill area that connect the 3 above areas. Then lastly there is the dungeon off the opposite end of the bar with several play stations including the glory hole.
Remember when u visit just chat to people. U don't have to do anything u don't want to and that includes getting naked. Have great fun. I love it there. The ages of people vary lots"
Ooo I like the sound of the dungeon. Just don't want to see my mate wanking so probably hide in the dungeon if I get lucky with a nice young man  |
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By *nasuitMan
over a year ago
Ruislip |
The VA is a really great club, lots of different areas, clean, nice decor and plenty of space. The only thing is all the play areas are pretty open, there are no lockable play rooms only a couples area which is still open plan.
If you are shy (which I doubt once you get going) it might not be the best place for a first club experience. |
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"The VA is a really great club, lots of different areas, clean, nice decor and plenty of space. The only thing is all the play areas are pretty open, there are no lockable play rooms only a couples area which is still open plan.
If you are shy (which I doubt once you get going) it might not be the best place for a first club experience."
It's ok, I just got to be brave and adventurous. It sounds all good so far...is the camping bit of a distance from the house? |
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By *nasuitMan
over a year ago
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"The VA is a really great club, lots of different areas, clean, nice decor and plenty of space. The only thing is all the play areas are pretty open, there are no lockable play rooms only a couples area which is still open plan.
If you are shy (which I doubt once you get going) it might not be the best place for a first club experience.
It's ok, I just got to be brave and adventurous. It sounds all good so far...is the camping bit of a distance from the house?"
Talked yourself into it now....Good girl!
I think the camping is on the big field at the back of the building, down to the river. |
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"If you are shy (which I doubt once you get going) it might not be the best place for a first club experience."
I think it would be as there is never any expectation to play and the VA is a nice venue to just visit.
Then decide later whether playing in clubs is for you or not |
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VA actually has a newbie night in the pipeline, first one will be next month! 
It's an amazing club, we now attend once a month we love it so much and are yet to venture anywhere else as we feel so comfortable here x |
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"There is also now a VA discord server where you can talk about upcoming events, meet other attendees and get your questions answered sooner/prompt that you've sent an email etc as the owners are on there x"
That's sounds really good...how do I find this platform? |
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"There is also now a VA discord server where you can talk about upcoming events, meet other attendees and get your questions answered sooner/prompt that you've sent an email etc as the owners are on there x
That's sounds really good...how do I find this platform?"
I’m quite regular to VA and happy to chaperone on your first visit if our visiting dates align - I know it can be a nerve recking (only in the first 15minutes) if you planning to visit as a single lady .
You can also pm me anytime for private questions. I’m also on VA discord with same username x |
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I'd suggest that the first time you go your plan should just be to chat to a few people, see how it all works, and give yourself the info you need to decide whether you want to go back.
Of course you can always change your plan, but try and keep the expectations and pressure on yourself low. |
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"There is also now a VA discord server where you can talk about upcoming events, meet other attendees and get your questions answered sooner/prompt that you've sent an email etc as the owners are on there x
That's sounds really good...how do I find this platform?
I’m quite regular to VA and happy to chaperone on your first visit if our visiting dates align - I know it can be a nerve recking (only in the first 15minutes) if you planning to visit as a single lady .
You can also pm me anytime for private questions. I’m also on VA discord with same username x"
Thanks... be good to see you down there if you go when I go. I'm not going alone, going with my male friend but we're not in a sexual relationship so probably break off chatting to various people. I'm actually less chatty with strangers than he is. He likes chatting to anyone which isn't really my thing. I'm more conservative. |
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"I'd suggest that the first time you go your plan should just be to chat to a few people, see how it all works, and give yourself the info you need to decide whether you want to go back.
Of course you can always change your plan, but try and keep the expectations and pressure on yourself low."
Sure but I'm just praying there's some hotties to have fun with lol I don't do dating or have a boyfriend. Trying to hook up with men on fab is virtually impossible and utter headache so thought clubs is the better way of having some sexual fun? Am I wrong? |
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"so thought clubs is the better way of having some sexual fun? Am I wrong?"
Most people who go to a club for the first time find that it's different from what they expected in one way or another.
There's only one way to find out if it works for you! |
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over a year ago
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"Hopefully newbie night fall on the night I'm going. I think everything is now sorted for it will be the 20th of August on a Friday "
20th of August is a Saturday |
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"Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc"
I noticed in another thread that you've been going to naturist beaches for many years. I'm interested how you see what happens in a club as different? |
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"Hopefully newbie night fall on the night I'm going. I think everything is now sorted for it will be the 20th of August on a Friday
20th of August is a Saturday"
So it is, I best get all of this right on the advisement, may ve time to get my ass in the hot tub and take some time to relax lol |
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"Hopefully newbie night fall on the night I'm going. I think everything is now sorted for it will be the 20th of August on a Friday
20th of August is a Saturday
So it is, I best get all of this right on the advisement, may ve time to get my ass in the hot tub and take some time to relax lol "
I take it it's on on the Saturday? There's a slim chance I might be there |
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"Don't like being naked in front of strangers etc
I noticed in another thread that you've been going to naturist beaches for many years. I'm interested how you see what happens in a club as different?"
I don't go naked on the beach. My friend is a naturist i just tag along
But i have sunbathed naked in the gay area, hoping it's safer area but that's the times when men approached us so I generally don't do it because of that. I think we get mistaken for a swinging couple that's active there. |
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