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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
It depends on the single bloke? The ones who come in looking for friendship, who have a smile on their face and a bit of banter, who watch appreciatively and ask if they can join in make clubs the deliciously decadent place they are.
The ones who don’t smile or speak, who I never see outside a playroom, who tell my partner how to fuck me, who complain that the man fucking me is spoiling their view…not so much, TBH.
You don’t have to be the life and soul of the party, just be yourself and let people get to know you.
A couple of chaps who are regulars at F post in the forum in threads like this a lot, might be worth doing a search and reading the old threads? |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
The only single men who are seen as a pain in the arse are the ones who make themselves a pain in the arse. Be a decent human, and you'll be miles ahead of them.
Be friendly and positive, don't be pushy or desperate, get involved in the social life of the club, and your new friends will welcome you. |
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We haven’t been to a club in a while but found their presence irritating - too much following around and general creepiness.
We appreciate their place in the scene and know some are all about the single men but it’s not for us. We eventually opted for couples’ only nights. |
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"We haven’t been to a club in a while but found their presence irritating - too much following around and general creepiness.
We appreciate their place in the scene and know some are all about the single men but it’s not for us. We eventually opted for couples’ only nights. "
The wanking zombies |
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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough and Buckinghamshire |
It depends on whether they behave like a civilised human being. We were in a club recently. At one point we were the only two people in the cinema room, just sitting watching the film, one guy came and sat next to us and started wanking. Another guy was standing two feet away from a couple who were having some fun and just stared at them. These are the guys who give single men a bad name.
Having said that I would be very reluctant to attend any club as a single man. |
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The wanking zombies "
Exactly.
Remember meeting a couple a few years ago when we did our one and only time in a club jacuzzi (never again!)
Anyway, we were sat there, the four of us chatting and flirting etc. and it was only a small hot tub… this guy literally just got stark bollock naked and got in between the four of us and started playing with his dick, literally wanking off while we had a conversation.
Yeah. Not for us. |
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You'll only be seen as a pain in the butt if you make yourself one, ie following people around, stroking your dick in front of people, generally acting creepy etc
Most single guys are a very welcome addition to the club scene |
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The wanking zombies
Exactly.
Remember meeting a couple a few years ago when we did our one and only time in a club jacuzzi (never again!)
Anyway, we were sat there, the four of us chatting and flirting etc. and it was only a small hot tub… this guy literally just got stark bollock naked and got in between the four of us and started playing with his dick, literally wanking off while we had a conversation.
Yeah. Not for us. "
I've had the male half of a couple repeatedly try to insert his toe inside me in a club Hottub & after the 3rd time of pushing his foot away or trying to discreetly say no so not to cause a scene be told by the wife I'm frigid & if I find a toe offences god knows what I'm doing in a club & how would I feel about a cock going inside me
& also been groped by a guy who when I removed his hand from his breast and asked what he thought he was doing his wife shouted from accross the room 'oh don't worry he's with me, he's not one of those creepy single guys, boobs are his thing, he's allowed to touch'
So there's good and bad in all groups not just single men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We haven’t been to a club in a while but found their presence irritating - too much following around and general creepiness.
We appreciate their place in the scene and know some are all about the single men but it’s not for us. We eventually opted for couples’ only nights.
The wanking zombies "
We prefer to call them the ‘the wanking dead’ |
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The wanking zombies
Exactly.
Remember meeting a couple a few years ago when we did our one and only time in a club jacuzzi (never again!)
Anyway, we were sat there, the four of us chatting and flirting etc. and it was only a small hot tub… this guy literally just got stark bollock naked and got in between the four of us and started playing with his dick, literally wanking off while we had a conversation.
Yeah. Not for us.
I've had the male half of a couple repeatedly try to insert his toe inside me in a club Hottub & after the 3rd time of pushing his foot away or trying to discreetly say no so not to cause a scene be told by the wife I'm frigid & if I find a toe offences god knows what I'm doing in a club & how would I feel about a cock going inside me
& also been groped by a guy who when I removed his hand from his breast and asked what he thought he was doing his wife shouted from accross the room 'oh don't worry he's with me, he's not one of those creepy single guys, boobs are his thing, he's allowed to touch'
So there's good and bad in all groups not just single men "
Some people do treat others as they want to be treated, but your examples prove that that's not always a good thing. Finding out peoples boundaries is as important and the "what you looking for" question. We all in this to have fun, but each person/couple has different levels of what they call fun. Ask, confirm and verify you can do something before you do it.
Sometimes your in a club purely for the social aspect, sometimes your mood means no play. |
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By *ellobluMan
over a year ago
Bracknell |
In my 15yrs+ experience of clubs as a single guy you are only seen as a pain in the ass if you are a pain in the ass... if you are a normal human being and conduct yourself properly you will find you are more likely to be accepted, of course nothing is ever guaranteed at clubs, I think this is the mistake lots of guys make they pay their entry and think they are owed something... |
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Some males are more pushy than others and seem to get a 'look in' while the less pushy fail to meet anyone as there are too many males wandering around alone. The couples can be far too subtle in their indication of who they like or don't too. So, in this confusing situation, personally, I have met few either on here or in clubs who will consider a meet or sex. They all form their opinion without meeting face to face. I respect this but mmm frustrating, as communication is key. To the males, there seem to be an awful lot of poseurs who want to show off their sexuality to others? Just a personal view there. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Some males are more pushy than others and seem to get a 'look in' while the less pushy fail to meet anyone as there are too many males wandering around alone. The couples can be far too subtle in their indication of who they like or don't too. So, in this confusing situation, personally, I have met few either on here or in clubs who will consider a meet or sex. They all form their opinion without meeting face to face. I respect this but mmm frustrating, as communication is key. To the males, there seem to be an awful lot of poseurs who want to show off their sexuality to others? Just a personal view there."
This is a good point - I would say I am less assertive. I still get a look in as I chat to people and kinda flirt. I am an old school swinger in terms of I wait to be invited or read the scene.
Do I go around wanking nope but if a couple playing in an open room then I may watch and have a wank and often as I have given them space they either come over after they have finished or invite me over
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"Some males are more pushy than others and seem to get a 'look in' while the less pushy fail to meet anyone as there are too many males wandering around alone. The couples can be far too subtle in their indication of who they like or don't too. So, in this confusing situation, personally, I have met few either on here or in clubs who will consider a meet or sex. They all form their opinion without meeting face to face. I respect this but mmm frustrating, as communication is key. To the males, there seem to be an awful lot of poseurs who want to show off their sexuality to others? Just a personal view there.
This is a good point - I would say I am less assertive. I still get a look in as I chat to people and kinda flirt. I am an old school swinger in terms of I wait to be invited or read the scene.
Do I go around wanking nope but if a couple playing in an open room then I may watch and have a wank and often as I have given them space they either come over after they have finished or invite me over
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Ooh. Good point. If someone watches, it does wonders to make me feel not only attractive, but attractive to them, and I’m more likely to have the courage to ask them to join in. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Some males are more pushy than others and seem to get a 'look in' while the less pushy fail to meet anyone as there are too many males wandering around alone. The couples can be far too subtle in their indication of who they like or don't too. So, in this confusing situation, personally, I have met few either on here or in clubs who will consider a meet or sex. They all form their opinion without meeting face to face. I respect this but mmm frustrating, as communication is key. To the males, there seem to be an awful lot of poseurs who want to show off their sexuality to others? Just a personal view there.
This is a good point - I would say I am less assertive. I still get a look in as I chat to people and kinda flirt. I am an old school swinger in terms of I wait to be invited or read the scene.
Do I go around wanking nope but if a couple playing in an open room then I may watch and have a wank and often as I have given them space they either come over after they have finished or invite me over
Ooh. Good point. If someone watches, it does wonders to make me feel not only attractive, but attractive to them, and I’m more likely to have the courage to ask them to join in. "
Well it’s a fine line between wanking showing your interested and wanking as a zombie |
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I shall be a single male in a club tonight. It’s my 1st time at the club Abfabs (the others didn’t impress). I’ve been as a single and as couple in the past with different experiences. Yes I’ve seen the zombies and experienced one at his worst with my female partner. I’d hate to think I’d be a pain or worse! I’m nervous to start conversations always have been. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We specifically attend clubs on the nights that single males are allowed in.
That being said some men are charming and attractive and some are just total fuckwits.
That’s life though isn’t it?
Act confidently and chat like you would in the pub to begin with and if all seems well then turn on some flirt.
That often works with us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im a single guy and only just starting out on the scene.
be respectful, dont be a dick, if you dont know, ask. think of it as a night out at a pub. you are guaranteed nothing, expect nothing. If something happens, bonus. Focus on having a good time, not a sexy time. Expect completely to go home without hooking up. if you watch n wank, thats your choice, but dont expect it to lead to anything.
and again, dont be a dick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only go on couples nights. Last club night was in Leeds. It was fairly empty and some bloke still sat about 2ft away and stared while we were playing. If he was any closer he would have been joining in, so rude
Definitely know which clubs we prefer now and those that don’t have a dedicated couple’s night we avoid because my oh would rather play with the ladies anyway 
If the men are respectful of personal space etc then no issue whatsoever. |
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Its awkward for single guys some are pain in ass too pushy and expecting sex while others are bit shy and dont talk alot and sit and watch and regret not being pushy enough as the forward guys get the luck |
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