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Explain to me how a club works
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The nearest club to me is West bromwich.As a first timer and shitting myself,what should i expect.Can i just go in for a drink.Is there an area with music dancing like a night club and you dont need to be naked ?Could i ask a lady to take me as a friend if yes Could she let herself be known  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's very much a nightclub vibe, very relaxed and a good time. There's music, a dance floor and a bar. Just go into it with no expectations and have a good night. Chat to people and if you vibe with someone great, if not there's always next time.
The first, second and even third time is always daunting but most men go alone so you'll be fine. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think off it as a pub with extra rooms
If you click with someone yous can take it to the extra room
Also go with no exspectsoin just because your in a swingers club dose not gartee sex
Be your self
As for getting naked and such well that depends on the club
Some clubs are dress down after a serton time
Guys in boxers woman in lingerie
But again that is all club dependent ever club is different
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The nearest club to me is West bromwich.As a first timer and shitting myself,what should i expect.Can i just go in for a drink.Is there an area with music dancing like a night club and you dont need to be naked ?Could i ask a lady to take me as a friend if yes Could she let herself be known "
I suggest go to a greedy girl party at the club first rather than on a "Club night" as they are designed for single guys to get action. The ordinary nights can often be targeted at couples and too many single guy who may not score just because there are too many of them . And it's usually cheaper to get in many clubs on greedy girl night. You can then also take the opportunity to have a good look around and see what rooms and spaces they have for future reference. It will also give you experience of getting your dick out and performing in front of other people and seeing guys with their cocks out too. So it will teach you not to be shy. When you then go to a club night you won't be a "first timer" and should feel a bit more confident. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The nearest club to me is West bromwich.As a first timer and shitting myself,what should i expect.Can i just go in for a drink.Is there an area with music dancing like a night club and you dont need to be naked ?Could i ask a lady to take me as a friend if yes Could she let herself be known
I suggest go to a greedy girl party at the club first rather than on a "Club night" as they are designed for single guys to get action. The ordinary nights can often be targeted at couples and too many single guy who may not score just because there are too many of them . And it's usually cheaper to get in many clubs on greedy girl night. You can then also take the opportunity to have a good look around and see what rooms and spaces they have for future reference. It will also give you experience of getting your dick out and performing in front of other people and seeing guys with their cocks out too. So it will teach you not to be shy. When you then go to a club night you won't be a "first timer" and should feel a bit more confident. "
Thanks for this i will keep an eye out . |
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"The nearest club to me is West bromwich.As a first timer and shitting myself,what should i expect.Can i just go in for a drink.Is there an area with music dancing like a night club and you dont need to be naked ?Could i ask a lady to take me as a friend if yes Could she let herself be known "
Go for a daytime visit and they'll show you the ropes, and the bar and the rooms! |
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It’s been a while since I clubbed in Darlaston and I never attended as a single guy but I’d try going on an afternoon for your first visit.
It will be quiet, but it will also give you the chance to get the lay of the land and maybe get to chat to people in a more relaxed environment than on a greedy night.
Be respectful and don’t try to initiate anything more than conversation. Some couples are there to indulge their exhibitionist nature, some are there for a more physical involvement with others. You’ll get clues, or more obvious messages as to which each couple is. (Some exhibitionists may switch)
Guys generally wear a towel wrapped round their waist. As a fuller figured male I always asked at reception for one of the larger towels.
Happy memories of that place. Many many happy memories. |
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You turn up. You have guaranteed sex 
I kid, don't believe that  Just treat it like any other night out: relax, chat, flirt. The only difference is that if you want to play with someone, you don't have to get a taxi home 
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By (user no longer on site)
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Check the club will allow single men, and if you need to pre-book (second guessing the west brom club!)
It's like going on the pull, without your mates to fall back on when you're not making connections. But if you are successful, you're very successful.
Just go in with no expectations. Unless yr going to use the glory holes ! |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
Your questions are very valid and it is natural to feel nervous. The first time I went to a club by myself I bottled it in the car park and went back home! A 90 minute drive BTW…
Like everyone else has said, treat it as a night out. Yes, you can buy a drink or drinks, and you can mingle and chat to people there. Some people like chatting to others too, some others will like to stick to their partner/small group. You’ll get the vibe quite quickly.
The way I see it, it’s a social night to talk to people and if I see someone who catches my eye and more happens, it’s a nice bonus. also, in most clubs, there will be staff to show newbies around the facilities.
Happy clubbing!  |
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"Ah shit, I thought this might be about golf.
They both involve swinging"
They do. But in one case it becomes more difficult if you have an erection.
If you don’t control the shaft correctly, the head will be at the wrong angle, and next thing you’re in the rough or completely out of bounds. Risk of lost balls. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
West Bromwich? Would that be Xtasia?
If they haven't changed everything in the four hundred years since I was there, then yes, there is a bar and a dance floor and music and people dancing.
Rules about clothes vary from club to club. Have a good read of the club's web site first. This one I believe doesn't require dress-down on entry, so there won't be much (if any) nudity in the social areas. At least at the start of the night. My regular (ClubF) doesn't allow nudity in the bar at any time - people keep something on until they're in the play rooms. Some clubs require dress-down, which honestly I'd have found too intimidating for a first visit. Check before you go.
It's fine to stay in the bar and socialise all night. For your first visit at least, it's a good idea to plan for that.
Although do have a wander around and see what's going on. Just be respectful if others are playing. If it's an open room they'll be expecting people to watch, but don't get too close, don't have loud distracting conversations, and do not ever touch without permission.
Go on a night that allows single men. If you're shy like me, force yourself to socialise. It's hard, but that's how you make friends. Once you know some of the regulars, it's all a lot easier.
Don't go with someone you don't know. If you already have a female friend who'd like to go clubbing with you, that's great. But not with a stranger. |
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