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Advice for first timers at a club ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ideally would like to go for a social first best way to break the ice and Mrs very nervous but also wants to get into the lifestyle . Can you do this? Go and just have a flirt and speak to like minded couples? Ideally stay dressed ? I know that sounds boring but I think we could get into this alot quicker if we was to get to know people into the same thing in person |
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By *rivateyesCouple
over a year ago
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"Ideally would like to go for a social first best way to break the ice and Mrs very nervous but also wants to get into the lifestyle . Can you do this? Go and just have a flirt and speak to like minded couples? Ideally stay dressed ? I know that sounds boring but I think we could get into this alot quicker if we was to get to know people into the same thing in person "
You do whatever makes you comfortable, remember that you are always the boss and you make your own rules.
We found it better to just join in (when invited) without getting to know people first. When we’ve made “friends” it almost became difficult.
In our opinion it’s much better to just go with the flow and only go as far as you want to.
Hope that helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just choose your boundaries and agree them with each other in advance. K was nervous about clubs so the first time we agreed with each other before we went there that we would only watch and socialise and that's exactly what we did, the second time we discussed our boundaries again before we went and we just played with each other while others watched, third visit....  |
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At the end of the day you are ultimately in control of how far (or not) things go. If you are visiting Penthouse, which I think you mentioned you might there is a great social area next to the bar and dancefloor. You can hang out there and chat with each other and maybe other likeminded couples. There are also areas where you can watch others having fun. There’s also no requirement to dress down which is why we like it there. Good luck hope you have fun if you decide to take the plunge  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At the end of the day you are ultimately in control of how far (or not) things go. If you are visiting Penthouse, which I think you mentioned you might there is a great social area next to the bar and dancefloor. You can hang out there and chat with each other and maybe other likeminded couples. There are also areas where you can watch others having fun. There’s also no requirement to dress down which is why we like it there. Good luck hope you have fun if you decide to take the plunge "
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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No pressure whatsoever to join in or take any clothes off.
There are people who go to clubs just to socialise have a drink and chat together and maybe talkto other people, and there are people who get far more intimately involved.
Absolutely up to you just agree beforehand what is ok between you both and stick to it.
You can always change your mind for next time but never change the boundaries in the heat of the moment. |
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"Ideally would like to go for a social first best way to break the ice and Mrs very nervous but also wants to get into the lifestyle . Can you do this? Go and just have a flirt and speak to like minded couples? Ideally stay dressed ? I know that sounds boring but I think we could get into this alot quicker if we was to get to know people into the same thing in person "
If you want to stay dressed, check the clubs' websites before you choose one. There are some that are 100% dress down clubs, and many that have dress down rules at certain times or in certain areas of their site.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Ideally would like to go for a social first best way to break the ice and Mrs very nervous but also wants to get into the lifestyle . Can you do this? Go and just have a flirt and speak to like minded couples? Ideally stay dressed ? I know that sounds boring but I think we could get into this alot quicker if we was to get to know people into the same thing in person "
Yes that’s typically what happens. No one is going to pressure you to get naked, lots of people stay dressed even regulars in many clubs, playing is not the only reason to attend.
Try a few clubs , they are all very different and even different nights can have completely different atmospheres. Saturday nights are usually busiest, smaller ones ones with lively bar areas may be good for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you go to a pub, you don't have to drink vodka. Clubs are just the same. You do as much or as little as you want. The first step over the threshold is the hardest but after that, be friendly and do as you wish. Good luck! M x |
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"We would say that the best advice that we can give is to go with no expectations so you don't put yourselves under undue pressure.
Socialise, mingle and most of all, relax and enjoy."
I would also say don't wait for people to come and talk to you, that often results in not talking to anyone. If you approach people and say hi, you are guaranteed to talk to people.
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