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"Hi, we're looking at both parties on the 29th April and not sure which one to attend.
Has any one been to both and what would you recommend?"
I’d honestly say it’s like comparing apples and oranges , they’re both round delicious fruit but are totally different  I’ve never been to BMFC so don’t know how their events tend to flow , but I do help at DD and I’d recommend it in a heartbeat - but it may not be your cup of tea , who knows , maybe try them both over the next few months , who doesn’t need an excuse to get out more ?!   |
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"Hi, we're looking at both parties on the 29th April and not sure which one to attend.
Has any one been to both and what would you recommend?"
I’ve been to Dark Desires at Ab Fabs, and it was brilliant! Never been to BMFC |
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"We are also looking at this date to get back out there. Again undecided between the events; which would people recommend for the cuckolding dynamic?"
I've been to both and like both a lot. Whichever has the stronger cuckolding vibe will always win on the night for me though lol. |
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By *unny!Woman
over a year ago
Bunnyland |
I’ve attended both, many times. Although they are both interracial events, they’re very different parties and I’d agree with the above comment that you should try both - each party provides something completely different - different venue, vibe, atmosphere, guests etc.
I’ve only attended DDs at Liberty Elite and really enjoy the club - it typically lends itself to more social interaction and I find the gents are very respectful. Everyone makes a real effort, is well presented and there’s a strong presence within the club from the host and other helpers, which I like. It can sometimes feel like there’s limited private spaces to play but if you enjoy large open areas then the orgy room is great! - there are private rooms too, but sometimes difficult to get access to on a busy night (same with most clubs).
BMFC, tends to have more single men, in my experience. The atmosphere at Xtasia is more of a nightclub vibe. The club itself is great with a range of facilities - the event is well run and always busy. I believe the 29th April is the ‘Bulls’ night, and therefore more geared towards cuckolding, if that’s what you’re looking for.
I’ll be attending BMFC on 29th April - I’m taking a large group of friends with me so I’m hoping it’s another great night but I’ll probably be looking to go to DDs the month after.
Enjoy x |
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All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.
You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry. |
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"I’ve attended both, many times. Although they are both interracial events, they’re very different parties and I’d agree with the above comment that you should try both - each party provides something completely different - different venue, vibe, atmosphere, guests etc.
I’ve only attended DDs at Liberty Elite and really enjoy the club - it typically lends itself to more social interaction and I find the gents are very respectful. Everyone makes a real effort, is well presented and there’s a strong presence within the club from the host and other helpers, which I like. It can sometimes feel like there’s limited private spaces to play but if you enjoy large open areas then the orgy room is great! - there are private rooms too, but sometimes difficult to get access to on a busy night (same with most clubs).
BMFC, tends to have more single men, in my experience. The atmosphere at Xtasia is more of a nightclub vibe. The club itself is great with a range of facilities - the event is well run and always busy. I believe the 29th April is the ‘Bulls’ night, and therefore more geared towards cuckolding, if that’s what you’re looking for.
I’ll be attending BMFC on 29th April - I’m taking a large group of friends with me so I’m hoping it’s another great night but I’ll probably be looking to go to DDs the month after.
Enjoy x"
This is very helpful thank you. A xx |
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"I’ve attended both, many times. Although they are both interracial events, they’re very different parties and I’d agree with the above comment that you should try both - each party provides something completely different - different venue, vibe, atmosphere, guests etc.
I’ve only attended DDs at Liberty Elite and really enjoy the club - it typically lends itself to more social interaction and I find the gents are very respectful. Everyone makes a real effort, is well presented and there’s a strong presence within the club from the host and other helpers, which I like. It can sometimes feel like there’s limited private spaces to play but if you enjoy large open areas then the orgy room is great! - there are private rooms too, but sometimes difficult to get access to on a busy night (same with most clubs).
BMFC, tends to have more single men, in my experience. The atmosphere at Xtasia is more of a nightclub vibe. The club itself is great with a range of facilities - the event is well run and always busy. I believe the 29th April is the ‘Bulls’ night, and therefore more geared towards cuckolding, if that’s what you’re looking for.
I’ll be attending BMFC on 29th April - I’m taking a large group of friends with me so I’m hoping it’s another great night but I’ll probably be looking to go to DDs the month after.
Enjoy x
This is very helpful thank you. A xx"
This is deffo best summary, couldn’t have said it better myself p.s il b at Xtasia  |
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"All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.
You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry."
Are you suggesting that everyone who attends an interracial event is a racist bigot? |
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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
"All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.
You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry."
Just had a read of your profile. Good to see you have "preferences"  |
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I too have been to both parties and they’re both really great. As has been recommended above you should try both at some point, you won’t be disappointed by either.
I’ll be at Xtasia on the 29th with my friend Bunny, above, and will be no doubt be making an appearance at DD at some point soon too. |
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"I too have been to both parties and they’re both really great. As has been recommended above you should try both at some point, you won’t be disappointed by either.
I’ll be at Xtasia on the 29th with my friend Bunny, above, and will be no doubt be making an appearance at DD at some point soon too. "
I'm going too with my friends..YOU BUNNY, FLICK, GIGI ,HAYLEY, BLAZE, KID&PLAY... road trips still growing, gonna be epic.. Watch out Bulls the 'Women of the NW Swing scene are coming to town' |
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"I too have been to both parties and they’re both really great. As has been recommended above you should try both at some point, you won’t be disappointed by either.
I’ll be at Xtasia on the 29th with my friend Bunny, above, and will be no doubt be making an appearance at DD at some point soon too.
I'm going too with my friends..YOU BUNNY, FLICK, GIGI ,HAYLEY, BLAZE, KID&PLAY... road trips still growing, gonna be epic.. Watch out Bulls the 'Women of the NW Swing scene are coming to town' "
Brace yourselves… we’re coming! |
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"All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.
You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry."
Are you jealous? |
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over a year ago
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Are you jealous?"
No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/ |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
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Are you jealous?
No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/"
Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.
I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.
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By *unny!Woman
over a year ago
Bunnyland |
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Are you jealous?
No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/
Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.
I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.
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People can find black men/women more attractive without considering it a fetish. The fact that some people describe it as a ‘fetish’ highlights a certain mentality!
I’m not speaking for everyone here. Perhaps some people enjoy race play etc, however, I feel it’s unfair to suggest that guests who attend such events are demeaning black people. What gives you the right to differentiate between someone’s preferences and bigotry?
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By *unny!Woman
over a year ago
Bunnyland |
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Are you jealous?
No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/
Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.
I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.
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Absolutely agree!
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
Rather than listening to academic arguments on the matter I recommend these two episodes from podcasts that address the matter from different perspectives but from people in the swinging scene.
The For arguments
The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast "gangbangs-setting-the-mood-and-race-play-with-black-bull-founder-of-the4whoresmen-pagan"
And the Against Arguments
Black n Kinky Lifestyle
Black in SEX (Black History Month 2022): Black Queens vs. Black Bulls and QOS featuring The Bulls And Queens Podcast.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you jealous?
No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/
Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.
I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.
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Same here
Me personally I would just rather distance myself from those kind of people |
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Are you jealous?
No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/
Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.
I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.
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I don't think anyone's doing that are they?
Offering a point of view isn't telling anyone how they should behave, especially if the point of view helps inform whatever decision they choose to take, after all it may improve the experience for them. |
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"I am booked to go to bmfc on the 29th but going alone, am nervous now as I see lots of people go in groups  "
I reckon your inbox was pretty busy with offers from proxy cucks wishing to escort you following this post! I definitely know one that would jump at the chance if he could! |
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