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By *ndycumz OP Couple
over a year ago
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So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
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"We didn’t realise you did bi nights! We would definitely love to come to one!
C x
We'd love to see you guys. I'll shout you a drink  xxx "
When’s your next one? We loved Penthouse so much when we went and can’t wait to go again! A bi night would just make it even more amazing!
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I think that there are numerous reasons for guys to have a straight profile but to enquire. Firstly, external and internalised homophobia/biphobia is still a very real thing.  There's the perception that people aren't interested in bi guys - even though others will be just a biguys.
Some people take a longer time than others to understand and accept their sexuality, for many reasons too.
A club bi night is a no pressure environment where some people could get a clearer understanding of any potential interest, even if they have no sex there. It would probably reduce their potential unease and support self-acceptance for many.
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I chatted to one guy after a hot scene at a bi-night pre-pandemic and he said “I wish I’d done this ten years ago…” My impression is that it takes a while for some people to feel they can accept what they might be into - and then a while again to maybe go somewhere where it might actually happen. I think this is more true for guys? Maybe because - at least in the swinging scene - there is a bigger taboo for some people around MM action than FF? I’ve never met someone who has regretted opening up to bi-desires that they previously denied, and I think bi-nights often offer a safe and fun way to take that step. |
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I get that it's more difficult for men than women to accept their desire to have sex with people of the same gender. And yes, there is still a lot of stigma (unnecessarily, in my opinion) around men being bi. But I love the fact that Spicy's Bi nights at Jaydees are geared towards bi men and that, to be added to the list, single men either have to have openly bi or bi-curious account on here or, if they have a straight account on here, have a verified account on Fab guys. This allows the atmosphere on the night to be much more relaxed and everyone enjoying themselves however they like.
Straight men have every other night available to them. |
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Bi guys is a show stopper for straight couples. Guys who would dabble in a bedroom situation with another dude don’t consider it a must if playing with straight couples, so if it’s not a necessary thing, why indicate it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
Privately or publically let me know (*)(*) "
Ours says I'm ( male part couple) straight because there is no title for orally bi ( which is me ).
Although we do state it in our profile summary |
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"Define "younger" please! I'd be interested in coming along for one the bi-nights as a single bi-guy but I wouldn't say that I'm young...
...crucially, I wouldn't say that I'm old either!  "
Same boat as us! Also - hello my fellow Pan Panda!
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By *ion ManMan
over a year ago
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From my point of view I’m down as straight on my couples profile and bi curious on my single. Mainly because there is still a stigma about bi guys. It seem all woman in the scene are expected to be bi and straight women have no problem but when a guy is bi the straight guy think he will be jumped on. I can play straight or bi. For me being bi just means it can be more fluid and fun.
There has also been some posts on fab that are anti bi guys and it’s a shame as we are all ment to be free thinking and excepting in the scene. |
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By *ion ManMan
over a year ago
great Dunmow |
"I chatted to one guy after a hot scene at a bi-night pre-pandemic and he said “I wish I’d done this ten years ago…” My impression is that it takes a while for some people to feel they can accept what they might be into - and then a while again to maybe go somewhere where it might actually happen. I think this is more true for guys? Maybe because - at least in the swinging scene - there is a bigger taboo for some people around MM action than FF? I’ve never met someone who has regretted opening up to bi-desires that they previously denied, and I think bi-nights often offer a safe and fun way to take that step. "
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By *ndycumz OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Define "younger" please! I'd be interested in coming along for one the bi-nights as a single bi-guy but I wouldn't say that I'm young...
...crucially, I wouldn't say that I'm old either! "
I wouldn't say you were old either. I was speaking literally "younger". As in younger than myself.
Definitely looking forward to the next event. Seems there's a lot of guys ready to dip their toe  |
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By *ndycumz OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We didn’t realise you did bi nights! We would definitely love to come to one!
C x
We'd love to see you guys. I'll shout you a drink xxx
When’s your next one? We loved Penthouse so much when we went and can’t wait to go again! A bi night would just make it even more amazing!
The next bi night is Saturday 19th March
C x"
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over a year ago
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"From my point of view I’m down as straight on my couples profile and bi curious on my single. Mainly because there is still a stigma about bi guys. It seem all woman in the scene are expected to be bi and straight women have no problem but when a guy is bi the straight guy think he will be jumped on. I can
play straight or bi. For me being bi just means it can be more fluid and fun.
There has also been some posts on fab that are anti bi guys and it’s a shame as we are all ment to be free thinking and excepting in the scene.
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Bi nights could definitely do with more younger guys there- or just more guys in general. When we used to go pre Covid there was always a good mix of people, but it seems less so now. We’d definitely be up for bi night at Penthouse though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they are bi but their profile says straight then we will report them and block them - they are deceiving the site users. We've heard every excuse from I don't want people at work to know to "some women don't want me if I'm not straight" which is all kinds of creepy. Please be honest with yourself and read the T&Cs you agreed to. |
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Hmmmm, I've noticed on these bi nights, there is more play between men which is great by the way. I'm trans (yes a real one) and I've also noticed many people attending these bi nights are not interested in trans, so much so they block trans from contacting them (so I block them) I'm so careful who I meet, us trans don't know who actually dislike us (trust me it exists) it can be difficult at times...... |
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"Hmmmm, I've noticed on these bi nights, there is more play between men which is great by the way. I'm trans (yes a real one) and I've also noticed many people attending these bi nights are not interested in trans, so much so they block trans from contacting them (so I block them) I'm so careful who I meet, us trans don't know who actually dislike us (trust me it exists) it can be difficult at times......"
I come to the bi nights to see action between men, as that's not happening on a regular night. And I'm sorry to say but trans people don't do anything for me, sexually, unless they have fully transitioned. I am happy to chat but that's it.
Also, I'm sure there is plenty of events happening for Trans people and their admirers? So maybe, if you don't think you're getting enough attention on a regular bi night, try those ones? |
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By *ndycumz OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm, I've noticed on these bi nights, there is more play between men which is great by the way. I'm trans (yes a real one) and I've also noticed many people attending these bi nights are not interested in trans, so much so they block trans from contacting them (so I block them) I'm so careful who I meet, us trans don't know who actually dislike us (trust me it exists) it can be difficult at times......"
Our bi night is also popular with Tgirls and lovers of Tgirls. Give us a try |
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"So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
Privately or publically let me know (*)(*) "
Is there still a stigma = yes!
Do couples block / ignore because of “bi” on male profiles = yes
Does stating bi or curious limit your chances of meeting on fab = yes
So guys will state Straight on profile, to not be sidelined, even though 99% of guys I know who like bi fun in the right scenario, all play 100% str8 most of the time..
The world of “all inclusive happy clappy” is a daydream.. unfortunately it is still a long way off for Bi-men to be accepted! You’re not gay and you’re not straight! Both sides can be very dismissive and pretty rude to be honest!
That is my experience of the swingers scene, over the last 27 yrs.. not to much has changed in the views of str8 men and a lot of women who don’t like bi-males..
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"So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
Privately or publically let me know (*)(*)
Is there still a stigma = yes!
Do couples block / ignore because of “bi” on male profiles = yes
Does stating bi or curious limit your chances of meeting on fab = yes
So guys will state Straight on profile, to not be sidelined, even though 99% of guys I know who like bi fun in the right scenario, all play 100% str8 most of the time..
The world of “all inclusive happy clappy” is a daydream.. unfortunately it is still a long way off for Bi-men to be accepted! You’re not gay and you’re not straight! Both sides can be very dismissive and pretty rude to be honest!
That is my experience of the swingers scene, over the last 27 yrs.. not to much has changed in the views of str8 men and a lot of women who don’t like bi-males..
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My experience id say opposite. Being bi on fab increases your chances. Couples only interested in straight guys i can count on one hand ive come across. Guys saying their bi when clearly they are not im sure is prevalent on here. As for why men who are bi cannot admit it, have to ask them. Would they admit to their mates they are bi? Unlikely as i think straight guys view bi being closer to gay than straight. Stigma, worried if their masculinity will be questioned. Im convinced bi-curious, bi friendly terms were invented by men to sit on fence before finally just admiting they are bi. And some will come up with their own unique system to prove they are straight. Best one ive heard after guy fucked a guy, a regular as well, i asked if he sucked cock or liked to get fucked his response 'no way,straight as an arrow me, i only fuck guys and get sucked by guys'
I mean, thats priceless |
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I will say that I'm fed up with being told that I'm confused, or that I'm gay but I just dont want to admit it!
Erm, no. I know what I like and that's guys AND girls! But just like I don't fancy ALL girls, I also don't fancy ALL guys. Nothing confusing about that, surely? |
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"So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
Privately or publically let me know (*)(*) "
In answer to your question re ST8 guys saying they are bi and being chased by bi guys in my experience load of rubbish its the usual ST8 guy lying through their teeth to get to the female partner of the couple, I know guy on here who does exactly that and another who is Bi but wont put it on his profile in case it puts of Females and ST8 couples
As an aside would love invite to your bi nights though! |
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By *ndycumz OP Couple
over a year ago
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"So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
Privately or publically let me know (*)(*)
In answer to your question re ST8 guys saying they are bi and being chased by bi guys in my experience load of rubbish its the usual ST8 guy lying through their teeth to get to the female partner of the couple, I know guy on here who does exactly that and another who is Bi but wont put it on his profile in case it puts of Females and ST8 couples
As an aside would love invite to your bi nights though!"
Feel free to message for more info. And that goes out to anyone else interested in coming x |
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"So we've been having some great bi nights at Penthouse but we've noticed there's not many younger guys and couples attending.
Several guys have message to ask about bi nights but their profile states straight. So I'm wondering if guys say straight because they get bombarded with messages from single guys ? Or is there still a stigma about bi males. Come on be brave!!! This is your time to come out. Let's get the bi male ball rowling !!!
Privately or publically let me know (*)(*) "
still plenty of stigma about a guy admitting to be bi once its on his profile or he has at least 1 verification from a bi guy most of the females will shun all contact even some of the bi female  |
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