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"Peeps, never seen anything awful as that place... First and last time. £40 a ticket and literally full of blokes, never seen anything like it before and I'm not getting carried away lol " A lot of single women like parties that have plenty of men, like Curvy Club or greedy girls type events.i don't go to parties which only allow in 10 or 20 blokes - I like a good variety to choose from 
Having lots of men there doesn't mean that you can't shine with your personality, engage and chat with everyone, have a dance, enjoy mingling. Or were you of the view that your £40 should guarantee you at least 20 women lined up desperate to shag you?? | |||
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"Ermmm when there's like 50 men and 10 women it's a abit too desperate. It's about mixing in and socialising doesn't mean with 40 random blokes lol" . So that is a ratio of 5/1 which is not too bad a ratio. I have been to Rios spa and at times the ratio there has been like 10/1.As long as your attitude is to go with the intention of having a good night out no expectations no disappointments then it’s not too bad a night out is it. | |||
"Ermmm when there's like 50 men and 10 women it's a abit too desperate. It's about mixing in and socialising doesn't mean with 40 random blokes lol" Welcome to the world of swingers clubs   | |||
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"I think it is each to their own. But I agree with the original poster. If it is a night like 'greedy girls' or gangbang advertised night then you expect a big ratio of men compared to women. But just like a lot of women like having many men to talk to and socialise with, a lot of men also like having many women to talk to and socialise with. So a more even ratio or even something like 2 to 1 ratio is something I personally prefer. Don't think one side should have their preferences met over the other unless the night clear stats it's such an event ie greedy girls. I haven't been to Cruvy Club for ages so don't know if that was a one off, but hope so as I wouldn't want a night (personally ) with 5 guy to every 1 girl ratio. But that's just me." 2 to 1 never in my days have I seen such a ratio bar a couple times when there was literally about 3 or 4 people in the entire club. Been to a lot of clubs and a lot of different day/time. Sometimes I've been pleasantly surprised at the numbers of single females to males. Some clubs/occasions/times of day are better than others. But rare anything better than 5 to 1 in a busy club. I think most would consider 5 to 1 good. It's not most single guys ideal odds but what can do? It reflects the realities of the scene. | |||
"I think it is each to their own. But I agree with the original poster. If it is a night like 'greedy girls' or gangbang advertised night then you expect a big ratio of men compared to women. But just like a lot of women like having many men to talk to and socialise with, a lot of men also like having many women to talk to and socialise with. So a more even ratio or even something like 2 to 1 ratio is something I personally prefer. Don't think one side should have their preferences met over the other unless the night clear stats it's such an event ie greedy girls. I haven't been to Cruvy Club for ages so don't know if that was a one off, but hope so as I wouldn't want a night (personally ) with 5 guy to every 1 girl ratio. But that's just me. 2 to 1 never in my days have I seen such a ratio bar a couple times when there was literally about 3 or 4 people in the entire club. Been to a lot of clubs and a lot of different day/time. Sometimes I've been pleasantly surprised at the numbers of single females to males. Some clubs/occasions/times of day are better than others. But rare anything better than 5 to 1 in a busy club. I think most would consider 5 to 1 good. It's not most single guys ideal odds but what can do? It reflects the realities of the scene. " Maybe I’ve just been lucky then. Ultimately nothing is guaranteed. But I think it’s fair for a guy (just like it is for a girl) to want a good ratio of guys to girls. I should add that when I says girls that includes females in couples not just single girls. So when I say 2-1 I’m including females in couples - I should have been clearer with that. Just don’t think ‘as the first reply hinted’ that it should be accepted that girls want many guys to chose from but guys can’t want them same… Unless of course it’s called Greedy girls night or gangbang night etc Fundamentally it’s each to their own. But I know some clubs and party’s use the fact they carefully manage the ratio as their USP and why they close off the list to single guys early. Making it even more appealing to some. I know seeing that USP will make me pick that club/party over another one. I have been to clubs with a very close ratio of single men to women/couple. I’ve also been to some with 10 men to every single woman/couple and I personally didn’t prefer that. Just my preference, hence I had empathy for the original poster and hoped it was a rarity for curvy as I haven’t been there for 3yrs plus but it was a decent ratio when I last went. | |||
 I realise that wasn’t part of the conversation but again, another observation of mine.
Bunny xx | |||
"Peeps, never seen anything awful as that place... First and last time. £40 a ticket and literally full of blokes, never seen anything like it before and I'm not getting carried away lol A lot of single women like parties that have plenty of men, like Curvy Club or greedy girls type events.i don't go to parties which only allow in 10 or 20 blokes - I like a good variety to choose from
Having lots of men there doesn't mean that you can't shine with your personality, engage and chat with everyone, have a dance, enjoy mingling. Or were you of the view that your £40 should guarantee you at least 20 women lined up desperate to shag you??"Well this is a bit hypocritical isn’t it? You just said you like the event because your money allows you to choose from multiple guys,(10-20) isn’t enough. So are you not basically saying once you pay your money you want 20+ guys desperate to shag you lined up for you to choose from?? | |||
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"Really interesting posts here and I can agree with many perspectives. I just want to share mine, rather than contend what anyone is saying. I’ve been to the Curvy Club event a couple of times and always had a great night - it wasn’t overrun with single men, as far as I can remember. I went back for a second time so I must have enjoyed it and I remember Dee to be a great hostess. Having partied (a lot) across the UK for 6 years, there is a definite difference according to geography. My partying is mostly limited to interracial and curvy girl events but I do find a similar audience at both - I often find the ratios are far more disproportionate the more south you go, and generally when you attend privately run parties as opposed to parties hosted in clubs (purely based on my observations and experience). As a single female, of course I want choice - and I absolutely believe single men should be afforded the same choice. However, there is a fine line between having a good choice of respectful men and creating an environment which can feel almost intimidating to some. Again, I must stress that I have not experienced this at Curvy Club, but I have experienced it at a handful of other parties, where I would say ratios were roughly 1:8 or above. In my experience, there has sometimes been a bit of a ‘pack mentality’ and some single guys (and it’s not always the inexperienced swinger) become more pushy and loose etiquette. Also, in venues with open rooms, which HoP mostly is, this can create a huge ‘audience’ of men when you’re playing, some of whom think it’s okay to try their luck at ‘jumping in’. With more balanced ratios, I have never found this to be the case. It creates a more relaxed, safe and enjoyable experience, for me. I also find, in my experience, that in certain geographic areas, some single ladies are far less likely to be actively playing at parties. Firstly, that is absolutely okay and I’d be the first to say that swinging is about meeting likeminded people and socialising - nobody should ever feel they have to be actively playing at a party. However, as a party organiser myself, I know the vast majority of my female guests and if I know that those ladies generally don’t play then I would consider that when planning my guest list; similarly when I know ladies are coming who like to play hard. It’s often overlooked by party planners. As someone alluded to before, party planning isn’t easy. You can create what looks like a well balanced guest list but you can’t control who walks through the door - I’ve been victim to that myself on a couple of occasions. Saying that, it’s very difficult to consistently ‘fall victim’ to such disproportionate ratios! As a party host, you learn from those experiences and adjust your approach. I hate to say it but for SOME parties, it’s become more about making money from single guys than it has creating a safe, enjoyable and respectful environment for all. I currently host Black Magic, an interracial event in Manchester and I would not dream of allowing my guest list to reach some of the ratios mentioned above. I currently have 18 single ladies, 30 couples (probably 50% of them are interracial couples) and 40 single males on the list - I’ll allow some more single men before I consider opening a reserve list for guys but the event isn’t for another three weeks. My last party of around 120 guests was almost balanced ratios - probably under 1:2 and there was plenty of choice for all. Finally, I also really dislike the cross over of BBW and greedy girl events. I’ve seen this quite a lot now and I know some female friends who now avoid these parties. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a big player at parties (although I hate the term greedy girl!), however this assumption that BBW women are ‘greedy’ is becoming more the norm - parties are now combining the two to be BBW/greedy girl parties I realise that wasn’t part of the conversation but again, another observation of mine.
Bunny xx"This is absolutely spot on | |||
